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writes:I have just started a new relationship, we are both in our 60s. We are deeply in love and extremely passionate, however, he can't ejaculate. He is on mediction for hight blood pressure.So when we make love we just go on an on because nothing happens. He has all the build up but can't ejaculate. Not sure how to deal with this, apart from anything else it is not knowing when to stop, and whether me stimulating him when he can't ejaculate is frustrating him.He is very attentive in other ways to me, but I feel helpless and frustrated as does he.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (20 April 2009):
 Beta blockers, notably Atenolol, are blood pressure medications notorious for causing erectile or ejaculation problems.
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reader, dumdum5g +, writes (19 April 2009):
He probably can not ejaculate because he has some built up stress on himself or he is just a little bit tense. If he is taking those high blood pressure pills, try going to the doctor and switching to something with the lease bit of side effects. Give him a massage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): first you need to talk with him...(i am assuming you have already done this) there are different medications out there for high blood pressure that he might be able to try. I have an older friend who is 72 who is on bp meds and has the opposite reaction he can ejaculate but not get hard.. (go figure)... his son is also on bp meds and we have changed meds and diets to suit his medical needs, because like you are experiencing he couldn't ejaculate either. So I recommend that you discuss this with him gently (i am assuming that hes pretty secure in conversations at 60 which makes it all the easier). Look into the different options available to you...
good luck and have fun.
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (19 April 2009):
 It sounds like this is a question that needs to be asked to a doctor. Erection and ejaculation could be linked directly and indirectly to both physical and psychological conditions. So perhaps the next step is a doctor's practice to have a full check up to find out if there is a physical/medical side to his current inability to ejaculate.
One thing that I was thinking initially, was a habit to do "tantric" orgasm, i.e. withholding the actual ejaculation but still having the full on "tingling" and "explosive" feeling all over for the male. If he has gotten used to doing that, for the female's satisfaction, maybe he's forgotten to how to ejaculate himself ... lucky you! lol
But seriously, make an appointment to the doctor first, if he is open to that suggestion. The doctor would also be able to ascertain if his current medication also needs to be changed.
Good luck, and enjoy your golden years! Sounds like you are having so much fun! Us youngsters envy you!
Cat
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