My friends comment on this, so is there a solution or a medical procedure to fix the fact that I am cross eyed at times?
Q. I'm wondering if there's anyone out there who is experiencing the same problem as I am. You see, I'm kind of cross eyed. Kinda as in I can actually appear normal when I concentrate, but when I'm not focusing, that's when people can see that I am ...
A. 10 June 2012: Have you spoken with an ophthalmologist or an optometrist about your condition? That's the first thing you should do. WebMD has information about strabismus (crossed eyes) here:
http:... (read in full...)
Tips for easing a very bad back!!
Q. Hello again everyone. My bf has a very bad back, he broke it in a car crash back in 2006, he crushed one the vertebrae at the base of his spine. Now he's sort of learned to live with it, but there are times when it is very painful for him, ...
A. 7 December 2011: I'm sorry about your boyfriend's back pain. The first thing I would do is make an appointment with a doctor. Seek a second opinion if the first doctor is unable to relieve the problem. While he's at his appointment, your boyfriend should ask his ... (read in full...)
What's a good size diamond for an engagement ring?
Q. What is a nice size solitaire diamond for an engagement ring to a tall, slender lady who has a ring size of 5.5? I am looking at just over 1 carat. The quality is impeccable, so I'm not looking for comments on clarity and color...just size. I kn...
A. 13 May 2011: I love this post! You sound like a great man! It’s nice that you are putting so much thought into this. Your girlfriend is so lucky! Before I comment on the size of the ring, I would like to emphasize that you should go with a classic cut. Do ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a fake msn account, I can't help but wonder if he uses it on chatsites...
Q. I found a hotmail account on my boyfriend's computer as a 14 year old girl, and he had contacts on MSN. When asked, he said it was to wind up a male colleague, but the contacts on MSN were a girl (not sure of age, but her posts lead me to think she ...
A. 19 March 2011: This is extremely troubling! Think about it... why would a man create an account on MSN and pretend to be a 14 year old girl? This is something pedophiles do in order to prey on victims! You need to call the police! At the very least, you need ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend flirted with a girl in a bar and then told me!
Q. Hello everyone. Please help me, I’d appreciate some honest feedback. Me and my bf have had a tricky relationship at the best of times. We are both complex artistic people. I was a heroin addict years ago and I probably have mild mental health i...
A. 18 March 2011: First of all, don’t beat yourself up over this! If I was dating a guy and he told me he’d been flirting in a bar with another woman, I wouldn’t be too happy either. I think the part that bothered me the most was your boyfriend’s response, “what do ... (read in full...)
My exwife has trained my 9 year old daughter to hate my fiance.
Q. My 9 year old daughter has been trained by my ex wife to hate my fiancé. My daughter refuses to be near her so, when my kids are with me, my fiancé is not. To make matters worse, my daughter's therapist seems to be enabling the hate. This has been ...
A. 8 March 2011: I’ll be honest with you, I see red flags here. You haven’t given us much information, but from the little you have told us, I’m concerned. First, you said, “My 9 year old daughter has been trained by my ex wife to hate my fiancé.” Sadly,... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a partner's ego/pride?
Q. One thing I have a hard time dealing with other people's pride, particularly when I am in a close relationship. It gets me so frustrated when a person can't admit they are wrong, or they see themselves as always good, and they never feel remorse. ...
A. 5 March 2011: Yes, you are more than welcome to send me a message. I realize this might be something you would rather talk about in private. I look forward to hearing from you. ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a partner's ego/pride?
Q. One thing I have a hard time dealing with other people's pride, particularly when I am in a close relationship. It gets me so frustrated when a person can't admit they are wrong, or they see themselves as always good, and they never feel remorse. ...
A. 5 March 2011: I agree with Janniepeg, it depends on the circumstances, and how often this happens. If your partner fails to acknowledge her faults, and/or is unable to respectfully listen to your point of view, then there’s a problem. To give us a better idea ... (read in full...)
I need opinions, on the letter I'm about to send her
Q. Hey there Dear Cupid I have a question on Romance, I'm young and naive when it comes to this so bare with me. As of three months ago my ex and I were forced to split up by her parents. We have known each other and been best friends for 7 years now,...
A. 4 March 2011: Yes, give her the letter! It's obvious that the two of you are still in love, so don't give up on her! There are a couple things I would add to the letter. You need to tell her you would rather be her boyfriend then her friend. Also, your words ... (read in full...)
I'm in a horrible sleeping pattern and don't want to take pills to help me sleep!
Q. hey im hoping someone can help me. im in a really bad sleeping routine and its effecting my day to day life and relationship. It started when we had two cats, they ended up getting fleas which we didnt know about, it infested the house. I kept get...
A. 28 February 2011: If you’ve been dealing with this for a year, it’s definitely time for you to see your doctor! WebMD suggests the following tips to beat insomnia: 1) Try to go to sleep at the same time each night and get up at the same time each morning. Try ... (read in full...)
He fathered a child to another woman
Q. I have been in a wonderful new relationship for 3 months with someone i have known for many years and we were best friends, we didnt get it together before because of past relationships we were in. We just found out a girl he had a one nighter wi...
A. 27 February 2011: Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear this. Deep down, I think you knew this was likely to happen. Even so, I’m sure you are feeling terribly hurt right now. It’s time to move on from this man and begin concentrating on yourself and your children.
Is he... (read in full...)
I'm not opposed to a threesome but I feel the girl and my man might become a little too interested in each other...
Q. My wonderful boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years. He is very good looking, in beautiful shape, great eyes, and not to mention well endowed.. So, one night this past summer, we almost had a threesome with a girl he met first, but I ...
A. 25 February 2011: Many couples find out the hard way that threesomes can be dangerous for those in a committed relationship. I’m not saying it can’t work for some couples, but you need to be aware of all possible outcomes.
Obviously, this girl finds your boy... (read in full...)
It makes me sick to think about my husband going on a work trip with a female co-worker. How do I cope?
Q. I hate being jealous, but I don't know how to change! I absolutely admire people who never get jealous. How do they do it? My husband will be traveling out of town next month with a female co-worker and I'm trying to be cool about it, but it is ...
A. 25 February 2011: Thank you for your update! This is certainly troubling. One piece of advice I stand by, is to trust your gut instinct. More times than not, your instincts are correct, do not ignore them!
I didn’t address your husband’s stalker in my initi... (read in full...)
It makes me sick to think about my husband going on a work trip with a female co-worker. How do I cope?
Q. I hate being jealous, but I don't know how to change! I absolutely admire people who never get jealous. How do they do it? My husband will be traveling out of town next month with a female co-worker and I'm trying to be cool about it, but it is ...
A. 25 February 2011: I don’t blame you for being worried. I highly doubt your husband’s work description includes “late night dinners, drinking, and playing pool” with his female co-worker. He is not there to entertain her, or take her on a date. Besides, he’s ... (read in full...)
I love my friends, but all they talk about is sex! How do I tell them I think they are being crude? Or should I say nothing?
Q. I have a great group of friends ranging in age from 13 to 17. I'm almost 15, so I'm in the middle, age-wise. Well what's upsetting me is that my friends are funny and great, and I love them, but every other topic is sex! Like threesom...
A. 25 February 2011: I imagine you aren't the only person in this group of friends who would prefer not to talk about threesomes and orgies. Many teens just go along with the conversation because they want to fit in and feel accepted. If you are worried about how your ... (read in full...)
If a girl touches a guy, does it mean she likes him? I'm not sure if this girl likes me or not.
Q. Last year we had a uni meeting at a beach and it had been drizzling. I was cold and didn't expect the weather to be that bad, so I had only worn a t shirt and shorts. While we were walking in a group a girl who hangs around me sometimes threw her ...
A. 25 February 2011: This is a good sign! Unless she touches other guys as well, I would say that she finds you attractive. If you like this girl, ask her out. As Jmtmj said, "What have you got to lose?" The worst she can say is no.
Ask her out on a date, an... (read in full...)
My friend and my boyfriend are messaging each other, should I break up with him or ignore it?
Q. My BF and I are totally in love he even asked me to marry him. I told him I would in a few years and we have planned everything out..............Now his parents are a little iffy about him and me dating. Not only b/c of that but b/c he is two years ...
A. 23 February 2011: This is a terrible position to be in, and I know how you feel. Your story reminded me of a time when I was in high school. One of my closest friends kissed my boyfriend. Fortunately, my other friends told me about it, and both my boyfriend and ... (read in full...)
Addicted to running but injured and having to watch my partner train, can we survive this?
Q. Hi. I'm currently seeing a psychiatrist for an addiction to running. Sounds silly I know but it's a huge problem for me. I'm injured at the moment and can't run for about 3 months more, it's been 2 already. Problem is that my partner is a runner too ...
A. 22 February 2011: You run a 26 mile marathon each weekend? I’m not a doctor, but aren’t you supposed to rest one day for every mile you run, or something like that? If you want to run, that’s great, but you won’t be running for very long, unless you do it properly. ... (read in full...)
Am I separating love and sex? Or just being slutty?
Q. Hi there! Been with my boy for a long time: he'll soon move in with me and we'll get married in a few years. Love him with all my heart and I feel my future is with him. Still, I've recently started an affair with a super seductive and sexy man...
A. 22 February 2011: I have a question for you... would you allow your boyfriend to have "an affair with a super seductive and sexy" woman who blows his mind?
I'm very interested to hear your response. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and her slutty drinkin buddy......
Q. This is just as much a general question as it is specific to me. So here are my thoughts. I've been seeing this girl for a couple months now. It's not long enough to be something too serious, yet it's moving fast. It's safe to say we're exclus...
A. 22 February 2011: I realize you have only been dating for 2 months, but it sounds like you two are exclusive… since you refer to her as your girlfriend. Given what you’ve told us, I think you should be concerned… very concerned! There are major red flags regarding ... (read in full...)
Addicted to running but injured and having to watch my partner train, can we survive this?
Q. Hi. I'm currently seeing a psychiatrist for an addiction to running. Sounds silly I know but it's a huge problem for me. I'm injured at the moment and can't run for about 3 months more, it's been 2 already. Problem is that my partner is a runner too ...
A. 22 February 2011: You have made a wise decision to get therapy for this addiction. Running is a wonderful activity, but there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. When something begins interfering with the rest of your life, regardless of whether the ... (read in full...)
I want to move away and be independent! How do I tell my parents?
Q. So I have a huge problem. I found this really really good college in Colorado that has EXACTLY what I want but I live in Massachusetts. I know my parents want me to go somewhere in new england, and I'm also looking at schools there but I also want ...
A. 22 February 2011: I think it's great that you want to be independent and further your education. What are you planning to major in, and what is it about this school in Colorado that you like so much? Does this school have something that the others schools lack?
... (read in full...)
Can I get into my boyfriend's email and computer?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for four years now this year.We don't really get along well but he helps me out in any way he can. I don't ask for it but he helps. I guess the things that bother me is the facts we are always on each other for one ...
A. 22 February 2011: You could put a keylogger on his computer. Apparently, it records all the keystrokes on a computer, so you would be able to read everything he types.
Please keep us updated. Good luck!... (read in full...)
My wife cheated on me 2 days ago, would you agree?
Q. It hurts so much to write this right now. I never imagined being even remotely close to cheated on but from the investigating I've done, the mere thought appears to be the inevitable... I've been with my wife for 9 years. She's 26 and I'm 30. ...
A. 22 February 2011: I’m so sorry you are hurting right now. I can’t imagine what it will be like having to see your wife in March. After you’ve had a chance to cool down and accept what has happened, you may decide to work things out with your wife, for the sake of ... (read in full...)
Am I involved in a possible triangle here?
Q. Hi, We're in a group of friends and I'm going out with one of them. I feel like one of my friends might have a thing for my boyfriend but that she will never admit too. Plus he used to like her, but he swears blind he doesn't have any feelings for...
A. 22 February 2011: What makes you think your friend has a thing for your boyfriend? You said your boyfriend once had a crush on this friend. Does she know that he was interested in her?
I think the only thing I’d be concerned about is the fact that the other fr... (read in full...)
Husband agreed to counseling until I made the appointment. Then he backed out...help!
Q. I found out that my husband has been on sex webcams and been getting erotic massages and spent over $200 in 8 days. I confronted him and to my supprise he did not deny it or blame me and agreed to go to counseling. Well I made the appointment and ...
A. 22 February 2011: I'm sorry to hear that your husband has backed out of his promise to attend marriage counseling. Even if he doesn't go, you need to show up. You will benefit from the guidance and advice that a professional counselor can offer. Please let us know ... (read in full...)
My wife won't let me move on!
Q. My wife and I separated 3 years ago when our son was 2. She was caught cheating and I left our home. Almost a year ago I met a woman who took my breath away. She was in the process of divorce and we became best friends. 4 months later our ...
A. 21 February 2011: I find it hard to believe that you would be unable to share custody of your son, or obtain visitation rights if you divorced your wife.
I will assume you have some sort of police record stemming from your teenage years. Is this correct?... (read in full...)
Has too much damage been done in our relationship for this to work out?
Q. Hi there. Here is what is going on with me, I'll try to keep it as brief as possible so may omit some details. I have recently had a mental breakdown which started, it seems, with me getting extremely drunk and punching my boyfriend in the face and ...
A. 21 February 2011: You have been through quite an emotional ordeal. I don't think you need to break up with your boyfriend or give him any space. instead, you do need to work on communicating better with your boyfriend. Would he be willing to attend couples ... (read in full...)
Did he cheat? Or was it a big lie?
Q. Hello I have been with my current boyrfriend for nearly two years now and had recently had a rocky period when I found texts that he had sent to a girl, which were very flirty. During this rocky time, he told some of his friends that he had slept wi...
A. 21 February 2011: It would seem that your boyfriend and his female friend are both telling you nothing happened, so there’s not much you can do about that. However, I do find it odd that he told his friends he slept with this girl.
I’m a little confused by somet... (read in full...)
Do you think it's my fault for them "breaking" their friendship?
Q. Dear all, I'm in need of some outside input! I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 years and 4 of them were long distance. I'm not talking city to city long distance, I'm talking halfway around the world long distance. I know...
A. 20 February 2011: I agree with everything Aunt Honesty has said! You have done absolutely nothing wrong, and you should not apologize for your comment to D.
As Aunt Honesty mentioned, I think there is more to your boyfriend’s relationship with D then he is telli... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that I won't be around to grow old with him?
Q. I don't really know how to phrase this but I've come here for advice before and I'm really hoping someone can help me. I'm dying and have no idea how to tell my boyfriend. We're 18 and have been together for two years. I have been diagnosed with ...
A. 20 February 2011: Oh no! I am so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you! Does he know you have cancer?
If you don't mind me asking, what type of cancer do you have, and have you gotten a second opinion, or even a third? If you have already gotten a... (read in full...)
Married for 23 years, and I think I may be in love with a younger woman...
Q. Hi, I am a man married for 23 yrs. The marriage has had many ups and downs. For the past few years I have been feeling as if we are growing apart. I have never cheated on my wife. I havent even kissed another woman since the day I met my wife. ...
A. 20 February 2011: Funny how you spent so much time telling us about how faithful you’ve been for 23 years… and then you go on to tell us you are tired of your wife and ready to trade her in for a new and younger model. How thoughtful of you.
You said, “I feel ... (read in full...)
My BF has no objection to his 25yr old daughter moving in with us. I do, as we don't get on. What can I do?
Q. I have an ongoing issue with my boyfriend's daughter. She is 25 and living semi close and going to university. She is just about to graduate after 8 years with a bachelors. She is unsure exactly what she'll be doing, but is thinking of moving back...
A. 20 February 2011: I can understand why you are upset with your boyfriend’s daughter. It was immature and callous of her to vent her frustrations and thoughts about you on Facebook.
In most cases… there are two sides to every story, and the truth usually falls so... (read in full...)
What to think about my boyfriend's female-friend?
Q. My bf and I had just gotten to our 5 months when he had an emotional affair with a new female friend. Now all I ask is if he could tell me when he goes out with friends and I would do the same. Well during that whole period I found out he went wit...
A. 20 February 2011: You have every right to question your boyfriend’s actions. Never ignore your gut feelings. First, why hasn’t your boyfriend introduced you to his female friend? I get the impression he is keeping you away from her for a reason.
After dating f... (read in full...)
Wife making my fantasy come true - how best to support/encourage her?
Q. Ok, we're both in our late 30s here and have been married for several years, together for much longer than that. As a Valentine's present to me, she's agreed to let me indulge a long cherished fantasy; two watch two women together. She's ...
A. 19 February 2011: It sounds like you both had a blast! Did your wife have any regrets about it? I guess it's too early to know that, considering it's only been a few hours. I don't think I could ever do this, but I do find it very interesting. I'm curious to hear ... (read in full...)
Wife making my fantasy come true - how best to support/encourage her?
Q. Ok, we're both in our late 30s here and have been married for several years, together for much longer than that. As a Valentine's present to me, she's agreed to let me indulge a long cherished fantasy; two watch two women together. She's ...
A. 18 February 2011: I hope it went well. Please let us know what happened! ... (read in full...)
He left me, but now he's avoiding all talk of a separation! I'm so over him! What should I do?
Q. okay so here I go again..my husband and I separated..he cheated 4 years ago I was unable to forgive so much fighting he ended up finding another woman...again....well I kicked him out...its been 6 months now the kids dont talk to him his family my ...
A. 18 February 2011: I’m so sorry that you are going through this ordeal. You’ve been on quite a roller coaster ride. Let me get this straight… 4 years ago, your husband cheats on you, you struggle to forgive him (completely understandable), arguments ensue, instead ... (read in full...)
He left me, but now he's avoiding all talk of a separation! I'm so over him! What should I do?
Q. okay so here I go again..my husband and I separated..he cheated 4 years ago I was unable to forgive so much fighting he ended up finding another woman...again....well I kicked him out...its been 6 months now the kids dont talk to him his family my ...
A. 18 February 2011: I’m so sorry that you are going through this ordeal. You’ve been on quite a roller coaster ride. Let me get this straight… 4 years ago, your husband cheats on you, you struggle to forgive him (completely understandable), arguments ensue, instead ... (read in full...)
How can I finally learn to trust others and face the regrets that I have?
Q. Hey guys, I basically came here for advice because I am not sure what else to do and how I should start re-building my life after so many years of walking the broken road. My life was perfect for a while but all hell broke loose when I was brought ...
A. 18 February 2011: You are still so young! I’m in my 30’s and I would love to be 22 again! Your adult life has just begun, so stop obsessing about your regrets during college. You have plenty of time to make up for that.
First, you went through a very traumati... (read in full...)
He fathered a child to another woman
Q. I have been in a wonderful new relationship for 3 months with someone i have known for many years and we were best friends, we didnt get it together before because of past relationships we were in. We just found out a girl he had a one nighter wi...
A. 17 February 2011: I'm glad your boyfriend is being a responsible father, and taking the time to care for his child. However, he is spending a lot of time alone with this woman at her house. I'm sure they are bonding with the baby, and quite possibly each other. ... (read in full...)
Wife making my fantasy come true - how best to support/encourage her?
Q. Ok, we're both in our late 30s here and have been married for several years, together for much longer than that. As a Valentine's present to me, she's agreed to let me indulge a long cherished fantasy; two watch two women together. She's ...
A. 13 February 2011: I have to admit, I'm glad you do not plan to participate. The only reason I suggested bringing condoms is because you never know what will happen in the heat of the moment. Again, this is not something I would do, but I'm definitely curious to ... (read in full...)
Wife making my fantasy come true - how best to support/encourage her?
Q. Ok, we're both in our late 30s here and have been married for several years, together for much longer than that. As a Valentine's present to me, she's agreed to let me indulge a long cherished fantasy; two watch two women together. She's ...
A. 13 February 2011: Wow! I don't think I could ever do something like this, but I am curious to hear how it goes. I wouldn't recommend doing this in your home, so you may want to meet these women at hotel. And bring some protection, just in case! Please keep us ... (read in full...)
He fathered a child to another woman
Q. I have been in a wonderful new relationship for 3 months with someone i have known for many years and we were best friends, we didnt get it together before because of past relationships we were in. We just found out a girl he had a one nighter wi...
A. 19 January 2011: I am so sorry to hear about your situation. If there wasn’t a baby involved… I’d encourage you to stay… but this child will inevitably form a bond between your boyfriend and the woman he had a one night stand with. Your boyfriend is doing the ... (read in full...)
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