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writes:ok people i need helppp!! i am going on a first date with a guy i've liked for sooooo long, and i am sooooooooooo nervous!! i'm just out a 5 year relationship, we never really done the whole dating thing, anyway what do i say, what do i wear? what do i NOT say. we're going to have a drink.. is it wise to have more than a couple wines, or wait and see what he does..?? i know once i'm with him i'll be fine, but it's the whole 'meeting him' initially thing!! i just don't want to mess this up!! thanks :D Reply to this Question
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reader, lovelife1437  +, writes (6 January 2010):
Be yourself because if you end up in a relationship with him, you would want him to like you for who you are and not who he thinks you are. Good Luck and have fun! :-)
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (5 January 2010):
Definitely get some dating help books, dating is hard even when you do it frequently.
I'm definitely going to go with DON'T drink too much! Because then you'll be back on here freaking out because you really liked him and he still hasn't called you after you slept with him because you drank too much. At least have one glass because I think it'll calm your nerves since you're so nervous.
Also, I agree with caringguy, don't talk about past sex experiences or exboyfriends. Talking about sex with him nonstop on a first date will give him the idea that you want to have sex with him. And talking about your ex is something you should leave with your therapist for now.
Ask him questions, don't talk too much about yourself, don't be weird, and be confident. You'll be fine, after your first couple sips of wine you'll be good. Good luck.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 Don't have too much to drink because you still want to have a good conversation with him. Wear something not too reveiling but still sexy as if you were teasing him. The last thing is just be yourself, see if he`s has any common interests and go from there. If he was the one who asked you out he`s probably already interested but needs to get to your personality which is something no one can hide for too long. Hope this helps.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 January 2010):
Wear what you feel like wearing, and just be yourself. Certainly don't drink too much (only a couple of glasses). Don't talk about past sex lives, ex boyfriends and such. Ask him about career/hobbies etc. And relax! Don't try to be something you're not either, be honest. You'll be fine :) And good luck.
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