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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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She says she doesn't want anal, but she seems to want it.
Q. I spoke with my GF recently about fantasies we shared some. She has known for sometime I want to have anal sex, however, I absolutely respected her choice not to. Fine, not a huge deal, as a relationship is caring about your partner not forcing ...
A. 11 March 2010: I think you just need to be patient keep doing what you already know that she enjoys. Continue with the fingering just like usual. I think that she wants to its just that she is nervous. If she has your support and not a constant asking preasure I ... (read in full...)
Why does he never cum any more... he used to??? Is it me???
Q. hi. i have been with my partner for almost a year now, we still have a loving relationship, we cuddle and kiss all the time still and have a laugh together. the thing is when we have sex he never cums anymore, he hasnt for a while now, he use to a...
A. 11 March 2010: the stress would play a big role. It is hard to orgasm when you are constantly worrying about something else. If he is still very much into having sex with you then I don`t think that he would be cheating. You should ask him about this. Its not be ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when girls play with their hair as I walk by?
Q. i've noticed that almost always when i pass girls on the street, in a store, on the subway wherever, they always start playing with their hair...does this mean they find me attractive or that i make them nervous? i've been told that i'm really ...
A. 11 March 2010: I was going to comment on that lol but I didn`t think that you were the type to be full of yourself. They probably see you and expect you to be taken which is even more desirable. They have probably been doing it all along and you are just starting ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a girl to masturbate?
Q. i am a girl is it nomal for me to masturbate? because i feel i want too ...
A. 11 March 2010: Its normal for females just as much as males. I totally agree with FierceBadRabbit, it is the best way to learn the sexual aspects of your body.... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend and I are going to have sex. What is the best method of protection?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for three years. he is 17 and i'm 18 we've talked about sex but i'm not quite sure. if we do what protection would you recommened because someone once told me that condoms aren't always good enough. Help ...
A. 11 March 2010: It would be most effective if you went on the pill and he used a condom. If you still get pregnant after that I will be in total shock. You can even use a spermicidal lube on top of that. ... (read in full...)
If you are on birth control can a guy cum inside you as many times as he wants?
Q. If a guy cum so many times while you're on birth control pill, and you never miss a day. Can you still get preganent?...
A. 11 March 2010: There is the chance that you could get pregnant but it is a small chance. The pill is proven to be 99% effective, possibly more but not 100% so it depends on the risk you are willing to take. I have friends who have never used a condom and he always ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when girls play with their hair as I walk by?
Q. i've noticed that almost always when i pass girls on the street, in a store, on the subway wherever, they always start playing with their hair...does this mean they find me attractive or that i make them nervous? i've been told that i'm really ...
A. 11 March 2010: From my experience it means that they are attracted to you. The way you conduct yourself and look is what they find appealing and the bodies natural reaction is to busy itself with something so that you do not just stare. Give them a smile when you ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to allow him to be sexual with other women?
Q. I have been with my husband for 5years now. Married for less than one year. I have allowed my husband to have a threesome..should I allow him to continue to be sexual with other women? ...
A. 10 March 2010: There is nothing saying that you two can not have an open marriage but there has to be alot of trust between you two if you want it to work. You both have to be completely honest with all activities and make sure that the other person does not get ... (read in full...)
My penis jumps with my heartbeat -- is this normal?
Q. okay, when i have an erection i for some reason have a pulse. that is my penis kind of jumps at the beat of my heartbeat. is this normal? ...
A. 10 March 2010: I do not see why that would be a problem. It is probably due to larger then normal arteries in your penis that allow you to feel the pulse and you may just have a powerful heart beat. Bring it up with your doctor next time you are in, I can't see ... (read in full...)
He prefers to masturbate than have sex with me!
Q. My boyrfriend rarely wants to have sex with me. at first we used to do it at least 3 times a week. then it went down to 2 times. then 1 time a week. if possible 1 time every 2 weeks. or whenever he feels horny. i talked to him about it, why dont we ...
A. 9 March 2010: He may say that he loves you but I wouldn't really believe it. It sounds like he is lazy when it comes to sex. Masturbating means that all he has to do is please himself and doesn't have to put any extra effort into it.
I think that you should move... (read in full...)
What is the 'secret code" in finding a girlfriend???
Q. Dear Cupid, I am having a lot of trouble finding a girlfriend. I have to admit I am very shy going up to a complete stranger and asking her on a date. The only girls I have the courage to talk to are the ones that i meet at classes or in sh...
A. 9 March 2010: All you need is confidence and to be true to yourself. A girls will see the fakeness before you even talk to her. When you talk to someone just steer the conversation in a way that interests them. The classroom is the perfect place to meet someone, ... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 9 March 2010: After something like that I don't think that his intentions are good. Just tell him that you are uncomfortable with that display and that you two will not be able to get together. Then just say bye and hang up. He'll think about the situation and ... (read in full...)
Are smaller sized condoms available for regular purchase?
Q. Yeah, so I've tried using a bunch of the regular/average condoms but they're kinda too loose for me and obviously magnum/large ones wouldn't be any better lmao. Are there smaller sized condoms available for purchase? ;x I've already tried loo...
A. 9 March 2010: Try the trogan ultra thin. They are a regular condom but I found that they have a tighter fit. Plus they feel alot better for you when wearing them.... (read in full...)
We should be like rabbits but things are going wrong...
Q. Hi I'm tash im23 I hear u can with problems with relationship I'm date this guy have be for 1year and 6 months and we live together . Thing are goin wrong he don't give me sex. And when he do I got ask but he rather wank off over porn dos that mean ...
A. 9 March 2010: There nothing wrong with you its him. He lets himself go with porn and then loses the urge till the next time he has a date with the screen. I'm sure your sex life would be much better if he cut out alot of the porn. Also he may be showing signs of ... (read in full...)
Any ways to get rid of stretch marks?
Q. hey everyone do anyone kno how to get rid of stretch marks plz let me know thanks........b...
A. 9 March 2010: There are oils sold at pharmacies that are supposed to work. A friend of mine tried them and got some results. ... (read in full...)
Intimidated by his ex girlfriend.
Q. I'll try to keep this short. Basically I started dating this new guy b/c of a blind date thru his dad. It's been going great so far, and he lives an hour away so I know nothing about his history except what he and his friends/family has told me....
A. 9 March 2010: You have every right to be concerned and this situation is based on your trust for your bf, which if you have not been dating for too long then the trust just isn't there for something like this. Tell him staight up that you are uncomfortable with ... (read in full...)
What do men think about small busts?
Q. i just like to know because i'm fairly small busted (32b JUST) what men think of small boobs, i have a dead close lad mate and he says its not just about your boobs its about the full package and that what's use in having big boobs if you have a ...
A. 8 March 2010: There is the saying that "anything more than a handful is a waste". I personally prefer smaller breasts c's or less but not non existant. You have something great to look forward to and that is the fact that a smaller bust will tend to keep its ... (read in full...)
Shaven or not?
Q. A simple question to ask, for both males and females if you please: Shaven pubic region or unshaven pubic region? I myself find shaven definitely more preferable, and don't say you like both, because you are bound to like one at least sligh...
A. 6 March 2010: Shaven. For both sexes, I would never expect it to be done if I was not willing to put the effort in myself. Shaven allows you to see the beauty of the body.... (read in full...)
What does he mean by hanging out?
Q. i asked my ex boyfriend if he sees us being together in the future and i meant me being his girl and he said yes hanging out. So what does that mean?...
A. 6 March 2010: I think he just means that you two are friends and not going to get back together. You really should just move on and not wait around for this guy.... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 6 March 2010: I don't have any experience with this but I do have some advice.
Try to only see him every two weeks or so and keep it in public places. People will think that you are just spending time with your grandfather and he won't be in a position to do a... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant if I've never had a period?
Q. ok i am 24yrs old and i never in my life had a period. yea i know weird, but recently my bf and i had sex and for this whole week i have been feeling nasuaded. Now my question is can i still get preganat without having a monthly cycle?...
A. 5 March 2010: It is possible but does not seem likely if you go by biological facts. Technically if you have never had your period then there has never been an egg released but there are always exceptions. Your best bet is to go talk to your doctor; one so that ... (read in full...)
He's emotionally blackmailing me to stay with him.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend online for over 2 years. He's obsessive, over protective and very controlling. i finally got over it. i ended the relationship- he put himself in hospital for a week. I don't love him, in fact i almost hate him for this, ...
A. 5 March 2010: Just leave. He is not your problem to deal with. Chances are he isn't being serious and even if he is its not your problem. I know you care about him as would I if I was in your situation but its best that you just cut contact, just wish him well ... (read in full...)
One year spent together and I don't know what to get him.
Q. Hello. It's me and my boyfriend's one year anniversary soon and I want to get him something really special. The only problem is I don't know what. I'm already making him a scrapbook but I want to buy him something meaningful as well, although I ...
A. 4 March 2010: I would like to say that the scrap book is a really good idea. Something material for him makes me think jewlery since he can always have it with him. You can usually get a stainless steel chain for not too much. If you have a ring or something like ... (read in full...)
Obsessing over boys and can't seem to stop.
Q. Help! Why do I obsess over guys!! Its wierd I think about someone non stop for maybe even a year then that's it I forget about them. Any sugestions except to get a life? Haha thanks ...
A. 4 March 2010: I think this is just the stage in your life. I used to obsess over girls when I was younger. Try and find another interest to keep your mind off all the guys but otherwise just go along with it knowing that it will fade as time goes on.
Its perf... (read in full...)
Is he just being a nice mate? I'm too scared of being rejected to ask him directly about it!
Q. ok so...first things first...I suck at relationships of anysort.. I'm useless at knowing whether people like or 'like' or are teasing :p *sigh* So here goes, there's a guy on my course who is a super friend.. But I've started to like him more th...
A. 4 March 2010: Even if he doesn't feel the same I doubt that he would make a scene with it. If there is that physical contact then it is looking like he does like you. What I reccomend is go hug him. If he holds you close with his arms lower down like at the lower ... (read in full...)
I don't have a date to the dance.
Q. I have a dance coming up. 8th grade formal... But im afraid I won't get asked to go with someone and even though I'll have my bff to be there with me, itll still kill me inside to see everyone else having someone with them, and then im alone just ...
A. 3 March 2010: If you have someone in mind don't be afraid to ask them if they're taking anyone. Alot of guys like it when the girl makes the first move. Just ask casually if there going with anyone that way if they yes they are its not like you're getting ... (read in full...)
Why is it when you are single you see couples more frequently?
Q. So here is a simple question that I thought I might ask, since I haven't been able to find it yet... Why does it seem that when you are single, and the longer you have been, the more and more sex and couples start to appear? It's pretty wel...
A. 3 March 2010: I think that you just notice the couples more. Before you didn't think about other couples and now it is a repeating topic in your head. Its the same concept as when someone is taken people tend to find them more attractive. ... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy what I know is good sex anymore.
Q. My question is relating to sex. I have been having issues enjoying sex and i'm not too sure why. Ever since me and my ex broke up 6 months ago I haven't been enjoying sex and have no drive to actually have sex. I had sex last night just to see ...
A. 2 March 2010: It is possible that it could be some subconcious dislike your mind has to sex, specifically there being another person involved. If it doesn't go away soon I would reccomend see a proffesional just to see what they have to say. The mind works in ... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy what I know is good sex anymore.
Q. My question is relating to sex. I have been having issues enjoying sex and i'm not too sure why. Ever since me and my ex broke up 6 months ago I haven't been enjoying sex and have no drive to actually have sex. I had sex last night just to see ...
A. 2 March 2010: It is possible that it could be some subconcious dislike your mind has to sex, specifically there being another person involved. If it doesn't go away soon I would reccomend see a proffesional just to see what they have to say. The mind works in ... (read in full...)
Do guys feel it when a girl orgasms?
Q. Do guys feel it when a girl orgasms? Do they feel the contractions, or anything else? Since I'm not a guy, I've wanted to know the answer to this for a long time. ...
A. 2 March 2010: Yes we can feel the contractions whether they be from an orgasm or just when you tense up on purpose during sex. At some point in your life I recommend trying that during sex and judging the guys reactions. He may be really surprised.... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy what I know is good sex anymore.
Q. My question is relating to sex. I have been having issues enjoying sex and i'm not too sure why. Ever since me and my ex broke up 6 months ago I haven't been enjoying sex and have no drive to actually have sex. I had sex last night just to see ...
A. 2 March 2010: Its hard to say because you say that you know it is good sex which is the question in my mind. There may be a possibility that you may desire more then just sex like a fetish of some sort. I'm not saying anything really drastic but just something to ... (read in full...)
She claims she is into me, but won't leave her boyfriend!
Q. Im having a very odd situation with a girl i have known for about two years now. I was in a advanced 3D design course and i sat next to her just because i knew no one in the class and she was cute and just gave off a good vibe. We talked a lot but ...
A. 1 March 2010: I was in a similar situation with a girl about two years ago. I spent almost four months waiting for her to break up with her bf who she kept saying that she hated but just wouldn't do it. From my experience even though we did finally get together ... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy what I know is good sex anymore.
Q. My question is relating to sex. I have been having issues enjoying sex and i'm not too sure why. Ever since me and my ex broke up 6 months ago I haven't been enjoying sex and have no drive to actually have sex. I had sex last night just to see ...
A. 1 March 2010: I think that it is definitly something in your head causing this. When something makes you sad anything you found pleasurable in the past could lose that feeling. It will return eventually, probably when you have sex with a new girl who you love it ... (read in full...)
Period comes twice a month.
Q. I have my period twice a month, what should i do? ...
A. 1 March 2010: You can try a form of birth control. The hormones usually balance that out to a regular once a month occurance. This is definitly something you can talk to your doctor about. ... (read in full...)
Three boys and only one choice.
Q. um i have a crush on three boys in my class lets call them red,blue,green blue:really hot but sometimes mean green:real sweet,cute,nice red:cute,sometimes rude what i want to ask is that which should i like you see my friend likes green and...
A. 1 March 2010: I think green would be your best choice based on the info you gave, especially if your friend is starting to like red. Blue you seem hesitant on and red you described as cute and rude which doesn't sound that great. Green is probably the best one.... (read in full...)
Too afraid to ask again.
Q. hey ok me and my best friend are really close but he is straight and i am bi we are both guys and one night he slept at my house and we went for a walk at about 11 at night and he told me that he trusts me heaps then eventually he said that he ...
A. 28 February 2010: Try and bring it up subtlely and judge his reaction. Chances are he wants to again or needs some time to himself to think about his own sexuality. Don't be afraid to bring it up just don't make it into a huge deal with alot of preasure.... (read in full...)
My guy friend seem to be checking me out, is this normal?
Q. This might sound ridiculous to some.. but i feel very embarrassed when i find random guys eyeing at me while i'm walking with my friends (boys mostly). I'm one of the two girls in our friend pack.. and the rest are like 6 boys. We're treated as ...
A. 28 February 2010: Yeah its normal. I have checked out pretty much all of my friends, even the guys too. The guys are a comparison thing and the girls are because in one way or another I find all the girls I am friends with attractive because I know their true ... (read in full...)
Phobia taking over and boyfriend does not understand.
Q. I'm not really sure if this is even the right place to post this, I just need an answer or some help, and quick! First off, I'm 19, and I suffer from a phobia of vomit. In relation to this, I suffer from a phobia of basically anywhere I have ...
A. 28 February 2010: You may have to show him what your phobia is and with some physical proof he will take it seriuosly. I recommend seeking professional help since you are still young and are likely to be able to get over this. I think it would make your life easier ... (read in full...)
A guy took advantage of my girlfriend at a party, I don't know what I should do...
Q. Recently at a party my girlfriend of nearly 3 years had too much to drink and says she blacked out and when she came to she was being taken advantage of and got the guy to stop and she left immediately. I know she's not to blame completely but i do ...
A. 28 February 2010: Its sounds like that kind of situation. The best thing you can do if you want to stay with her is let it go and try not to dwell on it. Everyone makes mistakes and if she has learned her lesson from this then things should be fine. If it happens ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always talks about sex and treats me like an object. How can I get him to stop?
Q. I have a boyfriend who only talks about having sex with me. I feel it's disrespectful and he randomly pulls out my shirt to look down it. How do I get him to stop?...
A. 27 February 2010: Tell him to back off and don't have any more contact with this guy. He might persist but if you hold up he will give it up.
Sorry to hear about this. I hope everything works out for the best in the end.... (read in full...)
Motivation for weight lost, any advice.
Q. Basicaly I went on a diet before christmas and I lost 13 pounds in 13 days which was excellent I am obese so it was easy to do just cut out all junk, exercise etc... I quit my diet as my motivation just completly went out the window. Anyon...
A. 27 February 2010: Find a friend to go to the gym with. They will keep you going or find motivating music. After that the results should also do there part in motivation.
Best of luck.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always talks about sex and treats me like an object. How can I get him to stop?
Q. I have a boyfriend who only talks about having sex with me. I feel it's disrespectful and he randomly pulls out my shirt to look down it. How do I get him to stop?...
A. 10 February 2010: First of all I hope thats just a hormonal phase that he is in. This may sound bad but I'm sure that it will work. You can train him like you would a puppy. When he goes for something like you described push him away and tell him no, but then don't ... (read in full...)
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