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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Should I tell my boyfriend I'm still a virgin?
Q. im 22 years old and ive been dating my boyfriend for just over a month now and I really like him, he thinks ive had sex in the past before, he just thinks I have because of my age but I havnt. im not ashamed that im still a virgin at age 22 but im...
A. 15 June 2010: I would tell him because when it does happen the first couple of time will be uncomfortable and he will need to know to take it easy. Also to use lots of lube. Personally I would be quite shocked and excited that you are willing to lose it to me. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's STD test came back all clear...does that mean I'm in the clear too?
Q. I split up with my ex boyfriend the end of 2008. After we split i took it really hard and slept with quite a few guys over the next few months but only used protection with some of them. Now please don't lecture me on protection, i know what i have ...
A. 15 June 2010: Generally I would say yes just because it has been so long and there is such a high probability that you would experience some sort of symptoms by now. There's a very small chance that you would have anything, I'm talking really small but still ... (read in full...)
I really want this threesome!
Q. hey im 26 and my girlfriends 20 . we have been together for 3 years we had our ups and downs but we are pretty good now. we have a baby together. i wanna have a threesome. perferably another girl. but i wouldnt mind if it was another dude. im not ...
A. 14 June 2010: You really have to approach her from a logical side of things. My gf and I have wanted to have one but there is alot to consider like if sex is permitted, who its with, is there chance that someone will get dumped over this. If you don't be ... (read in full...)
Splitting the bill on a first date?
Q. I was on a first date with this guy and we went to see a movie, then had dinner at a Chinese restaurant. We're both students. He is a year older than me. So, he bought the movie tickets online, then announced the price out loud - "so it's 22.50 f...
A. 14 June 2010: He was really immature when he decided to announce the cost like that. The only time I would ever mention it is if the girl was never paying for anything but if he said nothing prior to this date about splitting the cost it is implied that he is ... (read in full...)
How can I control sweating?
Q. hey im a teenager and i have a sweating problem idk how to sweat less. its so hard cuz i cnt wear the clothes that i want does anyone no how i can sweat less?...
A. 11 June 2010: Thats something that you just have to go up to them and tell them that you sweat too much and you have to do something about. When I told my mom I found out that she had/has the same problem. They may react by saying its not possible but show them ... (read in full...)
How can I control sweating?
Q. hey im a teenager and i have a sweating problem idk how to sweat less. its so hard cuz i cnt wear the clothes that i want does anyone no how i can sweat less?...
A. 11 June 2010: I also use to have the same problem. It may be a subconscious social thing. Mine only happened ahen i was around certain people or cold. I used a percription call drysol that worked really well. It says to use every day but I used it once a week and ... (read in full...)
How do you know when it's right?
Q. How do you know when your in love? And how would you when its the right time to have sex?...
A. 11 June 2010: You never really know when its the right time but the best hint is when you know you are ready to deal with the fact that you may regret it. If you understand this that you might the chances of you actually regreting it are very low. Sex isn't as ... (read in full...)
Husband wants to attend ex-father-in-law's funeral!
Q. My husband wants to attend the funeral of his ex-father in law. I feel very strongly that he should not. He wasn't particularly close to him but says he should do it out of respect. I would feel very uncomfortable going with him as I have met most...
A. 10 June 2010: This family is still part of his life and always will be. He's not doing it to go against you but at one point he called this man family. It is probably out of respect, it's not like he is making a speach, he will probably just sit in the back. I ... (read in full...)
Love: what does it feel like?
Q. This might be a strange question But what does 'love' actually feel like? Could do with a little guidence i suppose in a way :)...
A. 9 June 2010: Romantic love is the passion and constant desire to be with the person. Its a feeling you have when you are able to look at the world around you and realize that the two of you are each others balance.
Other love like that between friends whic... (read in full...)
I feel helpless because my boyfriend has cancer.
Q. Hi, I just found out that my boyfriend has cancer and isn't sure how long he has left. I don't know what im supposed to do or say. I feel helpless. I just wanna keep him here as long as possible. Please help...
A. 9 June 2010: I'm sorry to hear this. Make sure he knows that you love him and treat him how you would love him if nothing was wrong at all. Give him the chance to see the what a normal relationship with you is like and that he is truely special to you because of ... (read in full...)
Can anyone interpret these dreams?
Q. I had a dream about the person I like, one was where we were sat down in a public place, he was flirting with me (but this would never happen in reality) and I was touching what I thought was my arm but instead I was stroking his arm and he didnt...
A. 9 June 2010: First of all i don't believe that dreams have to have a specific meaning. In your case I think that they are brought on by this person being in your head and your many thoughts on him. Because you think about him during the day your mind continues ... (read in full...)
Long term relationship but no sex?
Q. Well, I just started dating this guy. He's amazing. He thinks I'm amazing. I can see this relationship lasting awhile. But, I'm a virgin, so is he. I don't wanna have sex for a long long time. Is it possible to have a long term relation...
A. 8 June 2010: Yes its possible but both of you have to understand this and agree with it or it will never work. Also then if you do have sex later on it will not be expected, it will be based on the love you two have with out the sexual realtionship. ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should give him the benefit of his efforts?
Q. Hello, It is now just over a year since I found out about my husband's emotional affair with another woman (texting/phonecalls/declarations of love and promises of future physical relationship when the time was right). He has done EVERYTHI...
A. 8 June 2010: If you have no intention of leaving him and it seems that you have worked through this I would say he has changed and deserves a second chance. If he is putting so much effort into the relationship then he obviously wants to be with you. We are all ... (read in full...)
He says he just doesn't care for sex!
Q. dear cupid my boyfriend is 24 years old we have been together for 7 months he wont touch or make love to me and i am a very passionate person and need sex so this really hurts me deeply i have brought up the subject and he told me its not me he ju...
A. 8 June 2010: If you want you could try and get him into it by really pushing the first move but it might make him angry. If you really want to stay with him it may mean that you have to get tough and force the answer out of him or tell him to leave. If he does ... (read in full...)
He says he just doesn't care for sex!
Q. dear cupid my boyfriend is 24 years old we have been together for 7 months he wont touch or make love to me and i am a very passionate person and need sex so this really hurts me deeply i have brought up the subject and he told me its not me he ju...
A. 7 June 2010: I think that this is the way he is and that it has nothing to do with you. I don't think that he is right for you unless you can get through to a possible issue he has with himself so he can learn how to be a passionate person. Try getting him to ... (read in full...)
My first time, the whole school knows and I think I might be pregnant!
Q. i just had sex two days ago with this guy i have been talking to , he didn't use a condom but he swore he pulled out. im so scared that i might be pregnant. My entire school knows. it was my first time so im really scared. please help me....
A. 2 June 2010: Its probably too late for the plan B pill but definitely go see a doctor for a pregnancy test. Don't worry about the whole school just go figure this out for yourself asap. I also reccomend the pill to avoid this mess in the future.
Best of luck... (read in full...)
What would you do with your crush if you only had one day left to spend with him?
Q. What would you do with your crush if you only had one day left to spend with him? I won’t get to see him ever again. Just at my friends graduation party and I already told him I liked him. Is it wrong for me to still have feelings for him even ...
A. 2 June 2010: Write down and plan out what you want to say to this guy before he leaves. Tell him how you feel that way you won't get the feeling that you never got to say good bye. In the past there has been so many times where I wished I would have said what i ... (read in full...)
He's threatening to post nude pictures of me on the net!!!
Q. My ex and I broke up over a month ago. We had many issues, he was controlling and too jealous, always thought the worst of me and called me names, didn't trust me at all. He's been obsessively checking out my Facebook profile. I blocked him and ...
A. 1 June 2010: I reccomend seeing a lawyer if your worried that he will do it. They can help you get a court order that send him to jail if he posts anything about you. I doubt he would after that, the whole thing would be a good scare for him to show him that you ... (read in full...)
Is this still phone sex???
Q. Hey, well i was wondering if some one masturbates on the phone and the other person just listens does that still count as phone sex? Also do you get less nervous the more you do it? Thanks for your time....
A. 31 May 2010: I guess you could call it phone sex although that usually involves both people talking and such. The more comfortable you get with the person it does get easier to talk "dirty" in general. ... (read in full...)
I read I still could get pregnant...is this true?
Q. My boyfriend and I were messing around. He picked me up from dance class so I was wearing stockings, leotard and then my underwear with a pad (expecting my period). So we were making out and all he did was take his pants off (keeping the underwear ...
A. 31 May 2010: No chance at all. I count atleast four layers in between you and him. Even if he did cum it would take a fire hose and a few less layers. I reccomend reading up on all of this or keep asking quetions hear so you know. ... (read in full...)
My family is draining me dry!
Q. I PAY for everything. My whole family are on the take and I’m sick of supporting every loser I’m related to. My parents say that it’s my duty to make sure that everyone is OK and it’s our culture. But when will it end? I’m 20, i go university i...
A. 31 May 2010: That has nothing to do with your culture. You need to focus on yourself even though it sounds harsh they have to learn to support themselves and you need to have your own life. Its sad that your family would use you like that but it happens. With ... (read in full...)
Can't get my boyfriend to cum on my own?
Q. I'll give him a blowjob.. handjob and he'll be like making noises and shaking, and he's all wet.. and you can tell it's genuine and he says he loves it + that i'm the best he's ever had but then he goes 'omg i could cum now' so then he takes hi...
A. 31 May 2010: I think that he has some sort of fetish with finishing himself off in front of you or on you. Its not that you couldn't get him to finish he is just building it up until he's ready to do it himself. Definitely talk to him, if he lets you finish him ... (read in full...)
What does love but not in love with mean?
Q. When a woman in her mid 50's is married to a man who is 60 yrs. old say's she loves her husband BUT is NOT in love with him---What exactly doe's that mean?? They have two grown sons and no grandchildren. Anyway why does she stay with him if she ...
A. 27 May 2010: It means that they still care for the person like a close friend who they would do anything for but the spark and passion is gone from the relationship.
In other words she loves him but the sex and romance of the past is no longer there. ... (read in full...)
Is he lying about selling drugs?
Q. I have been with this guy for four years and I am starting to feel like he is constantly lying. He told me he quit all of the illegal activities (drugs/sellin) years ago but yesterday was on his FB and a chat popped up and this chick is complaining ...
A. 27 May 2010: After four years you really have to decide if you trust him or not. His story sound perfectly beleivable but still something you should keep an eye on. If this was a part of his past then it will come up for a long time with people who want to know ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to show her I've changed?
Q. So my ex and me have been talking and she just wants to be friends and that me being paranoid, jealous and other things has put her off me. I feel such a fool and trust me I know I was wrong and I just want to show her that I have changed and I'm ...
A. 27 May 2010: The best way is to be her friend, keep in touch and show you care about her. Over time she will realize that you have changed but it will take time to build the trust back up. It does sound like she wants you there and that it should go slow but I ... (read in full...)
Experiencing a lot of irregularity with my period, what are your thoughts?
Q. OK so im really worried i got my last period on April but this month i got my period in the beginning of the month and it wasn't heavy or nothing barley stained the pad but it ; lasted 3 days and then around the 18 i got it again for like 3 hours ...
A. 26 May 2010: It could be a range of things from stress to eating habits. I recommend seeing your doctor about it and possibly suggesting the birth control pill to set you on a regular cycle. There is some concern if the discharge is not the usual colour. ... (read in full...)
Have not had sex yet, invited to his house alone, what should I expect?
Q. Yeah we are both in our early twenties and we only just made out (passionate) and some light touching. We've been seeing each other for a while and only just got physical. Now he's inviting me to his house no one there. Does he think we are...
A. 26 May 2010: I would think that he has something along those lines in mind but it may be more romantic than just sex but I don't know for sure. If he is such a gentleman than it will not change when it comes to the bedroom. Try dropping a few hints before that ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to date a reformed player?
Q. I have known this guy Steve for a few years, he is a friend of a friend. He was a total player,dating more girls then I can count and totally disrespecting them. A few months ago we were talking on facebook and we ended up staying up all night ta...
A. 26 May 2010: I think that he definitely could have changed, he just needed the right girl. Alot of the time the reason someone is a player is because they just can't seem to find to find a relationship that satifies them.
I say keep seeing him and make sure... (read in full...)
Am I allergic to condoms?
Q. me and my boyfriend have just had sex for the first time together, it wasn't our first time completely as we have slept with other people before. every time i have sex and use a latex condom, it gets about 10 minutes into it and it feels like it ...
A. 19 May 2010: If you want to try a simple test for yourself then take a latex condom and rub it on your inner wrist for a while and see if any sort of rash developes. There could also be a problem with the lube on the condom itself. Go to the doctor and if you ... (read in full...)
When is it appropriate to date one of your best friend's ex?
Q. When is it appropriate to date one of your best friend's ex? ...
A. 19 May 2010: A time line is a hard thing to say because if you want to keep the friend then it depends on when they are ready to see you dating the ex. Talk to your friend soon and find out what they think about the situation then go from there. ... (read in full...)
Co-Workers Flirting!
Q. I was at my job and starting and about a year and a half ago I noticed what I think is two co-workers flirting with one another. One of them is married and I know the partner. If you were in a position to tell the married partner whether there was ...
A. 19 May 2010: I wouldn't say anything at all. In the end it could just end up causing you problem in the work place that you don't deserve. The one doing the flirting will obviously be mad with you but the person you tell may also take their anger out on you. ... (read in full...)
Wife has seen our friend naked and says its not big deal!
Q. Not sure what to do. My wife and I are married a few years. We started dating in high school, and got married after dating almost 3 years. She has this male friend who she grew up next to, he was a neighbor, and they never dated but were friends ...
A. 18 May 2010: First off if you try to put and end to the friendship you may bring a wave of trouble to your marriage. Everyone is entitled to have who ever they choose as friends and it is up to you whether you go or stay.
The way I see it is these two are like... (read in full...)
Why does my cartilage piercing smell?
Q. *OP's own title" Two years ago I had a cartilage piercing done in the top of my ear. When it was first done my ear swelled up a bit and had a mild infection but I took antibiotics and the infection cleared. Now my pierced ear is the same size as the ...
A. 18 May 2010: It could be an infection but it could also be bacteria on the piercing itself. Try washing both your ear and the peircing with some anti bacterial soap and see if it does anything.
It could also be some sort of skin reaction to the type of meta... (read in full...)
Guys, what do you like in a girl??
Q. So, us girls all know that the worst kind of girl to be to attract a guy is one that is "clingy", "desperate" and "needy". So guys, what is exactly is your definition of these things? Texting you once a day? Once an hour? Calling just to see how you ...
A. 18 May 2010: If you see each other, say at school every day then I'd say some texting or a call once or twice during the week would be good. If you don't get to see them on the weekend (one day) then definitely talk then. Every day is too much unless you two ... (read in full...)
A good b-job, any advice?
Q. A general question for all males. How can a female give a good oral sex to a male?...
A. 16 May 2010: Every guy is different and the best thing you can do is get him comfortable with you so that during the act he will talk to you about what he likes or what he wants you to do. Thats the best way to custom fit the best oral sex experience to your ... (read in full...)
Regrets for letting someone go?
Q. This is a general question to all the males in the audience: Have you ever regretted breaking up with a girlfriend because at the time you didn't feel it for her, got bored, or wasn't ready for commitment, even though she was sweet, caring an...
A. 16 May 2010: I have had regrets when things have ended but when I look back on it I could never stay with anyone that wasn't 100% there for the relationship whether it be either side. I have never gotten bored with anyone but if its just not there then you have ... (read in full...)
Am I emotionally detached?
Q. Am I emotionally detached? I've been with my current boyfriend for a few months. He's a lovely guy and treats me well. He is tender, loving, polite and calls me everyday,so why is it that I can't bring myself to connect with him? I've been hurt...
A. 16 May 2010: I understand that you have been hurt in the past but you have to understand that this is a new guy with no relationship to all those others who have hurt you. Work on realizing that each new relationship does not have to be connected with the last ... (read in full...)
Comments on a weight loss plan?
Q. hey, im 17 and really want to lose weight and quite quickly. i was thinking of going on a 500 cals a day diet and doing 12km a day on the treadmill. has anyone ever tried anything like this and if so did it work? thankyouxx...
A. 16 May 2010: With that low of an intake of food you will do serious damage to your body and be really unhealthy. You need to eat balanced food from the food groups to kkep your metabolism working. Then you see results. Crash dieting will cause you to rebound and ... (read in full...)
Is three months enough time to mourn?
Q. hi,i had 3 years relationship with this guy he was my lover my best friend but my bf had past away 3 months ago,its hard for me to accept the fact, to ease the pain, i used to go out with my friends for a disco, drunk, everyday, and now i met a guy ...
A. 16 May 2010: I'm sorry to hear about this. Three months is still quite soon after the fact. I don't mean that you shouldn't date because this guy would have wanted you to live your life to the fullest. You probably do still miss him and I'm wondering if you feel ... (read in full...)
A boy on the bus looks at me and texts someone. Does he like me?
Q. Baisically, there's this really cute boy its been nearly a year since i 1st saw him. Hes on the bus.. i know on the bus nothing's gonna happen. But he stares at me on some occasions and always texts infront of me then looks again.. i dont know what ...
A. 14 May 2010: I think he may be interested. If you can go and introduce yourself the next time you see him and see what he says. If it happens once I wouldn't say that it meant anything but if this has been going on for a while then there is a good chance that he ... (read in full...)
Should I cancel the date because he told me his penis size?
Q. Hi friends, I met a guy online and he is 13 years younger than me. I am 48, take great care of myself and get alot of attention from guys. We are both professionals, work out alot and he is very handsome. We have been emailing, within a week he...
A. 14 May 2010: I think you should still go on the date. It may of just come out and he may not have meant it to sound that way. If you go on the date at least then you will be able to see for yourself what his intentions are.
We all say things we don't real... (read in full...)
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