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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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I slept with my cousin and we're having trouble distancing ourselves. Is that really so bad?
Q. Hi I'm a 19yr old guy and i've had sex with my 20yr old cousin (and took her virginity). She has always been a tomboy all the way through her childhood and only ever wore a dress once when she was a bridesmaid. We'd always been dead good mates, b...
A. 11 August 2010: Whether it is a problem really depends on what type of cousins you are, like first, second and so on. I do beleive that where you live it is a criminal offence to be sexually active with your first cousin but after that the second and thirds are ... (read in full...)
Does our age difference make this wrong?
Q. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 34. We met on the Internet, but met at the mall to go see a movie where there were alot of people. At first I thought all he wanted from me was sex, but i was wrong he treats me right, doesn't pressure me to do anything ...
A. 10 August 2010: In the end you have to do what makes you happy. People will judge you as long as you two are together and sex is considered illegal for him until you are 18. No one can tell you how to live your life so no it isn't wrong by my standards. I will say ... (read in full...)
Are there are any men left that won't just use me for sex?
Q. How do I find a boyfriend? Iv only slept with two people and they weren't even my boyfriends, they got what they wanted and left me. Iv been used twice now and just want a boyfriend who'll want me for me, not just my body. Are there any men like ...
A. 10 August 2010: There are still guys out there. When you meet a guy form a friendship out of dating and give him at least a three month wait before sex. The right guy for you will be willing to wait, any others can just be tossed because you already know what they ... (read in full...)
I love her but she says she's not ready to say it yet, what does that mean?
Q. Okay, so i have been dating this girl for a few months and im convinced that i love her even though im still kinda young. I told her and she said that shes not ready to admit that she loves me yet because its a big deal, she did say that she likes ...
A. 10 August 2010: I was in that same situation with my current gf. If you love her then wait and give her some time. I had said to my gf that if by six months she still couldn't say then I must be doing something wrong and thats how I would feel. You don't want to ... (read in full...)
How do I know if she's really into me?
Q. I recently started spending time with this girl that I've know for a while. I had not seen her in about 8 months when she randomly asked me to hang out one night. Its been about a month and I've developed feelings for her but I am unsure of how she ...
A. 9 August 2010: All that time you two are spending together means that she is in to you. Next time you see her take note if she flirts and what you two talk about. The cute type of flirting is a big give away and if the conversation is something more meaningful ... (read in full...)
My bf's friends are mostly ex girlfriends!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I love him dearly. When I met him I didn't know how many friends that he has that are girls, with most of them being ex's. I am having a hard time dealing with them hanging around and calling ...
A. 6 August 2010: This is something that you are going to have to him on. He may have only briefly "dated" each one because that was the way to make new friends of the opposite sex, which I have to add that most of my friends are girls because I don't like always ... (read in full...)
What would the life span of sperm in a condom be?
Q. How long does sperm last in a condom? I was throwing out the trash and found a condom used last week. Out of curiosity...do any of y'all know?...
A. 5 August 2010: I do not think that it would survive more than a couple of hours outside the body. Maybe 8 hours at the most but that would be because of it being sealed in the condom. The fluid surrounding them is more for surviving inside the woman not in the ... (read in full...)
Will I have to pay back child support?
Q. my ex has stopped me seeing my daughter, im not on the birth certicate if i go to court and get put on the birth certificate and get access will i have to pay backdated child support even though i have been paying it but have no proof?...
A. 5 August 2010: It would not be an automatic thing that comes up. But your ex could take you to court and could try to get it out of you. ... (read in full...)
He's avoiding me because he doesn't want to take my virginity before I'm ready
Q. Hey guys! Well, I've been friends with my friend, Mark 4 about 3 mon. He liked me from the start but I didn't really like him til about a mon. after I met him. Our families went camping 2gether and we talked a lot and pretty, I think deep. But we ...
A. 5 August 2010: Tell him how you feel, if you want to try the relationship out and see what happens or that you care and don't want to risk it. Talk to him about waiting for sex and dating so its all out in the open. Then see what else comes up but it is definitely ... (read in full...)
Why do men have to think about other girls when they masturbate?
Q. Hi there, I need some other thoughts on this matter. It is causing both myself and my boyfriend a lot of stress and arguments. I would be so grateful for your help: I have an issue with my boyfriend masturbating. This is because of...
A. 2 August 2010: This is because masturbation is a fantasy act and its just not nearly as exciting thinking abotu the things that you can actually do with someone. For the most part it is completely harmless and I would consider it natural behavior. As long as he ... (read in full...)
Do I respond to an email from a 14 year old when I'm 30?
Q. I got to work this morning to find an email that I don't know what to do with, so I'm looking for some help here. It's from a girl who I'm pretty sure has a crush on me. I'll give you a little backstory. I work for a local bank. I used to manag...
A. 2 August 2010: I see your problem here because my first thought is it would be rude not to answer a simple email such as that but I think you know it could lead to all sorts of thoughts in her head very quickly. I wouldn't answer this one, if you ever see her and ... (read in full...)
He's avoiding me because he doesn't want to take my virginity before I'm ready
Q. Hey guys! Well, I've been friends with my friend, Mark 4 about 3 mon. He liked me from the start but I didn't really like him til about a mon. after I met him. Our families went camping 2gether and we talked a lot and pretty, I think deep. But we ...
A. 2 August 2010: This may be a situation where you have to choose between finding another guy who says he will wait for you or going with this one who has no intention of waiting till you're married. I'm not saying that he won't wait but there is only so long ... (read in full...)
I like them both! Do I risk a threesome?
Q. Hi everyone. I am bi and I love this girl I am with. But this guy who is younger keeps flirting with me. I was wondering if I should invite him to a threesome or just live to seperate lives. Please help!!...
A. 2 August 2010: I think that it may not be the best idea. I've had a threesome myself but I could not see it being with two people who I'm assuming have never met and who are both interested in you only. It would be best to date one of them first and then bring it ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fancy two girls at the same time?
Q. Dear Cupid..is it possible to like your gf and this other girl a lot at the same time ?? I know a guy who is in that situation and he thinks it is possible to like his gf and this other girl at the same time but i want to prove to him that it's not ...
A. 1 August 2010: We have the ability to care for many people at once. That also means we can fall for multiple people at once. This has to happen throughout a relationship so that the person can see if the relationship is worth having over the unknown one with the ... (read in full...)
Should the man have to do everything when lovemaking?
Q. hello to anyone reading this and anyone willing to post some help lately my girlfriend and i have wanted to have sex also she's a virgin. but theres always been a problem. either she's on her period, i dont have a condom or she's just not mentall...
A. 1 August 2010: Sex is a two person act, it requires input from both people. At no point should it focus on just one person. I think she want to be as lazy as possible and get the pleasure out of it without having to do any work. It sounds very selfish of her and ... (read in full...)
Landing strips for men???
Q. Ok so i got bored this morning and when i was in the shower i gave myself a landing strip... I feel a little weird since its usually girls that get them. Is it ok for a guy to have one? Will people think I'm gay or something, will girls laugh at me ...
A. 31 July 2010: I have kept one going for me for a long time now. It runs from the start of the penis to my belly button. I think it gives it character, showing that you are still manly and have the hair but you are well groomed. I don't think anyone will bother ... (read in full...)
Why do guys want a virgin?
Q. Why do guys say that sex with a virgin girl is better/more pleasurable than with a non-virgin? and why do guys want and like to be the one to take a girls virginity?...
A. 28 July 2010: Personally I feel like I have the ability to make it special for the girl and she trusts me to do so. I take it as a great honour. There is also the fantasy of having an innocent girl looking to you to teach her. But then there are those guys who ... (read in full...)
Worried about these bruises, help please!
Q. So there are 2 bruises on my knee (maybe 3) and I'm not sure how I got them. I think they've been here for about 3-4 days...I'm just a little worried because on my leg there's also a bruise but I can't see it, it just hurts when I touch that spot. I ...
A. 28 July 2010: If they don't go away I would go see a doctor. My mom has that problem and it's because she bruises really easily so they always look so much worse than they actually are. The best way to get them to go away is not to bump them or irritate them. I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't go down on my unless I'm shaved
Q. My boyfriend and I were talking about "what ifs". and it came up, "what if i was nine months pregnant and couldnt shave "down there"?" his response, "i wouldnt go down on you". my thought was arent you suppose to love someone even in there natural ...
A. 28 July 2010: This is reasonable to ask you to do because it can be very unpleasant to go down on someone with the hair there but he needs to offer something in return. If you have to go through the trouble of saving then he should have to as well. I would never ... (read in full...)
Please help me, I'm 16 and think I'm pregnant.
Q. am i pregnant or just paranoid? i had unprotected sex on the 29th of april and got the morning-after pill the day after. i got my period as normal a week later. recently ive been getting headaches, feeling sick, light headed, eating more, tired, my ...
A. 28 July 2010: I think that this is just a paranoid state but just to be sure go out and get a pregnancy test just to be safe. Have your periods been regular since then as well? It is possible to feel one of those symtoms and think your pregnant and all the others ... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to tell everyone?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm extremely confused right now about where I stand! I joined Facebook two years ago, and I know almost 900 people; in other words I've seen them, talked to them or I'm their friend. But, this one girl recently joined. I know her from ...
A. 28 July 2010: I wouldn't get involved with that because people will just turn on you in the end. You can take comfort in the fact that eventually these guys will go out with them and realize that they are totally fake and that will be the end of it. Then they ... (read in full...)
Does alcohol affect the effectiveness of oral contraception?
Q. Does alcohol affect the effectiveness of the pill? I got hammered at a party at the weekend and am scared to have sex with my boyfriend just incase? ...
A. 28 July 2010: Generally it does not because the alcohol will not interact with the hormones in your blood stream that are caused by the pill, or any other hormones. I would say that you do not lose any protection because you were drinking. However alcohol can ... (read in full...)
Should I start living my sexual fantasies?
Q. I'm 20 and as a student i work at the bar with mostly older male population. The thing is that my wildest sexual fantasy is to have sex with someone 50-60 years old. And in this bar i've met the right person, who is obviously very attracted to me. S...
A. 28 July 2010: I think that if it makes you happy you should do it. Just be safe with it and make sure that he knows that you are not looking for a relationship here. You two could talk about it at the bar and decide on a date to meet somewhere away from that ... (read in full...)
Why don't I feel myself anymore? what signs am I showing?
Q. Posters Own Title: I don't understand what's been going on with me. To start off my gf of 3 and 1/2 years broke up with me last March. Then in June she finally admits she still loves me and wants to work things out. I was finally relieved and exci...
A. 27 July 2010: This sounds like a hollow relationship that is just running on past memories and not forming new ones. Sometimes the pain from a break can be so much that it can never heal with that person. I think you are looking for the past in her even though ... (read in full...)
Can I believe what he said while drunk?
Q. Just a quick question. Do men speak the truth when they're under the influence of alcohol? A friend of mine admitted that he liked me, but I'm not sure whether to take it seriously or not. ...
A. 27 July 2010: Personally I always tell the truth when I am drunk and its usually things that I was too worried to say when I was sober. Judge the seriousness based on his actions to follow, like if he continues to talk to you or asking you out would be a big ... (read in full...)
I love sex but don't have orgasms!
Q. I'm a female and I love having sex. This may be a weird question to ask, but I'm curious. Every man that I've had sex with experienced an orgasim but myself. Even my friends have. Is it me? Are my sexual partners not pleasing me enough? I would ...
A. 27 July 2010: You may have difficulty having vaginal orgasms, and your partners may not be doing it right. You have to figure out what works for you and then direct them. Everybody is different when it comes to orgasms. Don't rely on other people, try fooling ... (read in full...)
We were so close and he knew how much it hurt me...do I have a right to be so pissed?
Q. hey, So my best guy friend finnally admitted that he liked me. Then a week later he asked me out. But I told him, i'd go out with him if he asked me in person instead of ovr a txt so we planned to go hang out the next night. The next morning aft...
A. 27 July 2010: You should try not to let it bother you so much although you do have a right to feel the way you do. He probably asked you out on a spur of the moment thing and because you gave him time to think he realized that he didn't want to date you. In a way ... (read in full...)
Sweet things we do for each other
Q. Sometimes, when I'm not there, my boyfriend writes messages saying he loves me in my notebooks or on word documents on my laptop or leaves them on the screen. Sometimes he sets alarms on my phone telling me he loves me or writes it in a text and ...
A. 24 July 2010: I think that it is all about the random things that you do. The random passionate kiss, little gift or "I love you". Any time that I'm surprised I feel like my gf really cares and it makes me feel special, esspecially sexual things too. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's dad walked in on us during oral sex, kicked me out and now she wants me to apologize to her dad!
Q. I am 18 and my girlfriend will be 18 next month, we have been dating for 6 months. Her dad is a total hard ass, he is beyond over protective and he hates me jsut because I am dating his daughter. Afew nights ago we were in her basement fooling ...
A. 24 July 2010: She needs to realize that he deserves no apology. The only thing I would try to do to ease his mind is explain how much you care for his daughter. If he doesn't understand after that he doesn't deserve anything else. She is the one who needs to love ... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't want a physical relationship anymore
Q. I am confused as to what my next step should be. I have been married for 10 years but lived with my husband for 10 years prior to getting married. He is a wonderful man who does not want a physical relationship anymore. For the past 7 years I ...
A. 24 July 2010: Your husband needs to be told that you are no where near the point in your life to give up the physical part. Maybe he is having problems with himself that he is too embarresed about. Either way if he's not willing to make the effort then tell him ... (read in full...)
He'll kiss and cuddle but won't kiss me!
Q. So I've been seeing this guy since 08 we have sex once in a while but he never kisses me, he'll cuddle after sex, talk with me, and play fight but never kissed me..I'm starting to like this guy alot and I wanna keep him for myself lol but I'm sure ...
A. 24 July 2010: Try kissing him if he pulls back then be very straight forward that you want to know why he never kisses you. There is no point wasting your time with someone who isn't all there for you.
Although he may be turned off by kissing for some reas... (read in full...)
He never bought me a gift from his travel abroad?
Q. What does it mean if you date a guy for five months, during which he travelled once abroad and he never buys you a gift even when he returned from his trip? ...
A. 24 July 2010: I would say that he is cheap and isn't thinking about you when he is gone. Any time I was away from a gf for a week or more traveling I would find even just something small because I was thinking about them. ... (read in full...)
How do I prove I'm not gay/bi ??
Q. I'm 15 and i got drunk at a beach party last week i ended up making out with 2 girls and 2 guys. 1 of the guys wasn't drunk and apparently really like me but i REALLY don't like him and he wont leave me alone no matter what i say or ask. And ev...
A. 24 July 2010: All you have to do is date a guy that you are into and not care what anyone else thinks. Making a big deal about it will just make it worse. Also try not to let it happen at another party. This kind of thing happens all the time and passes quickly, ... (read in full...)
What do I bring as gifts?
Q. hello guys im not sure how to start however i am going to my boyfriend's country next month which is portugal and is going to be the first time i am going to meet his family. im just not sure what type of presents should i take it to them. i woul...
A. 21 July 2010: Bring something special to your area so they have a piece of your culture. Also some flowers are a nice welcoming gift to the entire household. ... (read in full...)
Whistling when I talk?
Q. ok, i've had braces for like 2 years and i had an underbite, they are working on that now. and now when i talk or say my S's ... my teeth whistle!!! what do i do to get it to go away!?!?!?!?!...
A. 21 July 2010: You could go for speach therapy or just work on it by yourself. It will take some practice but should pay off. Try talking by yourself and when you get the whistle repeat the sentence over and over again till you can eliminate it. Do this with as ... (read in full...)
Condoms and sex in the shower
Q. if you have sex in the shower, will the condom break? Or will it not work all together?...
A. 21 July 2010: Yes they should work and definitely put it on while dry. ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant from this? Please help!!
Q. Mod Note: Posters Original Title Can you get pregnant from dry humping? I'm so worried. My boyfriend was over a few days ago and we were dry humping. I was completely naked but he was completely dressed. Is there any way I could be pregnant from...
A. 19 July 2010: No not a chance. Sperm isn't that amazing. Although if he was say just in his boxers and he produced enough there may be an issue with that. ... (read in full...)
Shyness and how to get rid of it?
Q. What causes shyness and how do you get rid of it? thanks. x...
A. 18 July 2010: Shyness is not realizing that you have something special to offer people and feeling like they are better than you. It takes time to realize that this is wrong and for me it didn't come till I was out of high school and realized that the world is ... (read in full...)
Ex's best friend just asked me out... should I go?
Q. hey guys....?? my ex's best frend just asked me out and i really like him and i dont know what to say :( should i say yes or no ?????...
A. 18 July 2010: In the end you have to do this for you so if you like him I would say yes. It would also be polite to ask your friend, if you two are close if she is ok with you dating this person. If she says no then you have to make the choice if he is worth it ... (read in full...)
Is this his way of telling me it's over?
Q. dont know where to start with this but here goes i have been with my partner 8years he is a great guy loving and caring in his own way until he has too much to drink then he gets nasty but its always with me he doesnt hit me its verbal mental ...
A. 18 July 2010: I think you know that if he continues to drink and do this that it will be over anyway. Unless he has parted from you to work on getting sober I would say that it is and should be over for your sake. He may say he loves you but his actions when ... (read in full...)
When should I be introduced to his children?
Q. how soon should i be introduced with my partners children ...
A. 17 July 2010: This would depend on the seriousness of the realtionship because it is tough on the kids to see people come and go. There is a point where it has been too long but try to be patient for it will show them that you love them and are ready to be part ... (read in full...)
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