A
female
 ,
anonymous
writes:I'm finally in a relationship after 4 years. I decided just to take y'alls advice and just let my hurt and frustration, from my ex's cheating on me, go and now i think i've found someone i feel that i can trust 100% and i'm quite happy...However when it comes down to sex i think i still need to gain the confidence that i once had because i'm not as confident as i used to be. We've really only had sex a few times and i've really enjoyed it but i wanna spice it up a little, would you think its too early for that?? The guy im seeing is great and my friend set us up together. However she said that before he met me he was never really into girls much, always working and keeping fit and i'm worried he's gonna get bored with me.Maybe im just paranoid because my ex did cheat on me but what ways do you think i could spice up our sex lives a bit so that he wants me and only me???
View related questions:
confidence, my ex, sex life Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, l1f35ux  +, writes (11 January 2010):
 If you really want to spice up your sex life, some role playing would be really good. You can act like someone completely different so it may help boost your self-confidence.
A
male
reader, PeterPan +, writes (11 January 2010):
 You know, I have to honestly say that I think you're headed directly at creating a problem for yourself that might not be there or coming your way... did he say he was bored or has he been acting that way? Have you asked him?
As far as adding spice... well, it just seems that just adding a few new sexual positions would be easy enough to do... hit a bookstore for a book on positions, or save the cash and just Google it... new positions won't be difficult to find at all!!
...............................
A
male
reader, The Realist  +, writes (11 January 2010):
 First you have to get out of the mind set of doubting yourself. If he loves you he will apprieciate everything you try to do even if he doesn't like all of it. You never mention how long you two have been dating which would give an indication to the comfort level between you two. There is never any harm in trying some new.
...............................
A
female
reader, heyitscarissaa +, writes (11 January 2010):
 All i can say is that he shouldn't want you for sex hon, he should want you for the person that you are. If he gets "bored" of you because all he wants is sex, then honestly, you can do way better and shouldn't even be in the relationship at all. You should never be in a relationship that makes you feel inadequate. There is so much more to a relationship then sex, and sex becomes minor over the years. If your looking for a long relationship you should be focusing on other things too, not just sex. If you want to spice up your relationship so he doesn't get bored go to dinner and you pay for once in a way to show your appreciation or go do something fun together like a bike ride or whatever you guys like to do. Those kind of things make you bond(: the stronger your bond, the better the sex. Hope i helped Best Wishes
...............................
|
