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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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I know he doesn't want me anymore but I don't know how to get over him
Q. How, how, how, how do I forget or put aside my love for this person that doesn't want me anymore. Its clear to me that he doesn't want me but I can't get over it. Please help me, what can I do, I tried keeping myself busy, but not working. Help ...
A. 14 January 2010: Try to bring the focus on the positive things in your life and stay away from idea of him. Hang out with friends or focus on some other cute guy who catches your attention. There is no quick way to do this so be patient and those feelings will fade ... (read in full...)
I lack self esteem and it hurts my boyfriend!
Q. i have a problem that hurts my boyfriend...... its wierd the way i act when im with my boyfriend and we are out in public for example we are eating out for dinner lets say well if a girl sits beside us i feel lets of a woman when i see their bodies ...
A. 14 January 2010: You have no reason to feel that way especially around the person who loves you for who your are. You need to find away to raise your self esteem because there is nothing wrong with the body you have. Talk to your bf about your feelings and I'm sure ... (read in full...)
I have ugly feet and keep them covered all the time
Q. Ok I have a problem..I never showed any of my boyfriends my feet because I'm very insecure with them.I love my boyfriend and we are about to move in our own apt. He never seen them. I would like to do all tha fùn things with him that all the girls ...
A. 14 January 2010: I think that you should try to get over it with the help of your bf. He's not going to judge you based on your feet. He's with you because he loves every part of you. Try to build up your confidence and show him, it will only get beter from there ... (read in full...)
I did what she asked and now she beats me up
Q. I'm am very upset. A couple of months ago my friend told me to tell the guy tht she liked tht she liked him. I told him and she got mad at me. At first she just ignored me. Then she started bumping ke and tripping me in the halls. Then she beat me ...
A. 14 January 2010: I think that she is embarressed and angry at the situation. The fact is that he didn't like her either way and atleast this way she doesn't waste her time on him. You did what she asked you to do so if anything it is her fault. As for her actions ... (read in full...)
Could my man be in the closet?
Q. How do u know if your man is in the closet? (gay) I mean I don't want to think stuff like that, but he has sooo many male friends its ridiculous. I mean new people poppin up here and there. Yet, this newyears I don't think he invited none of these ...
A. 14 January 2010: He could be but chances are the sex wouldn't be going on if he truely was. From my experience from the gay people I know most of their frinds tend to be girls and not guys.
Keep a look out for any other signs like alot of time with one guy spec... (read in full...)
I am crushing on my same sex friend
Q. I'm 14, female, and bisexual. So, I guess you could say I've totaly fallen for my closest friend who's a girl. I've fallen hard too, because I've never liked someone this much, ever. When me and her hang out together by ourselves I am fine, I can ...
A. 14 January 2010: It sound like you are attracted to her, plain and simple. Now you have to make a difficult dicision between letting her know and possibly making a friendship really awkward or not telling her and having to keep your feelings bottled up.
Look for ... (read in full...)
What do you make of her behavior?
Q. She teases me (makes fun of me). Whenever I talk to her she gets really loud like if I make fun of her she pretends to get mad (she almost hit me!). She's not a loud/flirty person at all and kinda shy. We usually don't talk (usually shes th...
A. 14 January 2010: If your interested in her then ask her out and get to know her better. It sounds like there is something on her mind about you and you won't find out unless you make a move.
The worst thing that could happen is she's nuts and you have to cut it o... (read in full...)
I need some neutral advice regarding my divorce.
Q. In the process of a divorce. I am allowing my husband to keep our home, but asking that he re-finance to buy me out of my 1/2 and to give me 1/2 of his pension plan because we live in a community property state. He is having a meltdown saying he ...
A. 14 January 2010: You need to look out for yourself here and splitting the assets in half is the fair thing to do. It's hard to judge his reaction since I don't know if the divorce was mutual or not. Its a very high possibility that he is just trying to do whats best ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when you have stretch marks?
Q. well this isn't a sex or relationship question but I hope you can help me. What do stretch marks mean? Are you gaining or losing weight?...
A. 14 January 2010: I have a friend who ended up with stretch marks simply because he grew to fast for his skin to keep up. It just happens to some people. At your age I would say that this is the answer if your weight has not changed drastically in the last year or ... (read in full...)
Are my friends just saying he likes me to make me feel better?
Q. alright, :) so ive liked this one guy since i was about 10 and like last year one of my friends, against my will, asked him if he liked me, he just said nopee. so after that i hadnt talked to him in forever, and i just saw him the other day , and ...
A. 14 January 2010: If he doesn't like you its not the end of the world, there will be many more boys that come into your life. As for talking to him I say go for and see what he does. The worst thing he can do is not reply and if that is the case then you should let ... (read in full...)
How can I make her really WANT me again?
Q. I have been with my gf for about 2.5 years. i love her with all that i am. we plan on being together forever. for about a year she has been giving me blowjobs/handjobs. today, yesterday and the day before that, things were getting hot and heavy. she ...
A. 14 January 2010: Tell her how you feel. Anger will just make the situation worse so try to be calm. Explain how it is hurting you and maybe try to get more adventerous with the things that you do. If she does do this too often, for lack of a better term you get ... (read in full...)
Am I repulsive?
Q. dear agony aunts, well i guess im kind of embarrassed to ask this but here i go. im not fat, as in, reallllly big, im about a size 14. i have small boobs and a bigger belly, and i know they say that the guy you love (and who loves you) will ...
A. 13 January 2010: If the man is in to you he for sure finds you attractive. Looking good comes from the inside just as much as the outside. Of course someone can love you and he may be the one to prove this. Don't hold back with him since he already knows who you are ... (read in full...)
Does the penis lose its muscle?
Q. I;m a 20 year old guy, and I have gotten to know this other guy a bit older than me. Well, I gave him a massage one day and it lead to a passionate play around. Him and I were naked together and his penis became hard in not time but mine couldn't ...
A. 13 January 2010: I wouldn't say that it loses muscle. It may have stressed from too much activity before this event. Leave it for a day or two and if it doesn't go back to normal then talk to your doctor (I hope you don't have to but it may be something more). The ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be his "rebound" girl
Q. am i gonna be a rebound...? ok this guy and his gf broke ul like last year. or maybe two years ago cause he cheated on her with his ex. i use to be attracted to him wen we were younger but the feelings faded. then summer 2008 me and him were ...
A. 12 January 2010: It was quite awhile ago that the two of them broke up so i would not think of you as a rebound gf at all. Talk to this guy and straight out ask him what his relationship with his ex gf is like. That's really all you have to go on and him knowing ... (read in full...)
How do I break up and return his necklace?
Q. I want to brake up with my boyfriend how do I give him his necklace back??...
A. 12 January 2010: I'd recommend just handing it to him when you break up, just do that at the end then walk away otherwise he may try to leave it with you so that you'll think of him and then maybe get back together.... (read in full...)
His g/f hates me and I don't know why
Q. So... This guy I like has a girlfriend. And well you could just say that she basically hates me. I don't even know why. She doesn't know that I like him, but everytime I see her in school she glares at me and everything like that. Im a year older ...
A. 12 January 2010: Confront her on this one but do it calmly one day when you see he glaring at you. If she gives you some stupid answer just walk away and try again some other time or talk to her bf. As long as you don't freak out on her you won't be seen as the ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a distant relative & worried it might be like kissing cousins
Q. This year I met the most wonderful boy whom I had never met before. We started talking a lot and later on, he told me he fell in love with me. At first, thoughts in my head screamed and said, "He's your cousin don't do anything your parents wouldn't ...
A. 12 January 2010: If you have done all your research then you'll just have to give your parents the news. They probably won't be happy with it at first but they will come around. Try to bring it up without bring so much attention to the cousin part. Start by going ... (read in full...)
I know she's had sex with others in the past and it makes me sad.
Q. i have been dating this girl for a few months now and ive loved her for along time and she has loved me for along time to a few years i think like 8 or 9 years and i know shes had sex with other people before we got together anyway i know it souldnt ...
A. 12 January 2010: You should just leave it alone. The past is always a touchy subject and all that really matters is that she is with you now. No matter what her past was like it still allowed you two to get together.
If you don't find the whore comment offensiv... (read in full...)
Why is she contacting me again?
Q. I told my female friend I shouldn't talk to her anymore because the closeness of our relationship was disrespectful to my girlfriend. She knew I had had feelings for her and seemed fine with it. She had had feelings for me at one point too. She ...
A. 12 January 2010: She wants to see if she can get something out of you. I agree, say good bye nicely but if it continues you do not owe this girl any sort of reply. She'll get the message eventually.... (read in full...)
How do I get him to understand?
Q. First of all, thank you for reading my problem, it means a lot to me. I believe that i have a confident issue when it comes to my boyfriend and he thinks that i'm a jealous girlfriend. My boyfriend has a very close friend who's a female that i fe...
A. 12 January 2010: The phone being turned off is a great idea. Has thing friend been there for a long time, like before you two were dating?
I'm really glad that you understand that you can't tell him to stop being friends with her and you said that you trust. you ... (read in full...)
Should I let my friend move in with me?
Q. Hey thanks for any advice i have a friend a girl that is having alot of trouble at home,she has been telling me about her problems and she recently asked if she could move in with me, she said she would pay rent even though i didnt ask, she has ...
A. 12 January 2010: It would be very noble of you to take her in. I'm sure that where you are is far better for her then her current situation. If you do like her and show her this side of you things will happen naturally the way they were meant to. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my b/f but things can't go on like this either!
Q. I have had problems with my ex boyfriend for 2 years now. He said that wants to try and work things out with me, but as soon i do something wrong he says 'i was going to ask if you wanted to get back together but im reconsidering it now'. i told him ...
A. 12 January 2010: Cut him out. He's isn't capable of being there for you in this point in his life. Give him some time to himself and for you to think things over then if you want to stay in contact then start talking to him a little bit at a time, don't rush into ... (read in full...)
Any comments are appreciated. I want to be in a relationship but I just don't see it happening again.
Q. Its been 9 months since my ex broke up with me. A part of me always foolishly held onto the hope of her coming back. Any hope I had stopped when she found a new boyfriend. I'm not mad at her about it. I want her to be happy and if she finds ...
A. 11 January 2010: Take some time to figure out and forgive yourself. Give yourself the credit you deserve and then get out into the world and keep your eyes open for the right girl, she'll show up in time. You should never give up on finding someone. I know 50 to 60 ... (read in full...)
What can I do or say to get my ex-gf to give me another chance???? I love her and need her!
Q. Ok so I am 18 and my ex gf is 17. She broke up with me the day after Thanksgiving (a little over a month ago). I deserved to be dumped b/c I treated her like complete sh*t. I mainly did this b/c I was hurting so bad inside. I went to the Doctor ...
A. 11 January 2010: First thing is that is a huge step in the right direction when you went on your own to get help. I'm sure that she took note of that and is why she is still talking to you. You need to spend the time being her friend and showing her that you can ... (read in full...)
I don't want him to get bored with me. How can we spice up our sex life?
Q. I'm finally in a relationship after 4 years. I decided just to take y'alls advice and just let my hurt and frustration, from my ex's cheating on me, go and now i think i've found someone i feel that i can trust 100% and i'm quite happy... Howe...
A. 11 January 2010: First you have to get out of the mind set of doubting yourself. If he loves you he will apprieciate everything you try to do even if he doesn't like all of it. You never mention how long you two have been dating which would give an indication to the ... (read in full...)
Does he feel the same way when we aren't together?
Q. I don’t know how my best friend feels about me but when I don’t see him after school it breaks my heart because talking to him is the only thing I look forward to. He always makes fun of me playfully if I say something wrong and he says that im ...
A. 9 January 2010: I'd say he cares about you alot. He uses the joking instead of being all emotional but it means the same thing to guys. ... (read in full...)
I want my ex to be happy but it hurts!
Q. about 6 month ago, me and by girlfriend broke up after 2 years together, nothing happened we just couldnt see each other as much due to college so we grew apart, about 2 weeks ago she got back in contact with me, is was abit awkward but everything ...
A. 9 January 2010: You may have to cut this girl out of your life. It sounds to me that she just wants to use you when she feels like it. I had an ex gf like that. I still wish the best for her but that doesn't mean I need to be part of her life. If you really want to ... (read in full...)
Have I done something wrong or did I make the right decision?
Q. Well my ex bf and me were in love until somethings like problems came and things i didn't like about him so i felt like i was with him so he wont be sad and do anything stupid to him self well then my best friend really like each other and he ...
A. 9 January 2010: You probably soon of broke up with him sooner but you did this because you care so essentially it was a respectable thing that you did. Don't let his friends get to you, you didn't do anything bad here and they're in the wrong for calling you out ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my b/f but have an attraction to another guy
Q. I'm 16 in a couple of weeks, and my boyfriends almost 17, we've been together 2years in March and we have our ups and downs, as a whole I'd say were very happy with each other and we know our relationship won't last forever, but we love each other ...
A. 9 January 2010: You may be falling for this other guy or it may just be a crush. At this point in your life you are not committed to any boy and it may be time to move on from this bf. It is sad but it happens quite often and I think you understand this. Take time ... (read in full...)
I like a guy but am still crushing on my teacher!
Q. I need some advice! I am going crazy here. There is this nice, decent looking, sweet guy that likes me. I am trying to get to know him, to see if I like him. But, I am having trouble with this because I am still 100% crushing on my teacher! I cannot ...
A. 9 January 2010: You are better off finding someone closer to your own age but it may not be this other guy you speak of. There would be no harm if seeing if any feelings come out of it but if your going into this with no feelings for him then maybe he isn't right ... (read in full...)
The Not So Kiss
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 posts incorporated into one.. Me and my boyfriend have beeen dating for almost 5 months now. the only problem is that we havent kissed yet. i want to but im honestly kinda scared. he wants to because he has told me, but im afraid h...
A. 9 January 2010: You may be young but you're not stupid, the first kiss is very important and even more so when it is your first ever. Sit down and talk to him about his imaturity. Boys usually take a couple of years after girls to mature to the same level. If he ... (read in full...)
Friend keeps falling for other guys while she has a boyfriend
Q. right, my friend katie is with this guy and i think she should leave him because she is emtionally attached to another guy but her boyfriend and her have been together for a long time and he keeps falling for other girls so she turns to this guy ...
A. 8 January 2010: It's hard to do much because your friend will probably get angry that your interfering. If she's a good friend of your's then she'll get over it if you tell her you have to pick just one guy although it's not your responsibility to do so. Eventually ... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend, but not sure what to do?
Q. HI I am nearly 15 now and have had very strong feelings for my best friend for over a year now. she has been a really good friend to me for 3 years now, and I can tell my feelings for her are becoming stronger and stronger, I havnt had much ...
A. 8 January 2010: You have to make the tough decision whether to stay friends and hide your feeling or just go for it and ask her to be your gf. If you two are such good friends then even if she says no I think that there would be an awkward period and them it will ... (read in full...)
Not sex just helping each others urges...
Q. ok so I might get together with my girl later and I want some tricks on how to please her with my finger and mouth. we aren't having sex we are just helping each others urges. btw I am 18...
A. 8 January 2010: I want to let you know I'm 19 and in the same situation that you are. You can consider oral sex actual sex if you want to but I don't think that is the issue with you. If you two are comfortable talking to each other then as you two are going at it ... (read in full...)
Three months and he hasn't even attempted to make out with me...
Q. My boyfriend and i have been going out for three months. we were both each other's first kiss, so we're both fairly new to the whole kissing thing but i really want him to make out with me but he hasn't even tried. i think he's afraid he'll do it ...
A. 7 January 2010: Don't wait for him to make the first move, do it yourself. I don't mean throw yourself at him all at once but make out with him first and he'll realize that there is no need to be nervous with you. Since you two were both each others first kiss ... (read in full...)
Why after an orgasm do men leave women hanging?
Q. Hi. Ok I have a question I no a lot of women would liked answered. Why is when a guy has a orgasm first its over they get up and go on with there day. They just leave the girl hangen they don't even try to finish what they started. Guys what if your ...
A. 6 January 2010: For some reason men tend to get tired ar... (read in full...)
How should I start a relationship?
Q. hello. before i ask, I'll tell you about me. i'm 15 and a sophomore in high school. i'm like the nicest guy my the whole school pretty much. i've actually done my friends hw for them, that nice. i have an awsome sense of humor. i laugh at every...
A. 6 January 2010: First try and find the courage to go talk to her. The way you described her I can't see that going badly. Just be yourself, she's probably nevous too since your the older guy. The age difference is only a year or two i assume which is perfectly ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend lies about porn and accuses me of cheating!
Q. my boyfriend and i havent been getting along the greatest ill tell you why after i get throught this, after almost everyfight we have i talk to one of his friends ,lately it seems like his friend is hitting on me.. im not attracted to him at all ...
A. 6 January 2010: If the porn isn't affecting your relationship, like he's more interested in porn then you then the porn would have to stop. If he just does it because thats how he gets himself off then you can leave him but its not your business to force him to ... (read in full...)
Thinking too much of this other girl..help!
Q. dear cupid, i have been with my partner for nearly two years now. i met her just before and fell in love with her straight away but recently a girl that has been missing from my life for 7 years now, because i moved home, has started to contact ...
A. 6 January 2010: If you think that you will fall for her and don't want to leave your gf then it might be best to not see this other girl. Neither choice will be easy since even then you won't stop thinking about the other girl. There is a chance that it could get ... (read in full...)
Is there such thing as a much too sweet guy?
Q. Is there such thing as a much too sweet guy? I'm dating a great guy he sends me good morning texts. Buys me stuff for no reason and makes me art pieces and makes sure I'm okay but I'm kinda aggravated by him. I'm so used to being neglected and stuff ...
A. 6 January 2010: You need to explain that your uncomfortable with this all at once and he needs to slow down a bit. He probably has no idea that it is bothering you. Don`t be too quick to end it because he may balance out and be able to give you what you want. ... (read in full...)
Any first date tips?
Q. ok people i need helppp!! i am going on a first date with a guy i've liked for sooooo long, and i am sooooooooooo nervous!! i'm just out a 5 year relationship, we never really done the whole dating thing, anyway what do i say, what do i wear? what ...
A. 5 January 2010: Don't have too much to drink because you still want to have a good conversation with him. Wear something not too reveiling but still sexy as if you were teasing him. The last thing is just be yourself, see if he`s has any common interests and go ... (read in full...)
Thinking too much of this other girl..help!
Q. dear cupid, i have been with my partner for nearly two years now. i met her just before and fell in love with her straight away but recently a girl that has been missing from my life for 7 years now, because i moved home, has started to contact ...
A. 5 January 2010: You don't have to block this girl out of your as long as it doesn't not interfere with your relationship with your girlfriend. Chances are this won't be the first time something like this will happen and its ok. This other girl must of had a big ... (read in full...)
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