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41-50,
*haigertooth
writes:First of all, thank you for reading my problem, it means a lot to me.I believe that i have a confident issue when it comes to my boyfriend and he thinks that i'm a jealous girlfriend. My boyfriend has a very close friend who's a female that i feel very threaten because of her constant communication with him. They constantly texting each other while he's spending time with me and i get very uncomfortable with it. He is not a cheating type but we all know that a woman can have a lot of influence over a man. Respect is a very big thing for me and i just feel that if you don't have any hidden motive then why would you pretend that i'm invisible when she's around my boyfriend and i. I tried to let him know that her action(ignoring me)and her wanting to hangout with my boyfriend all day bothers me. I don't want to come off as demanding and i don't want to tell him to stop being friends with her but i just want her to back off but i don't know how to do that without confronting her. I tried to explain that i trust him but i don't trust her but he just doesn't understand. What can i do to make myself become more confident?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (12 January 2010):
 The phone being turned off is a great idea. Has thing friend been there for a long time, like before you two were dating?
I'm really glad that you understand that you can't tell him to stop being friends with her and you said that you trust. you never have to trust any friend who's a girl but have faith in him that he will deal with the situation if she trys to make a move. Another thing is that he may talk to her about you and all that he loves in you. I have found that most guys find it much easier to talk to girls rather then other guys which explains the situation. He probably talks to this girl about you more then you think and I mean that in a good way.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (11 January 2010):
Why not compromise?
He can see her and text her all he wants BUT when he is with you on a date, he turns his phone off.
You get all his attention when he's with you. She can have him when you are done.
Good Luck!! xx
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