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Why the sudden drop in contact?
Q. I've been dating a man for about 8 months. Since we got together, we have chatted every day-usually all day, everyday (facebook chat, skype, phone calls, text) We live several states apart, so we've only seen each other in person a few times. The ...
A. 9 February 2014: When a relationship goes on for a while sometimes contact just lessens- it isn't necessarily a reflection of the relationship. How on earth can someone keep steady contact with another person, continuously, for the rest of their lives? It's ... (read in full...)
What can I do with my cheating ex's love notes?
Q. So this is my last post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-possible-that-my-ex-said-he.html I'm now over my ex. He's completely dead to me. I think I only hate toward him now. I was reading the love notes and cards he wrote to me which I d...
A. 10 January 2014: If you want to, send them back. If you think that that will make you feel better. However, I find that acts of aggression like this usually just leave me feeling more hollow than before. I remember I burned up all of the notes my ex gave me and it ... (read in full...)
I fancy my best friend
Q. I go to the gym a lot and I've fallen for my training partner, im 20 and he's 24 and I really like him, I've known him for a while but the problem is he has a girlfriend! We spend a lot of time together training and getting drinks afterwards and I ...
A. 4 January 2014: You can't allow yourself to think it's okay because you think he's unhappy. It doesn't matter the state of the relationship, there is still a relationship there to respect. Many married or otherwise occupied men may lie about unhappiness to get ... (read in full...)
Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic?
Q. Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic? I believe this is what puts people off going, the only question they should ask is how long since you last had unprotected sex. I also believe they should only ques...
A. 30 December 2013: Maybe your discomfort with telling your doctor your activities should show you that you shouldn't do them. If you aren't comfortable with discussing a sexual activity with a trained professional, then it's probably not something you should be doing.... (read in full...)
He lied to me about being married!
Q. I met this guy at a friend's party a little over 2 months ago; he was really sweet and funny and about 2 days after the party, my friend told me that her friend told her that he was asking for my number, because he was not a direct acquaintance of ...
A. 28 December 2013: Do not go tell his wife. No matter what, in her eyes, YOU are the home wrecker- despite your complete lack of knowledge of his marriage. You do not want to be on a furious wife's bad side, because that kind of heartbreak can drive someone crazy. ... (read in full...)
Do others have weird turn ons like mine?
Q. This is a strange question but is it weird that I get turned on by guitar solos? Or really anyone who knows how to play guitar very well..And also do you have any weird turn ons that will make me feel a bit more normal about mine? lol....
A. 23 December 2013: Different people like different things! There's no problem with that. You must just have a strong association with music and sex- which a lot of people do.
Mine? Certain types of incense just get me going. I don't know what it is, maybe a subc... (read in full...)
We have a secret friendship.
Q. A long time ago I briefly met a guy at the end of a festival. He lives on the other side of the country. We exchanged numbers and ended up talking online for almost a year. We both were in relationships when we met and I still am though he is single ...
A. 22 December 2013: You should get out of your current relationship, because you obviously do not respect it whatsoever. Sending suggesting messages to each other is cheating. Just because it isn't said in person does not make it any less damaging to your partner ... (read in full...)
I promised my girlfriend to never kiss or do anything sexual with her or masturbate, any comments?
Q. I have no idea what to do or dont do. I made a few promises to my girlfriend and two of them are to never do anything sexual to her (including kissing) and never masterbate. Since my girlfriend thinks sex is gross and painful, I respected her ...
A. 22 December 2013: The kind of control she is wanting to have over your body is nearly sadistic. Not wanting to have sex? Yea, I can understand that, and respect that at her age- but she's doing it for very misguided reasons.
She is probably one of those girls who ... (read in full...)
She is happy when she is right and it seems she is controlling. Does she love me?
Q. Relationship Profile: Our finances are slightly different now, I got a mediocre career,I had to quit my job a year before and looking for a job RN and she has a very good career and very good earning. She is also very ambitiou...
A. 17 December 2013: It seems like she isn't very stable as a person and is self-involved. You have said that she doesn't consider you/your health/your thoughts in anything that you do. From the way you're presenting things, it seems as if you've already made up your ... (read in full...)
Is it ever a good idea to get back together with an ex?
Q. Do any of you think it's ever a good idea to get back with an ex? I broke up with my ex in February (after we had been together for a year) and starting in June we had about 6 months of no contact. (fyi, he's 29 and i'm 23) Neither one of u...
A. 17 December 2013: Is it EVER a good idea to get back together with an ex? Well, in some cases, yes. Sometimes a separation is the right thing to happen for a couple. I will say that this is rarely the case from what I've seen. More often than not, when a couple b... (read in full...)
Why do men send photos of their genitals to women they barely know?
Q. Okay, inquiring minds must know. This appears to be a relatively new phenomenon, but in all seriousness, why do men send pics of their penises to women? I'm not talking about if you're in a committed relationship or if the girl ASKS for it. I'm...
A. 17 December 2013: Most men are very VISUAL. They want to see women, pictures, videos, in person, etc. They assume similar desires are felt by us.
Also, I think some just want good PR out on their member!
Personally, I can't understand it. The last thing I want... (read in full...)
My best friend has changed for the worse since meeting her boyfriend
Q. Hi, I could really do with some advice right now. Please can you read the whole thing as I know sometimes people just answer the question that comes up as the title, regardless of what is said in the actual written part? I’m also so sorry for the ...
A. 16 December 2013: Maybe you should confide in that other best friend who doesn't know everything about you. If you think she's the type of person who would understand, then set up some time to hang out together and let her know how you've been feeling. If she's a ... (read in full...)
My best friend has changed for the worse since meeting her boyfriend
Q. Hi, I could really do with some advice right now. Please can you read the whole thing as I know sometimes people just answer the question that comes up as the title, regardless of what is said in the actual written part? I’m also so sorry for the ...
A. 15 December 2013: It's difficult to lose best friends, especially whenever it's because of your romantic lives. But I think you need to realize this- friends want friends to be happy, no matter what. If this Ryan makes her so happy, then let it be. You probably... (read in full...)
Can someone who fell out of love fall back in love?
Q. My bf of 2 years just broke up with me with saying, he fell out of love. He tells me this has been going on for a few months and he doesn't think he can recover from it. He was so much in love with me. I was the center of his attention. We talked a...
A. 15 December 2013: I think the anonymous reader below is right. Some people don't know how to handle it whenever the novelty, the spark has dwindled with time. It's a sign of emotional immaturity. A relationship is supposed to become something of a tight friendsh... (read in full...)
Why cant I leave this bad situation?
Q. Well I have been on and off with my boyfriend for five years! He has confessed to cheating on me, and Well there has been many times where he has been emotionally abusive, calling me names, even physically! But I would go back to him! Things have ...
A. 14 December 2013: You're running back because you're in a manipulative relationship, and with emotional abuse he's probably convinced you that you deserve the worst kind of treatment. The very first time he crossed the abuse line, you should have left. The first mo... (read in full...)
Is it okay to date someone who teaches at my college?
Q. Okay I'm currently 17 and turning18 in about 2 months, about April last year I was seeing this guy who was 21 but cause we were both busy we sorta drifted apart, he recently started to speaking to me again and were getting on really well, only thing ...
A. 14 December 2013: It's usually against policy in schools whenever the teacher is your current teacher, because it runs the risk for favoritism.
Two consenting adults who don't have any professional ties between them- I see nothing wrong with it. I assume there may ... (read in full...)
My older brother physically abuses me and my mom is fine with it. What rights do I have in this? What power do I have to stop him from doing this?
Q. Hi. So, my older brother hits me. He doesn't do it very often but when he does, he hits me bad. He abuses me verbally constantly calling me names and insulting me in every possible way. He's always been like this to me since we were kids, he's ...
A. 24 October 2012: Everything Abella said. Do exactly that. I have nothing more to offer other than my sincerest sympathy. Just keep in mind that what he is doing is NOT okay. It is NOT. Your family is deluded and you cannot let yourself become that way.
Get help NOW.... (read in full...)
Ok I'm lost, does she like me or not?
Q. So there is this woman at work who i like. We only see each other for short amounts of time since we are both very busy (usually on opposite sides of the building) I'm not sure if she likes girls or shes straight and playing around with me. ...
A. 23 October 2012: I suggest asking her to hang out, no strings attached, maybe go to a movie or something and seeing how she acts outside of the office. Possibly invite a few others so it doesn't seem so isolated and ask her to "come along with a group of people you ... (read in full...)
Am I too controlling for wanting to help?
Q. Hello all, I was curious to get a second opinion on a situation. Now my girlfriend is notoriously for procrastinating, motivating herself, forgetting to do important things, and is very lazy, to the point where if I ask about something she was supp...
A. 23 October 2012: I think what you're doing is responsible. You arem't doing it to manipulate who she is, but more of a way for her to be the best you know she can be. If you know she needs a set schedule of things to get anything done then you're doing the right ... (read in full...)
After a month of pursuing me he suddenly just disappears?
Q. Hey if anyone could just give a bit of insight that would be great. Sorry this is probably gonna be long but bare with :) I met this guy very casual he saw me where i worked, never talked just looks this went on for about three month he even...
A. 23 October 2012: Looking at this logically he probably just finally gave up. You said it yourself , you were stringing him along and for ten months! Yikes!
From your perspective I know it must be quite frustrating to lose his little ego boosters but from his side... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt this guy but I don't want to date him. How do I let him down gently?
Q. HI :) Well basically I just wanted to know how to let a guy down gently and tell him that you're not interested in him. So I am in a band and one of the members 'really likes me' and wants to ask me out, I mean don't get me wrong he's a lovely g...
A. 23 October 2012: Whenever he brings it up to you just say that you aren't interested in him in that way. From that point forward, don't treat him any differently than if it had every happened *except* avoid physical contact. Physical contact, even plutonic, messes ... (read in full...)
I love him, but I need to understand if his sexual fetishes are OK or not? One example: He likes me to dress as a school girl when we have sex.
Q. To give you a bit of background I'm not very sexually experienced. I've slept with two people in long-term relationships before my current partner and he is my third sexual partner (he is 23). In both my previous relationships, I had passionate, ...
A. 23 October 2012: This is your sex life and you being happy with it as well as him is what's important. These fetishes seem marginally normal and harmless to me, but if you prefer "ordinary", vanilla sex (which there's nothing wrong with) you need to make that cle... (read in full...)
Really confused right now. I could really use some advice on dating, please?
Q. I've been dating this girl for about three weeks now. We initially met online and have been chatting and SMS-ing since about June. However due to illness and busy work schedules, we weren't able to meet up until earlier this month. She was the on...
A. 22 October 2012: Judging by the initial awkwardness and the fact that you don't seem okay with dating multiple people at once, I'd say let this one go. Sheobviously isn't looking for the same thing as you and you shouldn't have to chase after her anyway. Her physica ... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to hold his hand or kiss him
Q. i have been going out with my boyfriend for a week, and i really want to kiss him and hold hands like a normal couple do. all of my friends try and push me into it, and then he swears at them and i don't know if he knows how i feel. i am not very ...
A. 4 October 2012: Seriously hun, it's only been a week! Chill out and ignore those other people. It isn's any of their business and if this guy is even remotely worth your time he'll be understanding. Don't do anything you aren't comfortable doing under any ... (read in full...)
She masturbates in a less usual way, crossing her legs. Which is better? Her way or sex with a partner?
Q. Hey all I appreciate any advice. I have been with my gf for 10 months I'm 21. So this is why I'm posting: Basically she masturbates using the method of crossing her leg and squeezing. She never masturbates with fingers. When I ask what she prefe...
A. 2 October 2012: I use this sometimes and it's not even a question- sex is much better. Just because she enjoys this doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy you!
Best of luck!... (read in full...)
I like my best friend's brother, but should I tell him?
Q. Okay so my best friends brother is amazingly cute and I sadly like him alot and he works down the street from my job and with out fail he comes and visits me at least to 4 times a week with out fail . He doesn't even work.on saturdays and he'll ...
A. 2 October 2012: In your shoes I would just tell her "Hey, I think I have feelings for your brother... I like him because (insert reasons here) BUT I don't want to make you uncomfortable. If you don't think anything should happen, this stays between us and I won't ... (read in full...)
I like my best friend's brother, but should I tell him?
Q. Okay so my best friends brother is amazingly cute and I sadly like him alot and he works down the street from my job and with out fail he comes and visits me at least to 4 times a week with out fail . He doesn't even work.on saturdays and he'll ...
A. 30 September 2012: Talknto your best friend. If she says it's okay, go for it. If not, tough luck, there are other guys out there.
Be a little weary here though because if anything bad happens with you two it could hurt your friendship with his sister. Do you actu... (read in full...)
I'm a Scorpio, she's a Taurus. I want her ans she isn't at all interested, what can I do?
Q. for those who don't believe in astology don't even come a-knockin'... it seems there is nothing i can do to get her interest. she's a taurus, april 27, and i'm a scorpio guy, october 29, and whenever i've tried to get her to chat with me, she seem...
A. 28 September 2012: Taurus women do not take kindly to people "getting under their skin". Being one myself I can tell you I've had guys like you have interest in me- pestering, cocky, getting a kick out of annoying me- and there is no way in hell after a Taurus has ... (read in full...)
Ex left a month ago. Is one month too soon to start a new relationship with a guy?
Q. I broke up with the first boyfriend i ever had almost a month ago. I am 15 i was with him for 6 months, i have never felt so strongly about a boy as i did with him, he took my viriginity, and at alot of different points in our relation...
A. 2 September 2012: I think you should wait until your ex is completely gone and has been for a few months (which I know seems like forever but it is not) and then if after all of the drama you still want to be with him, and he with you, go for it. I have done thi... (read in full...)
B/f and I have been into swinging and I HATE it!
Q. About 4 - 5 years ago, me and my boyfriend of 6 years decided to finally try swinging after playing around with the idea for a while. I was scared out of my mind that I was actually going to go through with it, but chalked it up to newbie nerves. ...
A. 30 August 2012: This entire situation is messed up. You can only have a swinger relationship if both partners are comfortable, and you are not. Worse off, he makes you feel guilty for being uncomfortable.
I would say leavehim. He obviously cares about getting off ... (read in full...)
How do I have this girl wait until we are older for a relationship? I don't want to be a pedophile.
Q. Basically, there's a girl who has been very open about her feelings for me. She's very attractive and I'm well, not. We get on well together, have common interests in Italian and some other stuff, and I'm good friends with her brother and can ...
A. 30 August 2012: She is fifteen, which when you put it in perspective is not far off from the legal age where you are. Don't over analyze things here, just keep talking to her casually and maybe try to figure out for sure if she has feelings for you. If she does... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of my friend.
Q. hey so i have a friend (for 9 years) she is cool pretty an djust plain lovely but i hate her guts and dont even know why im so jelious of her she has never been a threat she always does what i do after i do and better at it than my so i have done ...
A. 23 August 2012: Stop focusing on her and focus on yourself.
And she isn't your friend if you say you hate her- maybe you're the one wo isn't a good friend here? How would you feel if you thought someone as your friend but it turns out she goes around saying she ... (read in full...)
Girls- Bleeding during and after sex?
Q. Hi, I have a question about bleeding during sex. I'm a 20yr old girl who was in a relationship for about a year and a half, during this time my partner and I were regularly having sex. Sometimes if we hadn't had intercourse for a while, I would ...
A. 19 August 2012: It is probably an effect of being on a birth control that prevents your period. I have heard of girls bleeding or spotting while on the pill when they have sexual contact.
You should most definitely talk to your doctor though, just in case it ... (read in full...)
He didn't orgasm on the fourth time we had sex, how come?
Q. Okay everybody, so Friday night at my boyfriends we had sex like 4 times during the night but on the 4th time he didn't cum, he said he was really enjoying it but it just wasn't happening, he had cum the other 3 times, so how come he never the 4th?...
A. 19 August 2012: He probably just didn't have the "manpower" to cum. This happens a lot to guys.
You should have him look into working out his pelvic floor muscles so he can orgasm without the need of coming. Everybody wins :)... (read in full...)
Can a woman be impregnated by precum?
Q. hello just wanted to get a few opinions on my situation...I slept with both my bf of 3 years and some other guy around the time i got pregnant. just to be clear i hooked up with the other when i was single and we didnt use a condom he also said he ...
A. 13 August 2012: While it is 'possible' to get pregnant from precum it is not very likely. My current boyfriend and I have not used a condom in roughly six months, never ejaculating inside, the only issue being precum and I haven't even had a scare. I know a lot of ... (read in full...)
She went to Vegas with her guy friends and came back shaven!
Q. My gf is very pretty and curvy. she has an issue with her weight and therefore, she has a problem being naked in front of me. she dresses sexy and wears pushup bras to work, but around me its time to hide the girls. i tell how sexy she is all the ...
A. 12 August 2012: These actions can be a little suspicious but no one here can tell you what she is or is not doing.
The only thing you can do is ask her and trust her word, or not trust it.
Ask her and follow your gut feeling of whether or not she's lying.
... (read in full...)
I don't know who the father is, should I terminate or give it up for adoption?
Q. Heya, i just found out I'm pregant but I dont know who the father is, I went to butlins about four weeks ago and I sleet with 3 boys, ( I didn't know them or talk any numbers or anything) a week later I slept with two more boys, ( I know these b...
A. 11 August 2012: I'm so sorry for what you are about to go through, and I suggest getting therapy immediately afterward. See if there are any suggestions at the clinic.
If you think this abortion is the best decision for you and your life then go through with it. ... (read in full...)
I have a controlling boyfriend!
Q. I had a major blow out with my bf last night he said my mother was a b**** I thought that it was out of line my mother doesn't approve of our relationship but she has never involved herself in any fight or anything!His mother passed recently and I ...
A. 11 August 2012: He does not have any right to say who you should and should not be able to talk to, this goes double for your parents.
Usually emotional abuse like this spirals down into even worse emotional abuse and sometimes even physical/sexual. If he wants... (read in full...)
Will using a dildo make first time sex any easier?
Q. I want to use a dildo before i have sex for the first time to avoid pain, possible bleeding and so that he'll be able will fit (and not know that i'm a virgin). Some of my friends had bad experiences with their first time- like their BF got a p...
A. 11 August 2012: It is more about being completely relaxed and aroused than being able to 'fit' him inside of you. If you are not completely turned on it doesn't matter if you've been using a dildo for years, it's going to hurt going in because your body isn't ready ... (read in full...)
I asked her out in 2010. She refused. Since then she will not speak to me. Is it now time to confront her on her Ostracism of me?
Q. My friend stopped talking to me after she rejected me, I'm not sure what to do My friend said no when I asked her out. It makes sense that she stopped talking to me too. I guess I expected it when it happened, but that was December 2010. I mean I d...
A. 11 August 2012: Personally I think that is a long time and you shouldn't let anything about her get to you anymore. If she wants to be immature and run from her problems, let her. If I were you I wouldn't want to be friends with someone so immature and really, ... (read in full...)
I don't know who the father is, should I terminate or give it up for adoption?
Q. Heya, i just found out I'm pregant but I dont know who the father is, I went to butlins about four weeks ago and I sleet with 3 boys, ( I didn't know them or talk any numbers or anything) a week later I slept with two more boys, ( I know these b...
A. 27 July 2012: Do whatever feels right for you. If you feel like you aren't physically, mentally, and emotionally ready for a child then you do not have to have one. It is your choice. It is considerate to think of those who cannot have children but it is your bod... (read in full...)
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