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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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He gets very emotional and affectionate when drinking, is it real or not??
Q. I'm curious about what you'd make of people's behavior when they've had a few drinks? Are the things they say insights into their hidden thoughts and desires or just drunken ramblings? I'm wondering because, although my boyfriend is always very p...
A. 11 October 2010: I am so the same way when I drink. I get really emotional and I can tell you that for me its usually very true what I am saying. He may feel nervous without those few drinks that you won't like what he is saying and he's nervous. I do beleive that ... (read in full...)
Why do people dislike people who are large??
Q. How come people dont like others just becuase there fat ?...
A. 11 October 2010: Fat or larger people are stereotyped just like many others. People tend to think that they are lazy and are that way because they choose to be. Now I have to say that a large or in fact any person that doesn't take care of themself really bothers ... (read in full...)
What do you do when your partner wants sex during your cycle??
Q. What do you do if your partner really wants sex and you promised it to thtem but then you get on your cycle around that time....
A. 11 October 2010: You can still have sex and it's actually supposed to be more sensitive for you at that time. I reccomend putting down a dark towel and just make sure it doesn't slide out from underneath you and it will be just fine. I am assuming that he knows that ... (read in full...)
My gf is "hot", cannot have an erection when we want to have sex, what is the problem??
Q. well when me an mygirlfriend wants to have sex it wont gwt hard an shes very very hot but it just wont get up ...
A. 11 October 2010: I think your just nervous probably because she is so attractive and its intimidating. I had that problem when I first started having sex. You just have to take the time with foreplay to relax and get into it. It won't take long, probably after the ... (read in full...)
Can you develop chemistry for someone?
Q. Hi all, I've fallen in love with a couple of people before, one I'm still sort of infatuated by but I don't think likes me. I really really like him, but he is disinterested, and acts really strange around me. I give him attention but it goes unno...
A. 10 October 2010: Chemistry can come over time and does not have to instantaneous. Soem of the best relationships come out of taking the time to get to know someone and realizing how much you two work together although chemistry is not always formed. The second guy ... (read in full...)
Friend starting to get a little more friendly with my backside
Q. Theres a guy at school who I am crazy about and me and him have always acted more than friends around eachother. We always flirt, hug and text eachother etc. We've been like this for a little while now but recently we've become so much closer. He is ...
A. 10 October 2010: If he hugs you high on your back then your one of the boys. If he has your lower or middle back he cares about you like a friend or family. If his hands go for the hips and butt then he's interested in a physical relationship or just a relationship ... (read in full...)
What do men think when they see this?
Q. I've seen a lot of questions about breats but haven't bumped into something like this: what do you men think when you can see the shape of a womans nipple, like if she's cold and gets hard nipples, or maybe she's not wearing a brassier and u can ...
A. 9 October 2010: I would half to say its hot because of the whole mysteriousness of not seeing it all together but having to picture it. But again it depends on the context and type of girl. If its an older woman or one whose breasts may hang lower it is quite ... (read in full...)
If I "do it" with a girl will I know whether or not I'm bi or not?
Q. Hey i recently found out for sure i was bi. (i sorta thought i was when i was younger but i would always deny it) I know i would never want a relationship with a girl but i get turned on just thinking of doing sexual stuff with a girl. I also have a ...
A. 7 October 2010: I think that if he is ok with it then you shouldn't feel like it is cheating and you should try it out once. I'm sure the experience won't distroy your relationship with him by you running off with this girl but it may be the one chance in your life ... (read in full...)
Do men think women who don't like blowjobs are boring?
Q. Do men think that women who don't give oral sex are boring or no fun??...
A. 7 October 2010: I wouldn't necessarly say boring but it would make me question how open she would be in other sexual areas. I think that just not doing one thing doesn't make you boring but you become boring when everything has to be one way and you close yourself ... (read in full...)
Our hotel break...
Q. My bf and I are having a few days together in a hotel for a nice break. Need your advice lads. Shall I suprise him by buying some sexy underwear for it? Reckon he'd like that or think it was silly?...
A. 6 October 2010: He would absolutely love it. Maybe sit him down on the bed and do a little strip tease to reveal it too. That should get him going really good. ... (read in full...)
One Year Anniversary Present?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are going to make a year in a month.. what is a great present for our aniversary? ...
A. 5 October 2010: If you want to do an activity that would also work out really nice. For example I don't know if you would be into this but its an idea, for my one year with my gf we went ziplining together which was so much fun and then we had the whole day ... (read in full...)
Lost puppy effect.
Q. With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
A. 5 October 2010: I agree with you that sometimes the person who gets dumped isn't to blame for acting the way they do when all they see from their ex partner is the chance to get back together. I'm sorry that you had to go through that one. Thats why I always tried ... (read in full...)
What was your most embarrassing moment while on a date?
Q. What was the your most embarassing moment wile on a date? :)...
A. 2 October 2010: One date we stopped for coffee and when it was ready I got up to get both of ours, mine was a blended ice drink and hers was tea. While walking over to her I managed to spill burning tea all over my hand and sleave but kept the pain to myself and ... (read in full...)
Have you ever fallen for someone you didn't get along with?
Q. Guys, have you ever fallen for a girl you did not initially get along with?...
A. 30 September 2010: Yes some of my past relationships were with people that I never thought it would ever work. My gf and I never thought that we would ever get together because we were completely opposite in so many views. Love can come out of the strangest ... (read in full...)
I think my doctor likes me
Q. I think my Doctor likes me. i know I like him. He gives me a hug.. and our visits last like an hour. How would i know for sure?...
A. 30 September 2010: You could always ask him if he would like to go out for a drink or something or for his number so that you can talk to him about it outside of his profession because his involvement with a patient can be harmful to his job. You would definitely want ... (read in full...)
What's more important ?
Q. Ladies! what's more important to you a man or money? Gentlemen! what's more important to you love or hanging out with your friends? :) thinks carefully ladies and gentlemen!...
A. 30 September 2010: I would have to say that the importance lies in finding balance between the two. I would say that love is more important but I would never be happy if I never hung out with friends. ... (read in full...)
Are we cousins?
Q. ok so my mom married this guy had two kids then had me with another guy right? so he was my step dad then he died so would his sisters kids still b my cousins? ...
A. 30 September 2010: Technically I would still call them cousins but you don't have to since they are distantly married in to your family. If you are close to them then call them your cousins to make the relatioship seem closer but otherwise there really is no relation. ... (read in full...)
What does my ex mean?
Q. Well on saturday I made this sign for DJ Pauly D from the Jersey Shore and I posted it on his page on facebook he left me a comment saying he liked it and all that I was pretty happy about it so I told a few people and I even told my ex since we on ...
A. 30 September 2010: I would say that he is totally jealous because every dj wants to make it big and alot of people hate the fact that the jersey shore people are famous. I personally love the show and I don't see why he would be so jealous or mad at you for you saying ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion. Will getting pregnant help me ease the pain I feel?
Q. I had an abortion two months ago, now I am so depresed, nobody knew about my abortion, and I live in a place in the united states with my two kids and my husband. I feel really bad after my abortion, I has been thinking about getting pregnant again, ...
A. 29 September 2010: I don't think that it would help since the first memory will always be there. Try to think of it this way and it might help; you had the abotion because where you are in your life you wouldn't be able to give the baby 100% of your attention so its ... (read in full...)
I am giving him a deadline. By next fall, he needs to be in a school or have a good steady job, or I am not going to be with him.
Q. I'm having a few problems with my boyfriend of 3 years. First off, he is not in college and doesn't have a job. He graduated high school last year, but he never even applied to a school until after. He does not have a job either. He goes around ...
A. 29 September 2010: Good for you this may be exactly what he needs to change his life around. He may just do this for you but in the end he really just helping himself. Tough love is the best way to go now he will not be moved by babying him. ... (read in full...)
My parents caught us having sex!
Q. So last night me and my boyfriend John(I'm gay) were hanging out in the lounge room at my house. We were having a great time watching one our favorite shows:Glee. Throughout the whole show he would touch me, rub my belly and do all these cutesy ...
A. 28 September 2010: The only advice I have for you is too face them and let them know who you are as a person and that you would apprieciate them accepting that. Things could be worse, they could have been screaming right at that moment or when my gf's sister was ... (read in full...)
Can't I just be casual?
Q. So, with my first and only question I encountered a lot of people who didn't believe my intentions (that I just want fun, didn't say what they thought about what the guy actually said (or rather typed), and then told me that what he said was a lie ...
A. 28 September 2010: I would say that it is perfectly fine for a girl to want that. Guys go after the casual relationship all the time and no one says anything so I there is no reason that a girl can't do the same thing. Everyone wants some fun and excitement in their ... (read in full...)
Recent breakup
Q. So my girlfriend recently dumped me and I thought we were doing really well because she never said anything and we were very happy, but all of a sudden our relationship was over. And I just found out that she broke up with me because she wanted to ...
A. 27 September 2010: Try to remember that her actions do not represent anyone but herself. I hope that in time you can start fresh in a new relationship and realize that what the last girl did has no bearing on what the new one will do. Again try to move on and keep in ... (read in full...)
Do guys pay attention to how fat or skinny we are when we have sex with them?
Q. Hello! All my life (or at least a majority of it) I've been self-conscious about my body because I have a lot of body hair, small breasts, and have a little pudge (not fat but just a little belly). Well up until just recently, I've thought of how ...
A. 27 September 2010: Lol then he's not paying any attention to your flaws. All that is running through his head is how lucky he is to be with someone so beautiful. I know it's not easy to just stop worrying about your appearance but I will say the same thing that he ... (read in full...)
Should I mention my ex to him?
Q. I had a break up 6 months earlier, now i had moved on and have a new boyfriend. I have not told him about my ex boyfrnd coz he loved me since we where in school. Should i tell him about that, leave the thing as going on coz everything is well and ...
A. 23 September 2010: Generally its a good idea not to mention any past relationships unless the other person specifically asks. If you randomly bring it up he will think that you are not over this guy and it won't sit well with him. ... (read in full...)
Do guys pay attention to how fat or skinny we are when we have sex with them?
Q. Hello! All my life (or at least a majority of it) I've been self-conscious about my body because I have a lot of body hair, small breasts, and have a little pudge (not fat but just a little belly). Well up until just recently, I've thought of how ...
A. 23 September 2010: Has he ever seen you in anything less than a sweater. I say this because gauranteed he has and therefore knows what your body looks like and loves you for it. Only a shallow guy would be thinking that. Most of the time the guy will be watching your ... (read in full...)
Was leaving his cell phone number for business or pleasure???
Q. I had emailed a guy at a bank (on business email account) that I thought was attractive. Thanked him for his help and that I owed him. I said "How about a drink sometime?" He wrote back (on business email) it was a pleasure doing business with me. ...
A. 23 September 2010: I would call the number and ask him there. It is a possibility that his emails could be screened and therefore would get in big trouble having a conversation about dating a customer during work time. Definitely call him to find out. ... (read in full...)
Only a small amount means ????
Q. Are there any other reason other than masturbating or cheating that a man will cum with only a small amount when having sex?...
A. 23 September 2010: It could just mean that he doesn't produce as much as you're expecting either from masturbation or its just the way that he is. I wouldn't worry about it unless its a fertility issue which chances are also isn't really an issue. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have sexual thoughts just out of the blue?
Q. Is it normal to have sexual fantasies/thoughts while doing everday things? such as school or just sitting at home watching TV? It's been happening to me alot lately. No I'm not sexually active as a matter of fact I'm still a virgin - I've never had ...
A. 23 September 2010: Yeah its normal. I've noticed that the slightest things can make you start thinking sexually. I don't reccomend running to look for sex but it would hurt to explore yourself when you have some free time. It might make the thoughts come up less ... (read in full...)
She's lying.. right?
Q. Ok I met this girl who's 16 she claimed she has had sex with 7 girls, but I can fit 3 fingers in her and 4 which she says hurts so I don't bother. To me this sounds like she's lying as everybody lies about how many people they sleep with. ...
A. 22 September 2010: Again she may or may not have slept with that many guys and there is no way to tell unless you can trust her word, which doesn't seem to be the case. Hope you can just let it go and you two can have whatever kind of relationship it is that you want. ... (read in full...)
WMW Threesomes
Q. [MOD NOTE:OP'S OWN TITLE] I can't be the only one...right? My and my husband are looking for a girlfriend to spoil, and enjoy all together. Am I too open-minded??...
A. 22 September 2010: I don't think so at all, as long as both of you understand what you are getting into and have really talked about it. For example if there is going to be sex and so on. The hardest part is finding someone because its not exactly the easiest thing to ... (read in full...)
Husband texted over 1000 messages over the last month to another man!
Q. My husband of 26 years texted over 1000 messages in on month to another man. I saw it on the phone bill.I never saw any of the messages...What do you think? Says was discussing wives, children and problems.........
A. 22 September 2010: That is alot of messages but it doesn't seem to be a major warning signal although I do hope that he has unlimited texts or that bill would be a fortune. He may have just found a friend who he can really talk to about anything. Everyone wants to ... (read in full...)
Recent breakup
Q. So my girlfriend recently dumped me and I thought we were doing really well because she never said anything and we were very happy, but all of a sudden our relationship was over. And I just found out that she broke up with me because she wanted to ...
A. 22 September 2010: The best thing you can do is keep yourself occupied and try not to think of her. This may involve removing things that remind you of her and stay away from sad songs. Also spend as much time with friends as you can, that really helped me when ever I ... (read in full...)
She's lying.. right?
Q. Ok I met this girl who's 16 she claimed she has had sex with 7 girls, but I can fit 3 fingers in her and 4 which she says hurts so I don't bother. To me this sounds like she's lying as everybody lies about how many people they sleep with. ...
A. 22 September 2010: Tightness has no relation to what you are asking and like it was already stated things done with x # of people doesn't make you loose. Second she may be lying and there is no way to actually find out but it shouldn't matter and if it does than I ... (read in full...)
How to get my virgin girlfriend to have sex with me?
Q. Dear Readers, I would like to have some advise on how to convinced my girlfriend to have a sexual intercourse with me... Since she is still a virgin, it is extremely complicated to convinced her.. She always tells me to wait and wait and wait......
A. 19 September 2010: There is only one technique that works for sure. That is to wait and wait until she is satisfied that you love her and are there for the right reasons. Then she will be ready for sex.
You have to decide how important sex is to you and if it is wort... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a bitch last night and I can't get over it!
Q. My boyfriend called my a Bitch last night. I can't seem to get over it ever though he's apologized many times. He's never cursed at me before and this really hurt me. He was frustrated because he was trying to do something on his computer. He threw ...
A. 18 September 2010: Your over reacting to this way too much. I know what its like to be him as I too get really angry with alot of technology. Its just how he reacts, so he was angry at the object and you chose to say something that made him angrier instead of ... (read in full...)
How do I tell everyone, that I am bisexual?
Q. hey guys, i really dont know how to tell everyone that i'm bisexual and its killing me :( how can i tell people?...
A. 17 September 2010: I wouldn't tell anyone anything it'll come up when ever happens to come up. My gf is bisexual and is happy to tell people but only if it comes up in conversation. Alot of people will react badly and try to say that you're not or something of the ... (read in full...)
Relationships and University
Q. Hey everyone, My name's Joe and i'm just starting my 2nd year of University. Before My Uni life began I was in a relationship with a guy for 4 years. It had it's ups and downs and ended ok. But the problem was during that relationship I was doing my ...
A. 16 September 2010: You can't choose when someone you like comes into your life and you want to date them. Don't pass up an opertunity because you just don't feel like you should. The best place to meet someone is at university. I met my gf at school and although the ... (read in full...)
I feel like his heart is not 100% into our relationship
Q. I'm feeling totally confused with everything at the moment. Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months, things have been moving at a fairly slow pace which i dont mind but over the past few months i feel like hes half in the relationship and is half ...
A. 16 September 2010: Being that its only 7 months into the relationship I would have to say that you are better off with someone else. A lack of cumunication now won't just get better as time goes on and it seems that he has no will to put any effort into it anyway. ... (read in full...)
Should I take a pregnancy test or not be too concerned?
Q. I've been on the Evra patch for about 10 months now and my period has come on the last wednesday of every month for about 8 months now, never a day sooner or later. But today I noticed some unexpected spotting, and I'm wondering what this could be? ...
A. 16 September 2010: There's no harm in taking a test just to be sure but I wouldn't worry about it too much. These same symptoms happened to my gf a while back, she's on a different form of birth control. She took a pregnancy test which came back negative, twice and ... (read in full...)
Scotch eggs!!!
Q. Not really a dilemma but would like some input because I don't want to come across odd, lol. Which I probably am. I saw scotch eggs today (lol) and they were a favourite of a member of staff at my school. its been 2 years since I've left but we...
A. 15 September 2010: I don't see why that would be seen as weird. At least not by him, I'm sure he would enjoy them very much. School staff usually always like those kind of jestures, it shows that they have done a good job and maybe made a difference. ... (read in full...)
Lost puppy effect.
Q. With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
A. 9 September 2010: Your very welcome SeeingStars. I'm glad that this could help or even just define the situation. It helps when what you are going through has classification and you know that you are not the only one. ... (read in full...)
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