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*elle2472002
writes:How do u know if your man is in the closet? (gay) I mean I don't want to think stuff like that, but he has sooo many male friends its ridiculous. I mean new people poppin up here and there. Yet, this newyears I don't think he invited none of these new friends,or old found friends to our get together. there is quite a few that he talks to an awful lot in texts, and when i check the bill i see lots of texts, then sometimes when i go to check the phone they are deleted. then he says because of space he has to get rid of some of the texts. but, i just have a feeling somethin is funny. we have sex and stuff but he can go days without sometimes, and i actually have to say somethin about it. a while ago he met a dude chinese/korean whatever he's black, and this dude was loaning us money getting us tv's that we had to pay him back though, letting us borrow his vehicle, getting our vehicle fixed again w had to pay back. was this guy just nice? how do you know if your man is in the closet?
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reader, DaynaAndrew +, writes (25 October 2010):
I have beeen in a relationship with my childrens father for eleven years; we been living together the last two years, but last five years I have been thinking he that could possibly be in the closet. There have been signs like this guy had the key to his apartment once; I found out when I went to visted him one day and the guy was already there. My boyfriend and I went straight in the room and he never said anything to the guy he left him out in the living room area; next thing I know I hear the door close and the key locking the door. I immediately thought the guy purposely did that to let me know he had a key.So I accused my boyfriend right there on the spot; of course he denied it and I bought it. Now its three years later and now Im noticing this same guy is always coming around alot and when he does my boyfriend always has to go some where or he disappears when the guy leaves. We also argue alot because I feel he dont pay me much attention he dont even cuddle me and he wont try to have sex with me this goes on for weeks. but when were getting along he avoids this guy, so just the other day this same guy caught up with him and I just so happen to see my boyfriend trying to move fast when he sees the guy walking up, the guy glances at me and grabs my boyfriends wrist and says " why are you doing me like this" I was in shock I didnt know what to say are think about it. They walked to the store afterwards and I just havent been the same. But if this is true this would explain everything. I dont think I will be able to stop thinking bout what I saw I havent yet. Am I in denial?
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (14 January 2010):
 hes probably a hustler, making that money, hes taking care of you rite so why do you care. lol and the sex thing you should be glad he doesnt want to half the women on here act like its such a big burden, I think you should just be satisfied i doubt you will find anything better hes not gonna change unless he wants to i doubt your skilled enough to make him want to , I dont think hes gay that would awkward if he is i would say ditch him but till you find out other wise i would say just go with it sounds like he treats you pretty good for the most part,
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 January 2010):
Doesn't sound gay to me either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2010): Agreed... somethings trading hands, and odds are good it's not dick...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2010): Ok I had a boyfriend like this and never really did determine if he was 'gay' or not he still has the VERY close male friend he had when he met me - and he was engaged to a woman at the time!
It took me some time to realize that indeed he was a drug dealer although I wanted to believe what he said - he was an addict too! And the SEX thing? Yeh I had to mention it to him - he was getting it where he wanted - basically cheating on me by looking at women online and I think meeting up when he was out of town.
Sick man - his neighbors all told me when we broke it off I was much better being without him - Don't waste you time on this one - it will hurt much more later when you have wasted more time with him.
If you r gut is telling you something is not right and you have to wonder if your man is into you? He is not and you deserve better!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (14 January 2010):
 He could be but chances are the sex wouldn't be going on if he truely was. From my experience from the gay people I know most of their frinds tend to be girls and not guys.
Keep a look out for any other signs like alot of time with one guy specifically but otherwise I wouldn't say he's gay.
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