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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Are these signs he might be interested?
Q. I am extremely confused about the signals that a guy makes when he likes you. I know one guy that seems to be interested in me, but he hasn't talked to me yet, so i'm not exactly positive. These things that he does include: frequently glancing or ...
A. 27 April 2010: If he's doing all that I would say that he is interested and a little shy. An easy way to find out if he is interested is to go and talk to him. From that conversation even if it really doesn't go anywhere because he is nervous you will be able to ... (read in full...)
I think my best friend's b/f is flirting with me
Q. One of my best friends has a bf. Me and him have become pretty close friends. Latley, I've noticed that he is flirting with me (I think). I did like him somewhat before they started going out. Now that they have been going out I seem to like him ...
A. 27 April 2010: If they do break up and you're interested then a good friend would ask her if its ok if you date him. There is no harm in asking or even playful flirting as friends. Some friendships revolve around flirting even if both of you are in relationships. ... (read in full...)
Tried to get even with my cheating boyfriend, and now I am pregnant.
Q. Hi, I hope I will not be judged for asking this question as I made a mistake in trying to get even on my cheating boyfriend- something I will never do again!!!! I am pregnant, my last period was on the 1st of January and I discovered my pr...
A. 26 April 2010: Mod note: Sorry we can post your reply since we can't have a debate on this page. Any objections would have to be done in private. I will apologize for the immature statement but the aunt was just trying to bring all the other issues with the child ... (read in full...)
Break up? Stay together? Baby involved now!
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up for a month, she dated this guy, she got pregnant. She told me before she might be, but the day after we got back together it was confirmed, I dont want to abandon her but I dont want her to have this baby, I want to go, ...
A. 26 April 2010: This is a really tough thing to choose since it is obvious that you care about her. It really comes down to whether or not you are ready to be that childs father because that is what you will basically be. If not then even though its hard it would ... (read in full...)
Married man having platonic relationship with a married woman?
Q. Is it o.k for married man to have a platonic relationship with a married woman? My husband recently reconnected with a friend whose a girl in high shcool. They've never had any kind of romantic relationship, although my husband had admitted in ...
A. 23 April 2010: Of course they can just be friends. Just because you are married or dating someone does not mean you have to give up all your opposite sex friends. She is nothing more than an old friend from high school who is nice to talk to again after all those ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, she's 14 and may be pregnant. Could her dad file charges?
Q. I'm 18 and she is 14 turning 15 in less than two months she might be pregnant?Her mom has legal custody her dad doesn't,does that mean only her mom can determine whether to press charges,but her mom is okay with me and her daughter.Help me? what do ...
A. 22 April 2010: If she is pregnant then you need to take care of her whatever her decision is going to be. If she keeps it or not. People are trying to give you hell for this but the actions are in the past and there is nothing saying that you do not truely love ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my account a secret from my family?
Q. Hi I asked a question about a week ago 'Am I Gay or Bi?' and gave read the answers and most if you said Im Gay so I was happy that the decision is made so I joined a Teen Chat Site for Gays and I'm happy chatting and stuff but I hate sneaking around ...
A. 22 April 2010: You talking to others about this is probably very helpful so I think the question really is: are you ready to come out to your family? If not then try to not get caught but sooner or later you will have to tell them whats going on. Use all the ... (read in full...)
Do couples have to do everything together?
Q. my boyfriend doesnt want me to do anything without him. i like to go to concerts but he says no every time, he will always say that artist is crap, even if i know he likes their songs. and then he says if he doesnt go i cant go without him. he d...
A. 20 April 2010: Way to go :)
Now no matter what happens you come out on top. I hope he changes, if not for you then for himself in the future. ... (read in full...)
I text like there's no tomorrow, and my parents get really mad!
Q. So I've gone over my texting limit before, and my parents always get REALLY mad. I think last month I went over by 100 (not even) this time I went over by like 1,600. :( Is there a way to fix this issue?! I don't even wanna know how much it's gonna ...
A. 20 April 2010: If you can't get unlimited texting which isn't that expensive to get then prepaid may work. The problem with pre paid is they'll charge you like 15 cents a text so you may end up spending more money. I'd go with the unlimited text and see if they ... (read in full...)
Will our relationship be negatively affected by this?
Q. Me and my boifrend masterbate while talking on the phone evryday. Can this harm me in any way?...
A. 20 April 2010: There shouldn't be a problem with this at all. Its a way to have a bit of a sexual relationship when its hard to see each other all the time. I don't really understand when you say harm but I don't think its a problem or that there is anything wrong ... (read in full...)
How can I tan without burning?
Q. Hey. I’m going on holiday aboard this summer and it’s gonna be very hot! I know it’s only April but I need some advice. I’m a bridesmaid at a wedding a few weeks after so I’m not allowed to burn and need to get some kind of tan! I’m fair skinned ...
A. 20 April 2010: Its good that you're thinking of this early because with fair skin it will take alot longer to build up a tan. I don't really support tanning beds but they might be your best bet because you can start off really slow and work up to the tan. A couple ... (read in full...)
Is casual sex a bad idea?
Q. Does anybody think casual sex is a bad idea? I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long there is contraception being used. What do other people think thank you x...
A. 19 April 2010: I think that as long as your safe about it and that is what you want there is nothing wrong with it. Just out of safety it would be good to know the person a bit but otherwise people are sexual beings.
Watch out though if lots of people find out ... (read in full...)
Do couples have to do everything together?
Q. my boyfriend doesnt want me to do anything without him. i like to go to concerts but he says no every time, he will always say that artist is crap, even if i know he likes their songs. and then he says if he doesnt go i cant go without him. he d...
A. 19 April 2010: There is no difference. Couples do not have to do everything together. There is some joining of the lives but there has to be that separate component. It sounds like he is just trying to control you. How long have you two been together? I would go ... (read in full...)
He's going to visit a nude beach -- should I be worried?
Q. I have a friend I've been involved with for 3 years. He told me not too long ago that he and some of his boys are going on vacation in Jamaica, and that he plans on going to the nude beach there. The way he was talking about it he's been wanting ...
A. 19 April 2010: It is a chance for him to go see naked women all over the place but keep in mind that even if he wanted to there is a no sexual act enforced at the beaches. Men can't walk around with erections at all, they will be told to cover up. If you have not ... (read in full...)
Is this really karma, like I believe it is?
Q. does anyone believe in karma? cos when i was 16 my mum kicked me out, due to me having a lot of problems and she couldnt cope, but we're closer than ever now. but i lived in 2 hostels at the time, first one was for only a month, and i got bullie...
A. 19 April 2010: I tend to make alot of jokes to my friends about karma but I don't know if I truely believe in it. I think it is more based on the fact that those people were will to take risks to steal so eventually you will take a risk and end up with the ... (read in full...)
How to make out? I keep closing my mouth?
Q. I was making out with this guy and i noticed that i do this really weird thing where i close my mouth, while his tongue is in my mouth. how can i not close my mouth while kissing him? what exactly are you supposed to do?...
A. 15 April 2010: Keep your focus on keeping your mouth open then relax and let everything happen naturally. Its just a relex of your body to close your mouth so it will take some work. You can also try your tongue in his mouth to get confidence with the whole thing. ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend dumped me many times!
Q. My ex girlfriend dumped me many times. She told me she will back with me again so she will never dump me again because she want to take time. Few days later then she asked me to back with her i was like sure! i am back with her again. I asked her if ...
A. 15 April 2010: It sounds like she just wants to control you as much as she can. Cut all contact with this one then go out and find yourself a girl who actually wants to be with you for who you are. She wants you to be there to be used when she needs you and ... (read in full...)
I was thinking about showing up at his place with my raincoat on and nothing underneath for the one hour drive to my mom's cabin. Do guys like things like this? Or, is it too forward?
Q. I am a 24 year old woman and single (I hope not for much longer). To make a long story short, when I met my boyfriend, I took a deep breath and went after. The problem was that he was rebounding. Over a period of time, he got over that and came ...
A. 15 April 2010: Personally I would love that. Its great when the woman takes control to get what she wants. This is also an all is clear for him sign that you're interested in the next level. I say go for it and let him know what you want him to do when you get ... (read in full...)
What does it usually mean when you're dancing with a guy and you catch him looking away? (male opinion preferred)
Q. I don't ever want to be that girl who is not wanted around. I was dancing with this one guy at a club and it was a pretty crazy night so yes I was drunk but coherent. Everything was all right and then I notice him looking up and away. It seemed to ...
A. 13 April 2010: I don't think it really means a whole lot. He was probably observing his surroundings since I know from experience alot of bad things can happen really fast in the bar so its good to know whats going on. Also he probably doesn't want to stare at you ... (read in full...)
I love him, but will this ever work if I'm not attracted to him?
Q. I am falling completely head-over-heels for my best friend/boyfriend (we don't really have a title for our relationship). He's funny, he's charming, he's sweet, he's caring, he's loyal and protective and everything I've ever looked for in a man. We ...
A. 13 April 2010: Maybe you could try to encourage him to lose the weight and get into shape. Its not selfish for you to do this because in the end its a really good thing for him as well. Offer to work out and get active with him, physical activity is said to ... (read in full...)
He's watching porn -- am I just not good enough?
Q. i recently descovered my boyfriend has been watching loads of porn on his computer ive asked him before about it but hes always denied it i had a strong feeling about it so i looked at his history and it came up with loads of redtube sites im so ...
A. 13 April 2010: It has nothing to do with you, what you do and no he`s not comparing you to the porn girls. Guys masturbate alot on average, even if you fully please him in the bedroom he may still want to masturbate an hour or two later. Its just how some guys ... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't recognise my voice when I call him from a different line.
Q. I knw it might sound crazy but is a big problem to me. .my bf does not recognise my voice when i call from a different line. .its so confusing and suspicious considering the fact that i talk with him 3 to 4 times a day nd he stil don't recognise my ...
A. 13 April 2010: He may have insensitive ears to the different sounds of peoples voices. I wouldn`t jump to conclusions. It took me months to be able to tell my gf and her sister apart on the phone, they would play tricks on me because of it. Also different lines ... (read in full...)
I feel so lonely cause I have no one to crush on.
Q. I just got over the crush i had for the last 8 months. It ended really horribly. Now i feel really depressed and sad. When i usually have a crush on someone i feel so happy. But my school has no great guys other then the one i just got over and all ...
A. 12 April 2010: The great guys are usually found where you least suspect it. They usually don't like to be out in the open all the time. Hang out with your friends and be with the people you want to be around and the flirty attitude will come out of the confidence ... (read in full...)
G/f tells me she hates her ex so why do I find emails from her to him?
Q. So, i am stuck between a rock and a hard place. My girlfriend keeps telling me how much she hates her ex, But just a few minutes ago i got on the computer to check my email and her email was still on the screen (for the second time this month)so i ...
A. 12 April 2010: If you have seen that there is nothing to be suspicious about and since you probably shouldn't have read the email I would just leave it be. She may hate everything about him but not want to be rude by not answering his emails. She probably does ... (read in full...)
How can I cut her out of my life???
Q. So I had this good good friend a while back me and her and I were extremely close, about a week and half ago I decided to write her a myspace message during which I looked up her status and moods, I found out she was pregnant which was a shocker so ...
A. 10 April 2010: I'm going to start off by saying that people probably have read this and thought you were terrible but I'm not one of them. I have/had a friend who was a compusive liar as well. Her stories were more like "I totaled another of her families cars ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of losing my virginity!
Q. Me and this guy want to have sex for the first time, but I'm scared out of my pants here. He's not a virgin, and I am, and he said he'd take it slow. Honestly, I'm just freaking out thinking about it. I really think he's the right guy for my first ...
A. 10 April 2010: Everyone is always nervous for their first time but in the end the people I know including my gf who when we had sex she was a virgin and I was not say that its not as big of a deal that its made out to be. Take a little more time to run through ... (read in full...)
He doesn't understand how much it hurt us
Q. How can I make my husband really see how much pain he has caused me and our children since I discovered his affair? He is very eager to put it in the past and try and move forward. I am too. But I feel like I want him to realize how devastating it ...
A. 10 April 2010: The only way to make him realize this is to bring more pain into your family so if you have to do something sit him down and explain everything to him. After that if you're going to stay with him just let it go. I've have seen friends parents go ... (read in full...)
Was he implying anything?
Q. what does it mean when a guy kiss his girl on her forehead or her hand? He is planning to buy a house,so he took me there to see it. what does his action mean? does it mean he include me in his life now? ...
A. 10 April 2010: I think that it is a sign of caring without being sexual. When ever I have done that I mean to show that I care about that person in a way thats not sexual. It sound like he wants you to be a part of the experience with him and is focused on the ... (read in full...)
Should I invite him to my party?
Q. I'm having a birthday party in the summer and I want to invite this guy that I have liked since the beginning of the school year. He has a girlfriend and they have been going out for a couple of months. I don't think they will be together though ...
A. 8 April 2010: If you are going to invite him chances are he will bring his gf unless you say specifically not to. In that case he will either not go or have to make some excuse as to where he is going that his gf can't come. Your best bet is to just invite him ... (read in full...)
I'm male and like to give head but I'm NOT gay!
Q. How come girls think guys who suck another guy are gay? It happens. I'd much rather be sucking a girl but I like giving a guy head every once in a while. Is there something wrong with that?...
A. 8 April 2010: I wouldn't say its gay at all. Gay is if you want a relationship with someone of the same sex. I hope the term bisexual does not offend you. There is nothing wrong with doing what you enjoy. It does not hurt anyone else and there is nothing illegal ... (read in full...)
Serious question about sex!
Q. I am kinda scared i might have came inside my girlfriend today. we were having sex without a condom and then i felt i was gunna cum so i pulled out quick and came on her but it wasnt a lot but i know i didnt cum in her, well im pretty sure i didnt ...
A. 8 April 2010: Go out and get a pregnancy test or a doctor would be able to do one as well. Other than that there is really no certain way to know.
I know you are probably alredy thinking this but if you do not want a kid it would be best to get protection. ... (read in full...)
Crossing the line in a friendship...???
Q. Why would a girl who is "just friends" with a guy go out on the town with him behind his girlfriend's back when she KNOWS he has a girlfriend and the girlfriend doesn't like her and thinks she's after him? If they get caught, they'll be accused of ...
A. 8 April 2010: To be honest it just makes their friendship easier for the jealous gf to handle if she doesn't know about it. I mean if they're fooling around then thats a big problem but I was in the situation a couple of years back. My gf over reacted when I ... (read in full...)
Should I masterbate?
Q. I just told my dad i have considered masterbating. I dont know if I should do it though. Can anyone help me? Please message me as fast as possible! Thank you! ( Im 13 and a male.)...
A. 8 April 2010: Masturbation is perfectly healthy and is a good way to learn about your body. Try it out when you have time alone. Its nothing to worry about, most people male and female do it. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a jealous ex?
Q. Well, I dated this guy for about four months. Finally we broke up and he got all jealous and pissed off about it. Now everytime he texts me he says, " where you? who you with? Who are you dating?" and more. Everytime I see him, he gets jealous if ...
A. 8 April 2010: Stop replying to his texts and talking to him at all. He's not even with you, he has no right to say anything like that. Tell him that then don't reply to anything else he says. This is his way of dealing with losing you and it is not a good way so ... (read in full...)
How can I keep the scumbag father of my child away from us?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 6 months pregnant by a scumbag, When I first found out that I was prego I told the baby's father and he said it wasnt his and to get an abortion....He really did not want any responsibilities for a another child. A few weeks later he...
A. 7 April 2010: Move out and get a lawyer now. If he is abusive the judge will give you full custody and he'll still have to pay for this kid. Once its all legalized if you ever see him again and he says anything to you he will be thrown in jail. Get the ... (read in full...)
I'm in need of ideas for her birthday gift.
Q. Hi, My girlfriends birthday is coming up very soon. I really need some help thinking of an original gift to get her (not jewelry, chocolate, etc.). I'm far from creative and would like a little help with something romantic. Of course I already...
A. 7 April 2010: You can try an activity of some sort. I don't know whats in your area but for example for my one year with my gf we are going zip lineing. Maybe you could set up some horse back riding, hike, or rent a boat of some sort and go out on the water if ... (read in full...)
It was so painful, every time I think about trying it again, I freak out.
Q. Hey Im 16 Me and my boyfriend tried to have sex for the first time a few nights ago and i was so nervous that it was like there was no hole at all.He tried using his finger and it hurt so much. It was so painful,why was it so sore ? ..a...
A. 7 April 2010: Masturbating will help. Also alot of fore play so theat you are ready to go and you have to find a way to relax as he enters you. Take some deep breaths and get him to go very slowly, also lube will probably help with this.
Its all about being rela... (read in full...)
Smelly genitalia!
Q. This is so weird to be writing about this as i can't tell anyone... im 15 and have a new boy friend, im worried i smell around the genital area, i shower a lot and make sure the hair is kept short but i can smell some sort of smell.. im not sure if ...
A. 7 April 2010: Just wanted to add that if you are really bothered by this talk to your doctor. Its amazing what they have out there to help with all sorts of these kind of things.
Your not alone with stuff like this. I know its not the same thing but I went in f... (read in full...)
She put my picture on the internet without my knowledge!
Q. Hi everyone i am 17 and really need suggestions from the parents out there. My mom thanks i have an anger problem. Today i found out 1 of the girls i hang out with at school took a picture of me and put it on facebook.(WITHOUT ME KNOWING UNTIL I ...
A. 7 April 2010: I'm just guessing that its facebook. First tell her to take it off I'd even bring it up to the school. My school didn't allow pics to be taken randomly at school for this very reason. If it is facebook you are able to connact the system ... (read in full...)
I'm not used to dealing with guys, could he like me?
Q. i want to know if this guy might like me. after class the other day he asked me if i would go to the fair with him because he didnt want to go alone. he mentioned that it might be fun. but the thing is is that we have to go anyway to get credit for ...
A. 6 April 2010: It sounds like he is interested in getting to know you, it sounds more like friends right now but that can easily change. Get to know him more and then you'll be able to tell. From this impression I would say yes he likes you. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I haven't a friend in the world
Q. I feel like i haven't a friend in the world. I finished school last year and all my friends went to collage and I didn't get into collage. I did have two close friends but one decided she,d rather be with her boyfriend and the other sees me like ...
A. 6 April 2010: Maybe its time to get out there and find friends who you can relate to. Its sad that she chooses her bf all the time and the other one actually has a reason but I know how hard it can be to keep in touch. A friend of mine is just working now and I ... (read in full...)
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