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writes:I have been with my gf for about 2.5 years. i love her with all that i am. we plan on being together forever. for about a year she has been giving me blowjobs/handjobs. today, yesterday and the day before that, things were getting hot and heavy. she rarely likes fingering. she would get me real horny and we would both be horny and then she would just stop. today am really concerned. she was sucking and spitting on my penis and giving me a handjob. it was great! then she just stopped! again! i love her so much so i didnt get mad at her and comforted her when she asked me if i was mad at her. what can i do to make her want me again? its really hurting my self esteem. am i being wronged? intercourse isnt an option till marriage. help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i dont know. i understand where youre coming from. and im not mad at all. i appreciate youre help
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (15 January 2010):
 Oh dude dont get me wrong, im not clowning you, Im just trying to help you with your original question! you know they make rubbers, and Im not telling you im right, as I dont know either of you, but it sounds like maybe she is getting frustrated, and really does want to go all the way, but your both committed to not doing it! maybe keep a rubber handy, and just slowly try! just when your both worked up, the worst she can do is say no! and at that point, youve eliminated that problem! Im just trying to figure out whats the cause of your original question that's all, it's not about respect or what you guys have agreed on, im simply going on human biolidgy! and I cant think of any other answers? so that's just my 2 cents, im really not intending to get you in trouble or get you pissed off at me, just being helpful?? tell me what you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe says she isnt ready for it. i respect her wants and desires. also, we want to save intercourse for marriage so there is something to actually save. i think it means more in marriage. another reason is that she cant get pregnant if we arent having sex. i believe that if youre having sex you better be ready to afford, support and love any child you might have. we are waiting to get married til we are both finished with college and financially stable. i think as of right now im gonna not push anything on her. im not gonna try to pull anything sexual. im not gonna ask her to do anything she doesnt want to do. she doesnt really owe me anything except what i give her. im truly happy with or without sexual relations at this point. i just need her.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (15 January 2010):
I guess im just curious as to why you do everything but sex? whats the point? your already doing things that are "bad" I dont see even from any religious standpoint what the point is, if your saving it for marriage, arent you supposed to save it all for marriage? just my ignorance, im just very curious? maybe that's the next step that needs to be taken?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionive tried giving her oral. i dont think she liked it. ive done fingering and shes acted like she likes it. i dont know. i think the only way to satisfy her sexually is actual sex. which wont be an option for either of us til we are married. but i rub her feet, massage her back and sholders. i love doing special things for her. all the romantic stuff like dancing and holding hands, love notes out of the blue. ive even written poems to her. ive given her the nicests gifts that i could afford for special occasions like anniversaries, valentines etc. i built and designed her cedar chest to celebrate her first year of completion of college. i mean i think im pretty good to her. i really do try to please her in every way. and she is really good to me too. we have a great relationship even if we werent sexual. i guess im worried how she feels or if she feels unhappy. im also worried this trend might continue into our potential marriage. i dont think it would be healthy for a marriage. i know its looking pretty far ahead in the future and we both have a lot of growing to do. i just want mutual happiness and health.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (14 January 2010):
Have you offered to give her oral? all i read from your post is you, you, you, I didnt see one thing about you accomodating her sexual needs???
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (14 January 2010):
 Tell her how you feel. Anger will just make the situation worse so try to be calm. Explain how it is hurting you and maybe try to get more adventerous with the things that you do. If she does do this too often, for lack of a better term you get whats called blue balls which can be painful if she leaves you in the middle of it and you don't finish it yourself then.
Express your feelings truthfully in the end she will appreciate the effort you put into trying to make the sexual activities better for both of you.
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reader, nelle2472002 +, writes (14 January 2010):
 well..i think that it doesnt have nothing to do with that she dont want you no more, because according to you she never actually had you. i think that maybe shes feeling bad about what shes doing because she wants to wait until marriage. or it could be that its really turning her on, and she feels herself going to slip and do something shes either not ready to do or dont want to do until she is married. either way i think you should actually sit and talk with her about it she will tell you if you approach her right and dont make it like your mad at her or its a problem.
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reader, Sweety123 +, writes (14 January 2010):
 something might have happened to her before she met you which might acount for her backing off
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