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| | *oungandrestless's profile:hi im a 21 year old canadian woman. i am living with my fiance whom i love and have a dog and a cat. i love talking with people and helping them with problems. i dont claim to know everything and have no real "qualifications" exept that i love everyone and want to see them happy. i only give my opinion on questions but i hope that they help. where i work i am the girl to come to if someone needs advice, and i have always been the "mother" of the group.
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Do I take heed of the Value Judgements of others? Or can my fiance and I find happiness following our dreams to help others?
Q. im having a bit of a personal crisis in my life right now, this may take a while to explain so bear with me. When i was a teen i had 2 best friends, we had all been home schooled and spent as much time together as we could. that all changed ...
A. 30 July 2011: thank you for the help, my parents have actually come to include damien in the family very well in the last year. we can actually sit down to a dinner and have a great conversation, without it being awkward or embarrassing. i am very sure that he is ... (read in full...)
He feels like the love of my life...and I just don't know what to do!
Q. I have lost the man I have loved the most and whom I still think is "the one". We are both 29. We had an instant connection and our relationship was fantastic. We shared so many things in common and really supported one another in each other's ...
A. 30 July 2011: i totally understand, i dont know how i could live on without my fiance in my life, he has become my whole life. this may not have to be the end forever, he may just need to find stability in his life again. if you do want to leave a note just keep ... (read in full...)
He feels like the love of my life...and I just don't know what to do!
Q. I have lost the man I have loved the most and whom I still think is "the one". We are both 29. We had an instant connection and our relationship was fantastic. We shared so many things in common and really supported one another in each other's ...
A. 29 July 2011: unfortunately when someone has a huge upset in their life, like losing a long term job, it can make them change their entire life. he may have felt that after the loss of the job that he needed to re-think where his life was headed, and decided that ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I bleed a little?
Q. Hi, i have a little question. Im a virgin but have been finered about twice by my boyfriend. After he fingered me today, i went to the toilet and noticed blood on my knickers. Is that normal? I am due my period in a few days however i dont think its ...
A. 29 July 2011: this is actually a very simple answer, yes it is normal. if you are still a virgin your hymen is still intact, and that is what makes you bleed during your first time having sex. if your boyfriend has been fingering you it is very plausible that he ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my fiancée I kissed a girl at my bachelor party?
Q. Hi, one creepy loser here. I'm getting married at the end of August and had my bachelor party last weekend. To cut a long story short I got extremely drunk at the party and kissed another girl. It lasted less than a few seconds and nothing more...
A. 29 July 2011: dont sweat it, it was your bachelor party, the one last night you get to do something stupid. honestly it will be much easier if you just tell her and apologize than if she finds out by accident from one of her or your friends. if she loves you and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has aftershave that ex gave him and I don't like it
Q. I know this sounds ridiculous, but my boyfriend has this aftershave that his ex-gf bought him and when he wears it it makes me really angry inside. He obviously doesn't know this because I would look like a joke. He's wearing it more and more and it ...
A. 29 July 2011: an easy way out of this one is simply to buy him an aftershave that you like, and tell him you would really like it if he wore it for you. there is no need to mention the ex gf. the real issue is that you are insecure about your relationship and are ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend looks at friend's facebook profiles when I am sleeping!
Q. my bf of almost 14 months gets on my facebook while im sleeping to look at other girls profiles. he also watches porn while im sleeping and even mutes the laptop so i cant hear. what is going on??...
A. 30 May 2011: unfortunately if he is refusing to even admit or talk about it with you i have to admit it sounds like this relationship is at an end. if he was willing to try to stop, to try to get help, or even to admit he had a problem, there would be hope that ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend looks at friend's facebook profiles when I am sleeping!
Q. my bf of almost 14 months gets on my facebook while im sleeping to look at other girls profiles. he also watches porn while im sleeping and even mutes the laptop so i cant hear. what is going on??...
A. 27 May 2011: i actually had a very similar problem with my fiance several years ago. he had cheated on me and was watching porn behind my back, or in front of me. it even got to the point where he would blindfold me in bed and watch muted porn while we had ... (read in full...)
Why is masturbating so painful for me?
Q. So I'm a virgin but I masturbate with a vibrator. It's a 6 inch bullet so is rock hard. Every time i've used it to penetrate it's really hurt! I have to use lube every time before hand so i'm really worried that when i first have sex it will really ...
A. 27 May 2011: i can understand your frustration as ive gone through it too. i have found that arousing yourself before penetration is helpful, and ive also found that just a hard bullet wont do it for me, ive experimented a little with different vibes and found ... (read in full...)
Should I stop stretching and bending my fingers?
Q. Hi Cupid. This isn't about love but it's a small question. When im in class or just bored I start messing with my hands. I gently yank my fingers and then I bend them one at a time to each side. I was just wondering if this helps in any way to ge...
A. 27 May 2011: i do the same thing, my fingers are actually double jointed so i have a great range of weird things i can do with them! there is absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as you do not over extend your fingers, in fact it can be very good for the ... (read in full...)
Brother exposed himself to me when we were younger. Did my parents not take enough action?
Q. when i was younger me and my younger brother were very close. we did everything together, told everything to eachother. When i was about 14 and my brother was 13 he was going through puberty and was very confused. one day when we were alone he ...
A. 26 May 2011: hey so new development on this front! me and my fiance had worked past the whole incident that happened with me and my brother all those years ago, and then easter dinner came along. We were at my grandparents house, and everything was going great, ... (read in full...)
Should I become promiscuous?
Q. I will come out and say it: due to a bad and nonexistent upbringing, I used to be the "nice guy" with very little luck. I am 24 years old and I have been with only 7 women in my life (mostly due to luck). Due to fortune and the great advice from an ...
A. 26 May 2011: well buddy i hope your ready for a long life of never being satisfied or truly love by a woman because from the sounds of it no woman would ever put up with your "philosophies" or jerk attitude. good luck ... (read in full...)
Short and sweet: I'm falling in love with my best friend!
Q. i appologize ahead of time or my grammar and spelling. ill be short and sweet. im falling in love with my best friend. hes so sweet and i feel like hes perfect for me. he sends mixed signals like completly flirting with me and asking to hangou...
A. 26 May 2011: its really hard at your age to decipher relationships. for a boy his age, he is definetly going to be flirting with a lot of girls. it is very possible that he feels attracted to you, but doesnt know how to come across wihout ruining the ... (read in full...)
I've never dated anyone who looks like him before!
Q. My boyfriend is amazing. His personality is everything I've ever wished for, and he's tall and decent looking. Despite that, I usually don't fall for guys that look like him: mature with heavy features. I usually fall for cute guys with soft ...
A. 26 May 2011: i know how you feel, my fiance wasnt anything like i ever wanted! i was always into tall dark and brooding, with slight features that seemed almost feminine. Instead i fell for tall, broad shouldered, blonde and blue eyed! at first i wondered why i ... (read in full...)
I queef, therefore I blush. Make it stop?
Q. Here's an embarassing question... So, when I get turned on, my vagina seems to open up and suck in some air. The result is queefing. This doesn't happen if something penis sized is inserted (except once with a very small penis), but if something...
A. 26 May 2011: sometimes just changing the position you are in will help, i know that in many positions (especially where i am elevated) i will queef like nothing else, and yes it is embarrasing, us girls have been taught that our bodys should not make sounds at ... (read in full...)
Just how likely is my penis size going to be a problem when I do become sexually active?
Q. This will seem like it's verging on a question I've seen asked a hundred or more times across the net, but bear with. Does size matter? I've read up on it enough to have my own thoughts on this, but it's still playing on my mind a lot. I've rece...
A. 26 May 2011: as has been said, your size is definetly not a problem, even though you may believe it is below average, its not a bad thing. All these guys who brag cuz they have such HUGE penis's never actually tell you the truth of it. A normal woman doesnt want ... (read in full...)
Why are my parents strict? The rest of my family isn't
Q. My cousins already have children and don't live at home. I'm a grown adult and my parents never want me to leave home until I'm married. I can't stand their outdated rules anymore. When my cousins were living at home, they were also allowed to have ...
A. 26 May 2011: every parent only strives to do what is best for their child. it may be that they are overly strict but they believe they are helping you. You cannot base your family life with your cousins. If you are truly unhappy with how you are being treated ... (read in full...)
Oral sex with a canker sore?
Q. so i perform oral sex on my gf and i had a canker sore... im super scared and so is she...can she catch somthing from it??? and if so what?? ...
A. 26 May 2011: well, it depends on if you meant canker sore or cold sore. A canker is caused by excess bacteria and ancid your mouth and will cause a wound but nothing more. A cold sore is a form of herpes, and can be passed to other people, but you can also pass ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be messed around by a guy. How do I determine what he wants?
Q. Hi, So, I met a guy a while ago and i was seeing him for a about a month. So much has happened. To cut it really really short; we were seeing each other, going really well, couple weeks in we argued on a night out because i got a tad jealous ...
A. 19 March 2011: i think yoiu serioulsy need to reconsider your relationship with him. your describing a guy who can just up and walk away from a good relationship with no just cause. and getting jealous is not a just cause it is a normal event in any relationship. ... (read in full...)
I only talked to the new guy. Nothing else. How can I get my regular boyfriend back?
Q. i need a bit of relationship advice now (sorry for this being long) im 14 and my bfs 15 were both in year 10 and the other day we were at a party recently we have been inseparable i dont know why but any way at this party we were at there was thi...
A. 19 March 2011: well the first thing you need to realize is that your nbf was flirting with you and was trying to get in on your relationship. obviously it worked. also your bf was very immature and needs to do some serious growing up, but so do you. you always ... (read in full...)
How can I let her down gently? She was a virgin. I was drunk. Her family could be a problem
Q. hello. i slept with my best mates sister the other day. im 20 shes 18 it was just a drunken mistake at a party. but she thinks were together how can let her down gently and without her family finding out. also make thing worse she was a virgin. plz ...
A. 19 March 2011: you cant, its plain and simple, she is going to get hurt, and you are most likely going to lose a friend over it. but you need to face your mistake! i understand that you wre drunk and not thinking properly but whats done is done! yes she thinks ... (read in full...)
She's 59 and I'm 18 so how can I tell her I love her? Also she's with someone.
Q. Help i am in love with my mums friend and i think she likes me too. But she is with some one and she has two kids. I am 18. i really want to tell her but i am not sure because she is with this other person and she is 59 and she doesn't act nor look...
A. 19 March 2011: the age wouldnt be such a big deal, while such relationships are not common they do happen. the thing that is a problem is that she is in a relationship. the last thing you want to do is try and ruin someone elses happiness for your own. i ... (read in full...)
I am inexperiened in love. And too embarassed that I'm a virgin. Should I reveal this to him?
Q. I have a problem that i feel quite embarassed about. I'm almost 27 years old, and i'm still a virgin. That makes me feel bad enough, but what makes me feel even worse is that i am currently interested in a man who is 23 years older than me. He appa...
A. 19 March 2011: first of all, you have no reason to be ashamed of your virginity, it may sound rude but many men like virgins because they are able to teach them everything the way they want it. your inexperience will mean nothing because if he really likes you, he ... (read in full...)
I'm out of options and need answers please on how do I cope with his porn addiction?
Q. Hi there. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and in 2009 i noticed that there was porn on his lap top. Which at the time made me upset, but i had to deal with it because i was just recovering from a serious surgery so obvi...
A. 19 March 2011: you really need to see a counciler, the time you know that porn is becoming an issue is when he stops wanting sex from you. he has an addiction, and yes it is that because he feels the need to hide it and lie to you, and becomes very defensive when ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend's best friend is gay.
Q. I think my boyfriend's best friend is gay. Which wouldn't be a problem, I just don't understand how my boyfriend doesn't see it. Anytime I say something about it to my boyfriend he gets really defensive and says his friend isn't. I just find it ...
A. 1 March 2011: it is very possible that your mans friend is gay, but the bigger issue is, it isnt your problem. if he has not decided to come out of the closet to your man, then it is his decision. the only reason you should be concerned about this is if the is ... (read in full...)
Not sure what to think about wife's spanking-fantasy...
Q. My wife wants me to spank her before/during sex. This probably sounds like every guy's dream but there is a bit of a sinister twist that is making me feel a bit uncomfortable. When I asked her where the spanking fantasy had come from, she said t...
A. 20 February 2011: it is really not that odd what your wife is feeling. it really completely depends on how your wife finds her fulfillment. the underlying cause of this may be that she secretly feels exited by domination, it may not be the actual spanking that ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel this way during anal sex? Is it harmful?
Q. Ok here goes nothing. I am a cross dresser married to a delightfully beautiful woman, who knows and approves totally. This is my second marriage. Recently, she confessed to me that she desired to play the male role in the bedroom. While it was init...
A. 20 February 2011: while i cannot definetly answer from a mans point of view i can empathise. my fiance regularily likes to enter me analy, it can be slightly painful, and the feeling of having to "go" is the body's natural response to having something in that cavity. ... (read in full...)
Should I become promiscuous?
Q. I will come out and say it: due to a bad and nonexistent upbringing, I used to be the "nice guy" with very little luck. I am 24 years old and I have been with only 7 women in my life (mostly due to luck). Due to fortune and the great advice from an ...
A. 20 February 2011: ok, from a womens perspective you are being a selfish jerk. "only 7 women??" like thats a bad thing? and why exactly is it so wrong to hold out for a good woman, your only 24! if you wanna "let loose" and sleep with a bunch of bimbo's, be my guest ... (read in full...)
How do I forgive him for his "fun"?
Q. Hey. So my boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. Last year, I found some posts he made on craigslist looking for some "fun". Obviously, I was extremely upset and confronted him. He apologized and cried and all that good stuff. I'm ...
A. 12 February 2011: you need to give yourself and the relationship some time to think this all over. obviously he is having some issues staying commited, so you need to talk to him seriously and find out why he did it, and if there is anything that can be done to ... (read in full...)
Should I stop talking to him?
Q. I've been at my job for 5 months now. I met a guy that is so nice and cool we have this bond like if we where relatives. He is older than me and calls me his little sister and watches over me. He just told me yesterday he is not allowed to talk to ...
A. 4 February 2011: i really think you have already answered your own question. i really think you need to respect his wifes request and maybe slow down the relationship for a while. she may be very insecure about their marriage and is afraid of you. you may not have ... (read in full...)
I know in my heart that I deserve better. But I love him.
Q. I really don't know where to start. this is a long story so please brace yourself. Im really confused and honestly don't know what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. Hes my first bf (Im 18 and were the same age). I want to expla...
A. 4 February 2011: honey, you already know the answer to your own question, the only real question is this: what are you going to do about it? you say he loves you, and maybe he does, but he also loves othe women. this is not right, and deep down he does not respect ... (read in full...)
So what comes next? I don't want to jump right into sex so do we start using our hands next?
Q. Alright. I'm 24 and I've been dating a guy (26) for a little over a month. I like where things are going with him but am a little uncomfortable with the idea of sleeping with him just yet... it hasn't been proposed but let's face it, it's on his m...
A. 4 February 2011: i think if you ar comfortable with satisfying him with your hand or mouth, that is ok, just make sure that he understands that it will go no further than that. you need to actually talk to him about this, do not do it while you are in the middle of ... (read in full...)
I love my teacher who's 7 years older, but he's in love with someone else!
Q. I'm second year high school and I'm in love with my English teacher. He's 7 years older but that doesn't matter to me. My mom knows about it but we never talked about it. I transferred to another school because my mom was mad being with this ...
A. 4 February 2011: oh darlin, this is going to be a hard road for you, but you need to accept the fact that he is not romantically interested in you. if he has another woman he is in love with, you need to leave it at that. i know you feel you are in love with him, ... (read in full...)
Sex drive issues, it's all going downhill!
Q. Im 21 and my spouse is 30. we've been together for almost 4 years now. the problem with us is sex. I want it all the time and cant get enough of it and well, he hardly ever wants it. when we first started dating, we had sex a lot, every chance we ...
A. 4 February 2011: does he have any issues getting aroused or staying aroused? part of hte problem is that he is worried he will be embarrassed by his inability to "do the deed" if you truly want to marry him you need to open your lines of communication. i understand ... (read in full...)
She is unhappy and nothing I do seems to work!
Q. So me and this girl have been dating for a year now, and she is wonderful and amazing.. but lately she has been going through alot with life issues, such as having to move far away, hating her job, and etc. and we've talked about it a lot and she ...
A. 4 February 2011: she may be taking her hurt out on you and subconsiously be laying the blame at your door. as a woman who has gone through depression, i know how hard it can be, both on myself and my fiacne. when we first moved in together we did not have a good ... (read in full...)
Can somebody please tell me what is going on with this man? I'm so confused!
Q. This man that I see everyday flirts with me and touches me in friendly gestures. He said we needed to talk soon about me liking him. He watches me and sometimes walks back and forth to his office when he knows I’m in the hallway and he makes sure he ...
A. 4 February 2011: i think it is fine to enjoy a flirtation with this man, but dont look for anything further. from what you have described he loves the game and the compliments, but has no real interest in you. has he ever asked about what makes you tick??? about ... (read in full...)
I want to stick by him but I don't think I can handle him being in contact with this woman, who is pregnant with his child.
Q. I have been with my husband for almost 24 yrs. We are highschool sweethearts. We've been married for 14. We have a 20yr old son. This last yr he found me flirting with a guy online. He took it upon himself to find his own affair with a 24 yr old ...
A. 4 February 2011: that really is a hard situation, but it can be ok. your life with your husband is never going to be easy or simple, because no matter what he is going to have this responsability. if he is sure that the child is his, then the only thing he has to do ... (read in full...)
She cuts short her time with me (her friend) to see her boyfriend...
Q. Hi, Short and simply, I am a man and I have a friend who is a woman. She says I am her close friend, but she also has a boyfriend. Now, sometimes we are out together and she says she has to go because she has to meet her boyfriend. Or she cuts sho...
A. 23 December 2010: well bud you have to accept that you are only the friend. you will always come second the the boyfriend and that is how it should be. if you did have a girlfriend and she prefered hanging out with her best guy friend to you, you would be worried. he ... (read in full...)
Porn, looking through hooker profiles, creating an on-line dating profile, wanting a threesome...I'm seriously questioning his motives!
Q. I'm in a bit of a dilemma and I need your opinion! OK, I'll start by saying that my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months, and we see each other almost every single day, and he truly seems to love me. He speaks of marriage and he ...
A. 23 December 2010: well it sounds like he has a porn addiction. has he been single for a while? men can develop a dependance on porn, even when they are in a relationship. dont worry about the asians, just because a man fantasizes about something does not mean he ... (read in full...)
How do you get rid of cum taste?
Q. How do you get rid of cum taste? I deepthroat my hubby last night and he went, which i was hoping for since i want to try new things, but when he did i gagged a little and swallowed it. Ever since then I cant get rid of the taste in my throat. I ...
A. 23 December 2010: lol well he only suggestion i have is try some acidic juice, some orange maybe. brush your teeth very well and gargle with mouthwash. if it bothers you very much you may not want to do it again, otherwise, you may just have to get used to it. good ... (read in full...)
Brother exposed himself to me when we were younger. Did my parents not take enough action?
Q. when i was younger me and my younger brother were very close. we did everything together, told everything to eachother. When i was about 14 and my brother was 13 he was going through puberty and was very confused. one day when we were alone he ...
A. 3 December 2010: thanks everyone for your answers. they helped alot!!! ... (read in full...)
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