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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Got caught while skinny dipping, followed up by an awkward question!
Q. So the other night me and some friends were in the pool and my brother and his friends came home and went simming with us. After a little while we were like let's go skinny dipping and we did. All of us except for a few people. Well we got busted. ...
A. 3 November 2010: Good to hear that it blew over and you are still having fun with it. ... (read in full...)
Is this appropriate in a business situation?
Q. i found an email on my partners phone from a female business acquaintance that he had met at a seminar the previous evening he told her that she was a nice person and they would catch up soon is this an appropriate in a business situation...
A. 30 August 2010: Yes this is fine. Even if it is hinting on a date they have kept it very professional and anything that happens outside of work does not concern anyone but those two people. ... (read in full...)
Why is my cum green?
Q. ok so like my cum came out light green why whats going on ,what is it help...
A. 30 August 2010: My best guess would be an infection at some point in the system. It would be best to see a doctor about this so that it doesn't get any worse. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a guy who is way out of my league
Q. I have fallen in love with a guy whose waaaay out of my league,i love the way talks,smells and everything about him.we go to the same schl and God knows i can't control myself,my sis told his best f. and he want's to tell him about it.what do ...
A. 30 August 2010: Either you can leave it at a crush and slowly forget about him or keep this in mind, any girl or any guy can get who ever they want. Have you ever tried talking to him, he may be more interested than you think. There is no harm in trying and atleast ... (read in full...)
I think my daughters friend was sexually molested
Q. is this normal? My daughter who is nine had her ten year old friend over the other day. They were playing on the slip and slide in the backyard. I looked out in the backyard and the ten year old is sitting with her legs spread with a big smile on ...
A. 30 August 2010: That doesn't really add up to sexual assult at all. All children start to learn about their sexuality very young on their own. She was doing something that felt good to her and that she hasn't learned isn't appropriate for being in public. The bowel ... (read in full...)
GF Depressed Over Getting Braces
Q. my girlfriend just got braces, and she's really depressed about it, I keep telling her she's beautiful and gorgeous, and she says it helps a lot, but I honestly don't think it does that much...I just want to know what I can do to make her feel like ...
A. 27 August 2010: Keep telling her that she is beautiful and she'll come around eventually. I don't know about you but I actually find the braces look attractive. She just needs to realize that braces aren't what they used to be and now there are alot of people who ... (read in full...)
Should I go with my heart or my mind?
Q. im so lonely this day i dont know what to do im so undecided i know i love my bf but my mind tells its over he always treat me in a wrong way i dont know what to do i love him so much im scared of lossing him but as the days go by our relationship ...
A. 27 August 2010: I beleive that you should go with your mind because right now it is working to get your heart to realize that he is wrong for you. The two never really agree but the mind is logical and can see past the love that only you are putting into the ... (read in full...)
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
Q. This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
A. 27 August 2010: You sound like you were a great loving girlfriend to him. I always hate to see the good ones hurt. You never really forget an ex, atleast I never have and I don't think that you will. In time you do get over it but you can't force it apon anyone. I ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and have wanted a baby since I was 11!
Q. hey i am 14 and my name is sherry i have allways wanted a baby sence i was 11 and i really want one i have got a boyfriend and everything but i really dont know what to do ...
A. 26 August 2010: I say don't have one for quite some time. Now its not based only on your age because I think you would really put your all into the child and be a good mother. The problem is that you still have to get through school to get a good job so that way ... (read in full...)
I'm not even sure if I'm old enough for sex!
Q. okay, well i've been with my boyfriend about 2 months he's a year older than me and he has "urges". he wants to get sexually involved with me but both of us have no experiece and i'm not sure wether i'm old enough or even ready i don't know what to ...
A. 26 August 2010: If you are having second thoughts about it then its best that you wait and do some research. This is something that you don't want to regret. I am not one to put an age restriction with sex but it has to be when you feel you understand all that is ... (read in full...)
How do I make my friend realize her boyfriend is a loser?
Q. My best friend is in over her head. I know this because she told me, and she doesn't know what to do. Neither do I. Recently her boyfriend cheated on her with his ex. Somehow, I don't understand how, she forgave him and they are still together...
A. 26 August 2010: Play on all of her current bf's bad qualities while talking only about how great this other guy is. Don't make anything it but by the sounds of it you won't have to. All you can do is show her the truths about each guy and give your strong opinion ... (read in full...)
Got caught while skinny dipping, followed up by an awkward question!
Q. So the other night me and some friends were in the pool and my brother and his friends came home and went simming with us. After a little while we were like let's go skinny dipping and we did. All of us except for a few people. Well we got busted. ...
A. 26 August 2010: I am surprised thats what first came to your parents mind. I would laugh this one off and make them feel stupid for thinking that. As for skinny dipping, what you do in your back yard is none of the neighbours business. If they don't like it they ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to feel this way about my cousin?
Q. I'm 15 and for a while now ive been attracted to my cousin and at first I though it was a phase but after a long time the feels didn't go away they've just grown and now i like her even more, she is about 21. Is it wrong to feel this way about m...
A. 26 August 2010: Its not wrong for you to feel this way, we all have thoughts that we can't explain or get rid of. The thing is though that it is wrong to act on these feelings. What you do in the privacy of your mind is your business but to actually act on these ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and want a baby
Q. I can't wait to have a baby that I think sometimes I should just stop taking my birth control pills and not tell my boyfriend. I know it's horrible and I won't but I just want a baby so bad it makes me cry. Please give me NICE advice. I know I can't ...
A. 26 August 2010: Let those thoughts drive you to get through school and become successful with the right guy so that way when you do have children you will be an amazing mother with all the resources she needs to give her children what ever she wants to. You only ... (read in full...)
Why is my period taking so long to come?
Q. i started my period in december of 2008 and most of the time i'll have my period every 1-2 months. but i haven't had my period for about4 months. i know that about 2 months is normal but its never been so long. so what my question is why is it ...
A. 25 August 2010: This could be caused by stress, or it may be because of being under weight which I don't want to accuse you of but I have to mention it as a possibilty. Also I am assuming that you have not been sexually active or have started any new medication. My ... (read in full...)
Do girls like nice guys or bad guys? I'm confused!
Q. im 18 years old and ive never had a girlfriend. i have plenty of friends that are girls but have never had a serious relationship. ive never even been kissed. im not a bad looking guy. i have girls tell me im good looking and some actually check me ...
A. 25 August 2010: Girls are interested in nice guys but it usually takes alot longer for things to develope between a girl and a nice guy. In the end the nice guys are the ones who get the best girls though so don't stop being the nice guy that I am sure you are. Be ... (read in full...)
Am I attractive?
Q. i would just like to know if i am attractive. I am about to turn 16. Im 5 4 and 96 ibs. light blonde with bright green blue eyes and a 34B. people say im pretty but i just want to know other's opinion thanks. any questons about me ill answer....
A. 25 August 2010: It sounds to me that you are attractive. i mean no one is attractive in everyones eyes but I would find these characteristics very appealing. Why do question whether or not you are beautiful? Is there something specific about you that you're ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of hair on my penis?
Q. Hi guys, how come hair grow on penis ( not only the base) . How can i get rid off it. I dont mind if it only grow on the base of my penis....
A. 24 August 2010: I recommend shaving it although you can pluck these but it is painful. I have the same problem and I just shave in the shower. I don't even need shaving cream, the hair comes off very easily. ... (read in full...)
We broke up and now were back together, it does not feel the same!
Q. So me and my boyfriend have been together for just over 2 years now. We love eachother very much but recently broke up and got back together. since we got back together i feel like it hasnt been the same. i dont know how to feel... sometimes i feel ...
A. 24 August 2010: I think you know that the relationship is over. The strange feeling you have now is your mind trying to over power the heart which is telling you there is no love here. I would leave him now so that you can get on with your life and find someone ... (read in full...)
Help, I want to start having sex, but I'm not sure?
Q. Hey everyone, Well, I'm 15 And I'm turning 16 in two weeks. I've been masturbating since i was 13. I like the way it feels, And i love Orgasms. I'm still a virgin though. But lately all i can think about is how much i want to go ALL THE WAY w...
A. 24 August 2010: Its very normal to have this on your mind at this age. It will probably be the majority of what you think about. You really have to give your virginty alot of thought and all the birth control and safety practices. I reccomend waiting until you are ... (read in full...)
Shaving down there...
Q. Basically,I have been in a relationship for 3 years and my boyfriend always requested i shaved down there.....now that i am single i am wondering is this a normal thing and what do most other people do? thanks:)...
A. 24 August 2010: I prefer saved because it makes oral so much more pleasant to give. In saying that though I have to add that I also shave and stay well groomed. I could never ask for the effort to be put in for the girl to do that if I wasn't willing to myself. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want sex all the time?
Q. i want to know what a sex addicit is? the reason why im asking is because alot of my friends tease me saying im far too addicted to sex for a normal girl, im not in a relationship but have friends with benefits, and i see them very often, im not on ...
A. 24 August 2010: Its normal you just usually never hear a girl admit it and its always thought to be a guy thing. You and me both are at that age where the sex drive is high and I say go with it as long as you're safe. ... (read in full...)
Role play issues
Q. When my partner and i 1st met we discussed role play. He then asked me to be his daughters school mate who called when he was alone. You can imagine then rest,i know he got the idea from a porn film but i find the whole thing find disturbing. ...
A. 24 August 2010: When you ask for role playing you have to expect something out far off the ordinary. Of course the thought has crossed his mine but only in role play with you would he ever act on it. Everyone has thoughts that would disturb the world but so few ... (read in full...)
Are these normal symptoms of being pregnant?
Q. is it normal to be very tired after a day of work and school like more than usual while pregnant? is it normal to throw up after eating something not everything just sertain things while pregnant? ...
A. 23 August 2010: Then yes at this stage it can be common to get sick. I have a cousin who is in the first few months of pregnancy and gets quite sick. It would still be good to see your doctor but in the end if there is nothing wrong this is something that you just ... (read in full...)
Are these normal symptoms of being pregnant?
Q. is it normal to be very tired after a day of work and school like more than usual while pregnant? is it normal to throw up after eating something not everything just sertain things while pregnant? ...
A. 23 August 2010: Then yes at this stage it can be common to get sick. I have a cousin who is in the first few months of pregnancy and gets quite sick. It would still be good to see your doctor but in the end if there is nothing wrong this is something that you just ... (read in full...)
Are these normal symptoms of being pregnant?
Q. is it normal to be very tired after a day of work and school like more than usual while pregnant? is it normal to throw up after eating something not everything just sertain things while pregnant? ...
A. 21 August 2010: I'm guessing that you are preganant. If so then yes these things can happen. Every woman's pregnancy has different symptoms. It would be a good idea to check with a doctor esspecially if you have trouble keeping food down. ... (read in full...)
Could he be cheating?
Q. okay so me and my boyfriend been together for a year and 4 months. im am living with him! and our relation ship is great. we never fight about whos cheating on who. his very romantic he always brings flowers to me. and soo on.okay so i founf a ...
A. 21 August 2010: First off if the relationship is doing so well why do is there a tally being taken on the number of condoms. One could be missing for a whole bunch of reasons. It could be under the bed or have been lost in clothes. I don't think he is cheating. He ... (read in full...)
Do guys go to clubs with the intention of pulling girls?
Q. ok thanks to everyone who responds, i really appreciate it. I know this will probably seem so obvious to people and also possibly stupid but I would love some input. ok well i went out last night and was with my flatmates at a student bar/club...
A. 21 August 2010: A guy will usually wait a couple of days so that he does not come off as desparate. Not all guys go to just hook up with girls, there are some who only ask someone who they are truely interested in seeing outside of the bar scene. I've always gone ... (read in full...)
Am I being too uptight about this?
Q. I need some advice. My husbands parents go to these bike rallies where all the women walk around completely naked and you can see ppl getting blow jobs and having sex and stuff. Anything you can think of goes on at this place. Well they keep asking ...
A. 20 August 2010: He is right that if you trusted him you would be able to let him go to temptation and know he would not do anything. Plus I am doubting anything is that arousing there especially with his parents there. Then there is your side where if he loved you ... (read in full...)
I had wild sex in public in the past. Should I tell her??
Q. She's not comfortable with public shows of affection. I told her no PDAs is totally fine with me. She was reassured and concluded: "I'm glad we both feel the same way about it!". I chose silence over sharing the fact that I've definitely had s...
A. 20 August 2010: I wouldn't say anything. Its generally best to not tell your sexual history with your new partner unless you know for sure that they will be able to handle what ever it is that you say. If it comes up in the future while you two are each talking ... (read in full...)
I kissed my BFF and liked it!!
Q. Had some friends over and we were in the pool. Me and my best friend were dared to kiss in front of everyone. Well we did. And later that night we kissed again. She spent the night that night but nothin else happened. But I kept having the urge ...
A. 20 August 2010: It sounds like you want to want to experiment with her so next time you two are alone lean in and kiss her again. If she pulls away then you'll have a little awkward moment but it'll pass. If she wants to keep going you'll tell from her body ... (read in full...)
Should I fix my gap even it he doesn't want me to?
Q. I have a big gap in my front teeth and everyone always tells me it's cute and such, but I've always wanted it fixed. I finally got the courage and made an appointment, but my boyfriend said he likes my gap. He said he thinks I'm the most beautiful ...
A. 20 August 2010: In the end you have to do what makes you happy. If his love is true he will love you no matter what you decide. ... (read in full...)
Could I get emancipated and live with my boyfriend
Q. i have been dating my boyfriend for a 4 years now. im 16 years old and he is 17. i was wondering can i be emancipated and live with him when he turns 18 and i turn 17? im getting a job and my lisence and he has a good paying job. but do you think ...
A. 20 August 2010: I don't really recommend leaving but it is legal. At the age of sixteen you are able to choose to live apart from your parents but once you they are the right to not take you back if you ever choose to come back. I say wait till your eighteen then ... (read in full...)
Help! I can't physically have sex!
Q. I really need some help/tips with this recent problem that I just discovered. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins and ready to have sex and we tried a couple of times already but he just can't enter me. It has nothing to do with me not being wet ...
A. 19 August 2010: Try lots of other lube and get a good fingering session in before he tries to enter you. Then try to relax as best as possible and it should work. The fingering will open it up as he goes up from one finger. ... (read in full...)
Help with anal
Q. Hey, I am wanting to do anal with my boyfriend! We have tried before but it was so painfull I could not take it. Any tips of how to make it hurt less or even enjoyable?...
A. 19 August 2010: I have done it with my gf and this is what she noticed is that you really have to relax and use lots of lube. The lube should also just be plain, nothing that heats up or anything like that. Also tell him to go slow and not go all the way in. You ... (read in full...)
Would it be a mistake to go out with him?
Q. I met this guy at a party at the beginning of this year - he didn't hide that he fancied me but I wasn't really interested so I just left it. I hadn't seen him in a few months but a few weeks ago I went to another party that he was at. We started ...
A. 19 August 2010: Every relationship doesn't start with the two falling madly in love with each other. When i first met my gf we had nothing in common and didn't think we would ever be together but thiings just worked out. I would try atleast one date to see if you ... (read in full...)
Not sure I want to go on another date but should I play it out?
Q. I was somewhat interested in this guy, just enough to go on a second date. It's just most of the stuff he says over the phone or through text makes me uncomfortable. He seems real sweet, but he's already using pet names and getting clingy. ...
A. 19 August 2010: If you don't think there is any chance on a third date then I wouldn't even bother with the second one. He may become more clingy and then you just have a bad situation. Tell him over the phone as nicely as possible that you are not interested in a ... (read in full...)
Operation left scarring on my genitals
Q. Attention All Gay Men! I'm starting to worry recently about an operation I had when I was young on my privates that basically removed my foreskin and I have scars underneath my penis and also a weird really small bunch of skin the thing is would t...
A. 18 August 2010: i may not be the gay perspective that you are looking for but I'm pretty sure what you describe is common. I beleive that I am the same or close to the same way. It's perfectly normal and to be honest I have heard it makes oral a lot easier on your ... (read in full...)
Is a 6 year age difference too much to date someone?
Q. if theres a 6 year differance in between you and someone else would it be ok if you date them? this is just a random thought im not actually saying i wana date a 10year old, im just saying is a 6 year age differance too mutch? i have a friend and ...
A. 18 August 2010: Yes that is the main point but that is for all the legal reasons. I'm not saying you can't love someone who is that much younger than you when you are still a teen but the law will have a problem with it. In the end your heart chooses who it will ... (read in full...)
Is a 6 year age difference too much to date someone?
Q. if theres a 6 year differance in between you and someone else would it be ok if you date them? this is just a random thought im not actually saying i wana date a 10year old, im just saying is a 6 year age differance too mutch? i have a friend and ...
A. 17 August 2010: As you get older the age difference matters less and less. Right now 6 years up or down is a big deal because the people would be in two separate worlds. Its not impossible though and I know quite a few people with successful relationships being ... (read in full...)
Trimming or shaving down there? What is the best thing for a man to do?
Q. Hi everyone, do u guys shave or trim ur penis hair? If u guys do, then which way do u guys prefer to do? Do girl like a clean or hairy penis? Is that ok for men to buy the hair remove products? Is that too gay if men use them?...
A. 15 August 2010: I prefer to shave but short hair is fine too. Triming isn't always the best if the hair comes up on the shaft and if your scrotum has alot of hair on it. I wouldn't use any chemical based product because I knew someone who did and it burnt like ... (read in full...)
I slept with my cousin and we're having trouble distancing ourselves. Is that really so bad?
Q. Hi I'm a 19yr old guy and i've had sex with my 20yr old cousin (and took her virginity). She has always been a tomboy all the way through her childhood and only ever wore a dress once when she was a bridesmaid. We'd always been dead good mates, b...
A. 11 August 2010: Whether it is a problem really depends on what type of cousins you are, like first, second and so on. I do beleive that where you live it is a criminal offence to be sexually active with your first cousin but after that the second and thirds are ... (read in full...)
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
Q. This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
A. 24 February 2010: Thanks for the reply. That is very interesting and true, we all have the right to make these kind of mistakes as they are part of the learning process. ... (read in full...)
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