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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Lost puppy effect.
Q. With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
A. 5 October 2010: I agree with you that sometimes the person who gets dumped isn't to blame for acting the way they do when all they see from their ex partner is the chance to get back together. I'm sorry that you had to go through that one. Thats why I always tried ... (read in full...)
Scotch eggs!!!
Q. Not really a dilemma but would like some input because I don't want to come across odd, lol. Which I probably am. I saw scotch eggs today (lol) and they were a favourite of a member of staff at my school. its been 2 years since I've left but we...
A. 15 September 2010: I don't see why that would be seen as weird. At least not by him, I'm sure he would enjoy them very much. School staff usually always like those kind of jestures, it shows that they have done a good job and maybe made a difference. ... (read in full...)
So there's this guy...
Q. So its my senior year in school and with the idiots that go to my school I gave up on finding someone. But my first day I met this new guy and we hit it off right away. Hes smart, he has a great sense of humor, and we have a lot in common. We've ...
A. 15 September 2010: You should get to know him and see what what he descides to do. If his relationship with the LD gf is strong you won't get to date him but if he sees you as the better choice then you're there. I'm not saying its not hurtful to his gf but you really ... (read in full...)
Best friends... with no strings attached!!!
Q. Hi Everyone I am hoping some of you out there can answer this for me. Can you be best friends with someone and also have a sexual relationship with them but neither of you are in love with each other and no comittments. Neither of us have any...
A. 14 September 2010: I am not beyond saying that it can work but there any imbalance will cause stress on the friendship. If one person gets too attached then yes it can ruin the friendship or if one person finds a bf or gf and the other one doesn't have anyone.
A... (read in full...)
Is my bf cheating on me?
Q. I've been dating or seeing this guy for 4 months. We were seriously dating August 2010 and things were going find. He asked me to be his gf. He text me almost everyday, we say goodnight, mornings and we spent time with each other a couple of times a ...
A. 14 September 2010: Its still just not sounding good for you. I don't want you to get stuck in this routine of him only being in this relationship when its convienient for him. Take some time to think over everything that he is doing and ask yourself if this is what ... (read in full...)
I told myself I would never let a man hit me.
Q. I am a 15 year old girl and my boyfriend (also 15 years old) of 8 months hit me Friday for the very first time. He is bipolar and sometimes his mood swings are off the charts and his thought process is irrational at times. I stayed the night with ...
A. 13 September 2010: I think that it is highly probable that he will hit you again and that he doesn't have control over the actions. I don't mean to judge but I don't think the weed is helping his situation either.
I really wouldn't stay with him when there are thes... (read in full...)
Is my bf cheating on me?
Q. I've been dating or seeing this guy for 4 months. We were seriously dating August 2010 and things were going find. He asked me to be his gf. He text me almost everyday, we say goodnight, mornings and we spent time with each other a couple of times a ...
A. 13 September 2010: I would get rid of him asap. It does sound like there was something being hidden when he wouldn't let you in. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my BFF's ex
Q. I have a guy friend named 'Nick'. We have been friends for 6 months. In that time, we have been throughso much together, and he is now one of my closest friends. Until a month ago, he was also going out with my BFF. They had a nasty breakup, b...
A. 13 September 2010: If you don't want to risk losing the frienship over this guy I would ask your friend if its ok if you were to date him. If she says no then you really have to be prepared for the concequences but if she says yes then you don't have anything to worry ... (read in full...)
Why does he cum so fast?
Q. Hello! me and my boyfriend have been sleeping together for a year. we were both virgins before we met. when we have sex he cums within the first few minutes. so i dont have a chance to even start enjoying it really. why does this happen? ...
A. 13 September 2010: He is probably really sensitive and the simulation is too much for him. There are desensitizing creals out there but if you're not up for that one you can get him to orgasm then wait till he can become hard again. He should last longer the second ... (read in full...)
How can I remind myself to take my birth control pill?
Q. What are some ways to remind your self to take your birthcontrol? so far I have an alarm on my laptop and an alarm on my phone and my Ipod dock and Ipod it's self and sometimes I STILL forget. What are some other ways incase I am not around a...
A. 13 September 2010: Try picking a different time to take them. My gf takes hers at the same time every morning which kinda sucks because she usually has to get up to take them and then has to go back to bed to sleep in but it is a time when you aren't distracted by ... (read in full...)
Birth control pills make me moody and sick to my stomach
Q. hey ive been on birth control for almost a week and this is my first time. i havent gotten my period for 2 months and not preg. (negative preg. test and ultrasound shows nothing) the BC pills make me sick to my stomach. Is this normal? i have ...
A. 12 September 2010: This can be normal if it doesn't go on for more than a week otherwise that brand of pills could not be agreeing with you body and you will have to try a different brand. I know some girls who had to try two or three different brands before they ... (read in full...)
Does this sound like a friction burn?
Q. Can someone help me i have a sore penis the side and under the head is red and sore. I had unprotected sex with my gf. In the middle I of the session I could keep her stubble rub against my penis it kind of hurt but I didnt think anything of it at ...
A. 12 September 2010: Yeah that sounds like the skin there was rubbed raw. Its happened to me before too. The best thing you can do is take it easy for a couple of days and you could try a gentle moisturizer on the area to get rid of the burning. ... (read in full...)
Was my girlfriend a virgin?
Q. hi my question about my girlfriend virginity 2 question give me a both answers n help me my girlfriend is 23 yrs old when i put my finger her virgina means her pussy i can easily put my one or two fingers n she didnt feel any pain n my gir...
A. 12 September 2010: She could still very likely be a virgin. One the hymen is often broken during childhood because of some rough activity. An example is that riding a horse will often be enough to do it. Also she may have used vibrators or her fingers for masturbation ... (read in full...)
How likely is it for a 40 year old to get pregnant?
Q. I am in a relationship with a wonderful woman who is 40, never been pregnant, and wants to have children. So do I. I'd prefer to be married first, but we are both aware of her biological clock ticking, and marriage may be a while off due to ...
A. 12 September 2010: There is still a good chance that she could get pregnant. I have known quite a few people who have had children later on in life. I will mention that the child is at a higher risk for many disorders but I am sure you will have a healthy child. Keep ... (read in full...)
My younger sister is running with the wrong people and is going to get into a bad mess!
Q. The thing is... my sister is getting in the wrong croud of people, she getting drunk and doing all the stuff she shouldnt be doing shes only 13 (just turned it) and shes turning into a waste of space. everybodys giving up on her but i dont want to ...
A. 11 September 2010: The best thing that you can do for her is stay with her and continue to let her know that you love her. It looks like she will have to learn from her own mistakes and will need someone there when she gets into trouble. I know its hard to do but it ... (read in full...)
my parents are opportunists, that jumped on the money wagon once I started making good money
Q. My parents want to take advantage of me, what do you think? This is a huge problem that I have with my parents. They want to take advantage of me financially. They supported my education, and they want their money back. However, in my country ...
A. 11 September 2010: I think that it may be time to move far away from your parents as I do not see them suddenly changing. If they try to sue you then thats something that you will just have to go through but you don't have to worry about losing. I would definitely ... (read in full...)
Wanting to sleep over at the boyfriend's house...
Q. I am 18 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for two years now, and before that we were best friends. He used to live across the street from me, so my parents know him well. I have never asked my mom if I can sleep over his house, ...
A. 11 September 2010: I went through the same thing with my parents when I wanted to spend the night with my gf. Both of our parents said it was ok just not in their house which was a pain because they both said the same thing. There is really no way around this except ... (read in full...)
Who is this strange boy and what do these dreams mean?
Q. I have been having strange dreams about a boy I do not know. He is tall with brown hair and tanned white skin. Why do I have these dreams? As I have said before I like my next door neighbor but his boy is well.... Very handsome. I don't know him and ...
A. 10 September 2010: I think that all the thoughts of boys during your day is slipping into your dreams just because it is the main focus on your mind. The boy you describe is probably just a generalized figure of some features you are atractted to even though he does ... (read in full...)
How can I leave more of an impact on people when I first meet them?
Q. I am 19 and my problem is that i dont leave much impact on people when i first meet them. i mean they dont really remember me much. I am not at all shy but i never talk much to new people. i dont know what to talk about, even with my friends i dont ...
A. 10 September 2010: You could try finding a style or something that you can wear that is unique so that they will focus on and remember that. Or try asking the people you meet about themselves. People tend to remember someone better when they listened to things that ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want me to give her oral... how can I change her mind?
Q. Hi, I've been going out with my girlfriend for nearly a year, i am her first sexual partner and we have sex often but she doesn't want me to go down on her because she says that she doesnt like the smell when i kiss her after, but i really love ...
A. 10 September 2010: You could try getting a piece of gum right after or just taking a drink of something to get rid of it. Its pretty easy to solve and I'm sure she enjoys oral and if you do this it should solve the problem. ... (read in full...)
Could my lacking in these areas be caused by the way she treated me?
Q. My ex girl friend used to criticize, put me down, feel her way was always right, from the way i drove the car to the way I made love. She would say i was not affectionate enough, did not give enough complements and that I was not romantic to her....
A. 10 September 2010: I would say that the problem wasn't actually with you but with her. Maybe she expected way too much and wanted everything to be about her. If she is putting you down she is doing so to feel like she is better than you or she is scared you would ... (read in full...)
Do I get this massage from my teacher or not?
Q. Hey need some advice, my teacher has recently passed his masseuse course. And he gave out these 50% off vouchers to work mates. I was helping out in his class as I often do and I don’t know if it was in absent mindedness or not, but he gave me one. ...
A. 9 September 2010: I'll go a different path then these other aunts because i understand that you want to do this and there is no sexual connection here for either you or the teacher. The fact that you fancy him does not mean sexually he may be a very nice person and ... (read in full...)
Her dad hates me, and I can't figure out his reason!
Q. I am 19 yrs old and have been dating my girlfriend Jillian,who is 18 for a little over 8 months now. From the very beginning her family really liked me, I get along great with her brother and sister, and her parents loved me. We have a great ...
A. 9 September 2010: He may be going through the phase of he knows what you do (sexually) with his daughter and still thinks of her as his little girl. This will pass with time and the best thing for you to do is keep being the respectful, caring guy that you are to her ... (read in full...)
I might be gay but I'm scared to tell my family! What do I do?
Q. I think i might be gay but im terrified about what my family mainly my mother would say because she has guessed it but I told her i wasent because she gets a look of disappointment and disgust until I assure her im not. Whats nearly as bad is that ...
A. 9 September 2010: My advice to you is to not tell anyone except your closest friends until you can change that maybe to a definite answer. This just saves you the trouble of dealing with people if you bounce back and forth a bit over the next couple of years figuring ... (read in full...)
Lost puppy effect.
Q. With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
A. 9 September 2010: Your very welcome SeeingStars. I'm glad that this could help or even just define the situation. It helps when what you are going through has classification and you know that you are not the only one. ... (read in full...)
My ex friend doesn't like me anymore. How do I cope being in 2 classes with her?
Q. Well my x best friend told me that she didn't want to be my friend anymore because I apparently brought stress to her life. she has anxiety problems. I really loved her and everything and when she told me this, she really broke my heart and ruined ...
A. 7 September 2010: When your in class sit as far away from her as possible and try to keep yourself occupied with the class (I know that one can be tough) or with someone else that you know in the class. You each need your space to straighten things out and live life. ... (read in full...)
Is he waiting for someone else or just really wants to take things slow?
Q. So, I met this guy at a party and never gave him my number... he searched for me and then asked for my number, we talked for a week and the first time we hung out he tried having sex with me.. I denied him and told him that i thought we were looking ...
A. 7 September 2010: It sounds like this guy is trying to play yo whenever he doesn't have another girl around. To come and go like that is far too sketchy especially after want sex so early on after meeting you. I would look for someone else, he may only want friends ... (read in full...)
Has my lying ex-bf has returned to torment me! What should I do?
Q. My ex has come back! I don't know what to do. I had this ex, that I thought I had gotten rid of. He used to lie to me all the time about everything but I gave him a chance anyway :( but it didn't work and I left him. We're nothing but a huge mess ...
A. 7 September 2010: You will have to be stern with this one and make sure he knows not to contact you again. Then you both can move on. Don't respond to his crying and begging to get back together, you have to tell him that its over without being too mean but you have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too friendly with the ladies!
Q. My boyfriend continues to greet other females by giving them an embracing hug and an affectionate kiss in front of me, after I have asked him not to....
A. 7 September 2010: I am wondering if he has always done this meaning its cultural or his personal custom to do so. Has he done this for many years or is it a recent thing? Its still doesn't seem to be right esspecially if he does this with every female he come into ... (read in full...)
She says I'm better even though they were bigger!
Q. ive been with the same woman for 14 years.i just found out that she slept with 3 of my friends four yrs ago.one a really close friend.iam now very insecure and hurt cuz i knw that they are bigger than me in penis size.so i knw she enjoyed it ...
A. 7 September 2010: Penis size is not even close to the most important thing in sex. You abviously have the drive and technique to please far more than any of these other guys. A big penis that does nothing will never please a girl. My advice to you is to be proud that ... (read in full...)
What is it is he trying to say?
Q. I am 18 years old. I babysit and tutor arounnd the neighbourhood. There's this one family that I usually babysit. I would usually take care of their five year old daughter and tutor their 15 year old son. After some time, I got to know them better ...
A. 7 September 2010: Ask him the next time that you two have a min alone so that you don't have to continue wondering for too long. Just say that you have a quick question for him. ... (read in full...)
What is it is he trying to say?
Q. I am 18 years old. I babysit and tutor arounnd the neighbourhood. There's this one family that I usually babysit. I would usually take care of their five year old daughter and tutor their 15 year old son. After some time, I got to know them better ...
A. 6 September 2010: I think he was trying to say that he likes you but is worried about starting something and then leaving for a long period of time. I would definitely talk to him about that night and see what he wants. I'm also curious about whether you are into him ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he will abuse me if we start dating?
Q. im 16 and the guy im talking to is 17. he seems really nice and we had a class together when i was a freshman. im a junior now. well he moved last year but is returning to my school this year. ive heard bad things about him tho. he dated a girl in ...
A. 4 September 2010: First of all you can't run from everything in your life so don't be too quick to listen to that. Now if you can get someone you can trust to confirm that he is abusive then i wouldn't go out with him.
Now i have a story of an ex of mine who clai... (read in full...)
Opinions needed! Is he just being nice or is he REALLY interested in me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I was just wondering if this boy is interested in me. Lets call him P well here is a list of things P does. Stares at me during classes and looks away fast when i look at him. We talk online for HOURS AND HOURS!! He asked me f...
A. 4 September 2010: It sounds like he is into you. One of those things alone wouldn't give it away but all together they add up to him liking you. ... (read in full...)
How do I lose 11 pounds fast?
Q. I'm 121 pounds and 5' 4 and I would like to lose about 11 pounds. I work out 3-4 times a week for about an hour. I try and eat healthy - ish. Any suggestions?...
A. 4 September 2010: Eat about six smaller healthy meals a day and switch up your work out to work different parts of your body. If you train with weights you might not lose any weight but you'll be far more toned which is so much better. Don't worry about the weight go ... (read in full...)
Should I send her a mixed tape?
Q. My girlfriend has left for boarding school and i won't see her for a month and a bit. Would it be sad to send her a mix tape of songs with missing someone as a meaning?...
A. 3 September 2010: I think that it would be a great idea but don't do all sad songs. Find some happy ones about being together to lift her spirits when you two are apart. Use songs you two have listened to together even if they aren't sad or romantic but they are fun ... (read in full...)
Is it natural to NOT breathe for periods of time?
Q. i know this may sound a little stupid but, iv recently noticed that sometimes i dont breath at all. its not like im holding my breath with blown up cheeks or something; it tends to happen when i am deeply focused on something or im thinking deep on ...
A. 1 September 2010: This can be natural. When I have been really focused during physical activity such as situps I tend not to breath and have to consciously think about breathing. Try to focus on breathing when you are in tha state. Your body won't let you hold your ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I sometimes have strong sexual dreams and longings for my ex wife?
Q. Is it normal that I sometimes have strong sexual dreams and longings for my ex wife? We have no chance of getting together, and we've joked about a hook up, but I dont see it happening. And our sex life was pretty average...so why am I having ...
A. 1 September 2010: I would say that this is your mind missing her and to compensate her not being there it is creating fantasies. These are so much more intense because it is what your body would hope to experience if you were to get back together with her. Usually a ... (read in full...)
Is Emilio jealous?
Q. I'm laughing so very hard right now as I write this and its from one part amusement and one part confusion. You see, my bf usually calls me right after work at 7. Yesterday, he didn't so I sent him a text. I assumed he was working late, no big. So ...
A. 1 September 2010: He might be over reacting thinking that you were just making fun of him. Some people don't take jokes very well. He did take it a little too far when he said "I'd kill you". That just doesn't seem to be joking although I don't know how he actually ... (read in full...)
If he thinks of me as a sister why did he check me out?
Q. Ok well I'm totally confused my best friend and i have known each other since we were about 7 and were both about to turn 16 i used to really like him but when i told me he didn't think of me that way he thought about me like a sister and slowly i ...
A. 1 September 2010: He may say that he sees you as a sister but in reality he can still be attracted to you. He may have said that to tell you how much you mean to him without coming on to you. A while back this girl who I was good friends with always said I was like a ... (read in full...)
How to give a really good lap dance?
Q. I have done like joke ones like to friends but that's it. And i really want to learn and be really good for my boyfriend to surprise him. My thing is I don't seem to learn anything by reading ..... does anyone know like a video site were they teach ...
A. 30 August 2010: I don't know any instructional sites but I know that my gf picked up alot from porn. If you want to try that go to www.youporn.com or just punch in youporn in google and it will be the first one that comes up. Its a free site that you won't have to ... (read in full...)
Is this appropriate in a business situation?
Q. i found an email on my partners phone from a female business acquaintance that he had met at a seminar the previous evening he told her that she was a nice person and they would catch up soon is this an appropriate in a business situation...
A. 30 August 2010: Yes this is fine. Even if it is hinting on a date they have kept it very professional and anything that happens outside of work does not concern anyone but those two people. ... (read in full...)
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