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writes:I'm 16 in a couple of weeks, and my boyfriends almost 17, we've been together 2years in March and we have our ups and downs, as a whole I'd say were very happy with each other and we know our relationship won't last forever, but we love each other now which is all that matters. We've been through quite alot and have dealt with our own personal problems but we've managed to stay together continously for this long and we don't regret one moment with each other.Yet, over a year ago, a guy a few years older than me came into a situation of my own, my boyfriend has no idea about him, nothing has ever happened, so here's the story:Basically, he saw me one day around school (he's left now) and from then every time we saw each other I felt this connection, it sounds completley pathetic but it's hard to explain, he added me online, we only spoke a few times at most but he said a few things yet because I was in a relationship which I was happy in I did nothing about it.Recently, i saw him in his car and we had a moment which actually felt like a cheesy film moment were we caught each others eyes. And from then I can't get him out of my head. I fanatise over him all of the time, I get butterflies just thinking about him and it's starting to worry me, I mean I barely even know him, he actually seems similar to my current boyfriend; interested in sports and mates, anyways I think you can get the picture now, all I really want to ask is this wrong? Does it maybe mean I'm falling out of love with my boyfriend? Yet my boyfriend is literally my world, I feel so confused, is it just my hormones acting up? I have no idea, any advice is good advice and thank you for reading. Reply to this Question
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (9 January 2010):
 You may be falling for this other guy or it may just be a crush. At this point in your life you are not committed to any boy and it may be time to move on from this bf. It is sad but it happens quite often and I think you understand this. Take time to think about whether you want to be with your current bf even if there was no other guy. If the answer is yes then move on. If you still love your bf and stay with him there is nothing wrong with thinking about other guys from time to time as long as it does not affect your relationship with him by the urges for this other guy becoming too strong.
Good luck with the choice you make and remember that all that matters if that your happy in the end.
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