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writes:HI I am nearly 15 now and have had very strong feelings for my best friend for over a year now. she has been a really good friend to me for 3 years now, and I can tell my feelings for her are becoming stronger and stronger, I havnt had much experience in relationships, and over the years, she has has various boyfriends, and i find myself becoming jealous, and out bond weakens. I really really love her but I don't think she has the same feelings for me, and I just don't k ow what to do. I would love for her to be my gf, but again I don't want to destroy the friendship we have built up. I find myself thinking about her constantly in the recent time after christmas and it almost feels like torture to me just being friends. I really don't know what to say to her... I'm so sorry for going on, but I've never felt this way before and I need help!! Thankyou so much for taking the time to read this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): Thanks for your help. I have decided to gather the courage and go for it, maybe this week... I will write again to say what happened. Really appreciate ur advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): Go for it! Try not to be all dramatic about it. Keep your cool. She will probly say no, cus that's how being in the friend zone works. Trust me, I had a bad problem of it when I was in high school. In my experience it will destroy the relationship, but if you don't tell her than you will destroy yourself. It will suck for awhile, but you will get over it. Trust me you don't want to go crazy jealous being her friend. I would go as far as starting to date someone else. She may then realize that this friendship was more of a love interest when your hanging out with your new gf half the time. Be sure to stay in touch, but make sacrifices. This may sound harsh to the side girl but it needs to be done. Make sure that the new girl is hot and maybe from another school. If I could go back in time that is what I would do, cus this stuff doesn't work anymore.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 You have to make the tough decision whether to stay friends and hide your feeling or just go for it and ask her to be your gf. If you two are such good friends then even if she says no I think that there would be an awkward period and them it will go back to normal as long as your feeling don't over power you. If you feel that as strongly as I think you do about her I don't think that you'd be happy with yourself if you didn't go for it. Alot of really strong relationships come out of friendships. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): At fifteen you haven't really lived yet. Keep her as a good friend. I am married to my sis's best friend from elementary school. never dated tell I was 27. Date become friends with lots of girls. I was a big guy who had a blast just being friends with girls. good luck.
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