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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 13 February 2010: Then see if you two can get together, it would be a great time to find common interests. That reason makes sense so you don't have anything to worry about it. I know its hard to get around to places at this time of your life but that will pass in ... (read in full...)
This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 13 February 2010: I'm sorry to hear that. Does he just not want to go? Like he still wants to be your bf but maybe he is nervous about the whole dance social scene. Maybe you two could spend some time together, just the two of you instead. Or I really hate to say it ... (read in full...)
This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 3 February 2010: Thats good to hear and I think that that will be really sweet. Once you two start to get more comfortable with each other things will start to flow.
Hope the dance goes well.... (read in full...)
Should guys shave their penis?
Q. Should guys shave their penis...
A. 29 January 2010: That's a very broad topic. I would have to say that alot of girls do like a well groomed man but its not something that you have to do. It all depends on whether you like it or not.
I have been manscaping as it is called for years now even when... (read in full...)
I worry about my sexuality
Q. I am 16 nearly 17 year old male, And i have a problem. I am firstly very conscious about my appearance (overweight, i myself would like to be more muscular) but thats not important, i believe myself to also be a late bloomer...but thats not importan...
A. 28 January 2010: I think that you are more arroused by the muscular men right now because you want to look like that and be with women who would be all over that kind of body.
Its the same thing as girl guy porn. When you see the man involved you use that to see ... (read in full...)
Help! Why are his friends like this?
Q. Hey everyone.... I have a partner for quite some time.... I need your input about his friends.... even before we got together and had my housewarming his mates ignored me... even though we were housemates... went out for dinner they shut me out...
A. 27 January 2010: I would have to say that they see you as stealing him away from them. You threaten their life style especially if they are all single exceot him. He'll take care of this one for if they are really his friends they will be happy as long as he's ... (read in full...)
What do his actions mean in guy terms?
Q. I'm On a break with my ex boyfriend. He wanted the break because he couldn't handle a gf and wanted to get back on his feet, which is ok i guess. But Im getting confused he says he wants me and he wants back together again. last Saturday we hung out ...
A. 27 January 2010: For me those actions mean booty call. He wants the sexual part without having to worry about cheating or have to keep up any emotional parts. He's just doing what he can get away so if you want to have a little fun with him then stick around but I ... (read in full...)
This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 27 January 2010: Don't be afraid to cuttle up to him. He should get the idea that you are really into him and start to hold you more. He's probably nervous too, so hold his hand, rest your head on his shoulder or some other physical contact. The subtle things will ... (read in full...)
What can I do to really turn my boyfriend on?
Q. hi, i was wondering.... what can i do to turn my bf on?? is there any peticular thing that turns a guy on?? thanks x...
A. 27 January 2010: Tell him what you are going to do to him before you start and kiss him around his body, go for the neck and chest.
If you are good with that kind of thing you could also do a strip tease for him in something sexy. Guys like a bit of foreplay too ... (read in full...)
2 guys! What do I do?
Q. well i liked a guy and he really likedmeback but i still had a little bit feelings for another guy but now the othe ne won't talk to me because i am aing his friend i feel horrible what should ido cupid and the obne already asked meon a date ... ...
A. 27 January 2010: Go with the one that your heart chooses.
Ask yourself;
How does he make me feel?
Does he take my breath away?
Does he treat me how I want to be treated?
Pick the one who gives you the warmest feeling when they smile at you. Your heart will guid... (read in full...)
His ex is causing trouble! Is he telling the truth?
Q. i`m having a bit of trouble i talked to a girl who claimed to be my boyfriends ex girlfriend and she told me that he asked her out a few weeks ago when we have been going out for 5 months he has already been out with her and she went out with him ...
A. 26 January 2010: From my personal experience do not trust the ex. She is probably just trying to make sure that he is not happy with anyone. Ask some of his friends if you are really worried but I would definitely trust him over one of his ex's. She's not looking ... (read in full...)
Should we date or just stay friends?
Q. So, I like my friend. We have great chemistry, but the problem is that I'm reluctant to date. I think dating is too cliched as teenagers (holding hands in school, calling each other every night, etc.) I feel as though if I date him things will be ...
A. 26 January 2010: Ask him out. If you two are interested then claim each other and have whatever kind of relationship that you want. Some don't need that constant clingy relationship. If you don't tell him he could move on and it would suck to wonder what could have ... (read in full...)
Do I worry too much about breast size?
Q. Moderator's Note: link to website removed. I recent found a site where some douche tries selling a PDF manual to convince a wife or girlfriend to get implants. I mean, not all guys are like that obviously, but do really most of them wish their pa...
A. 26 January 2010: I can say that I do prefer a smaller to medium breast size. They look so much better when there is nothing on. Now I would not pick a gf based on her breast size but I am not really attracted to larger breasts. They tend to look worse over the years ... (read in full...)
What should I do, I'm afraid to hang out with my ex?
Q. So my ex boyfriend says he wants to hangout wiht me. Im afraid to though. When we dated he was abusive to me and tried forcing me to pleasure him. So what do i do? We have been friends for so long. But what if he gets me alone? Im scared he willt ry ...
A. 25 January 2010: Get a group thing going to hang out with him and don't be alone with him. Or just say you can't and eventually he will stop asking. Its not the nicest thing to do but if you are this scared then it doesn't matter.
I strongly do not recommend alon... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I like him? He has mentioned that he doesn’t want a girlfriend.
Q. I started to like this guy I know from a university club I am involved in about 2/3 months ago. I had known him for about 6 months before that but never really thought about him in that way, even though when I first met him I thought he was ...
A. 25 January 2010: If he is really that shy and you really like him then let him know how you feel. If you don't you may avoid a possible awkward year living with him which would not be as bad as you think or you have to bottle up your feelings and wonder what could ... (read in full...)
His life doesn’t revolve around me so why should mine!
Q. I'm getting the feeling that my best friend thinks that I need him. Just because I told him that I like him. I think that he thinks that since i like him that I am interested only with him. How can I get the point across that i don't need him in ...
A. 25 January 2010: Go on dates with other guys and tell him about them. Thats what a friend would do. Try to keep busy so if he says that you two should hang out you can say you've got plans, then describe them. Just don't stop hanging out with him all together ... (read in full...)
Need advice for an experiment!
Q. This shoul'dnt be very long,thanks for reading,I've been kind of a tomboy for a long time,I see this women hes a crossdresser..so i suppose i should say man..well i meen..physically he is a female,i dont no her,but she's my insperation..ive decided ...
A. 25 January 2010: You could try the wraps for your chest but then do a baggy sweater or something like that till you find a good technique. I have seen the wraps done before and it really takes alot. If you have not done this already try starting wraping them from ... (read in full...)
He dating another but says he loves me! What's going on?
Q. i fell in love with my best friend 3 months ago. but we cant be together, he started dating her 2 months ago and a week ago he says I love you to me. His girlfriend is not letting him talk to me. what should i do?...
A. 25 January 2010: I'm confused as to why you two can't be together. It sounds like you mean alot to him. If the gf isn't letting him talk to you he will get fed up and choose between the two of you. She probably sees you as a threat to their relationship so thats why ... (read in full...)
Am I just imagining this or could he actually be liking me too? I always thought he was straight until recently!
Q. I am a gay guy who is 38. I have 3 male friends whom I have known for years...all of whom are supposedly straight. All in the group have known I am gay for years and are ok with me. One guy intrigues me...he is 3 years younger than me. He said ...
A. 25 January 2010: The way you describe him I think that he could be in to you or maybe testing the waters of his own sexuality. You two seem to talk alot so maybe try to bring that idea into the conversation without bringing too much attention to it. Keep paying ... (read in full...)
Would it be against the law to date my student-teacher?
Q. I turned 18 on the 3rd of this month. There's a teacher (actually, not even teacher... uh, student-teacher) at my school who I've become very close with. He's 20. He, for lack of a better term, 'expressed interest' in me first. So, before I do ...
A. 25 January 2010: Its not a good idea to date him when you are his student since it will be his problem to deal with if he gets caught. Wait till your out of school then its fine.
I don't see why the teachers motives have are being questions. Two years diff... (read in full...)
How do I approach this girl I really like?
Q. Hey i was just wondering if some of you could give me some advice. I really like this girl, but i don't really know how to approach her. I do fairly well with girls, like i can talk to girls and get with them without to much hassle. I never find it ...
A. 25 January 2010: It is always harder to talk to a girl who you're really interested in you. If she's interested at all then she has already noticed you and your best bet is to go up to her when she is alone, since her friends may make it difficult for you. Just go ... (read in full...)
Is he interested or naive?
Q. In a few weeks im supposed to interview one of my old middle school teachers about an event that is going on in spring. Just to let you know, I’ve liked this guy for like 6 years and we have a really good relationship as teacher and student. ...
A. 24 January 2010: It sounds like he is interested in you but I find it hard to tell if it is anything romantic. I could honestly see you two being friends when your done school, when the student/teacher thing no longer exists. Friends do flirt even though it may ... (read in full...)
If he finds out I'm banging his "little princess" the man will kill me!!!
Q. Ok, I have a HUGE problem. I am 29 yrs old and have been working for a construction company for a year. My boss is totally cool and since I have no family in the area has pretty much opened his home to me. We get along great both at work and off ...
A. 22 January 2010: He will probably find out either way so if you care about this girl and want to date her then do it and see if your boss likes you as a friend and daughters bf. I think he would respect you for being honest and may have trust in you that you will be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is a girl
Q. My boyfriend has a bestfriend and she's a girl.. I knew about her before me and him became afficial.. the talk every now and then.. and once before my boyfriend gave her my number and she called me saying "you don't ever have to worry about me and ...
A. 22 January 2010: That reply is absolutely terrible. I have a girl friend who I love and most of my friends are girls because I find them easier to talk to and I relate better to them. I would never cheat with one of them.
You do not have anything to worry about as l... (read in full...)
What's the general opinion on virginity
Q. Okay so here's a question for you guys. What do u feel about virgins? Does it turn u off or does the thought of having sex with a virgin excite guys?? I'm 19,5 still a virgin...so i'd like to know...
A. 22 January 2010: I think that some guys are very aroused by virgins. For me personally that isn't an issue with me. If she is, that is great but either way its about the meaningful connection rather then taking someone virginity.... (read in full...)
Average time to propose to your girlfriend?
Q. For anyone who could possibly know... What's the average amount of time it takes before guys propose to their girlfriends?...
A. 21 January 2010: I don't think that there is any sort of time line for something like this. It is all based on the feelings between you and how much of a connection that you two have built up in the time that you have been together. They say it only takes about a ... (read in full...)
Can my grandmother make me give up my baby for adoption?
Q. im 14 and pregnant i dont live with my mother and father i live with my grandmaa and my parents arent together but my mom said she would help me i wanna keep this child its daddy will be 18 in a month and we have beeen dating for over a year and i ...
A. 21 January 2010: I do not think she can at all. It's not in her custody and esspecially not when the father is an adult.
If you're going to be a strong supportive mother then you have every right to keep it and your grandma will realize this eventually.
Do wh... (read in full...)
He used me in order to make his ex jealous!
Q. i like this guy from same school but different class for 6months..i want to talk to him so badly,but don't know how to approach him naturally. one day he approach me and said he wants my number..i was so happy like crazy person.. so began conta...
A. 21 January 2010: Talk to him and find out if he is over this ex girlfriend, There is a chance that he is using you but there is also a chance that he just got out of bad relationship and is happy that he found someone who understands him.
Jugde the way he acts... (read in full...)
How can I get sex to be more pleasurable?
Q. I last had sex about 6 months ago, i've only ever had it 3 times (to the same guy) but each time it really hurt... the pain was excruciating so we always had to stop, which was disappointing for us both! Me and this guy broke up a while ago, and I ...
A. 20 January 2010: Go out and get some lube. Something regular should help out alot. Also try fingering yourself on the days leading up to you two getting together. Also make sure that there is lots of foreplay before he enters you so that you can be fully aroused and ... (read in full...)
Virginity question
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship with a great guy,love him to bits. The problem is we had sex a while ago for the first time and we both said it was our first time. The thing is I had dated another guy (for like 2 years) before going out with the...
A. 18 January 2010: Im going to say yes you were. Text book defintion and religious view, probably not, but all that matters is what you think. This isn't wierd at all, my gf and I talked about this for all the stuff we have done since we are waiting (not till ... (read in full...)
B/f's mom walked in while I was giving him hand job!
Q. Help! My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now and we're completely in love. I've never been more happy and comfortable with anyone. Well, today we were at his house in his basement with his previously Catholic mother home. I'm not ...
A. 18 January 2010: Don't break up with him if you love him. The parents need to know that you're old enough to make your own life choices and they need to give you two some freedom even if that means a long talk about the whole situation before hand. He needs to talk ... (read in full...)
Should I read into these comments on Facebook?
Q. My wife is a different cultural background. Would you get upset if you saw on a public networking site two of her clients at work making sexually suggestive comments about her? Nor directly at her, nor were they crude. The convo went like ...
A. 18 January 2010: It is a public site and if they are not making comments directly to your wife I would bother with them. Talk to your wife about it and see what she says. You can also report them on to the facebook staff and they will look into it since any sort of ... (read in full...)
I have proof she cheated but she is still in denial
Q. what if you're you been a girl with a year now, and she thought she could be slick and have a side relationship with a another guy, but when you caught her and even gave her sure proof, she denies it. even when u have proof of them flirting...
A. 18 January 2010: I think she is just trying to see if you will give up and she can continue on the same way she has been. In my opinion she's not worth it and you should end it before she tries to turn this on you. If you do want to work this out with her then I ... (read in full...)
Any 'different' ideas for a gift for Valentine's Day?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and I honestly love him with all my heart. Well, this Valentine's Day, we decided to make each other something, not go out and try to spend money on each other. He told me he's going to ...
A. 15 January 2010: If your any sort of an artist you could paint or draw him something. Or if you have picture of things you two have done in the past then create a collage or scrap book of the memories you two have shared this past year.
If you want to do some... (read in full...)
My crush found out I like her - not from me. What do I do??
Q. recently i told my friend the girl i liked in confidence, then he's told someone, and they told someone etc. and sure as it gets, she found out. i don't know how she reacted because i just found out on the bus back from school, but i don't know what ...
A. 15 January 2010: Its already out in the open so just go up to her and tell her how you feel. Atleast this way she'll know its coming from you and you mean it. Also you'll get to see how she feels, if she's not into you then the worst you can get is a no. If anything ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is my best friend, how will I know when it's time to ask her to marry me?
Q. I just want to know what marriage means. I dont want to rush it but i also know this women is someone i can trust. Maybe how long do i wait or when i know its right to propose? Even if we don't get married we mutually benefit each other. Not ...
A. 15 January 2010: Talk to her about the general idea about marriage so she know's it on your mind. There is no time line for this kind of thing, its all based on feelings. Remember that a wedding can be quite expensive so maybe the issue of getting married is with ... (read in full...)
I really like this girl but our cultures and religions are just too different
Q. basically theres this girl that i get along great with i.e. we would tease, and playfight with each other. we pretty much find some way to text/fb each other everyday and we hang out whenever we can so in a way shes pretty much my best friend...the ...
A. 15 January 2010: Go talkto this girl about her thoughts on a relationship and see what she says. Its not fair to just leave her in the dust with no explaination. You might find a way to make this work and if not at least the two of you can have a mutual ... (read in full...)
When ever I go without sex I get angry and break stuff
Q. Im sexually frustrated. When i dont have sex for long periods of time, i become very angry and rude. For example, one time i broke my kitchen window n my dishes cuz i didnt get laid. Its been a week since i had sex. My bf hasnt been over. He knows ...
A. 15 January 2010: Well I was going to say get the job done yourself but if that not an option then try to plan out the week so you two have time for sex more often, I don't think he would mind. This is actually a problem that both women and men can face.
You coul... (read in full...)
Two boys, my mother says this one, my father says that one, who to choose
Q. Well, there are two boys, who are both really close friends of mine, that really like me. Boy #1 is sweet, nice, kinda cute, and is nice to my family. The only problem is that he likes two other girls too, and tries to be a ladies man a lot. Then ...
A. 15 January 2010: If your stuck in between the two of them I don't recommend picking anyone till you can be there totally for that one. Boy #2 sound like he would be the better choice though cause you don't want to be with someone who won't be solely with you. It ... (read in full...)
My best friend slept with my boyfriend and now I have trust issues
Q. My best friend slept with my boyfriend in June and i still havent gotten over it! I have major trust issues with people and im struggling to make new friends and start any new relationships. Any advice ??...
A. 14 January 2010: Its terrible that that happened to you. Try to remember that the new people you meet are not more likely to hurt you because of that past experience. You have every right not to trust the ex bf or that friend but I hope that you can get over it ... (read in full...)
I thought he was flirting with me but he says he has a girlfriend
Q. I have just separated from my husband because he cheated but still live (separeted for 3 months) toguether because of debt and our 2 year old daughter. I recently been flirting with this guy at work, he is always flirting and is extra nice to me co...
A. 14 January 2010: I wouldn't say he interested. Some people just like to flirt because it is easy to do with someone who you don't really know. It also is a good feeling to have them flirt back even though nothing would come of it. Don't dwell on this too much, just ... (read in full...)
I don't want a sexual thing, but do crave her attention
Q. Okay, So I don't really know where to start with this. I have a friend, also a girl, and we're not the best of friends, but the way we act would make you think otherwise. We're not really into deep conversations or anything, a general cha...
A. 14 January 2010: She may have a boy in her life and would feel guilty about being like that with you. Ask her if she does but make sure not to sound too sad if it cuddling has to stop and just be a friend if that is what you want. ... (read in full...)
I introduced two friends and they are now a couple, but she has never thanked me for it!
Q. Two of my good friends are going out. I have known him for 6 or more years, and I've known her for 4 years. She's 15 and in my year at school, he is 18 and is in his last year. Well she has been spending all of her time with him and not our litt...
A. 14 January 2010: She's just caught up in the moment of it all and I'm sure she is thankful or will be when she stops to think about it. It would be best to not expect a thank you, just know that you did a good thing. One day she could be telling stories of how they ... (read in full...)
I know he doesn't want me anymore but I don't know how to get over him
Q. How, how, how, how do I forget or put aside my love for this person that doesn't want me anymore. Its clear to me that he doesn't want me but I can't get over it. Please help me, what can I do, I tried keeping myself busy, but not working. Help ...
A. 14 January 2010: Try to bring the focus on the positive things in your life and stay away from idea of him. Hang out with friends or focus on some other cute guy who catches your attention. There is no quick way to do this so be patient and those feelings will fade ... (read in full...)
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