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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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My boyfriend always talks about sex and treats me like an object. How can I get him to stop?
Q. I have a boyfriend who only talks about having sex with me. I feel it's disrespectful and he randomly pulls out my shirt to look down it. How do I get him to stop?...
A. 27 February 2010: Tell him to back off and don't have any more contact with this guy. He might persist but if you hold up he will give it up.
Sorry to hear about this. I hope everything works out for the best in the end.... (read in full...)
This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 13 February 2010: Then see if you two can get together, it would be a great time to find common interests. That reason makes sense so you don't have anything to worry about it. I know its hard to get around to places at this time of your life but that will pass in ... (read in full...)
He gets excited to easily, is this normal?
Q. When I am kissing this guy he gets turned on really quickly and asks me to make him come which he always says it wont take him long and it doesn't I mean he lasts about 2-3 minutes, is this normal, he usually comes quite a bit. We aren't dati...
A. 13 February 2010: I'm wondering if he masturbates at all. If he doesn't then yes it could come very quickly when he has waited a couple of days or a week. So yeah its normal and as long as he is fine with it then it just means less work for you when you two want to ... (read in full...)
Should I go for it and ask him how he feels or would that just make things awkward between us..?
Q. I like a guy I work with and I think he likes me as well. We flirt a bit and have great fun when we go out, we text quite a bit and he makes me feel special when we talk. Should I go for it and ask him how he feels or would that just make things a...
A. 13 February 2010: You should go for it. Even if he doesn't like you then he'll just say no and you can continue on however you want to. From what you have said though I do not think that he will say no and he might even be impressed that you made the first move since ... (read in full...)
I think I'm adopted, what do I need for DNA tests?
Q. hi there everyone i think that i am adopted but i am not sure i don't want to ask my parents because they may get upset if i am wrong and if i am right they may deny it. i was going to have a dna test but i was thinking that do i need my mum a...
A. 13 February 2010: You would need some of their DNA which can be obtained from a hair of theirs or basicaly anything with their saliva. I would recommend the hair then just store it in a zip lock bag then find out where they do genetic testing in your area. I don't ... (read in full...)
This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 13 February 2010: I'm sorry to hear that. Does he just not want to go? Like he still wants to be your bf but maybe he is nervous about the whole dance social scene. Maybe you two could spend some time together, just the two of you instead. Or I really hate to say it ... (read in full...)
I don't know why I don't feel like everyone else my age seems to?
Q. Ok so, I have no desire to have sex or do anything sexual at all. I’m in those years where I should be horny and thinking about sexual things but I don’t at all, I don’t even masturbate(Nor do I want to). And on the rare occasions that I do get ...
A. 12 February 2010: This is still normal for someone your age. I say take advantage of it and enjoy life with your friends before sex starts to become a big part of your life. It will come eventually but I'm almost twenty and have friends that are still not interested ... (read in full...)
He only talks to me by email, not in person. Is he too shy?
Q. (I have posted this before, but with less info, please don't delete this!) There is this guy in my school, he's in two of my lessons, and I think he likes me, but I'm not too sure. When we're in our computer class, he e-mails me (he always ...
A. 12 February 2010: These do sound like mixed signals. The emails sound like he likes you but the classroom behavior suggests otherwise. Do you ever catch him looking at you in class, that usually a good sign if he's interested. Then I would just say that he is shy, so ... (read in full...)
The guy my cousin likes asked me out
Q. The guy my cousin likes asked me out and I said yes. The thing is that they are too far apart in age to ever go out and he doesn't like her. I kinda like him but want to know if what I am doing is wrong? My cousin has always been mean to me and ...
A. 12 February 2010: If he asked you out and she has never made any attempt to get him interested in her then you have done nothing wrong. She can't claim a bunch of guys that she will never date just so you won't go out with them. If she confronts you about tell her ... (read in full...)
He's in college, I'm in high school. Therefore, my parents don't approve
Q. Alright, I'm 17 and I met this guy at work who is 19 but he's a sophomore in college (kind of young for his grade) while I'm only a junior. We started hanging out and just like fooling around, nothing serious. But now we've kind of developed into an ...
A. 12 February 2010: Don't lie about him cause thats just setting them up to hate him. Invite him over for dinner or something where your parents can meet him and see that the age gap isn't big deal at all. Also introduce to them as your boyfriend. You are at that age ... (read in full...)
How do I NOT sound like an a**hole to ask my fiancé to have vaginal rejuvination?
Q. How do I NOT sound like an asshole to ask my fiancé to have vaginal rejuvination? We have great sex and a great sex life, but a lot of times I don't anything when I'm inside her. She has said she feels me but I feel nothing, and that is a first for ...
A. 10 February 2010: I`m going to say bring that up without asking her and see what her reaction is. Then just try your best to slide the question in with all of your logic behind it. Now, if she freaks out just don`t go any farther, this is the only time where you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants sex for Valentine's Day but I don;t know how to tell him that I think we are too young.
Q. im 15, i just turned 15, me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 3 1/2 months, things have moved really fast for us, we kissed after 2 days, made out after one week and started 'doing stuff' after about 2 weeks, since valentines day is coming ...
A. 10 February 2010: You have to tell him that it is not going to happen. Be honest and tell him why then say something that you two could do to try and take his mind off it. If he can`t cope with that then I hate to say it but he might not be right for you. Tell him ... (read in full...)
Is he just a regular horny teenage boy or something more?
Q. im 15, me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 4 months. i love hanging out with him, but it seems like whenever we go to his house he just wants to do 'things' like he doesnt even want to be with me. but i do things (not sex) with him to ...
A. 10 February 2010: He is a horny teenager but if you two can never just spend time together to talk, even if it before and after you do things then yeah it is something to worry about. When I'm with my gf we do spend almost every evening together doing things but we ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always talks about sex and treats me like an object. How can I get him to stop?
Q. I have a boyfriend who only talks about having sex with me. I feel it's disrespectful and he randomly pulls out my shirt to look down it. How do I get him to stop?...
A. 10 February 2010: First of all I hope thats just a hormonal phase that he is in. This may sound bad but I'm sure that it will work. You can train him like you would a puppy. When he goes for something like you described push him away and tell him no, but then don't ... (read in full...)
Help! What does this dream signify?
Q. i was wondering if anyone could interpret this dream for me? i would really like to know what it means i was at a playground i don't know why cause im 15 but it was only me and this other girl that i happen to like. in real life i am shy but ...
A. 9 February 2010: I think that your dream is your mind expressing what you actually would want to do in real life. If you believe that your dreams are predictions then you may be close to finding someone special. ... (read in full...)
What goes through a guy's mind when a sex scene comes on the tv?
Q. What goes threw a guys mind when he's watching a film with his girlfriend and a sex scene comes on? After a conversation over a bottle of wine with a few friends non of us could answer this question lol. Guys any feedback helpful x...
A. 8 February 2010: I am going to say that he will be wishing that he was in on that. Or it might be giving him ideas of what he is going to do to you later. He also may be trying to hide a certain stiff part if it is a good scene but yeah I would definitely say that ... (read in full...)
How can I make her more comfortable with kissing in public?
Q. Right I've been seeing this girl for about 5 months now and we're dead close and really care for each other. But sometimes when I try to kiss her or hold her hand she is either a bit hesitant about doing it or just rejects it. Now I know it's not ...
A. 8 February 2010: I had the same problem with a past gf of mine and the best thing you can do is to make a big deal about it. She is probably just shy in public but that will fade with time. If she doesn't want to then just try and let it go but there is no harm in ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that a 19 year old is interested in a 16 year old?
Q. hii, im new to this sitee but i jus have a quickkk question. well imm about to turn 16 and the guy imm dating will be 19 this week. is it weird that hes interested in me? (bc of the age) neither of us have a problem with the difference, i was jus ...
A. 7 February 2010: I wouldn't say thats weird at all. Think of it this way if you two are together and you're 20 and he is 23 no one would think twice about the age difference.
Its quite natural for a girl to go for an older guy since girls mature faster and the boys... (read in full...)
Can I trust my girlfriend?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend almost 14 months, she attracts a massive amount of attention from other males, a wee while ago she left herself logged into a social networking site, and when i realised she was still logged in i took a little look in ...
A. 6 February 2010: I say yeah of course you can still trust her and now you shouldn't have looked but curiosity gets the best of all of us. This may be an old friend of hers that even though he sends her messages like that she is too nice of a person to be mean and ... (read in full...)
I know the chances are slim but I worry I am pregnant
Q. Im 15 in 8 days and i think i might be pregnant... I have been seeing the father for 5 months, i wasnt drunk and we didnt offically have sex, he went up me a tiny bit without a condom, i know there isnt much of a chance but im still worried. What ...
A. 6 February 2010: Get a pregnancy test and see. Chances are you're not but it is better to be safe and check. Also it would be a good idea to consider birth control just cause you're at that age where stuff like this happens and a condom isn't the first thing that ... (read in full...)
We have solved our problems but other people wont forget
Q. i had some problems with a guy in september,october,and early november. we solved those problems and we are now boyfriend and girlfriend but no one will let us forget about what happened in the past. we have moved on and have now been dating for ...
A. 6 February 2010: Be happy with your new bf. It will take time for people to forget about what happened but they will eventually. Don't let them see or hear about any arguments you two may have, just let them see all the happy parts and how happy you two are ... (read in full...)
We're in love but my mom and his dad doesn't like us going out.
Q. Ok, so Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a very long time now, and we fell in love, I love him soooooooooo much, he's everything Ive ever wanted and Id rather die than live without him. But my mom HATES him! Idk why, she just does, and she ...
A. 6 February 2010: Parents don't know best! They may have the right intentions but they make plenty of mistakes too. Its time that you two, especially if you know that your going to get married to tell them to deal with it.
I don't know where you're from but most... (read in full...)
How do you really know when you love someone?
Q. I think I may love someone but I don't really know, how do you really know when you love someone?...
A. 5 February 2010: Spend time with this guy and if you even find that you are attracted to his flaws. If you're just feeling butterflies and don't know him very well then I would say that it's not love but it is the curiosity of what could come out of being with him.... (read in full...)
I thought a guy was good looking and now I'm scared I might be gay!
Q. My name is blair and i am a 13 year old male. Starting about 2 to 3 weeks ago ive been having thoughts of liking guys looks. Ive always liked girls and theyve always turned me on . Now that im worried that im might be gay for some reason girls arent ...
A. 5 February 2010: Its perfectly normal. You would be surprised how many guys post a quetion similar to this. It does not mean that your gay at all. You could be checking out guys because your wondering what it would be like to be someone else and think about the ... (read in full...)
How do you really know when you love someone?
Q. I think I may love someone but I don't really know, how do you really know when you love someone?...
A. 5 February 2010: It should be a feeling of unconditional love, a feeling where you would do anything to help the person out even if its tough love. Its hard to say exactly what you will feel but I found that love with my current gf and realizing that at any hour of ... (read in full...)
Why is it that a guy can get over a girl so easily but the girl is left feeling like shit for years?
Q. My ex of three years and I broke up seven months ago due to him cheating. And I'm still completely messed up about it. And yet, he was able to get over me within a few... hours? It's so aggravating and it kills me inside even more! I hate feeling ...
A. 5 February 2010: Guys tend to break the emotional bond a while before the actual break up and they do not need emotion in any physical pleasure. Now I do not mean all guys, its just how we get stereotyped, but he seems to be one of those guys. Plus if he cheated he ... (read in full...)
How can I give my girl the most sexual pleasure?
Q. How can I give my girl the most sexual pleasure? Itsa not that we don't have enough but I don't think I'm giving all I'm getting...
A. 4 February 2010: Ask her what she would like you to do. There is no template for anyone's pleasure so the best way to know what to do is through the person on the receiving end. If she doesn't want to give you an answer right away try kissing different spots and ... (read in full...)
He kissed my forehad the first time we met. Is this too fast, too soon?
Q. i just met this really really cute and funny guy; but we just met like today and he wants to get really close really fast! He kissed me on the forehead and keeps texting me if its ok if we should kiss and hold hands already! This is bothering me; ...
A. 4 February 2010: Tell him that this is going to fast for you. The best thing you can do is be honest and it is also the nicest thing to do rather then getting mad at him when you just can't take the pressure.
He shouldn't be asking for these things, they will just... (read in full...)
This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 3 February 2010: Thats good to hear and I think that that will be really sweet. Once you two start to get more comfortable with each other things will start to flow.
Hope the dance goes well.... (read in full...)
I'm in a bad way right now and need your help to get over her...
Q. Hey everyone..I'm in a big mess right now..and i need help getting out of this depression!I know that this is a bit long..but plz have the patience to read the whole thing! Thanks!:) My relationship of 2+ years ended exactly a month back! Sh...
A. 3 February 2010: The best thing that I can think is for you to keep busy as much possible so that you don't have time to dwell on the situation. If you do then talk to your friends about and realizing that they are there for you to listen over and over again should ... (read in full...)
Gay moments...
Q. First thing first, i'm complely straight, i love girls yet i seem to to have what i call "gay moments" meaning i catch myself staring at a guy, Is there something wrong with me?...
A. 2 February 2010: There's nothing wrong with you at all. Its the same thing as girls checking out other girls say to comment on their look or as a comparison to themselves.
I admit to checking out guys wishing I could pull off that look or wanting the their body... (read in full...)
Can this guy be sexy?
Q. Can a normal guy (say, an 8/10 in looks) be very confident in his own skin around people, yet be obviously nervous around girls he likes (but isn't with), and still be sexy to most girls who look 9/10? ...
A. 2 February 2010: First of all there is no need to rate people. Any guy can get any girl, its all in the personality interactions. Be yourself and be confident and they will find that sexy. If they don't then they are not right for you anyway.
You are who you are ... (read in full...)
I find young girls attractive, but I want to maybe seek help.
Q. I don't know where to start.. I'll explain it to the best I can. Please be kind and understanding with your replies. It IS normal for a guy to find girls attractive from when they can start to create a child. (Puberty). It is just society...
A. 2 February 2010: You could go for conselling but I don't know if it would help since you do seem to be very down to earth about your situation. It is quite normal considering that in the past men twice their age would marry girls as commen practice.
I'm just worr... (read in full...)
Tell me--is this older girl interested in me?
Q. Hey, I'm 17and work at a camp. Lately I've become attracted to one of my friends who also works there. She is 19 and I think that she might like me but I am not sure. She always comes to visit me when she has time off and usually wants a hug from ...
A. 1 February 2010: I say ask her out and see what she says. I think she is trying to be a little playful with the idea of you two and is waiting to see what you do. The worst that could happen is she'll say no then leave but atleast then you will know where you stand. ... (read in full...)
Is he interested or not? Should I drop him?
Q. Below is a text from a guy I'm dating. "sorry i was hung over so it took a while to reply im sick atm. i finish work there at 6. wanna catch up in dalesford lemme knw xoxo." It took him 24 hours to post that.. he always takes forever.. I tri...
A. 1 February 2010: This isn't really enough info for me to say end it. If this is a regular occurence then yeah it is probably best to but if it is the first time then maybe he deserves a second chance. Talk to him about it and see what he says.... (read in full...)
My mum is never going to approve of him.
Q. So I Went Out With my boyfriend for 6 months and my moms friends heard that he was a gangster.. but hes not. so she told me to break up with him. but instead I just told her I did. but I didnt so i went behind her back.. she found out and everything ...
A. 1 February 2010: You are at the stage in your life when you have to choose between letting him go or standing up to your mom. Your mom may not like him at first but she will be happy in end as long as your happy. Bring him home one day and prove to her that he is a ... (read in full...)
Guy friend sleeping over at girlfriend's place
Q. My girlfriend has a guy friend she has known since she was really young. Since she is going out with me, the guy friend still wants to stay over at my girlfriend's place all the time. I felt a bit awkward. Is this normal? ...
A. 1 February 2010: This is normal for you to feel this way and you should talk to her about her. By you not showing any anger that I can tell it means you trust her and there probably is no reason to not trust her. They are probably like brother and sister and this ... (read in full...)
Other guys are propositioning my Girl friend!
Q. My girl friend says other guys are proposing her because we are in a long distance relationship and she keep on telling me, but i don't want to hear that because is making me to be insecure. I see her after every one month for three days.The thing ...
A. 1 February 2010: First thing is that if you trust her completely tell her that it makes you uncomfortable hearing about these other guys and she doesn't have to tell you because you trust her to be faithful to you.
As for the christian thing I don't know of any ... (read in full...)
I'm in a bad way right now and need your help to get over her...
Q. Hey everyone..I'm in a big mess right now..and i need help getting out of this depression!I know that this is a bit long..but plz have the patience to read the whole thing! Thanks!:) My relationship of 2+ years ended exactly a month back! Sh...
A. 1 February 2010: You have to realize that the feelings that you are expressing here are on a one way street. She will never give you the love you deserve no matter how hard you try and I think that you know this. I understand how you feel, you're able to look past ... (read in full...)
Blow job problem!
Q. Ok i started seeing this guy about late november and in december I tried to give him a blow job (doing what i've always done in previous relationships which never had any problems to say in the least!). However after about ten minutes of nothing ...
A. 1 February 2010: When you two are in the mood get him to start directing what he wants you to do. All guys like different things and it will take you forever to figure him out if he doesn't help you along. It is a very good aspect of the relationship to be able to ... (read in full...)
I'm a nerd, he's popular. I'm shy, we aren't friends. So how do I tell him I like him?
Q. I am a very quiet girl at school, and am considered one of the nerds of 8th grade. But I really like this guy, and he is way more popular then me. I want to tell him how I feel, but I am VERY shy, and I'm too afraid to do it. We aren't really ...
A. 1 February 2010: Slip him a note or send him a message, something where there you can be open and honest and his friends stay out of it. I can't say for sure that he is interested but he does know that you exist so that counts for something. If you give him a note ... (read in full...)
Is it a bad thing that I want something to go wrong between them
Q. I like this one guy ... A LOT , he's everything ive ever wanted , ... but hes dating someone else , QUESTION; is it a bad thing that i want something to go wrong between them , and i want them to break up ? ... beacuase i feel like a bad person...
A. 29 January 2010: Its not a bad thing at all for these thoughts to pop into your head, its perfectly natural. It would be wrong to act on them though.
As for what you can do about this; you could flirt with him and let him know that your interested. That is perf... (read in full...)
Should guys shave their penis?
Q. Should guys shave their penis...
A. 29 January 2010: That's a very broad topic. I would have to say that alot of girls do like a well groomed man but its not something that you have to do. It all depends on whether you like it or not.
I have been manscaping as it is called for years now even when... (read in full...)
This is my first boyfriend and all we do is sit closer! what now?
Q. This guy asked me out and since then the only thing different is he sits by me more often on the bus. Half the time we're on the bus we don't talk. This is my first boyfriend and i don't know what to do. any advice?...
A. 27 January 2010: Don't be afraid to cuttle up to him. He should get the idea that you are really into him and start to hold you more. He's probably nervous too, so hold his hand, rest your head on his shoulder or some other physical contact. The subtle things will ... (read in full...)
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