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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Should I cancel the date because he told me his penis size?
Q. Hi friends, I met a guy online and he is 13 years younger than me. I am 48, take great care of myself and get alot of attention from guys. We are both professionals, work out alot and he is very handsome. We have been emailing, within a week he...
A. 14 May 2010: I think you should still go on the date. It may of just come out and he may not have meant it to sound that way. If you go on the date at least then you will be able to see for yourself what his intentions are.
We all say things we don't real... (read in full...)
Can a guy tell if you're a virgin or not?
Q. Hi, So i'm 20 and lost my virginity recently. It was with a guy I sort of know. I was drunk at the time and so was he. He didn't know I was a virgin and I haven't told him. I don't think it's a good idea he knows. Is there a way he could tell? I di...
A. 14 May 2010: There wouldn't be any way that he would know unless someone told him specifically.
Now chances are he wasn't a virgin so he won't think too much of it while it was your first time so it will form a deep memory. As for being bad if you were both... (read in full...)
At my new school do I pretend to be straight or come out as gay?
Q. New School New Chapter! but I can't hide myself as well as before! The thing is people say I'm shy when I only am when I'm around guys and ages ago I started to see why. I'm gay and in my old school I couldn't really hide it anymore and even...
A. 13 May 2010: I think you should act like the person that you want to be but you don't have to go around telling everyone that you're gay. They will figure it out as time goes on and they get to know you. As you wait around get your own impression of how they may ... (read in full...)
Do you think these are good gifts for my boyfriend's 17th bday?
Q. Hi, it's my boyfriend's birthday tomorrow and I urgently need to know if what I've got him is an ok present. We're 17 (well, he will be tomorrow) and have been together over a year. I got him some fred perry trainers and a wallet. I also got him a...
A. 13 May 2010: That sounds so sweet. You put alot of effort physically from running around to get everything and emotionally with all the meaning. I'm sure that he will love all of it.
I'd love to here about his reaction as well. Hope you two have a wond... (read in full...)
What is considered small?
Q. Hey well i have alot of ?'s sorry bout it bein long, i turned 15 on march 13th. My bra size is a B cup most the time. But some times i fit into a C cup depanding on what type and where i get it. Does this seem small? Every one always says it d...
A. 13 May 2010: He's young so of course a large breast will catch his eye. For your age and for who you are this is completely normal. The bra thing makes perfect sense and you have alot of things to look forward to with your breasts. One, they will stay looking ... (read in full...)
How do I tell a family member, she's worn out her welcome and she's the reason my bf is unhappy?
Q. How do i go about keeping my boyfriend happy in our relationship and not alienated by my family with a live in sister in law who doesn't know when to go home or know when her welcome mat is worn out. how do i tell her that she is the reason that he ...
A. 13 May 2010: Talk to him about it because either way it will be a touchy subject. Since it is his sister he should be the one to tell her its time to leave so you two can get on with your lives. Or what you can do is continually show her appartment and housing ... (read in full...)
Can minors get married in Ohio
Q. I'm pregnant and a minor. Can i leagally get married in the state of ohio?? ...
A. 13 May 2010: Under 21: If you are 18 to 21 years of age, you will need to show your birth certificate. Persons aged 16-17 must have consent to marry from parents or legal guardians and may have to contact the Probate Court. Additionally, the Judge may require ... (read in full...)
How do I give boyfriend the green light to do more?
Q. My boyfriend is 16 and so am I. A while ago we were making out and he slipped his hands into my pants, I later said we should slow it down for a while. How do I now show him it's ok? And is this likely to lead to fingering?...
A. 13 May 2010: If you're ready for it then as you two are making out just move his hand to where you want it and he'll take the hint. Wisper in his ear how far you want it to go this time. He'll be thrilled.
Yes it will probably lead to fingering so make sure... (read in full...)
G/f flirts every day and its really getting old!
Q. OK my girlfriend and i have been dating for 9months, we have are good days and bad days, i usually start the fights. ino were only in high school but she flirts every single day. it gets really old quick and i dont know if i should just take it or ...
A. 13 May 2010: This may be a case where she is a flirt and will not stop for anyone at the moment atleast. My concern is if you are always driving and paying for everything she may be using you. I say get out of the relationship because this early on should still ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I want to have sex!
Q. Hi, I'm 14 years old and I want to have sex. But I don't have a girlfriend. I'm tired of masturbation. So i want a girlfriend. Not for sex(but that's a point). I also want to love her an so on. All I can say is that i'm not a VERY good-looking boy...
A. 12 May 2010: At this point in your life you have to be true to who you are and don't be afraid to ask a girl you like out. It will take some time for the sex, I wouldn't try to rush it. The pressure might drive alot of girls away. Ask a girl out with the true ... (read in full...)
How do you chat up a guy?
Q. hi this guy has been giving me attention lately. he says hi and calls my name but never actually talks to me. he isnt like this with other girls so what does this mean? i know this is embarrising at my age to be asking but how do you chat up a guy?...
A. 12 May 2010: See if you can find something that he is interested in and bring that up with him. Once you get talking it will all come naturally. It's just getting the conversation started that difficult. Watch him closely and see if there is anything that ... (read in full...)
Will guys be interested in a girl like me?
Q. Hello, I am indian ,a young girl artist who likes to draw things that makes everyone smile ,dance is my passion and i love cooking and i am considered beautiful among other indian girls but i am not that smart or intelligent that counts my low ...
A. 12 May 2010: I don't see why a guy wouldn't be interested in you. I am a caucasian myself and do find an attractivness in many types of women. If you are looking to meet them then make sure you give a good signal that you are interested. One thing that comes to ... (read in full...)
Am I just easy to fool or could he really love me?
Q. hello, I am a 20 years old girl, I dated a guy four years ago, I really loved him we were crazy in love but I did something wrong and he broke up with me I felt horrible for a very long time, we met after and we went out many times the previous year ...
A. 12 May 2010: I think its best to move on to someone else. I'm wondering what you did because if he is one to freak out about little things and dump you then he definitely isn't worth it. It should take alot more then a couple words for him to prove himself. If ... (read in full...)
I'm hot so how come I never get asked out?
Q. Im not ugly i swear everytime at school all the guys always say like DAMN when i pass by or LOTS of other things i never flirt with NOBODY though i dnt like to do tht cuz then they will call u hoe or somthin but the thing is that guys always check ...
A. 11 May 2010: When a guy see's a hot girl he will think that she is either in a relationship or is not interested. If you want to get asked out try making the first move and talking to a guy that you are interested in. That way he will know and you'll avoid the ... (read in full...)
How big a deal is your partner's past?
Q. how big of a deal is your significant other's sexual past? she recently revealed that it is many more men than she said at the beginning of our relationship, and she hinted that there may have been 2 at once. this new information makes mor...
A. 11 May 2010: I think the past should be left in the past and the person should be seen for who they are now. The big thing is that if it is a haunting past that she needs help with then you have to decide if you will stay to help her with it. If its a sexual ... (read in full...)
Should a guy ask a girl out...on the street or in a mall?
Q. Would a guy ever ask a girl out just on the street or the mall or something? Basically I know its kinda sad but I don't have a load of friends and I don't really ever go out clubbing. I work in the city so I often go shopping during the day and stuf...
A. 10 May 2010: Definitely anywhere. If you see a guy who looks interested make sure to give him a friendly smile to let him know that you won't be creeped out if he does come to talk to you. ... (read in full...)
What is the legal age to move out in Manitoba?
Q. I would like to know what the legal age is to move out in Manitoba? I've looked online and found a couple different answers. ...
A. 8 May 2010: Hey I'm a from winnipeg and I beleive the age is 16 because that is also the age that you can drop out of school. I'm not 100% sure about this so it may be eighteen. The biggest problem would be finding a place to go unless your with someone who is ... (read in full...)
Making out makes me have blue balls
Q. Hey guys I'm a 16 and a virgin, I have a girlfriend and everytime we makeout my balls hurt like a bitch. I have herd something about something called blue balls but they don't turn blue. Can anyone help me how to I stop them from hurting after I ...
A. 7 May 2010: If its built up then there will be alot more then you are used to from just regular masturbation. Thats completely normal. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have periods whilst pregnant?
Q. if i get my period, is it possible to still be pregnant?...
A. 7 May 2010: Having your actuall period is a no but there are many cases where bleeding will still occur throughout a pregnancy. If you are worried then you should go buy or see a doctor for a test. That way you can be sure and no one else has to know about it. ... (read in full...)
Oral Sex Questions
Q. Did you give oral sex to your first girlfriend/boyfriend? Were you their first girlfriend/boyfriend? Did they return the favor? How old were the both of you?...
A. 7 May 2010: No not my first gf, it wasn't until the second and I was her first for that while I didn't not recieve it till my third gf. It was not her first time giving or receiving oral. I was 17 she was 18.
I'm just wondering why you are gathering this inf... (read in full...)
Fantasizing about sex but afraid of it too!
Q. Hi! I have 15 years old and i love thinking, fantasize and talk about sex... I know that i am young but im really curious and anxious to try sex but i have afraid of the pain and i am ashamed with my body and i dont have confidence in myself! ...
A. 7 May 2010: The fears will pass with time as you get older and are with the right person. Same with the self confidence. I don't recommend rushing into anything because you may regret it.
Self confidence outside of sex is something you have to work on your... (read in full...)
Need answers on first time sex!
Q. did you have sex with your first girlfriend/boyfriend? Were you their first girlfriend/boyfriend too? How old were the both of you?...
A. 7 May 2010: She was not my first gf and it wasn't her first time when it was mine. She was 18 and I was 17. ... (read in full...)
I need help with losing weight!
Q. I am 14 years old and am kinda overweight. I really want to lose weight and gain some muscle what is the best way to go about doing this without starving myself?...
A. 7 May 2010: Make sure to get lots of exercise and try to cut out as much junk food (chips, pop, fast food etc.) as possible. Do some weight training with light weights and many reps to build the nice lean muscle. Then cardio work to lose fat from the body as ... (read in full...)
Making out makes me have blue balls
Q. Hey guys I'm a 16 and a virgin, I have a girlfriend and everytime we makeout my balls hurt like a bitch. I have herd something about something called blue balls but they don't turn blue. Can anyone help me how to I stop them from hurting after I ...
A. 7 May 2010: If its not going any farther than making out then when you get home or any time you can after that try masturbating. It may even help you out if you did as close to when you were going to be making out as possible. My guess is that you stay hard the ... (read in full...)
Never had a boyfriend and suddenly I have 2 men interested!
Q. I feel completly lost and confused. I've never had a boyfriend and suddenly two guys are really interested in me. They're both really nice, beautiful and smart. I can't decide, it's impossible and I don't wanna lose them. I can't stop thinking about ...
A. 5 May 2010: Get to know them both then pick the one that your heart chooses. Ignore most of the logic and just pick the one that feels right. My gf was in this situation with me and another guy before we started dating. Her heart wanted me but this other guy ... (read in full...)
Does it hurt? A handjob through fabric?
Q. Alright, so handjobs- I HATE them. My boyfriend is constantly wearing basketball shorts, and the elastic is to tight for me to be able to move my arm around enough, so lately, I've been starting out by rubbing him through the shorts. My question is, ...
A. 5 May 2010: Through something like jeans its not too great, but those basketball shorts are generally soft plus the boxers aren't made to be rough.
It wouldn't hurt at all the only problem is him finishing is those shorts which is just uncomfortable but kind... (read in full...)
Concerned because the "butterflies" are gone!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for three years. We have lived together for the last two years. He is a very sweet person and an excellent boyfriend. We get along great and hardly fight. My concern is that the "butterflies" are gone.Also, I go ...
A. 4 May 2010: This is very common with relationships as they progress. Try finding different ways to spice up your love life because routine is a sure fire way to kill those butterflies. Anything from role play to random sex in the house. If that is not an option ... (read in full...)
How much time should I wait for him to text me?
Q. Hi, I just met a guy through a friend, and we talked for a bit then in the end he asked for my number. He texted me the day next. We chatted. Then I texted him 2 days after. We chatted. That was yesterday. The question: I'm wondering how lon...
A. 4 May 2010: I would say give him a couple of days but that also depends on who texted who first last. If it was you then three or four days would be a good wait. He probably doesn't want to creep you out by texting you all the time. Also she how long it take ... (read in full...)
What can I do to fix our friendship?
Q. Hi I am currently 15 in high school. Right now I like this girl and she likes me too but for a couple of days I have been thinking that she is lying to me and probably never liked me. So I ask her if she had every lied to me and she says she ...
A. 4 May 2010: You're going to half to approach her and be nice, you can't keep accusing her of lying if you want to be with her. Take the time to talk to her and trust what she says otherwise without that trust there will never be a friendship or anything else. ... (read in full...)
What's this 'squirting' business?
Q. hey all, i did post this question before but i cant seem to find it anywhere so have not had it answered as far as i know! sorry if its just me being stupid, thought id ask again anyway! :) my boyfriend and i have a very good sex life and always w...
A. 3 May 2010: It is related to an orgasm but as stated not all girls can do it. It's not really seen as more intense, just about the same as a regular orgasm. If you want to learn how your best bet is to search for intructional videos but it will be alot of ... (read in full...)
Shaving, losing my virginity and pain! Need advice on all!
Q. Hia, I'm 16, and i think that in august i will loose my virginity to this lad i am in love with. We're not going out because he lives about 2 hours away and we think it would be too hard to have a relationship cus of the distance, but we both want...
A. 30 April 2010: Let him know that you're nervous because he will have to go slow and take it easy. I'm sure he will. Make sure to either be really wet or to get a water based lube just to help out. There is a good chance it will be painful ranging from a little ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, she's 15 will the age difference be frowned upon?
Q. Just a quick simple question.. A couple of days ago, a girl i'm good friends with asked me out, we get on like house on fire and have all the same interests and stuff but her age is bothering me alittle bit.. Im 18 in a matter of weeks and she's ...
A. 30 April 2010: It may be frowned upon but that would be short lived. Once she is 18 or even 17 all of a sudden that age gap seems non existent. It's truely weird why soceity does this. Once everything is legal alot of people won't say anything although some still ... (read in full...)
Experiences with meeting people online
Q. Hi, what do people think about meeting people online!? Has anyone ever done it? What was it like?...
A. 30 April 2010: I have not actually done so myself but I know people who have. One turned out really badly because she did not really get to know this guy and ended up at a random party with him. I don't think you'd ever do something like that so focus on my next ... (read in full...)
My ex's parents don't care..should I let them see their granddaughter?
Q. just wandering what peoples views are on my situation Me and my boyfriend of 2 years have broken up, we lived together and have a child.. His mother was the guarentor for our house, when we broke up she phoned the letting agent and withdrew h...
A. 30 April 2010: It really comes down to whether he wants his parents to see the child as well unless you have sole custody. If he doesn't then there is nothing forcing you to bring that child over there and if they treat you badly then I would never be bothered to ... (read in full...)
Husband never says I love you after we have sex
Q. Hello, I am really upset with my husband, because after we have sex, I always tell him I love him, and he refuses to say it back (he does tell me he loves me at other times). I explained to him that its really important to me to hear it, and tha...
A. 30 April 2010: This is just my opinion but I think that he doesn't want to put those three words in as the final thing during or after sex. Its hard to explain but some people see that as ruining the mood. I'm wondering if he ever says anything else beause ... (read in full...)
Thoughts of sex taking over my life.
Q. im absolutly desperate! i feel like if i don't f*ck a girl im going to explode. ive tried watching porn and masturbating( im doing it right now!)and its starting to stop working. im not a pervert or anything but in school i have sex senarios with ...
A. 27 April 2010: This is tipical for someone your age. I used to always think about sex and girls and in some ways bith guys and girls never stop. My advice is to keep masturbating since a girl right now is unlikely to fulfill everything you say you want and try to ... (read in full...)
Need some advice on how to approach a girl.
Q. I was wondering if I could have some advice on how to approach this girl that I have known for about nine years. She has asked me out before but have said no. Me and her have a banquet this Friday and was wondering if I should ask to dance with me ...
A. 27 April 2010: Ask her to dance first and see how she reacts. Save asking her out til the end of the night but not right at the end when everyone is leaving. Just go up and start talking to her, she's interested already so it should flow smoothly. Dress up and be ... (read in full...)
Why did I send that stupid text?
Q. Hey everyone, This is so embarressing... I am on holiday and renting a car from a georgous guy who i fancy like crazy, its been a month now ive fallen for him not in love but in lust and we have had many conversations about different things...
A. 27 April 2010: Ask him about it next time you see him. Chances are yes he did get it and he may have had a number of reasons why he didn't get back to you. I personally would want to know his thoughts just do it when you return the car that way if you are going to ... (read in full...)
Desperate at 13 for a cute girl who isn't a bitch!
Q. im desperate for a cute girl who is not a bitch, im only thirteen and i have no idea what a 13 year old pretty,preppy, hockey playing girl would want in a guy, her past boyfriends are all good looking, kind of douche bags and many are hockey ...
A. 27 April 2010: If your talking about this girl in particular or in fact this is good for anyone. Just approach her and be the nice polite guy, don't put on a show or anything like that. Just be yourself is such a general statement but it works because it is the ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being overly protective?
Q. Hi, I am a friend of Keira9312's and I needed some help about my boyfriend. It seems as if he is becoming extremely obsessive and protective of me. It comes to the point where he glares at my other guy friends, or interrupts them to take me ...
A. 27 April 2010: That is far to protective. A certain level is good but you still have to be an independant person. This is more of an insecurity issue on his side. I consider myself very protective but i know when I'm needed and when I'm not. This could go down a ... (read in full...)
Are these signs he might be interested?
Q. I am extremely confused about the signals that a guy makes when he likes you. I know one guy that seems to be interested in me, but he hasn't talked to me yet, so i'm not exactly positive. These things that he does include: frequently glancing or ...
A. 27 April 2010: If he's doing all that I would say that he is interested and a little shy. An easy way to find out if he is interested is to go and talk to him. From that conversation even if it really doesn't go anywhere because he is nervous you will be able to ... (read in full...)
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