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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Sweaty arm pits becoming a major pain.
Q. okay so my problem isnt about sex, or dating, but it could be consitered related to that. im 13 and about scence this oct. or nov. i have been experiencing pit stains. but its not just on white shirts in on any shirt i wear! this is quite ...
A. 24 March 2010: I had the same problem a while back mostly in the winter too. I think it was partially due to social situations and I found out that my mom used to have that problem in the winter too. Talk to your doctor because if it is anything like my case even ... (read in full...)
Big questions about love.... EXPLAIN IT TOO ME!
Q. I have had a lot of trouble in my relationship of 11 months with my boyfriend. The deal here is that him and I are both very willing to turn things around, to make our relationship better... (There has been no physical abuse, or anything severe like ...
A. 24 March 2010: 1. Yes love can fade or you can fall out of love with someone yet still love and care about them.
2. Being in love is romantic and that strong attraction while loving is caring for that person and wanting them to be happy/well.
3.Thats a yes... (read in full...)
My parents don't allow people to 'hang out' in their home. Should I tell my boyfriend this is the reason I don't take him home?
Q. Hey guys, I live with my parents and have been in a relationship with my BF for about 8 months. He's my first serious BF. He lives on his own. His family and friends are very social people, and I'm over at their houses quite often. My parents are...
A. 24 March 2010: You should just tell him that your parents do not want people over. That way he won't think that it is because of anything he's doing. Explain this story about the past and everything and I'm sure that he would understand.
The whole thing abou... (read in full...)
I am pregnant by donor insemination, but the kids I teach are saying I got drunk and knocked up!
Q. Alright, so im an 8th grade teacher and im 27 years old. I haven't been in a relationship in about 5 years ago, and everyone seems to be taken. My students seem to all know this information about me and they are talking. When I was talking with one ...
A. 24 March 2010: I think that you should explain the whole procedure to the class as a health lesson. That way at least they will have the right information and there is nothing you could say to them that would be offensive since now you know what runs through their ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my brother what should I do???
Q. I'm in love with my younger brother. He's the only guy that truly loves and cares for me. If I ever need someone to talk to he's there for me and I love spending time with him. He's smart and he has a really cute smile. I love him more than I've eve...
A. 23 March 2010: The best thing for you to do is love him like a brother and nothing more. Its probably what you don't want to do but there are so many problems that will come out of that kind of relationship. I'm not going to list then, I'm sure others will anyway. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to date him if I'm not sure if I like him as more than friends?
Q. A couple days ago someone confessed to me. I said I liked them back, but I'm not sure if I just like them as a friend, or like like. I think I may grow to like like them, but is it wrong for me to date them when my feelings are so confused? What if ...
A. 23 March 2010: Going on a few dates with him is fine, its a way for you to see if the is that romantic spark there at all. Its sound like there are feeling for him within you and it would be worth it to see where they go. The only thing is that it is the right ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous and it eats me up inside, how can I get over that?
Q. Hey i am a very jelous person but i only am when it comes to my boyfriend. I dont let it afect our relationship cuz i keep most of my jelousy inside. Cuz most of it is stuff that he cant help like girls liking him an stuff like that. But it eats me ...
A. 22 March 2010: You need to find your trust for him within yourself. Once that trust is there you will know that no matter what anyone does he will stay loyal to you. If this happens often and he does his best to let the other girls down I think that is an ... (read in full...)
This is to the men... what attracts you to women?
Q. Hey everyone. Just a general 'i want him to like me' question; theres this guy, 2 years above me that i really like. I want him to notice me for my assets etc. Men and boys; what attracts you? hows the best way to walk, talk, act etc. What d...
A. 22 March 2010: I would have to say its the face, like the smile and just looking happy. I don't mean makeup and prefer there not to be alot, just something to accent your features. The way you walk would have to be confident and sure of yourself but not stuck up ... (read in full...)
Astrology!
Q. hello I would like to ask what do people think of astrology did anyone read some predictions of his horoscope and it really happened! please give me your experience...
A. 22 March 2010: Personally I don't believe it although some of it does seem to be true but they are usually very general statements. I wouldn't base any descision on what they say but they are fun to read.... (read in full...)
Could the bump in my mouth be due to prior drug use?
Q. I know you guys aint doctors, but by my attempted research on the web it seems pretty commen... Let me explain, i'm 18 years old and for about a year i've had a little bump on like, i dunno how to explain it really, it's in my mouth, behind my top ...
A. 22 March 2010: I'm just wondering how you took in the speed. Alot of drugs have altering affects at the cellular level and could have damaged a spot in your mouth whuch may now have to be removed or its something that you'll have to live with and its harmless. ... (read in full...)
I washed my hands but could I still be pregnant?
Q. Today I gave my boy friend a hand job.. after about 10-15 mins i dipped my hands in hot water (not extremely hot but mild water) and absently washed my vagina with the same hand dipping in the same water basin as earlier. My boy friend didn't cum ...
A. 22 March 2010: Yeah the water would not be a friendly environment to the sperm. There would have also been such a small amount if any at all in the water if you stayed with the shaft. There would be no survivers.... (read in full...)
How to make sex more enjoyable for him?
Q. hey :) me and my partner have been sexually active for a while now, and id like to try out some new stuff to make it more intense for him, simply because i want to please him :) i would really like to suprise him by doing new things, be it foreplay ...
A. 20 March 2010: Try kissing various parts of his body, all over and run you tongue around his neck, chest and lower region. You can also also do the same sort of thing with your hands just stay away from direct contact with his penis until he is absolutely begging ... (read in full...)
Guy seems to jump fom liking one girl to the next. Is it normal?
Q. I have this guy friend, he used to be in love with me just over a month ago, then he got a girl friend and things were really good between them until he started having feelings for my best friend, and was also saying he never stopped wanting me. He ...
A. 20 March 2010: You should be suspicious. It sounds like he wants to have every girl to himself and won't stay with just one. If you want him as a friend it probably would be fine but I think he would try to get more out of it then that. He sounds like bad news and ... (read in full...)
Should I tell our parents he smokes weed?
Q. He's 14 and does it with his friends, his grades have been slipping recently and I think its because he's started smoking weed. He's young and foolish and some of his friends are a bad influence on him, one in particular. Should I tell our parents ...
A. 20 March 2010: Talk to him yourself but if you tell it may be along time before he ever forgives you. Plus all the parents would do is yell and punish him when he really need some support to realize that his life doesn't need the weed. That you can help him with. ... (read in full...)
This isn't normal to not be pregnant at my age, right?
Q. iam 21 years old . and ive been with my fiance for 3 years . iam starting to freak out that i wont be able to have children . for the past 3 years we've been having unprotected sex. this isnt normal not to get pregnant at my age is it ? . i thought ...
A. 20 March 2010: Actually getting pregnant has to happen at a very specific time interval that you could be missing, its only around a day or two a month. Try going to a fertility clinic and get them to run a few test on you and your bf because it may be a problem ... (read in full...)
I washed my hands but could I still be pregnant?
Q. Today I gave my boy friend a hand job.. after about 10-15 mins i dipped my hands in hot water (not extremely hot but mild water) and absently washed my vagina with the same hand dipping in the same water basin as earlier. My boy friend didn't cum ...
A. 20 March 2010: There is a chance that it could (very little) i'd go get a pregnancy test but I'm highly doubting that the sperm would even survive the water. They need a very specific environment to survive and the sink is not it. Get the test to be sure but I ... (read in full...)
How would a guy feel if an "old friend" decided to talk to him after 6months?
Q. I really need male point of views in this What would a guy think if a girl he used to like just stopped talking to him. No reason, whatsoever and kept ignoring him. Well how would that guy feel if that girl decided to talk to him after 6mo...
A. 20 March 2010: Go for it. Some times people need to take time to work through their own issues before they start a friendship again. I've had that happen before and its amazing how fast things can pick back up. If he does reject you then just let him go and be ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him so should I?
Q. okay we've been together 2 years and all he does play video games we don't talk or really do anything together . we don't have sex i want to leave him what should i do...
A. 20 March 2010: Just leave, tell him that he's not paying any attention to you and walk out. If you two live together then you either need to leave or kick him out. If he was going to be someone you could be happy with then he'd pay more attention to you.
If you ... (read in full...)
Why does my teacher call me Miss (surname)?
Q. My first name is not difficult to pronounce. He used to call me by that but one day switched to Miss____ He only does this to me and it is NOT to reprimand me, it is in a jokey/friendly/regular way. Even just saying hi in the hallways. I find it ...
A. 20 March 2010: I would say that is is just a nick name. I have had teachers in the past past that used nick names for over half the class based on their personalities. It was actually alot of fun.
Don't worry about it unless you notice him use the name with some... (read in full...)
What subjects should I pick for my GCSE's?
Q. Hello Everyone! (: I was wondering if ye could give me some advice, Okay so im doing my junior cert this year(GCSEs) and i have to chose the subjects ill be doing for my leaving. and i havent a clue what to pick, I have to choose between 1.Music ...
A. 19 March 2010: If that is what you want to do then I would recommend bio and chem and yes a higher math. Those are the one that would apply to the human science field. I do not really know anything about your program but thats what I would take if I had to do ... (read in full...)
Do you still like your crush while you have already got a new partner??
Q. Guys, Do you do it too? You have a crush on someone but he/she keep ignoring you. Then you maintain a romantic relationship with someone. After publishing your relationship, you avoid your crush. You can't do eye contact one day, but you...
A. 19 March 2010: I'm pretty sure most people would do this. I know that is how I work. If you have mutiple crushes you can't just forget about them the second you get into a relationship. If that were the case then they must not have meant anything at all in the ... (read in full...)
Should I dump my non christian boyfriend?
Q. Hey, im 19 and turning 20 late this year. I'm a christian i love God so so so much, i have a bf and i love so as well the thing is every time im with him i feel gulty like im commiting a sin. I realy dont know what to do, we've know each other for 3 ...
A. 18 March 2010: Its no sin to love another human being on this earth no matter what their religion, if any. This needs to be a personal choice that you make and if you can't be fully there for him then yeah it is best to wait for someone who shares your belief ... (read in full...)
Worried about my first time.
Q. hi guys i am in a serious relatioship i have been seeing her for a year and we both feel ready for sex just we have not done anything else yet. i am worried if something goes wrong what should i do ? ? ...
A. 18 March 2010: if you are that worried then I don't reccommend going through with it till you are sure of it. There is always the chance that something may go wrong. My advice to you is hold off on the sex for now and since you say that you two have not done ... (read in full...)
Why can I not get my boyfriend to orgasm?
Q. Why doesnt my boyfriend orgasm when i give him a handjob, i try but he has to finish it himself, please answer i need help!...
A. 18 March 2010: It is hard to say what would work exactly. If he is able to finish it himself then you need to get him to comunicate to you while you are in the middle of it what he would like you to do. If you are able to talk about it more things will be easier ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one who fancies much older men?
Q. I'm 15 and all the men I fancy or have ever been fixated by, may they be celebrites or people I know, are in their 30s. I've been like this since I started secondary school. If I walk past a guy who looks my age and is attractive, I am not interes...
A. 18 March 2010: You are not the only one out there. Although I do not have first hand experience of this I have seen countless quetions asked by guys and girls around your age finding older men or women attractive. Some grow out of it but others it will be there ... (read in full...)
Do I forgive him for hitting me because I love him?
Q. i am in a relationship since past 4 years and my boyfriend hits me time and again sometimes he has reasons and sometimes he dosent have any reason. we both love each other a lot and thats d reason why i keep forgiving him? i really dont know what to ...
A. 18 March 2010: Please don't tell yourself that he has reasons. There are absolutely no reasons at all in the world for this behavior. You are far better then him and need to get out of there right away, tell people too. They will be on your side and help you ... (read in full...)
Concerned about going on the pill.
Q. I turned 16 four months ago, and i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. My mum has given me the ''all clear'' to go on the pill, any many of my friends are on it. There are only a couple of things im worried about. Im worried that i will put on ...
A. 17 March 2010: From what I have seen with some of my friends going on the pill they have never gained any noticable weight. I'm sure if you are exercising you won't notice. The pill will actually make your periods come regularly not irregular. There may be a time ... (read in full...)
My ex texted wanting another chance
Q. Well to make a long story short I have been on and off with a guy for about 2 years and he is in college he has done me wrong before and made plenty of mistakes so I ended it and was plannin on endin it for good... Well I started liking someone new ...
A. 17 March 2010: Go for the new guy, a fresh start. Your ex has proven that trust is an issue and to be honest he probably just isn`t getting enough action without you as his gf to be there when ever he wants. Don`t try to rebuild a realtionship with issues from the ... (read in full...)
I can only reach orgasm with my boyfriend during intercourse. Is this normal?
Q. is this normal, i can only reach orgasm during intercourse, but no matter how hard i try i can never reach orgasm when my boyfriend gives me oral and with his hands, but if im alone and i masturbate myself i can reach it easily. why is this?...
A. 17 March 2010: Its one of the many mysteries of the human body. I know girls who can`t orgasm from sex alone but can from everything else. So yeah its normal. You should try to guide him more verbally or physically when he is giving you oral and such. You ... (read in full...)
Will the soreness after dry humping pass?
Q. Me and my new boyfriend were getting a bit heated a couple of days ago, and we ended up dry humping with him on top, the thing is he is quite strong and muscular and he was quite forceful and rough (one of the reasons we haven't had sex yet) but I ...
A. 17 March 2010: It should pass within the week. It is probably a bit of bruising mixed with rubbing burns from the clothing. If it takes too long to go away or if the pain is more internal then anything I would go see a doctor.
Maybe just have a chat with him some... (read in full...)
Could I still be pregnant or am I immediately protected because of the pill?
Q. I started the combined pill on the 2nd day of my period last wednesday. I took it Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday at exactly the same time of 7:30. On saturday nite i had sex without a condom with my boyfriend and he came inside me could i ...
A. 16 March 2010: There is a chance. Doctors usually recommend getting through a full month of pills before they fully kick in. I suggest getting a pregnancy test asap to be sure of this. ... (read in full...)
Is this true?
Q. My girlfriend's mum told me... a woman sleeps with a man, has an orgasm and thinks shes in love. The man just thinks he had a wonderful night. Is that true?? ...
A. 16 March 2010: It can be true but like what was stated you can't judge all based on one person. I have heard stories where its the womans first orgasm or the mens first time and they do think they are in love even though the other person may not share any of those ... (read in full...)
Could this get me pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfreind were dry humping, he asked me to relieve him and I let him cum over my breasts and stomach and there was loads of it, I cleaned it up with toilet paper and had a bath about an hour later, my friend said that was silly because I ...
A. 15 March 2010: Chances are not at all unless it comes in contact down there and manages to get far enough inside. As long as it stays above the waist you should be fine. Also make sure you clean up before you do anything else. ... (read in full...)
How long should you wait after a divorce to start dating?
Q. Well i just wanna ask how long u should waite after a divorce to date its been 3 months and i know you ganna say its too soon but i didnt chose to leave my marrige i wanna be married i like it its fun someone to care for and charish but i have a ...
A. 15 March 2010: You owe her no time spent grieving. As long as everything is finalized I say you should get back out there as soon as you feel ready. If you will bring no emotional baggage on to a new relationship then go for it. You sound like the nice guy who ... (read in full...)
Should I breakup with my clingy BF?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 4 months now. There was this one point in our relationship a while back when I started to get bored of him (because of his clingyness and almost routine visits,) and I thought of just breaking it ...
A. 15 March 2010: You should just end it. Don't give him anything before you go it will only confuse him and slow his healing process. If its only been four months and the desire is gone then it is best to just move on or next thing you know you two have been unhappy ... (read in full...)
Sex with others in the house.
Q. Thoughts on having sex with parents at home? I'm 17 and I live with my mum. I've been with my boyfriend over a year. He'll probably be at my house for his birthday and it got me wondering what we should do if my mum's in....
A. 15 March 2010: You can wait till she goes to bed or if your door locks that would work too. Otherwise you risk her randomly walking in. Just try not to be too loud and watch out for how much noise the bed makes (blankets on the floor would solve that problem).
B... (read in full...)
My crush makes fun of me!
Q. Every time i see my crush he makes fun of me. He calls me ugly and 'manvoice. He is even getting his friends in on it. How do i get him to stop? How do i know if he likes me back? Please put answers!...
A. 15 March 2010: If he does like you he is far to immature to have a gf at the moment. If you want him to stop you can try a witty comback that will have his friends laughing at him, now this may either make him like you or really hate you.
If you want to go that... (read in full...)
Birth control pill's effectiveness.
Q. hey agony aunts and uncles. i recently sent in this question but for some reason it didnt get posted so im going to try again lol! im on the pill microgynon 30 at the moment, my boyfriend and i have been having sex for nearly 2 months now. i started ...
A. 14 March 2010: Its proven to be 99% effective when taken continuouly so you should be fine. People will still suggest condoms more for std's but if it is just you and your bf that should not be a problem. Trust the doctors and the science behind it, there are alot ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my boyfriend? I don't know if I'm ready.
Q. Ok so i am a person who think that is wonderful. But yet i am still a virgin. I dont know what it is but i want sex so bad. Some people tell me that if i have to think about then i am not ready. Because me and my boyfriend have been together for ...
A. 14 March 2010: Not yet, give it till the point when you know for sure that it is what you want. You'll have the feeling where none of the possible negative side effects matter because you love this person. You'll be hesitant for your first time, there is no way ... (read in full...)
Forced into giving him anal sex!
Q. My boyfriend always goes on about anal, and well i dont like it and he knows that, i gave him it to shut him up now he always goes on about it and makes me go on a guilt trip so he can get it, please help i dont know what to do xx...
A. 11 March 2010: It looks like you are going to have to plainly tell him that this isn't going to be regular occurence. Giving in will hurt your relationship far more in the long run then if he learns to accept this now. ... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want anal, but she seems to want it.
Q. I spoke with my GF recently about fantasies we shared some. She has known for sometime I want to have anal sex, however, I absolutely respected her choice not to. Fine, not a huge deal, as a relationship is caring about your partner not forcing ...
A. 11 March 2010: I think you just need to be patient keep doing what you already know that she enjoys. Continue with the fingering just like usual. I think that she wants to its just that she is nervous. If she has your support and not a constant asking preasure I ... (read in full...)
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