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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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What do I do if another girl is in love with my guy?
Q. What do I do if another girl is in love with my boyfriend? They first became friends through class, but I know she likes him and he knows it too. He said he has no feelings for her and only sees her in class, but she texts him constantly and I am ...
A. 21 November 2010: There really isn't that much that you can. The best thing to do is though not to be the jealous gf although you do have a right to express some opinion about this other girl. If your bf doesn't feel like bothers you all that much it will take away ... (read in full...)
Do you deep throat 6"?
Q. How do i give a real good blowjob? my boyfriend has a 6inch penis, do i deep throught or what. suggestions ...
A. 20 November 2010: I would never try that one unless you know for sure that you won't gag from it. When blowing him remember that the most sensitive part is the tip and not the shaft. Sometimes it is nice to see the girl take it deeper but I would never expect someone ... (read in full...)
Safe sex condom change!
Q. How do you change a condom after cumming, without risking getting any on you or your partner to continue with intercourse?...
A. 20 November 2010: It may not be the most romantic thing but you could wipe yourself down with a cloth or something and then go quickly wash your hands. Or keep some kleenex close and use a few to take the condom off while at the same time it can catch any that may ... (read in full...)
All 4 of my ex's want me back! Who do I choose?
Q. Okay i have been single for a while, i had been together with 4 girls in life.All pretty and nice girls. One or more circumstances made them leave me. Now they are all single and want me again. I dont know what to do. I mean i am not seeing anyone ...
A. 19 November 2010: I would say the american girl because it seems to be the one that didn't really have a break up. You two were separated, not by choice. I just picture a sad goodbye which would have the best re uniting experience.
Although now my other opinion ... (read in full...)
My husband always talks about how hot porn stars are.
Q. my husband watches porn. we have a great sex life. but when he watches porn he says comments like, o look at that big ass, mm those boobs are huge or her pussy looks good i want to fuck it. he says he loves me and loves my body. why would he say ...
A. 19 November 2010: I wouldn't say that he does not love you at all. He seems to be caught up in the fantasy of porn and doesn't know that its bothering you. I'm sure he understands that he will never actually be with these women and that they do not fulfill a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend met my ex and really liked him but doesn't know he's my ex. Do I tell him??
Q. I met two guys at the same time last year. They don't know each other. I went out with guy A but didn't feel that 'spark.' Then guy B asked me out and the spark was definitely there. So I stopped seeing guy A and started seeing guy B. After about a ...
A. 15 November 2010: I would let your bf know that you and guy B dated in the past but I wouldn't give any details on it. Just say it was in the past and your over it. I say this because there is a chance of guy B bringing something up that you two used to date and you ... (read in full...)
Her place or mine???
Q. I have gotten my new girlfriend to come on a date with me. I have never taken anyone on a date before, and i have no idea of what i should do. I have the following at my disposal: 3 different restaraunts, amazing natural views, nice walks along a ...
A. 15 November 2010: I would have her over at your place and do something like a nice walk in pretty area that you know. It shows that you really care to get to know her and it's something that she might not be expecting. ... (read in full...)
Guy friend troubles?
Q. Hey, I'm 18. I met this guy in my university lectures two weeks ago. I've started to like him a lot as a friend, and maybe as a crush. And I know he likes me back too. I didn't reveal to anyone that I liked him whatsoever. However, my ...
A. 15 November 2010: I think you need to stop him when you know there's some time to talk and explain to him that the friend was acting ridiculous. Then you can work the conversation over to you saying that you like him and asking him out.
Just say that you have some... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll be rejected yet again
Q. I have recently started a course (I’m on Jobseekers Allowance so I have to be on this course) and there is a girl on the course I like but I’m afraid to ask her out. I’ve talked to her a couple of times during the breaks so I know she is single and ...
A. 15 November 2010: I know this is simple advice but it is the truth. You can't be afraid of rejection because the only way you lose is if you don't go for it.
My advice to you is find a way to approach her with confidence and it should go better. Remember that no m... (read in full...)
Is this something you'd say to a friend, or is more interested than that?
Q. Hi - It seems that reading signs is not my main skill and in the past i consistently got everything wrong ! So i would need some external advice about this before I make a new mistake. We used to go out together for a while but things naturally...
A. 15 November 2010: The lap comment makes me think he has other feelings for you but it could be like a sister thing. You could try getting him to say more to you by giving him a flirty comment and seeing what he does with it. He could be fishing for the flirty comment ... (read in full...)
How would a freshman guy be viewed by a junior girl?
Q. I'm a freshman and I get rather "flirty?" with this junior who is maybe 1in. Shorter than me she's amazing lol and a vegetarian I'm 5'7" so... How would you view that me I'm rather shy I'd say I'm not sure how she views me. I do walk over and ...
A. 15 November 2010: I think that you are past the simple age difference issue, its all about how you act with her. I would think that she would view you by your actions and prpobably like you for it. We're in the 2010 where a guy can date an older girl and there is ... (read in full...)
Will cum on my stomach wash to my vagina in the shower?
Q. Alright, so yesterday I was giving my boyfriend a hand job, when he ejaculated on my stomach. I was wearing underwear and pajama pants, and wiped it off with some toilet paper ( and the cardboard roll part because the paper was gone). Some semen got ...
A. 15 November 2010: No you would not be pregnant at all. It would just run down your leg and to the drain. The sperm has to definitely make it inside to get pregnant. You are scaring yourself but at least your thinking of these things. Next time just make sure you have ... (read in full...)
What is the big deal with ones partner watching porn?
Q. I always see a lot of married couples or people dating complaining about their husband/boyfriend watching porn. Why dont they like it when they do it? Because really I would be up for watching it with them, but other people dont seem to feel that ...
A. 15 November 2010: I think that people tend to see it as the person who is watching porn as not being satisfied from the relationship. Personally I see the one who has the issue with porn is the insecure one unless the person has some dependence on porn. If the sexual ... (read in full...)
Missing: My period.
Q. i haven't had a period in two months and iv grown a little more tired but im also in college, i was more hungry than usual but now i just feel nauseated especially with greasy foods. Is this a sign of something, other than pregnancy because i'm ...
A. 14 November 2010: Have you had sex where you could possibly have gotten pregnant? If not then I would say it may be fatigue/stress from possibly being worked really hard and not getting enough sleep. Also a poor diet can also be the cause of missing periods and if ... (read in full...)
I charge my sister to clean the bathroom! Am I cheating her?
Q. Do you think its wrong that I charge my older sister 15/20$ to clean the bathroom for her? Meaning she don't have to do anything, no sweeping, no mirror cleaning ect. She has the bathroom 2 times a in a row and then I have it 2 times in a row. What ...
A. 14 November 2010: No not in any sense. She has to pay for he laziness and if you are will to do her chores there is no reason why you shouldn't profit from it. ... (read in full...)
How many red flags can you spot?
Q. Is this a red flag for a relationship? Im getting to know this guy Im 41 hes 43, the odd thing is, he never seems to have had a really significant other in his life ever, only relationships lasting a few weeks maybe. His family told me when he ...
A. 13 November 2010: From what his family said I would say he has just had terrible relationships and needs someone who will be willing to work in restoring his trust in others. He could be an amazing guy who just needs to know someone loves him for who he is.
I say ... (read in full...)
Got quotes?
Q. got good quotes ? any kind . love , life , dark , light . you name it . I need some good ones for my class . lol . help me out . post one or more(: thanks ....
A. 13 November 2010: "Go for it now. The future is promised to no one"
-Wayne Dyer
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So it's official, we're finally over. Where do I go from here?
Q. I've posted a few times in the past two weeks about me and my (now ex) girlfriend first being on shaky communication terms, then on a break. Basically, the last time we talked and went on a break, she said she had to clear up things with fami...
A. 12 November 2010: What you need to do it get back out there in the world. Realize that you two shared good times that neither of you will ever forget and even though it's hard to think of now you will find someone else. She needed her freedom, I'm sorry it had to ... (read in full...)
Can people be in an exclusive online relationship?
Q. Can people be in an exclusively online relationship? How does that work out?...
A. 12 November 2010: Yes you can for sure. I think that it does take a very special degree of trust in the other person though which I would almost say is even more special to have because you don't have the person with you as a reminder often.
I want to be honest and ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I am a lesbian!
Q. i feel as if im a lesbian i dont really know but i have feelings for a girl...
A. 12 November 2010: This is the time of your life when all these feeling are worked out in your head. Do you also have feeling for any guys? You may be bisexual but either way follow your heart and don't be afraid to try to figure yourself out. Eventually you will and ... (read in full...)
Am I too nice? Why do bad people only interested in sex, get the girl?
Q. I'I'm a young man, in college and I consider myself to be a nice, generous and caring person. My friend was having a house party to celebrate his 17th and during a party one night , I was introduced to "Steph". ". She is an amazing person , same i...
A. 12 November 2010: I'm sorry you had to go through that. I've been in your position so much. I've always been the nice guy who is just seen as the friend if they even talk to me at all. I have learned over the years though that the nice guy has the best advantage. ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him or not?
Q. So, my boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot, and it's all about really dumb stuff. Most of it is my fault, because I have a really bad temper and things make me mad very easily. We've been dating for about 3 months, but you'd think by now ...
A. 12 November 2010: I think you should end because you should never expect him to just know not to say certain things unless they are directly mean. He has the right to say what he wants and it'll help you out alot in relationships if you just never expect thing like ... (read in full...)
I think I want more sex?
Q. My boyfriend and i have had sex once only. and i want to be with him again. but i dont know how to tell him....
A. 9 November 2010: Your best bet is to tell him in the moment like dirtball said. Chances are he wants to as well but is nervous that you may fell pressured to do it. ... (read in full...)
Just stay down.
Q. I've cried more than I have ever cried in my whole life, I've cried so much, that I can't cry anymore. Inside I'm as dead as any corpse. I wanted to love her so much, that everything else lost relevance. She loves another, and I'm left holding the ...
A. 9 November 2010: You never have to forget but you do have to realize that the one for you is the one who you find who stays with you. I don't believe the true person for you is ever the one who got away, it is the one who stays.
I have never forgotten a broken hear... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he been retested for STDs?
Q. Over 3 months ago my partner was bitten by a drunk female while he was operating his taxi. He reported the matter to the police. He agreed to go for blood tests. I offered to go with him but he said that he preferred to go on his own. Later that day ...
A. 9 November 2010: I think that he does need some time, I mean it's a bit much to go through all these tests after being so shooken up after being bittin. Also he could be worried if there is something wrong although the chances are small. I'm slightly confused why ... (read in full...)
Is my Fiancée lying when he tells me 'he doesn't need Porn because he's got me??
Q. Do you think my Fiance is lieing to me when he tells me 'he dont need Porn because he's got me??...
A. 9 November 2010: Unless you have a reason to not trust him on this one I would say that he is being truthful. Not all guys need porn and there is no reason why you aren't all that he needs. ... (read in full...)
How can you know if you have a hymen?
Q. hi i wanted to know how can you make sure you still have a hymen...
A. 6 November 2010: The hymen isn't really an important bone and to my knowledge it is a bone or piece of cartilage that actually normally is detached from some other activity other than sex like crashing your bike. Technically you could get a doctor to tell you but ... (read in full...)
Do you like it when a girl shaves, goes natural or trims?
Q. This is a question for the guys- Do you like it when a girl shaves, goes natural or trims? I'm really curious because my boyfriend gets upset if I say I want to shave, so I just trim to keep clean but I'd like to know opinions of other guys....
A. 5 November 2010: I strongly prefer shaven and if not that then well groomed. Maybe he feels that if you are doing it then he's going to have to put more effort into himself. I like a shaven girl but I keep well shaven for my gf too. It's a two way street and it's ... (read in full...)
Would it be weird to ask your boyfriend of a year, to make you have an orgasm?
Q. Would it be weird to ask your boyfriend of a year, to make you have an orgasm?? Or that you would like to have one??...
A. 5 November 2010: I think that you should ask for a specific act that will get you to orgasm, maybe him going down on you. Then you can tell him subtlely that you want him to make you cum. He'll be really happy when he does make you cum. ... (read in full...)
Penis enlargement medications?
Q. I know there are many adverts on the internet for penis enlargement schemes and medications but I would be grateful to know if any of the readers has tried any of these and found it effective and true to its advertisement? thanks. ...
A. 4 November 2010: There is a surgery that you can get which I really don't reccomend unless you know you really want to. A doctor will basically cut at the base and pull out the internal penis muscle sometimes called the hidden penis. It is a plastic surgery ... (read in full...)
Can my dad stop me from moving out at 18 if I am still in high school?
Q. can my dad stop me form moving out when i am 18 if i am still in high school...
A. 4 November 2010: The answer is no he can't but remember that once you leave he is no longer responsible for you and does not under any circumstances have to take you back. I would reall think this one though, there is a lot of worked needed to be on your own but if ... (read in full...)
I clamp my legs together during an orgasm. Is this normal?
Q. Hi, im recently with a new partner and our sex life is the best ive ever experienced im experiencing orgasms for the first time in my life, the problem i have that i seem to want to clamp my legs closed in doing this, is this normal????...
A. 4 November 2010: Yes this is normal and if he doesn't want to get his head clamped he can just pull his head out when you begin to orgasm and just use his fingers to keep you going. ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a guy is interested in you?
Q. What are ways to tell if a guy is interested in you? HELP PLEASE im so confused....
A. 4 November 2010: Look for the way he'll look at you, there will be a face that he'll make and you'll know. Also if you smile at him and he smiles back or you know by the way he talks to you. Or a sure fire way to know is tell him you like him and see what he does. ... (read in full...)
Do you think it matters how quick a girl orgasms?
Q. I tend to orgasm within 5 minutes during sex with my bf. I don't know if my bf likes the idea that I finish really quick cause I feel like he wants to go longer. Of course he gets to finish, but i feel like he wants sex to last longer... Obviously I ...
A. 4 November 2010: It would not bother me at all whether it was quick or took a while. All you do is set yourself up for multiples so its a great thing for you and for your bf because atleast for me nothing is hotter than seeing my gf orgasm.
I'm wondering do you ... (read in full...)
He likes shopping... is he gay?
Q. My man who has been living with me for 11 months is a bit different from your regular guy. He loves shopping, furniture,shoes,bags,womens underwear and clothes. He is always saying oh that would look good on you or you should buy this.......
A. 4 November 2010: Its hard to say what to exactly do to get around the medication. Maybe you can try other things besides sex to keep things going until there is a way to make you both comfortable with sex.
As for the gay part I wouldn't say gay at all. I love to s... (read in full...)
First time experiences?
Q. What was it like the first time that you had sex male and females welcome to answer...
A. 3 November 2010: My first time was in a car so it was kinda cramped. It was good but i was really nervous and it wasn't so much about the sex itself but the feelings that were there when it was going on. Looking back it was a good experience and after that sex was ... (read in full...)
Milk produces more sperm?
Q. My boyfriend claims that drinking more milk means he produces more sperm. Is there any truth behind this? I find it difficult to believe that milk would do such a thing. ...
A. 3 November 2010: Definitely a myth. Tell him to keep drinking milk anyway though. Its good for other things like bones and joints which will keep the sex good when he is old.... (read in full...)
Got caught while skinny dipping, followed up by an awkward question!
Q. So the other night me and some friends were in the pool and my brother and his friends came home and went simming with us. After a little while we were like let's go skinny dipping and we did. All of us except for a few people. Well we got busted. ...
A. 3 November 2010: Good to hear that it blew over and you are still having fun with it. ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with her even although I'm a virgin?
Q. I'm a virgin, and this really attractive, and fairly experienced girl wants to have sex with me.. I really would rather save myself the embarrassment of telling her I'm a virgin, but then she'll probably think I'm just shit in bed, i don't know what ...
A. 2 November 2010: I lost my virginity to an experienced girl when I was 17 and I did for a while regret it. Not for losing it but just for the person she became after we dated for a bit. Personally I think you need to follow your heart on this one. There is a good ... (read in full...)
Is this urge normal?
Q. Hi 15 year old here sophomore in highschool and some days in school I feel an urge and I go to the bathroom and masturbate in school, is this normal...
A. 2 November 2010: Having you mind focused on sex at this age is very normal. When I was your age I would always want to masturbate and you really just have to occupy your mind till you get home. Try not to do anything that would look bad if you got caught. Everyone ... (read in full...)
Why buy the cow when the milk is free???
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and things are really good. We've discussed where we see our relationship going and we both agree on marriage in the short term future (say next 4 years). We've also talked about living together and ...
A. 1 November 2010: I don't agree with the notion that living with someone prior to marriage increases your chances for divorce at all. It's good for people to see what their lives will be like when they get married so moving in together sounds like a good plan to me ... (read in full...)
Got caught while skinny dipping, followed up by an awkward question!
Q. So the other night me and some friends were in the pool and my brother and his friends came home and went simming with us. After a little while we were like let's go skinny dipping and we did. All of us except for a few people. Well we got busted. ...
A. 26 August 2010: I am surprised thats what first came to your parents mind. I would laugh this one off and make them feel stupid for thinking that. As for skinny dipping, what you do in your back yard is none of the neighbours business. If they don't like it they ... (read in full...)
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