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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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I feel like I haven't a friend in the world
Q. I feel like i haven't a friend in the world. I finished school last year and all my friends went to collage and I didn't get into collage. I did have two close friends but one decided she,d rather be with her boyfriend and the other sees me like ...
A. 6 April 2010: Maybe its time to get out there and find friends who you can relate to. Its sad that she chooses her bf all the time and the other one actually has a reason but I know how hard it can be to keep in touch. A friend of mine is just working now and I ... (read in full...)
In love with my friend's ex-boyfriend
Q. *MOD NOTE: Question asker's own title* I think I'm in love with my best friend's ex-boyfriend, and I am almost sure he's got a crush on me too. We've been talking a lot lately, and we seem to connect somehow. But last year, my friend B. was dating h...
A. 5 April 2010: Go and talk to her first and see if she would be ok with you dating him. Sometimes friends are but sometimes it a big problem. Don't do anything behind her back, that is a quick way to kill the friendship. If she is ok with it then go after him all ... (read in full...)
Should we prepare for a baby?
Q. Ever since my boyfriend realised my period is late (nearly 2 weeks late) now he thinks im pregnant because my period hasn't arrived, but he is already planning things like how we are going to get our own place because he says i cant live at home if ...
A. 5 April 2010: Go out and get a pregnancy test, from your doctor would be the best. It is nice of him to take charge like that, that guy is one in a million. Go for the test and until then don't drink till its confirmed that you are not pregnant. There is the ... (read in full...)
Do guys like getting their ears kissed?
Q. My bf loves to kiss my ears as I will feel really ticklish and turn on when he does so. I tried to rub my lower lips in his ears and kiss his ears. I am just wondering whether will guys be horny when their gf kisses his ears?...
A. 5 April 2010: Chances are if he is trying it on you he would be interested in having the favour returned. Its the easiest way to let your partner know. Try it out and see what his reaction is like. ... (read in full...)
I'm stuck on my ex and cannot move forward
Q. My ex and I broke up almost a year ago and I still cry over him all the time. I don't know how to get over him and I keep trying to move but it isn't working. My relationship with my ex seemed perfect and I think the reason he left was because he ...
A. 5 April 2010: You need to find a way to all this emotion into another part of your life for the better. I'm sorry I can't really explain how but focus on something you love and don't give up trying to find a guy to fill that void. When you do find one its amazing ... (read in full...)
How do I get a good guy?
Q. Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl, just started high school and turning 15 in 2 months. So I've been thinking lately that i would like to have a boyfriend. Ive had many relationships before but obviously they didn't. my longest was 3 years , 9 months, ...
A. 5 April 2010: Try being friends at first. Nothing sexual or serious until you actually get to know each other. Tell him right off the bat that this is what you want to do. If he respects that then he's off to a good start, then you can make your calls from there. ... (read in full...)
Age difference of 19.5 years!
Q. I recently started seeing someone that is 19 1/2 years younger than myself. We used to work together, but she quit. We have a lot in common and share similar interests. We both own our own homes and don't have any previous baggage from other ...
A. 5 April 2010: Give her the option to choose you but try not to put too much pressure on her. I have to say that her friend must be bluffing otherwise that is just a pathetic friend. People will respect her decision and it is hers to make. Your patience will be ... (read in full...)
13, we just met and he wants to have sex!
Q. ummm this guy i just met wants to have sex and i want to but i am scared because he will be my first and i dont no how bad it hurts? ...
A. 5 April 2010: Give it more time before he gets that if he is going to at all. It will hurt the first time and you need a guy who is going to be understanding and take it easy the first couple of times. Lube will help and make sure you have protection. Its not ... (read in full...)
Fooling around and now worried that I'm pregnant
Q. I'm sure I'm going to get lectures after asking this but I'm worrying myself sick. I'm a virgin and the 2nd week in March me and my boyfriend fooled around. Now he wore a condom and I had my thong on- I sat on top of him and he got his peni...
A. 4 April 2010: The pill would be a really good idea so your covered with him. As for being pregnant I highly doubt it at all. Not from pre-cum through a condom, if there was any at all.
The pain would be from something else mixed with your phycological state thin... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend's brother wants a baby with me!
Q. ive got a question am seeing my ex boyfriends brother ive got 2 kids with my ex and now the ex boyfriends brother wants a child with me is this the wrong thing to do please help thank you....
A. 4 April 2010: I would say that this is a bad idea unless you two are planning on staying together. Just think of how hard it would to tell those kids how this whole situation came to be. I wouldn't have that kid without a commitment and even them it's kind of ... (read in full...)
Jealous of him looking at other women.
Q. i am married for two years now,when ever i got out with my husband and when i see him lookinf at girls i start thinking if he is looking at them normally or does he think about women lustfully.. how do i find out whether he has lust for other ...
A. 4 April 2010: Try not to let it bother you. He is just looking because it is natural to do so. I'm sure you check some guys out even though you would never leave him or cheat. Those are probably his thoughts exactly. The world around us is for comparison and by ... (read in full...)
Can love be extented to multiple people at once?
Q. Just a thought, I was wondering today, How many people can you actually be in love with at once, for example could you be in love with the person you married and also another person equally???...
A. 4 April 2010: I beleive that yes you can love many people at once. Maybe not every person can do this but it is possible. There are so many types of love and the mind (heart) is large enough. As for how many people I would say maybe up to five or so. If you have ... (read in full...)
Do guys like getting their ears kissed?
Q. My bf loves to kiss my ears as I will feel really ticklish and turn on when he does so. I tried to rub my lower lips in his ears and kiss his ears. I am just wondering whether will guys be horny when their gf kisses his ears?...
A. 4 April 2010: I love it but it is a hit or miss with guys. The light breathing on the ears is also a turn on. Lol just not too much air. Same with the chin line if you haven't tried that one. ... (read in full...)
My best friend says she needs space?
Q. Hi, my best friend recently fell out with me and i still have no idea why. We have been very close friends for as long as I can remember and one day she sends a text saying she doesnt want to be friends and she needs her space, and I have respected ...
A. 3 April 2010: try your best to give her time to herself. She must be going through something big and will come back to you when all is worked out. I have a friend from work who stopped talking to her best friend for over a month because they grew apart and had ... (read in full...)
Does anybody have any information about permenant birth control / essure?
Q. I have been researching forms of permanent birth control, and I was wondering if anyone has information about essure. I have read the information on the website and searched for personal experience on line, but what I really want is to find someone ...
A. 3 April 2010: I have heard of some of my parents friends having it done as well as my mom ended up going. I beleive it to be a day long procedure, really it onlt takes like half an hour but you are there all day. Also the males version is much simpler. Other than ... (read in full...)
Advice on the "Microgynon 30" type pill?
Q. My mum put me on the Microgynon 30 pill a few weeks ago, as told, I took my first one on the first day of my period which was 2weeks3days ago, and I'm still currently on my period, i should be off in a couple of days hopefully but then i have like ...
A. 2 April 2010: I don`t know about that type of pill exactly but I do have experirence with my friends being on various ones and yes that long of a period does some times happen. A friend of mine had her period for two straight months before everything finally ... (read in full...)
He said I could surprise him, what is he expecting and how do I surprise him?
Q. I like this guy, he likes me too, he's a virgin and a little shy. he knows i want to sleep with him. but he is i dunno, afraid? on the phone one night, i asked him if i could kiss him, and he said, yes, and i could do more, like Surprise him, wha...
A. 2 April 2010: It sounds like he may want to become sexual with you but is too nervous to take control of the situation. If you just surprise him and tell him what to do he will get the experience without worrying about what he should be doing. So if you want to ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if he fancies me too? I have very low self esteem so I am scared to come out and tell him!
Q. Guy troubble! :s There is this guy I really fancy in my school but I don't know if he fancys me!! We are friends and he is in some of my classes! When ever he sees me in thos classes I catch him at the corner of my eye looking at me, if he t...
A. 2 April 2010: It does sound like he`s interested. The easiest thing would be to just ask him but I know that can be difficult so if you can`t find the courage to do this try to drop major hints. If you catch him looking at you look back and give a smile, or get ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go out with his single male friends?
Q. I am happily married. I'm 17 years old and my husband is 20. We're very in love and supported by both of our families. Things have been great. I love it. We do everything together including cooking meals, and just sitting back watching TV. The ...
A. 2 April 2010: He needs to have your trust so he can go out with his friends. You're both young and should be able to not hold back at life so go out and have fun separately. The marriage should just strengthen with this freedom. Having alot of single friends is ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this ex who won't let go?
Q. My ex girlfriend has called once or twice a week for the past 2 months (I caught her cheating, again, with the same guy), but I never returned her calls. She Emailed me a few times, even invited me on a week-long trip to LA (2 weeks ago), and I ...
A. 2 April 2010: It seems like she is between wanting to be with you and pissed off that you broke up with her. I know you probably do not want to be mean which is what would end up happening if you tried to actually talk to her. As long as each of you has all their ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is amazing and he's still looking at porn!
Q. Why does he have to look at porn? Our sex life is amazing. But why does he still have to look at that trash? I NEVER once looked at any of that crap because I know that will only make us get into an argument. We've discussed about this so many times ...
A. 2 April 2010: The porn has nothing to do with you and your the first person really complaining about it when you have a great sex life. Its just his way of masturbating since guys tend to rely more heavily on the visual aspect of sex. Saying he can't watch porn ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to fake virginity when she marries?
Q. I just want to know if it is possible for a girl to hide her premarital sexual relations form her husband (she's been having regular sexual relations with other males for 5 years before marriage). She is going to marry after 6 months ...
A. 1 April 2010: It's pretty easy, if she tells you that she is a virgin her words are all you have to go on. Some say that the vagina may become more lose as time goes on but nothing is solid evidence. You would have to have that trust connection to know for sure.... (read in full...)
Is her dad wrong to let them sleep together?
Q. My friend is 13 years old, we are both in year 9. I used to fancy her but then I found out she smokes. That's a big turn off for me. She has a boyfriend who is 16 and in year 11. I know she sounds like, well, not a great person but she's cool rea...
A. 1 April 2010: Its great to hear about someone who wants to enjoy their youth instead of worrying about sex all the time, congrats. It's very nice of you to worry and most people would say that no they should not be sleeping together like that and I'm wondering ... (read in full...)
Everyone has a girlfriend except me.
Q. I'm 22, at university and I've learned to realise that the reason that I always pine about having a girlfriend is that everyone has one except me. The problem I've got is that I would use a girlfriend to fill a void in my life that needs filling. So ...
A. 1 April 2010: Become friends with a girl that you in interested in that way the connection will be there and you will know that you want to keep hanging out with them. Then you two can start dating with a transition that doesn't make it such an official thing. I ... (read in full...)
Confused about my sexuality.
Q. Ok, you maybe as confused as I am after reading this! . . . I've never wanted a 'boyfriend' or drooled over males and its never bothered me. . . It's Bothered my friends more,coz they couldn't understand WHY I didn't fancy anyone. Few yrs ago tho ...
A. 1 April 2010: I think that there is just that special connection with females that you just can't find with males. You should try dating a female and that should really help you work things out in your mind. ... (read in full...)
I was wondering is it normal to only be able to visualize yourself from a third person perspective?
Q. I was wondering is it normal to only be able to visualize yourself from a third person perspective? I'm really shy and I've noticed when I think about stuff I did in the past like going out to get some food I can only see myself like there is a ...
A. 1 April 2010: I think that is just how your memories are formed and stored. This is the first time I have heard of it just being memories, there are cases where you see yourself from the third person as things are actually happening. Its perfectly normal, I think ... (read in full...)
Why does a guy want you to say his name during sex?
Q. this is a pretty simple question really....Why does a guy want you to say his name during sex? is it jut for ego or does it actually have a purpose?...
A. 1 April 2010: Its more personal if you say his name and recognize that he is the one you are having sex with. It is an ego thing as well because he really realizes that he is having the sex with you and that you are in to him and not thinking about someone else.... (read in full...)
Ever since I asked her if she would date me, she seems to be avoiding me!
Q. ok so i have a best friend. we are both girls, but i realizes that i feel "different" around her. i like her a lot and we talked about it. she likes me to. this weekend at a sleepover we ended up holding hands and she fell asleep in my arms. we can ...
A. 31 March 2010: I think she is nervous about actually being with a girl and needs some time to work things out for herself without external pressures. Its a big step and i'm sure she has feelings for you but it'll take some time before she may want everyone else to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to finger me!
Q. Hi im 16 and my boyfriend really wants to finger me.oh im also a virgin and im not sure what to exoect?like do you bleed when he fingers you?What does he do after hes done?does he just go wash his fingers?or what?...
A. 31 March 2010: You may bleed a bit depending on the size of his fingers. Tell him to start off slow and work you up before he starts fingering. Also he should probably only start with one finger, then you can judge it from there. It will be tight to start but ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my insecurities and say "hi" to this guy?
Q. I'm so insecure, it's really bad. I cant give people eye contact because I'm so scared they're gonna judge my face. I know they do it anyways but im scared of what they think, even though I know I should'nt. For example ,I really wanna talk to ...
A. 30 March 2010: It might work for you to dress up and go beyond what you would usually do for your look. Give yourself a good reason why you look good because I'm sure that you are shy but not unattractive. He probably notices you already and once you go say hi to ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I am 42 and dating a 23 year old?
Q. im a young 42 and recently started a relationship with a 23yr old, looks bit older! sex great and txt each other every day! is this wrong lust or do you think anything can come ov it! i havnt had sex for nearly 2 years so.. but i do find we get o...
A. 30 March 2010: I am one to believe that love can be found no matter what the ages are. So yes I think that it could work out for the two of you but it worries me that maybe he will look for younger love after the thrill of being with an older women has passed and ... (read in full...)
My breast size is affecting my self esteem. Any tips on how to make them bigger?
Q. My life is just crazy I guess. I have low self esteem very low I think I am so ugly. Everyone tells me Im beautiful and that I have a pretty smile and pretty eyes, I just don't believe. So I like this guy well love actually I have known him forever ...
A. 30 March 2010: There is the option of surgery but that should only be your option if this really is causing you emotional stress. If thats what it takes to boost your self esteem then go for it but I think that you can find a way to build it up on your own. I ... (read in full...)
I need to gather peoples thoughts because I don't believe my doctor.
Q. *OP's own title* I have this problem that I went to the doctor with. It used to happen almost everyday but sometimes it's once a week, once a month, multiple times a day, it varies. But my heart will suddenly and without cause, start beating real...
A. 30 March 2010: I've been told I have a heart mermer (Can't figure out how to spell it) which is just an irregular heart beat. I can't believe that your doctor would not look into it more. It doesn't happen to everyone unless you are in an adrenilin rush, connected ... (read in full...)
I think I have lesbian tendencies...
Q. Hey guys, I've got a (few) question(s)... well, i think I'm lesbian, I'm okay with that, (i think because I'm attracted to girls like all the time, and on occasion a guy, but id never be with him), but i don't know how to meet girls. I'm shy some...
A. 30 March 2010: Thats a tough one and I know its hard to find others in a high school setting. Does everyone know that are a lesbian? From the stories that I have heard its usually a friend who realizes it with the person and they try a relationship. You can always ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Does my guy friend like me?
Q. Does my guy friend like me? We were talking today and he said that he would vote no just to make me mad. He also blushed when I told him that he doesn’t know his own Horoscope. He always thinks he knows everything! When I prove him wrong he says ...
A. 30 March 2010: It sounds like he likes you and thats why he is being all cute around you. Like it was said already you should just ask him, he may be releived that you asked him because he's probably very nervous on what your thoughts would be if he asked you. The ... (read in full...)
I fell asleep on her and am really embarrassed about it. How do I approach her now?
Q. Last night me and my girlfriend were watching a film and I fell asleep on her. Anyway I woke up on the sofa under a blanket. She left a note saying 'good to see you found my company so interesting, sleep well babe". I'm really embarrassed and I ...
A. 25 March 2010: Watching a film is not really being in ones company its more like being in the company of the movie. Start with an apology and maybe dinner or something to show that you care. You were probably tired from the day and the movie must not have ... (read in full...)
Should I contact her to express my sympathy?
Q. I have recently found out that an ex-girlfriend of mine, her father died last July. When I went to qualify this information that I was given, I also found out that her mother had died 3 years ago. I have very fond memories of her, although we have ...
A. 25 March 2010: She probably will not think much of it if you send anything now but in the end it would be a really thoughful thing to do. Its always nice to know that someone cares.... (read in full...)
My ex is back in my life, and I don't really want her there
Q. Hey guys and gals, Recently my ex-girlfriend contacted me. We haven't spoken in 8 months or so, (she broke up with me). Now she Kind of entered my life again, she had a very nasty time last couple of months. She kind of blamed me for not be...
A. 25 March 2010: You should just cut contact with her so your life can move forward, also hers will too once she lets go of the thought of you two being together so it better for her in the end as well. Tell her that any sort of relationship is not going to work, ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble moving on because I don't know why he dumped me
Q. Hey guys, I hope you can give me some opinions on this. I met this guy last year and he asked me out. We hit it off really well but he had to leave town for business right after our first date. While he was away for about a month, he called...
A. 25 March 2010: He probably found another girl but didn't want to lose contact with you just in case things didn't work out between the two of them. It had nothing to do with you, he probably found some girl who was all over him and easy and he took that route ... (read in full...)
Really getting to quite like him but now I'm getting mixed signals, help!
Q. Hi all, I'm 28 and back at university for the second time. I'm nearly finished the term and just noticed this guy staring at me... a lot! I didnt really notice him much before but now I see him looking at me from the corners of my eyes I ca...
A. 25 March 2010: His behavior is quite strange but I say you should just go over to him after class one day and say hi. You'll know then if he is interested or not by the way he acts at that moment. Catch him right after you obvously see that he is looking at you. ... (read in full...)
Sweaty arm pits becoming a major pain.
Q. okay so my problem isnt about sex, or dating, but it could be consitered related to that. im 13 and about scence this oct. or nov. i have been experiencing pit stains. but its not just on white shirts in on any shirt i wear! this is quite ...
A. 24 March 2010: I had the same problem a while back mostly in the winter too. I think it was partially due to social situations and I found out that my mom used to have that problem in the winter too. Talk to your doctor because if it is anything like my case even ... (read in full...)
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