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I never pictured myself joining one of these websites because I always figured that I could handle things myself. But, as a normal teenager, I've been under alot of stress and realized that I can't always handle things alone.
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How do I tell my dad I am pregnant?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice. I'm 17 yrs. old and a senior in High school. Over the weekend I found out I was pregnant. I live with my father, my parents divorce was I was 9 and ...
A. 7 January 2015: My best friend found out she was pregnant when she was 20, and she was in that same situation as you. She lived with her father too, except her parents were never married. In fact, he never really got to see her grow up. She moved in with him when ... (read in full...)
What steps can I take to help me move on?
Q. Hi everyone thanks for reading or even just glancing at this . I am hurting so much at minute I have just found out that my ex bf who I still have feeling for is having a baby with his new gf. Is there any steps that will help me forget and move...
A. 7 January 2015: My best advice for you is to give it time. Time really heals all wounds, trust me on that. Don't linger on the past.
I've been in relationships before where I thought that I would never move on, but my little trick that really helps is to look forw... (read in full...)
Even my friends and parents think his friendship with this girl is dodgy
Q. My bf and I have been seeing each other for 1.5 years. But lately things haven't been going well for us because of his friendship with a particular girl. They have known each other for a few years and she is residing overseas. Yet he is dodgy about ...
A. 23 November 2014: I have experience with this! Has she been talking to him the entire time you guys have been dating? Do you trust him? My last relationship had this issue happen TWICE. My ex met a girl on a website, she lived 12 hours away from us, and he used to ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and not happy with the demands my boyfriend is making of me
Q. I am pregnant and due feb. I havent been with the dad for long.. the baby was defo a surprise. Heres my problems - I have moved in with my new partner just a mth ago.. he wont let me bring my cat which ive had for 9 yrs he wont let me ...
A. 17 October 2014: Woah! I see major red flags! This guy sounds like a bully. Why are you with him, honey? Let me tell you something, it's NOT HIS kid, he has no physical connection with this kid, by rights, it's yours, and if YOU want your mom there, then damn... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still friends with a woman he had sex with. Do I have the right to tell him not to stay friends?
Q. I've been in a relationship for over a year woth my boyfriend and we just had a disagreement because he recently told me about a women he slept with and still friends with. He says that she has always been their for him and has been a good friend. ...
A. 16 December 2013: Absolutely!
Well... You have the right to tell him how you feel about it. And it's up to him whether he respects your wishes or not.
I had the same problem with my boyfriend. When he told me that he slept with his best friend over 4 times...... (read in full...)
Out of all my past gf's she's the one who loved me the least yet I find her the hardest to get over.
Q. Has anyone seen that movie '500 days of summer'? Well I think it best sums up my "relationship" with this girl. Its been over a year now since I've known her and I've been pursuing. But after I saw this movie for a 2nd time I just learned a lot. ...
A. 3 November 2012: Take it from me... I'm one of those girls who doesn't want to fall in love. I've told many guys that, I might've said I loved them, but all guys were sort of expendable to me. Break up with one, date one the next week. As soon as they mention ... (read in full...)
He's turned on by the idea I'm a virgin?
Q. So me and the guy i've been seeing for quite a while brought up the conversation of sex the other day. It was interesting because he's slept with 6 girls and he was surprised I hadn't slept with anyone. In fact, he said that he found it sexy and ...
A. 21 October 2012: When I was 16, I was seeing this guy who was 21, we weren't dating, but we were FWB. At the time I was a virgin, and that just made him want get in my pants more. He was a guy who slept with 5 or more girls, even got one pregnant.
I never slept with... (read in full...)
She has a Major Crush on my boyfriend. We are both fed up with her. How do we get her to leave us alone for good
Q. My boyfriend works with a girl who loves my boyfriend. When her boyfriend broke up with her she was crying and my boyfriend listened to her and helped her. Everything was fine at that moment. But since then she has developed a major crush on my ...
A. 21 October 2012: I have this SAME exact problem! This girl was friends with my boyfriend and I, and when her boyfriend broke up with her, she came running to MY boyfriend. Now she's obsessed with him. She texts him all the time.
Here's my advice (and what I plan... (read in full...)
Man's point of view: Do men flirt with girls they aren't into?
Q. I NEED HELP! I have had a huge crush on one of my coworkers for years, he is also one of my best guy friends (we are both in our late 20s) he is a bit of a flirt with some of the girls we work (less hands-on than he is with me and just little ...
A. 14 October 2012: I may not be a man to give you this point of view... But I have the same exact situation. Except I don't like the guy. When we're at school, he'll slap by butt, poke, hug, tickle me, or even make rude sexual comments. Especially when people are ... (read in full...)
Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of online affairs?
Q. I am wondering after ending a relationship due to his compulsive cyber cheating, whether it can be seen as something addictive. I have noticed a lot of questions on here about it. Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of ...
A. 13 October 2012: Yes, I can see it happening.
I am a victim of this. I don't throw away a real relationship for some harmless online flirting, but I, however, cannot resist the urge to fly into the arms of my online friend even while I have a boyfriend.
It's ... (read in full...)
I made a mistake and my friends are punishing me for it. And excluding me, Can things get better and how?
Q. How can one mistake I made last a life time. It wasn't even a big one, it was a small insignificant act. When my "friends" organised an outing, I ended going out with one of my others friends in the group, just me and her. The group got drunk, m...
A. 19 August 2012: That happened to me too. For the 4 years of high school my "friends" did that to me. It tortured me.
But here's what I've learned:
They're not your friends if they don't care about your feelings. And if they're anything like mine, they won't ta... (read in full...)
Is it over or is he just sweating me?
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I Have had a very rocky relationship with my BF. We had an argument last week in which I told him he is selfish, which he is. Usually, when we fall out , things kinda get sorted wihtin 2 - 3 day, (it' usually me who init...
A. 13 August 2012: If you stop making an effort, it sounds like your relationship will surely end. It sounds like he's either trying to make you feel guilty, or this could be his way of ending things. It sounds like your relationship is very messed up and might be ... (read in full...)
What can we both do to help encourage my libido to return? I feel like a horrible Gf to my Bf
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years now and I have completely lost interest in sex. We've tried different things to get my interest back but it hasn't worked and I feel like a horrible girlfriend. I still love my boyfriend it's not ...
A. 13 August 2012: Are you on birth control? Some brands can kill a sex drive. Maybe just take a break from sex. Explain that maybe you need to take it easy with sex and go see a movie, or something.... (read in full...)
I hate that sex is always on my mind. How can I contain my interest in sex? Because I want to marry as a Virgin.
Q. I'm a type that hate sex and thinking about sex. Sex is always in my mind and i can't stop these thoughts when I start thinking of sex. Please what will i do to control my urge to think about sex all the time? Not only self sex, normal sex is invol...
A. 13 August 2012: Resist the urges. It's absolutely normal for your age to be like that. Distract your mind from anything with sex.... (read in full...)
I can't tell if this will work or not. Is he still interested in me since he ignored my text?
Q. I met a guy on last Wednesday at a bar. We clicked and he got my number. Texted me the next day good morning asking me to hang out. I agreed but ended up blowing him off. Made up an excuse the next morning saying my phone died. Later that day...
A. 13 August 2012: He's totally into you. No doubt. Because he wanted more of you. Meaning to see you more, haha. Usually you can tell if a guy isn't into you during/right after a first date. But he still wanted to be with you.
I'm sure he'll get back to you. If he d... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to text? Or should I text him?
Q. Should I text him? So, I met this guy, and I really like him. Apparently we've known each other since we were kids (which I don't remember.) and I've seen him lately, but I've never actually talked to him until 2 weeks ago. So, he and I really s...
A. 9 October 2011: UPDATE AGAIN!
So, turns out our plans for hanging out aren't gonna happen. So, I asked if he wanted to hang out the next weekend and he didn't really seem to answer my question.
I tried flirting A LOT more. But I feel like he didn't really get it. ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to text? Or should I text him?
Q. Should I text him? So, I met this guy, and I really like him. Apparently we've known each other since we were kids (which I don't remember.) and I've seen him lately, but I've never actually talked to him until 2 weeks ago. So, he and I really s...
A. 8 October 2011: UPDATE!
Well, I texted him. We made plans to hang out next weekend.
But it wasn't a particularly long conversation. He would respond an hour away from each text I sent. But I do know that he was busy, and he even admitted once that he wouldn't... (read in full...)
Am I about to get played AGAIN? Help!
Q. Please bear with me... I know this is long, but I DESPERATELY need your help! Well, I am having a little bit of boy trouble. Y'see I've been crushing on this boy since last year. But then I got over him because I thought that he was a stuck up s...
A. 29 September 2011: Haha, yeah, I'm so confused with this kid. Like, I dunno if he's just nice or if he's putting on a good show. Well, I didn't like his dad so I guess I pinned him out as to being just like his dad. But I also heard some things about him being ki... (read in full...)
I wanted to cheat with him knowing he has a girlfriend!
Q. Hey I'm T and I am 18. I have this friend that's recently appeared back into my life after we ran into each other... he is a gorgeous guy and we can talk for hours. He's with this really crazy girl and he hates it - he doesn't want to be with her ...
A. 8 August 2011: He kissed you. That doesn't make you a bad person. Woah, that girl sounds phsyco, actually I know someone in that same situation, you should tell him that even though his gf is crazy, she still has feelings and it's not right to cheat on her. If he ... (read in full...)
My ex is damaging my new relationship
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up a while ago and I found someone new who makes me happy and my ex is keep calling and texting me all the time I don't respond to any of it but when he first did this I told him to stop and leave me alone but obviously it ...
A. 21 October 2010: Say, "Leave me alone. You had your chance, you blew it. I'm moving on to better things, accept that, because if you can't then you're not the man I thought you were. I'm deleting your number, delete mine and forget about "us". We're over for good ... (read in full...)
Huge crush but I'm too shy to talk to him! Help!
Q. Ok so i have this huge crush on this kid in my class. I fell in love with him the minute i saw him! I know he knows who i am and everything, but I now that he will never actually talk to me and im to shy to talk to him! so what do i do?!?!??!...
A. 21 October 2010: Be cool. Confidence is key. Guys LOVE a girl that loves herself, never doubts her abilities, and never abuses her talents. The simple little things can make him crazy for you, but let's start slow.
Small hints are good, be friendly to everybody in t... (read in full...)
Depression and its Effects on Relationships
Q. I am just wondering how many relationship that have broken up due to one partner's depression. Who broke up with whom, and when when the others depression was better did you end up getting back together? Can a relationship be fixed if one partner ...
A. 21 October 2010: I had 2 relationships damaged because of depression. The first one was my fault. I was going through a hard time and my boyfriend was NOT taking things easy on me, in fact, we fought a lot. Eventually all good things come to an end, and I broke of... (read in full...)
It's important to me that he accepts my friends!
Q. I need some advice. I have been dating an older man than myself now for over a year. We both have the greatest time when we're together and both have committed ourselves to one another. We haven't told my parents yet, because my parents are extr...
A. 12 August 2010: Maybe he won't let you meet his friends for a reason. For example, my one side of the family is terrible with people. I would NEVER introduce my boyfriend to them because I know for a fact that my cousins will say something insulting, or my aunts ... (read in full...)
He says he likes me more than her but I know he had sex with her
Q. Hi, I'll get straight to the point. I've been talking to this guy, his nice and everything his like prince charming but not so perfect. We met up once and had a blast. Problem is, he kissed me, i accpeted the kiss and kissed back, i really li...
A. 19 July 2010: Awww. That sounds like a cute little thing is going between you 2. =]
As for your problem:
1.) It's a possibility that she was lying about having sex. Some people do that to makes themselves seem cooler.
2.) He might've just had meaningless sex ... (read in full...)
I can't get the thought of her one night stand before we were together out of my head, and its killing me!
Q. I met my fiance in college at the end of my freshman year. I noticed her from the beginning. I had a crush on her the entire year but she had a boyfriend that went to a school nearby who she had been with for 2 years. They went to high school ...
A. 18 June 2010: Jealous? I think that it's normal to feel that way, but you shouldn't think about it. Like she said, it was a mistake. If she was drunk then she wasn't in her right mind to have a one night stand. I mean, she was probably going through such a hard t... (read in full...)
Should I start talking to the handsome stranger at the bus stop?
Q. Hey guys, a bit of a strange question. Every morning i get a bus to college, and i see the same guy there every morning at my busstop. He's unbeleivably handsome and very well dressed. Lately i see him looking at me and when i look back he smiles, ...
A. 25 May 2010: He liiiikes you!! Awww, that's so cute!! But, yes, talk to him. If he's mouthing you words, then he wants to talk. And as for age, you don't how old he is for sure. You should just start off with "simple, and I'm-just-making-... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my attention-seeking friend?
Q. my friend is always the centre of attention, and when she isn't she acts like someone has just knifed her. I can't ever get a word in edgeways, so i need tips on being more assertive. However, i was asked by the guy i like to prom and to my face she...
A. 25 May 2010: Sounds like my friend, Kristen. Yeah, personalities like that aren't the best to be around. But she, obviously, doesn't know how to behave appropriately. When she gets out of line and seems to steal the spotlight, don't try to compete. Just lo... (read in full...)
Is she just playing games with me?
Q. I've strarted talking to this girl. We have been on a few dates ad at the end of the second she seemed to kiss me( I was going to make a move, but I kinda feel like ahe beat me to it). We talked about future hangout plans, she wants to drive or pay ...
A. 25 May 2010: Ok, well, I think when she says "try" she means that she is probably busy and will see if she has time to call later. I'm sure that it's nothing personal, she's just got alot to do for the time being. If she agrees to hang out more with you, the... (read in full...)
A question from my friend: Is he worth it?
Q. I'm very concerned for my friend right now. She had called me earlier today in tears. When I asked her what was wrong she only replied that she's so confused. Her boyfriend had broken up with her today, but he gave her the option of getting back ...
A. 25 May 2010: REPLY: I told her everything that you had said. She says, "I know, I know. I'm trying my best, but he knows me all too well! I had planned out my break up plan and when I was putting it into action he had asked if I was going to dump him. I gues... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for a girl who's been played?
Q. The title describes itself. If you've followed my questions before, then you'll know the guy who I was so "head over heels" with. Today, I don't think I could've been any madder, or felt any more stupid. I'm feeling so hopeless right now... Any ...
A. 23 May 2010: @MOO'S MUM:
Yeah. He even said that he had liked me. But, I really don't think that he had cared at all to make it hurt less for me. That's who he is, he's selfish and never cares about anything. And I really do hope he gets hurt, especially by this... (read in full...)
Is it really that bad for me to hang with a 21 year old?
Q. I'm 16, turning 17 in August. I'm really good friends with a guy but he happens to be 21. My parents know about this friendship and aren't very happy about it. My mom has even threatened to call the cops on him and wants to kick me out of the house. ...
A. 21 May 2010: YES! I was just in that same situation! I hung out with a 20 year old, and I'm 17... I really liked him. He and I would hang out all the time, and I would look to him with admiring eyes. However, we always used to kiss and stuff... but now I had go... (read in full...)
A question from my friend: Is he worth it?
Q. I'm very concerned for my friend right now. She had called me earlier today in tears. When I asked her what was wrong she only replied that she's so confused. Her boyfriend had broken up with her today, but he gave her the option of getting back ...
A. 12 May 2010: @ CaringGuy
UPDATE: (AGAIN...)
So, now, here's what happened.
She's been putting on a fake smile for a few days while she was out with him. Things were ok, but secretly she was plotting different ways to break up with him. In August they were su... (read in full...)
A question from my friend: Is he worth it?
Q. I'm very concerned for my friend right now. She had called me earlier today in tears. When I asked her what was wrong she only replied that she's so confused. Her boyfriend had broken up with her today, but he gave her the option of getting back ...
A. 7 May 2010: UPDATE:
Alright, I gave her the advice not to go back to him.
But here's what happened... Like, 3 days later he comes back to her and says, "I'm sorry... I was so angry. You, obviously, can't handle things by yourself. Let's get back together... (read in full...)
Why won't he tell me about his female friend?
Q. This guy has confused me. We started off as friends. We get along really well together. He is the most caring man I ever met. Gradually, I felt I could see a possibility of a future with him. We are together almost like 24x7, except that we don't ...
A. 7 May 2010: REPLY to anonymous:
Well, if you've seen my questions, I have the same problem with one guy. We hang out alot and at the dead of night we end up making out... But we're not dating (although I would LOVE to!) But, regardless, I think some guys just... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin? Could I be pregnant?
Q. I'm 15 years old, female, and I think still a virgin. My boyfriend and I we're fooling around today like we normally do, 1st, 2nd, and 3rd base all covered. We we're getting really into it and he got on top of me, I was wearing a skirt. He fingered ...
A. 30 April 2010: You'd feel if it was in there. Plus, virgins usually bleed after having sex for the first time. And it hurts like hell, or so I'm told.
I think you'll be fine.
Also, you wouldn't be able to tell if you're pregnant the DAY you fool around.... (read in full...)
He asked for a bj and I want to make him happy but should I do it?
Q. i have a really great guy friend. we work together, at times hang out. i was in a 2 year relationship but that ended a year ago, and since then i've met a few guys and dated, but nothing serious; my friend is a virgin and lives with his mom, he is a ...
A. 30 April 2010: Sounds to me that he's either doing this for his own pleasure, or he wants to try to rekindle your relationship.
Honestly, I wouldn't do it unless I was looking to date him again.
Don't do it just for his happiness... your feelings come first.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to date my ex's friend?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago and he has moved on with another girl already. The thing is i now have developed feelings for one of his Bestfriends. I have known him all my life and we have some history. I'm not trying to get back...
A. 30 April 2010: Babe, I say go for it!
'Cause it's time to move on, and if you want to date your ex's friend then, by all means, do it.
If he questions if it's revenge, simply explain the situation. Other then that, he shouldn't really matter on this.
It's your... (read in full...)
Cool music, great hair, hot style, OH MY!
Q. Well, so I'm kind of having this problem here. I don't usually write on these kind of things, but I'm soooo confused... Ok, so, my friend set me up with this really hot guy. He's exactly what I look for in a guy... he loves the same kind of music I ...
A. 30 April 2010: Thanks people. :)
Y'know I will admit that sometimes my emotions can get the best of me. I felt so... (lovestruck? Without being in "love", of course) But, anyway, I have seen the light in this horrid and confusing situation.
You all had some exc... (read in full...)
Can an excess of water affect the pregnancy test?
Q. havent started my period this month. did a pregnancy test, came back negative. but, i had drank 2 bottles of water right before the test, because i was anxious to find out of the posibility of being pregnant. would it have any effect on the test? ...
A. 30 April 2010: I may not be much help, but I've heard that you shouldn't force yourself to go to the bathroom for a pregnancy test because it could come back positive.
That's what my biology teacher said.... (read in full...)
I push him away yet he keeps coming back for more.
Q. hi. so there's this boy that i think likes me. i am of course one of the more 'agressive' girls at my school and wont take anything from anyone! so whenever he messes with my friends or me i will go up and punch him. :) and he doesnt really care, ...
A. 30 April 2010: Haha, sounds like you've caught his eye. I think he's crushing on you.
And I think that he is being so nasty just to get your attention. If you don't like it, just ignore him. Even if he makes fun of your friends. They can stand up for them... (read in full...)
Why won't he tell me about his female friend?
Q. This guy has confused me. We started off as friends. We get along really well together. He is the most caring man I ever met. Gradually, I felt I could see a possibility of a future with him. We are together almost like 24x7, except that we don't ...
A. 30 April 2010: Umm. Let's see. Here's what I think:
He likes you alot. ALOT! But, he probably doesn't like girls who get jealous easily. I know I don't like guys like that. My ex always used to question who the guys were that I hung out with. If I said that I hung... (read in full...)
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