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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
Q. This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
A. 27 August 2010: You sound like you were a great loving girlfriend to him. I always hate to see the good ones hurt. You never really forget an ex, atleast I never have and I don't think that you will. In time you do get over it but you can't force it apon anyone. I ... (read in full...)
Motivation for weight lost, any advice.
Q. Basicaly I went on a diet before christmas and I lost 13 pounds in 13 days which was excellent I am obese so it was easy to do just cut out all junk, exercise etc... I quit my diet as my motivation just completly went out the window. Anyon...
A. 27 February 2010: Find a friend to go to the gym with. They will keep you going or find motivating music. After that the results should also do there part in motivation.
Best of luck.... (read in full...)
I don't like my boyfriend's new friend. How do I address the situation?
Q. Hi, I have a problem with my fiancée new friend. He started a new job in November and he met this guy his colleague who always wants to hang out with him. Now I met the guy and he is a bit of a loner... But he is very annoying and rude and alway...
A. 27 February 2010: You need to be honest with your bf and tell him that you don't like this guy, but its really up to your bf if he wants to hang out with this guy. He needs to understand that you two need time to yourself. Just be honest and don't be too hard on that ... (read in full...)
She doesn't deserve him but what did I ever do to cause this distance between us?
Q. Well here is my story its my senior year in high school and the boy that I plan on pursuing a relationship with is still with his girlfriend of 4 years off and on she cheated on him numorus times and he has taken her back but a couple of weeks ago ...
A. 26 February 2010: I think he is stuck in his ways of being with this other girl. Either way she has to be out of the picture so you have two options if you still want to have a chance with him:
1. Stay with him and keep the preasure on to get rid of the other girl... (read in full...)
Without a boyfriend but the urges are strong.
Q. I am 13 and want to make out (or have sex) with a guy. i am afraid if i have sex i will get pregnant. besides i dont have a boyfriend so I can not satisfy my craving to make out. what should I do?...
A. 26 February 2010: Try not to just go with random guys just so you don't get stereotyped the wrong way. It would be good to find a bf or get some sort of sex toy that will be able to satisfy your needs without any of the risks. ... (read in full...)
Ex contacts me after months. What could she want?
Q. Hello all My ex split from me 2 months ago after a 3 year relationship. Since then I have not contacted her at all to try and heal. In that time it was her birthday and i still stayed strong and didn't contact her to say happy birthday Toda...
A. 26 February 2010: I knoe getting back together with her might seem like a good idea but its better for you to continue the healing process and keep her out of your life. As for her motives it's really hard to say. She honestly want to hear from you or depending on ... (read in full...)
Pubic hair has to go. Any advice.
Q. Okay, I feel little bit embarrassed to ask this question but I`m not comfortable to talk with persons face to face about that. Here`s the thing: before I get into sexual activitys with my boyfriend I want to remove all of my pubic hair. I already ...
A. 26 February 2010: I should not be a problem to have that waxed as well. If you go for a brazilian they should be doing that anyway. Atleast thats as far as I know from when my gf had it done. Waxing is probably your best option since shaving at that angle would be ... (read in full...)
My abusive boyfriend is attempting to emotionally blackmail me into staying with him. Should I believe it?
Q. My boyfriend of two years has physically, emotionally, and mentally abused me for two years. I finally found the strength to try and leave him and he is throwing countless excuses in my face that make me reconsider... he was extremely depres...
A. 25 February 2010: Don't go back to this guy. You are not being like your mother at all. You said he has been abusive for two years now, thats far to long to put up with and if he has made no attempt to change prior to you leaving then he doesn't deserve you in the ... (read in full...)
Can you get a blood blister from too much sex?
Q. Okay, random sex question.. Is it possible to get a blood blister from having too much sex? It's like a little bubble on the inside of one of my vaginal lips. I had really rough sex for 5 hours. Lots of friction -- Great - amazing time. But a f...
A. 25 February 2010: It could be possible that there was some sort of friction burn internally that may now be infected or just irritated. Look for any sort of secretions and talk to your doctor. It sound most likely to be some sort of infection.... (read in full...)
Will wishing an ex happy birthday seem clingy?
Q. (Mod note: Titled by poster) Ok, so I was wanting to know if I should wish an ex a happy birthday if he broke up with me because I was too "clingy?" His birthday is 3 weeks away...will it seem like I want him back if I do? Also, he said that ...
A. 25 February 2010: Send a casual card or message and just happy birthday, hope things are going good for you. It just shows that you don't want him to fall off the face of the earth and that you care. Its not clingy, like Miamine said it is considerate and in the end ... (read in full...)
On again, off again boyfriend doesn't feel like the one.
Q. me and my boyfriend been together for 2 years and 4 months and we been on an off for like a year now and im wondering should i call it a quits now after so many breakups?...
A. 25 February 2010: If you don't feel that the relationship is going anywhere then it would probably be best to call it off. You're still young and shouldn't struggle with realationships like this. There is so much to experience that you don't need a relationship so ... (read in full...)
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
Q. This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
A. 24 February 2010: Thanks for the reply. That is very interesting and true, we all have the right to make these kind of mistakes as they are part of the learning process. ... (read in full...)
How can I make myself irresistible to my boyfriend?
Q. Hello everyone, Ok so im a 16 yr old girl...got a nice boyfriend who i really love. I just thought that maybe you could give me some tips on how to make myself irresistible to him. I dont mean anything like sex but just getting him a bit horny an...
A. 24 February 2010: Try dressing in some sexy outfit when its just the two of you. It shows your confidence in yourself and gets all those aroussed thoughts running through his head. Also if you are out anywhere just brush your body against his when you two come close ... (read in full...)
I like this girl on Facebook!
Q. Mod note: 2 postings from this user, based on the same topic. 1)I like this girl would like to get to know her more as only get the chance to say hi and chat on facebook. if there was anything ever to bcome im abit worryed because i know h...
A. 24 February 2010: Next time you see her or even on facebook just ask if she would like to go for coffee or something of the sort. Not a serious date just something where you two can talk and get to know each other. Stay away from a movie or anything where you won't ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend get a sore throat when he goes down on me?
Q. Why is that everytime my boyfriend goes down on me he always gets a sore throat? ...
A. 22 February 2010: It is probably that he is letting his mouth dry out too much when he is performing. It might be a good idea to keep water near buy so that in between he can use his fingers and take a drink. ... (read in full...)
Can you really change your future?
Q. Hey, I know this site is for relationship worries, but I dont know where else to go to to be honest. Do you think its possible to change your future? My aunt went to a fortune teller on Saturday there, and they told her that i'm going to get pre...
A. 22 February 2010: Absolutly not. Its up to you whether to believe this at all. I wouldn't base any of my life on a fortune teller. You are in control of your future and it is based on the choices that you make now. The closest thing that I believe in to this is that ... (read in full...)
Which girl should I pursue?
Q. Which Girl Should I pursue? Girl A I been good friends with this one girl for a long time and we hang out like twice a week (burger king, houses) and we talk on the phone a lot. Only problem: she says she has a boyfriend who has been to jail and...
A. 22 February 2010: Girl A is defintitly the better choice if you ignore the excess. I don't think girl B is interested cause I'm sure you would have noticed something by now.
So I'll continue on with girl A; now I don't know why the bf is in jail because depe... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and I want to get laid! Where can I find a girl?
Q. I just turned 20 and I'm still a virgin. I desperately need a girl in and out of the bedroom especially in the bedroom. I live in Boston. I don't go to school and I'm too young to go to the clubs or bars. i don't really know anyone that ...
A. 22 February 2010: Joining yoga or some sort of club would be good but going into it with the mindset of getting laid will set you up to fail. A girl will be able to tell if thats all you have on your mind and chances are she will not like that. Find a girl who you ... (read in full...)
How can I stop getting so nervous before I meet with him?
Q. Hi, i am a 14 year old girl and ive been asked to meet (french kiss) a guy before but my problem is i get so worked up the day before i meet them that i end up getting sick and completely losing my appetite got any suggestions on how to stop this? I ...
A. 19 February 2010: Try to keep as busy as possible up to the time that you`re supposed to meet him. Also maybe some gravol or peptobismal might help to get you through that initial nervousness. Other than that all I can really say is that you don`t have to be so ... (read in full...)
I'm going out with him and some friends. I'm nervous! Any advice?
Q. I'm so nervous !!!. I'm 25 ( almost 26 ) and i like a guy who just turned 21 on Wednesday. He rang me today and said he is going out with a group of friends tomorow night, and asked if i wanted to go with them. I said i would, and he is going to ...
A. 19 February 2010: Try to relax and just be the person that you always are since that is who he wants to introduce to his friends. Go with the flow, try to put a few words in after you sit back and listen to how these people are and how they act. My gf was so nervous ... (read in full...)
Ideas for things to do to make the her know I care, when meeting my online girlfriend for the first time...
Q. hey guys, i was just wondering if you could help me out here. So im meeting my online girlfriend for the first time in about a week(im going to be careful, cautious, all the good stuff.) I have grown very attached to her, adore her, and want to show ...
A. 18 February 2010: Try a single rose or flower that she likes. It says that you care without being so bulky. Otherwise make sure to hug her right when you see her and possibly kiss her, on the cheek if you don't think she would like that. Your body language will say ... (read in full...)
Birthcontrol is a must but has killed my sex drive..
Q. I have been on birth control (the NuvaRing) for about 4 months now. I find it causes me to not want sex really at all. Apparently that is a cause of taking it. My boyfriend wants to have sex all the time but I never feel like it anymore. I ...
A. 18 February 2010: Talk to your doctor and see if there is any natural products that could boost your sex drive, they do exist out there. Otherwise you could try the patch or the monthly shot and see if they do not have that effect on you. ... (read in full...)
Can a change in blood pressure medication change somene's personality?
Q. Can a change in blood pressure medication change someone's personality? My b/f used to take Diovan though it didn't control his blood pressure that well and his temperament was always combative and argumentative. Then he got switched to a new drug ...
A. 18 February 2010: Having an increased blood pressure then the usual resting state could definitely lead to a more aggitated person. This is do to the body being confused as to what is going on since blood pressure increase is usually associated with anger when no ... (read in full...)
Live-in has become rude. He has started burping and passing gas...help..
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half. We have lived together for 8 months out of that time. Recently he has become quite rude. He passes gas and burps infront of me way more than he ever used to. What can I do to make him ...
A. 18 February 2010: He has reached that stage where he is a liitle too comfortable with you. Tell him that you find it rude and gross and leave the room if he continues. If he is not willing to listen then try to train him with something negative whenever he shows this ... (read in full...)
What does he really mean when he says that he values our friendship too much to be in a relationship?
Q. Why would a guy want to keep you as their best friend, so they do not ruin what they have with you? Is it that they just do not want to have a relationship with you, or that they are not ready or, that they value you too much to lose you from the...
A. 18 February 2010: I'm sorry we have to tell you this but also it is up to you if you want to risk the frienship and say its dating or nothing.
Coping with this is always tough because you will be jealous of the girls in his life. Your best bet is to keep the thou... (read in full...)
I wondered if anyone has noticed anything like a type of stigma about single people?
Q. So I'm one of those people whoose always always single, I wondered if anyone has noticed anything like a type of stigma about single people? I've often wondered that it's because I'm a girl with short hair and a flat chest anyone think this ...
A. 18 February 2010: This would only be an issue if you only look for guys in a shallow place like the bar. Otherwise and I don't mean to sound rude but maybe you are hard to approach. For example if you have such a strong confidence level most guys feel challenged. ... (read in full...)
Does size matter guys?
Q. What do guys think of large labia? I don't mind mine just wondering how guys feel! Ta x...
A. 18 February 2010: It would not make a diference to me. I guess as long as it does not get in the way then it is just a uniqueness that a guy would probably only notice if he has comparisons and really pays attention to it. Every penis and vagina are unique, that what ... (read in full...)
Are these signs just circumstantial or could I be pregnant?
Q. I know this might be a stupid question but I would honestly like some opinions on this matter before I spend $10. I haven't had sex since about mid-January and I started on birth control about a week after my boyfriend left for university again. ...
A. 18 February 2010: I say go get a pregnancy test just to be sure, there is no harm in that. It is strange that all these symptoms are present and that they would not be connected in some way. If they are not connected then I'm sorry for the bad luck but the test would ... (read in full...)
His sexual past makes me feel used. What should I do?
Q. Ok I'm upset because my 18 year old boyfriend isn't a virgin and he was my first. Just 4 months ago was when I lost my virginity to him and well....... He was 10 years old when he lost his...... And I'm the 6th girl he had sex with that I know ...
A. 18 February 2010: Try to keep this in the past where it belongs. If he loves you now thats what matters and he obviously isn't with you just for the sex, which means he cares.
Everyone has some sort of past life experiences that shape them to be the person that they... (read in full...)
What does he really mean when he says that he values our friendship too much to be in a relationship?
Q. Why would a guy want to keep you as their best friend, so they do not ruin what they have with you? Is it that they just do not want to have a relationship with you, or that they are not ready or, that they value you too much to lose you from the...
A. 18 February 2010: He sees you as a friend and if you two were to date he knows it would not last and then the friendship would never be the same if it lasted at all.
He is motivated by wanting to have friend were the whole relationship drama isn't a factor, it's... (read in full...)
Can you get a blood blister from too much sex?
Q. Okay, random sex question.. Is it possible to get a blood blister from having too much sex? It's like a little bubble on the inside of one of my vaginal lips. I had really rough sex for 5 hours. Lots of friction -- Great - amazing time. But a f...
A. 18 February 2010: Yeah that makes perfect sense. It is no different then a blood blister any where else but I would get it checked out if it doesn't go away with in a week cause it may have to be popped and that would not be the best thing to do on your own. ... (read in full...)
Am I too young to buy a sex toy? Should I?
Q. Thanks for your time i turned 15 a couple months ago and iv never had sex. But i want to try useing a dildo or a viberater. I dont know were to get one? and how old you have to be? plus i think its embarising to buy one at a store. My cousin got ...
A. 18 February 2010: You mom is quite a special one and its great that she would do that for you. I reccomend taking her up on that offer. All you have to do is look in the phone book for sex shops, there are usually some really nice ones in every city.
Its perf... (read in full...)
It becomes painful...
Q. Whenever i masturbate or my boyfriend plays with me, after rubbing my clitoris i get the feeling i need to pee, i carry on because i know this is when im about to cum but just as i get the peeing sensation, my clitoris begins to become very painful ...
A. 17 February 2010: Try and stay away from so much direct stimulation and work around it. The clit will become very sensitive and even more when you're aroused so let your bf know that and see if it works better. This is normal, try the areas around it and see what you ... (read in full...)
How can I maintain a friendly relationship with him throughout the semester?
Q. I have a crush on my physics TA. He's a grad student and I'm a sophomore in college, so our age difference isn't a big deal, it's only about 2-3 years. I think he's really attractive, both physically and in personality too. I go to his office hours ...
A. 17 February 2010: Keep going to see him even if you don't have any questions just to say hi and see how he is doing or send him emails. If you get the conversations away from school work he will see that you are interested in him and not just the class. Then after ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him or look for others?
Q. I love a guy more than my life,but he's 4 years older, from a different religion and background, and has gone abroad 4 years on studies. My mother says to look for other options, but at times understands my feeling for him. He loves me too, and ...
A. 17 February 2010: Keep your thoughts open to new men as they come around so that you don't pass up a really great guy for someone who might end up finding someone else. Live your life to the fullest and when this guy gets back if you two atill have the same feelings ... (read in full...)
Intentions of an ex wanting to stay friends, opinions please!!
Q. I just everyone's opinion as I am a bit confused. What is your opinion on exe's wanting to stay friends? Is there a hidden agenda or is it a sincere gesture? I mean, how do you know if your ex's intention is pure about staying friends? Giv...
A. 16 February 2010: There is a possibility that he just wants to keep in touch because its not that he doesn't care about you its just not in that way. If you two can still talk and be friends then go for it. The problem lies in if he is interested in just keeping the ... (read in full...)
Is this a rebound relationship or something else entirely?
Q. My ex and I were together for nine years and have one 5 year son together. We never got married (he never asked). He moved out on Valentines Day last year but had been emotionally detached for months. He started dating one of his patients (openly) ...
A. 16 February 2010: You can cut contact but that is too simple of an answer with no disrespect to CaringGuy. With the son involved if he doesn't want to see him anymore then fine but your ex still has to support this kid and you should make sure of that. Also if he is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend kissed another girl when drunk
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 11 months. last week he went out with his friends, got completely drunk and kissed another girl. I found out that night as he told me himself. he seemed really upset then (obviously i was devastated) the ...
A. 16 February 2010: First of all I'm going to be the one everyone disagrees with but that was not cheating. A kiss is a kiss and I think that it can be just that. It's like saying you can't flirt when your in a relationship, it just happens since it is the easiest ... (read in full...)
This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 13 February 2010: Then see if you two can get together, it would be a great time to find common interests. That reason makes sense so you don't have anything to worry about it. I know its hard to get around to places at this time of your life but that will pass in ... (read in full...)
I have never been kissed! What can I expect?
Q. I'm not proud of this but I have really never been truly kissed. I kissed a guy once and it was a little more than a peck, that's it. I need advice on how to kiss, what to expect, ect ect? (I know I sound like a geek and that girl off of neve...
A. 13 February 2010: I want to say that you are not the only one, I was my gf's first kiss when she was eighteen. Just find a boy who cares about you and when its going to happen just relax and try not to put too much effort into it. If you relax the body willl do the ... (read in full...)
Is this normal or is my brain telling me that I like her?
Q. I have this girl that's a great friend of mine but I keep getting horny whenever she hugs me and one day I saw right up her skirt and saw her panties and got an erection right in the middle of class is this always normal or is my brain telling me I ...
A. 13 February 2010: I'm guessing you find her attractive and this is normal. You already have a relationship with her and yeah it might be your mind and body telling you to ask her out. If you don't find that you would want that kind of relationship with her then I'm ... (read in full...)
He gets excited to easily, is this normal?
Q. When I am kissing this guy he gets turned on really quickly and asks me to make him come which he always says it wont take him long and it doesn't I mean he lasts about 2-3 minutes, is this normal, he usually comes quite a bit. We aren't dati...
A. 13 February 2010: I'm wondering if he masturbates at all. If he doesn't then yes it could come very quickly when he has waited a couple of days or a week. So yeah its normal and as long as he is fine with it then it just means less work for you when you two want to ... (read in full...)
This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 13 February 2010: I'm sorry to hear that. Does he just not want to go? Like he still wants to be your bf but maybe he is nervous about the whole dance social scene. Maybe you two could spend some time together, just the two of you instead. Or I really hate to say it ... (read in full...)
This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 3 February 2010: Thats good to hear and I think that that will be really sweet. Once you two start to get more comfortable with each other things will start to flow.
Hope the dance goes well.... (read in full...)
This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 27 January 2010: Don't be afraid to cuttle up to him. He should get the idea that you are really into him and start to hold you more. He's probably nervous too, so hold his hand, rest your head on his shoulder or some other physical contact. The subtle things will ... (read in full...)
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