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writes:I am currently dealing with anxiety and depression after a five year break up. It's really getting me down because I don't feel myself at all. My head will think things that I don't feel inside, and it's really upsetting me because I'm afraid that they'll become my reality. I'm sorry if this doesn't make much sense but has anyone experienced this? and is it normal after a break up after so long? Everything seemed so much better before :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): i hate those awful feelings after a break-up, but it's good to talk to someone like a therapist, or a family member or friend. don't keep it to yourself because it will fester and get worse. but remember that time heals all wounds and it just takes some time to get over someone that you cared about. the best way to get over a break-up is to round up some friends and go out, have fun, maybe even flirt with some new guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): A break-up with a loved one (married or otherwise) is a trauma to everything you feel, believe and hope for. It really does create anxiety b/c life as you knew it is now different and you have strong attachment to somebody. Even if it is your choice to end it it is stressful.A great book I highly recommend above and beyond you talking to friends and posting here is MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS - STARTING OVER AFTER A PAINFUL BREAK-UP. This simple book saved me after my divorce; it helped me not only greive healthy, made me aware of what to expect, but it rejuvinated me with hope for a better love. Remember what you are greiving is not so much the person but being loved unconditionally by another. It would be WAY TOO LIMITING TO THINK that this one person is the only one that can love you that way. You are one step closer to finding AN EVEN GREATER LOVE!!! gOOD LUCK, MY FRIEND
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reader, cloudysunshine +, writes (19 April 2009):
cloudysunshine is verified as being by the original poster of the questionaw thank you for the kind message :) iv set up meetings with a counsellor so hopefully they will help, I just wanna know that i'm normal if that makes sense lol i was with the same guy for so long and from a young age and i feel a bit lost. I know deep down i'll be ok but it's awful going through it, its like i cant see the end atm, and my own heads going against me thanks again though, it helps that ppl understand :)
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (19 April 2009):
 Hi Hunny
Breakups are different for each of us, It is a form of grieving sweetheart i'll send you a link to read...
http://www.therelationshipgym.com/how_to_get_over_a_break_up.htm
Its a horrible feeling to be left with all sorts of negative thought going through your head...So every morning for the next 3-4 weeks look in the mirror and say something possitive to yourself, Im beautiful, Im worth alot I will be ok...and dont miss out one day keep it up.....I would suggest that if this feeling of depression continues maybe a chat with a counsellor may do some good..It always helps to talk hunny..I hope this helped a little message me anytime if you need a chat TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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