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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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When should I be introduced to his children?
Q. how soon should i be introduced with my partners children ...
A. 17 July 2010: This would depend on the seriousness of the realtionship because it is tough on the kids to see people come and go. There is a point where it has been too long but try to be patient for it will show them that you love them and are ready to be part ... (read in full...)
Why wont he ask me out? I really want him to!
Q. Hey people please someone answer this for me. I really like this guy and all his frends tell me he is constantly talking about me and he really likes me they have been telling me this for about 2 months now, when he's with me I can see the way he ...
A. 17 July 2010: He may be shy or doesn't quite know if you want to date him. Guy's minds are weird and we tend to need a pretty big hint before we make a move because we don't want to take the chance of being rejected by someone we really like. If you get tired of ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to conceive a child without ejaculating or going in?
Q. Dear Cupid, my girlfriend is 4 weeks late, and we're obviously quite worried and we've back tracked what we've done over the last month or so. We've done everything other then sex, we're both virgins. We can only put it down to that we've been doi...
A. 17 July 2010: Its highly unlikely even with any pre-cum being placed on the outside of her. There are alot of things that can cause a missed period too, such as stress, diet or hormone changes due to medication effects. The pregnancy test is a great idea but she ... (read in full...)
Anniversary Gift Quandry
Q. Am I being greedy for having expectations of a gift from my husband for our 30th wedding anniversary?...
A. 17 July 2010: I'm wondering as I assume others will too, what are your expectations. It should be something thoughful since 30 years is one of those big marks but are you doing anything for him as well. Maybe he has expectations too.
I wouldn't expect some... (read in full...)
How should I react to his text?
Q. I broke my phone this week and unfortunately I lost quite a few numbers on it. I text my husband's friend and asked him to text me a one word answer just to confirm I had got his correct mobile number. We get on well and we have a laugh together but ...
A. 17 July 2010: I think it was just for a shock joke kind of thing. I find it a little funny but wouldn't think much of it if it was only that one message. Some people (I am one of them) like to do a joke when they are set up like that. It's in harmless fun. ... (read in full...)
Will you remember your first kiss forever?
Q. is your first kiss an important moment in your life ? will u remember it forever ? is it ok 2 kiss and date at 11or12or13 or is it 2 young?...
A. 17 July 2010: I think those ages are too young to date but kissing tends to start happening at this age. Personally I don't really remember my first kiss but that was because it wasn't really special. What I treasure is not the first kiss in general but the ... (read in full...)
Is there an approximate timeline for relationships?
Q. Hi, thank you for taking the time to read my question. I have been dating this guy for about 1.5 months and we started out really fast. I'm kind of scared because I feel like we're going too fast and even though he says he'll wait until I'm ready, ...
A. 10 July 2010: I beleive that there is no time line in a relationship, those who try to follow one tend to encounter many more problems. Its all based on how you feel. If you feel its moving to fast then it is. When it feels right then it is even if you two have ... (read in full...)
I'm 14, he's 18. He wants to have sex but doesn't want a relationship!
Q. i really like this boy and he's eighteen and we've been really close for ages. he say he wants to have sex with me and do other stuff but he doesnt want a relationship or know what he wants. it really upsets me coz he would be a great bf but i dont ...
A. 10 July 2010: I wouldn't have sex with him; one because its actual illegal for him to do so and two he just wants to use you. Even if you want to have sex at your age find someone who actually cares about you. I don't think that the friendship would really last ... (read in full...)
I just don't feel the same way about her... how do I break up with her?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend now for just over a year and a half, things started off great, at the time I really did find her attractive and have feelings for her but now I find it has all changed. I just find now I don't feel how I used to ab...
A. 9 July 2010: You need to sit her down and tell her that although you still care a great deal for her your feeling have changed and you won't be able to give her the loving relationship that she deserves. It will be hard but its better to do it quick otherwise ... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I'm lying about my virginity?
Q. I'm 16 and I've only had sex with two people; only a few close friends of mines know (which is only 2 people), but I regret having sex with them because neither one was my boyfriend (I'm not in a relationship at all) and I didn't love them; when ...
A. 9 July 2010: Not everyone needs to know your personal life so it's fine to tell them what ever you want to. It avoids them judging you and such. When you do find a bf, one who you really care about I would not lie to him at all about it. Just because you had sex ... (read in full...)
Do women actually cum too???
Q. Just to let you know i am 16 but for some reason it hasnt changed my age on here:/ Do women actually cum? I know this sounds strange but my boyfreind asks me during sex if im about to cum but i dont know. if so what happens?? or do i just not re...
A. 7 July 2010: When he asks during sex he probably means are you going to orgasm but saying are you cumming is a hotter term in the moment. Yes women, but not all can actually cum and will release a liquid at the time of orgasm. I don't know how it all works or ... (read in full...)
He refused to add me on Facebook, then made everything private, but still texts me!
Q. A boy who has asked me out (we have been out once so far)has refused to add me on facebook, and since I sent my request has made everything private. This is odd right? Is he hiding something from me or am I just being paranoid? He still texts me ...
A. 6 July 2010: I would like to say something in his difference just to bring an oposition to the questions answers. He may have pictures on there that he doesn't you to see because he is embaressed and it is hard to delete certain things from facebook. Also his ... (read in full...)
Pill Worries!
Q. In the instructions for my pill, it says that if you miss a pill, you can take it up to 12 hours late. I take my pill at about 7 am on weekdays and later on the weekend. Yesterday I took my pill at about 9.30am, and this morning I missed my pill and ...
A. 5 July 2010: It would be best to use alternate protection for for the next few days or the whole week just to be safe. Technically you would still be protected. One thing is that if you ever miss a pill by a whole day you can no longer take that pill. You would ... (read in full...)
I think I'm stuck in the friend zone now, but how do I get out?
Q. i recently ask a girl out who i have really like for at least 2 years now, and she said no because 'she loves me as a friend'. however, i don't want to give up on her, because to me she is far too special to let slip. is there any way i can get past ...
A. 5 July 2010: Try to ne more intimate with her. Spend time with her alone and flirt or cuddle up to her. Hold her hand and be cute in a low profile way and see if her behavior to you changes. You have to show her that there is a spark there between you two and ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how much longer I can do everything leading up to but not including sex!
Q. I am 19 and I have been with my girlfriend for about a year, we have known each other for 4. Both of us have expressed to each other that we plan on this being a long term, monogamous, committed relationship. She and I are kind of sexually active. ...
A. 30 June 2010: I was in a situation just like that and I had to end it because I couldn't live with myself putting pressure on her like that. Sex can be a big deal when you two are not on the same page about it. The veiws of wanting to wait till marriage don't ... (read in full...)
I'm straight but I think I'm gay!
Q. im straight but i think im gay. i like talking to my mates about my cock and theirs, whos seen whos and how big they are. I get a boner everytime i get naked even if im alone and i always hope for innocent gay things to happen when i'm with mates. ...
A. 30 June 2010: I think at this point in your life you are curious about both sexes. Personally I wouldn't call you straight or gay, I would say that you are looking for your place sexually. Do what feels most right within yourself, not what other people want of ... (read in full...)
Why people cough at me???
Q. I can't get it why people treat me like this. When i'm walking at the street or talk to someone there are three types of reactions.. One reaction is that they cough at me, another reaction is that they rub their nose and their face and the final ...
A. 30 June 2010: Thats really strange, I don't really know what to say. I'm now wondering what you smoke exactly because some brands have what I find to be a terrible odor while others aren't that bad at all. The tremble thing makes me picture a very large person ... (read in full...)
Why people cough at me???
Q. I can't get it why people treat me like this. When i'm walking at the street or talk to someone there are three types of reactions.. One reaction is that they cough at me, another reaction is that they rub their nose and their face and the final ...
A. 28 June 2010: I'm going to be blunt with this and I do not mean to offend but could it be an odor, natural or from the smoke. Or is your apperience really drastic? Would you appear out of the ordinary and scary to some the people in your area. This is very ... (read in full...)
I want to date someone, I don't want to be alone!
Q. okay, i know im young and i have tons of time to find someone, but i really want to date someone. all my friends have a boyfriend, even though they don't treat them right. they all have nice guys that they treat like dirt. i haven't dated a guy in a ...
A. 28 June 2010: There will be some waiting with this but go and put yourself out there. Meet new boys and if you find one that you like don't be afraid to ask him out instead of waiting around for him. If you pick them then there is a less likely chance of going on ... (read in full...)
I haven't told my parents that I'm dating a 22 year old, they think he's a pervert!
Q. Heeyy im natasha im 15 yearss, im sorta in love with my boyfriend who is 22 years oldd he is a really nice lad and im really scared what will happen in the future. He is the same hight as me and looks after me really nicely. i no his family very ...
A. 28 June 2010: Be careful with the sexual side, even though you didn't mention sex its always a main assumption.
Maybe you need to break up with him for now and get through high school, see who you meet and what happens. Keep in touch and see what things are like... (read in full...)
Why does he keep saying "you can do better"?
Q. Hi Everyone Please help if you can!!! I have no close guy friends to ask. What does a guy mean when he keeps saying "you can do better"?? Other than the obvious what is he really saying? We have been in a relationship for almost 5 years ...
A. 28 June 2010: I'm thinking that it means that he wants you to feel sorry for him and give him sympahty by staying with him. It also makes you more likely to give in to his suggestions because you feel bad for him. It's a really dirty trick. Or he wants you to end ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to become wet when aroused?
Q. I'm 16 and I'm a virgin. I've been with my boyfriend just over 8 months. Whenever I'm with my boyfriend and we are making out or whatever you like to call it I feel myself getting really wet. So when he starts to touch me (outside of clothes) I feel ...
A. 25 June 2010: It is perfectly normal to be like this. Getting so wet means that you are really turned on by your bf. Also some girls just naturally become wetter than others.
It can make sex a little messy but I would never call it a turn off. Any guy who unde... (read in full...)
He sitll has her number. What does it mean?
Q. what does it mean when your boyfriend of 1year and 4 momths still has his ex girlfriends number in his phoe,but say he dont call them...
A. 25 June 2010: I have tons of numbers from multiple girls I have dated still in my phone even though I'm in a new relationship. You never know when you may need to contact them just to express your sympathy if say a relative of theirs dies. Just because you broke ... (read in full...)
He loved the handjob so does that mean he's interested in me?
Q. Last night i was having a sleepover with 3 of my best friends, two of which are guys. were all 16. we decided to watch some movies and hangout but before all the movies were done two of my friends were out, leaving only me and my guy friend the only ...
A. 23 June 2010: It sounds to me that he is just looking for friends with benefits and not an actual relationship. There is almost no guy who would refuse a sexual act even when there is no desire to actually be with that person. If you are intersted in him then try ... (read in full...)
Plastic Surgery: are women turning into artificial robots?
Q. Does anyone else think it's terrible that womens plastic surgery is advertised on bus posters, magazines, shop posters... Does anyone else think this is very sad? I was driving home the other day, and I was behind a bus, the poster on it said "when ...
A. 23 June 2010: I think men are just as subjected to these images its just that they tend not to care once they are in a relationship. I don't find the fake plastic look to be attractive but I'm not totally against plastic surgery when it is for the right reasons. ... (read in full...)
Breaking up without hurting him?
Q. Hello all, I need advice on breaking up with my current boyfriend. We've been going out about 2 months, and I just don't feel like it's going anywhere, and also I'm moving in a couple of months so we will be pretty far from each other. I need adv...
A. 22 June 2010: I would like to add that I agree with it being in a private place but also make sure it is a place where you can leave from easily. The last thing anyone wants is to be stuck with a angry or sad person while they can't think straight and will just ... (read in full...)
Breaking up without hurting him?
Q. Hello all, I need advice on breaking up with my current boyfriend. We've been going out about 2 months, and I just don't feel like it's going anywhere, and also I'm moving in a couple of months so we will be pretty far from each other. I need adv...
A. 21 June 2010: Either way its going to hurt but it has also only been two months so the recovery will be faster. Tell him how you truely feel and give him a full honest explaination about the break up. This way he'll still hurt initially but when his head clears ... (read in full...)
How long until making out and making love?
Q. When you start dating a guy, how long should you wait before you start making out and before you start making love with him?...
A. 21 June 2010: I don't think that you can really put a time frame to this because it is based on what you feel about this person. It could take months or years for it to feel right. It may also never come or be there in a few weeks because you two really care ... (read in full...)
Why does weight matter?
Q. Hello, I was wondering about this for quite a while. Why do guys typically avoid girls who are somewhat overweight? I am perfectly average for my height and age, but I was asking on behalf of my friend. She is fifteen pounds overweight, but she ...
A. 21 June 2010: I would call that having curves, something that is very attractive. Its not that guys prefer skinny girls it just that is what is focused on so much. I think the shallow guys only go for skinny twig girls but the normal guys go for personality over ... (read in full...)
I'm embarrassed with my voice...
Q. Hey im 15 and i'll be 16 in march, something is bugging me but i guess its not really serious. Well everyone i know says my voice sounds like im around 10 years old is that normal? My boyfriend said he doesnt mind and that he thinks its cute, but im ...
A. 21 June 2010: A higher pitch voice is known to be more attractive to men than a deep voice. You may sound young but as long as you use sentences like a ten year old it is perfectly fine. You may always have a higher voice and there will be tons of people who will ... (read in full...)
Does having your nose pierced hurt?
Q. I know this aint a relationhsip question or anything but i need some advice. do nose pericings hurt? Ive always wanted it doing since i was at school, im now 19 and i really want it doing. some people say its so quick you cant feel it and othe...
A. 20 June 2010: I have not personally had this done but I know quite a few people who do. They say that it does sting but because it is not through any cartilage it won't be that bad. Make sure you go to a very clean proffesional place and clean it often after it ... (read in full...)
4 days on... should I worry?
Q. hello, so I had sex with my bf and it was at the time of my ovulation , he had the condom on but when he pulled off his penis I saw that he was surprised, he got up and turned his back on me ?! when I asked him what's wrong he didn't say anything ...
A. 16 June 2010: I reccomend going and getting a pregnancy test just to be sure. The symptoms may be brought on by you worrying but it would be a good idea to be sure. Also I would demand he tell you what happen because the condom may have torn or come off, either ... (read in full...)
Will she become interested in me again if I back off for a while?
Q. So I have been dating this girl for about 3 months. About 4 weeks ago (i felt out of nowhere, never saw it coming) she says she is confused/just wants to be friends/were 2 different people/I was trying to change her and she doesnt want to be ...
A. 16 June 2010: I think giving her some space would be good but don't dissapear completely. Be her friend and show her that you care about once a week or so. This way you will still be on her mind but she will have time to see what she is missing while she is not ... (read in full...)
Why do men enjoy penetrating a girl's mouth so deeply?
Q. Hi! Does anyone know why when you are giving your boyfriend a blowjob they want you to get their penis as far in your mouth as you can? I don't quite understand it, and hopefully I'm not the only person that has run into this. Thanks ...
A. 16 June 2010: I did not say that I liked it. I personally would never want that happen, it would kind of gross me out. That contraction would be the only thing that I could making the guy enjoy it more. Lol thanks Miamine for clarifying that. You got what I ... (read in full...)
Why do men enjoy penetrating a girl's mouth so deeply?
Q. Hi! Does anyone know why when you are giving your boyfriend a blowjob they want you to get their penis as far in your mouth as you can? I don't quite understand it, and hopefully I'm not the only person that has run into this. Thanks ...
A. 15 June 2010: I would like to add that the gag reflex is able to provide extra stimulation because of the contractions. ... (read in full...)
I'm sexually attracted to my girl cousin!!!
Q. I am 17 and a lesbian...I was tlking to my gf and I was joking about how she's always actn like she's flirting with her cousin and she told me that like 3 of her cousins said if she wasn't related to them shed fuk em and she was like WTF....and I'm ...
A. 15 June 2010: I'm glad you understand this and I still think that this is fine. It happens to alot of people, even I have thought that my some of my cousins are attractive. It's even more common if you don't see them all too often because they feel like just a ... (read in full...)
How do guys move on so fast?
Q. My ex and I decided to try it out again..only to fail. I thought we were doing good,but apparently, he didn't think the same. He had been telling me he loved me, and wanted us to work out, and then the next day, he dumps me again...I found out that ...
A. 15 June 2010: The typical guy will be over the relationship before he even dumps you because he has gone through all those phases will keeping the sexual part of the relationship going. It still takes guys time to move on and if I'm wrong then I must have the ... (read in full...)
I'm sexually attracted to my girl cousin!!!
Q. I am 17 and a lesbian...I was tlking to my gf and I was joking about how she's always actn like she's flirting with her cousin and she told me that like 3 of her cousins said if she wasn't related to them shed fuk em and she was like WTF....and I'm ...
A. 15 June 2010: You can't help who you are attracted to, no one can judge anyone for that. This is something I reccomend not pursuing because she is family and the whole family would be involved if anyone ever found out. I would leave it as a fantasy and stay with ... (read in full...)
Ladies, I have questions about penis size.
Q. Ladies, for those of you who've been with a well hung (8-9") man, enjoyed it, but went to a more average (5-6") partner and enjoyed that too, which do you generally prefer and why? Is bigger=more masculine, or powerful or what? Do you long for the ...
A. 15 June 2010: I have to say this because I recently heard it from one of my friends. The best thing about dating dating a man with a smaller penis is that they know its smaller and will work harder to satisfiy the women. Its all about the effort you put into it. ... (read in full...)
Does this story make sense?
Q. i was talking to my wife and we started to talk about your first times. i knew my wife had sex with 2 guys and I really do not care. she told me that before she had intercorse a boy next door,3 years older, fingered her and felt her up for 3 years ...
A. 15 June 2010: I would say it makes sense because you never say that they actually dated. She could have seen those other guys and somewhere along the line for three years off and on they fooled around. Depending on her age she may have never wanted to have sex ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I'm still a virgin?
Q. im 22 years old and ive been dating my boyfriend for just over a month now and I really like him, he thinks ive had sex in the past before, he just thinks I have because of my age but I havnt. im not ashamed that im still a virgin at age 22 but im...
A. 15 June 2010: I would tell him because when it does happen the first couple of time will be uncomfortable and he will need to know to take it easy. Also to use lots of lube. Personally I would be quite shocked and excited that you are willing to lose it to me. ... (read in full...)
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