I'm not treated as an adult and my family favour my brother, how do I deal with this?
Q. i have recently had my 21st birthday. before i go on i want to say that i am not a spoilt child, i have worked since i was 16 now work in the city for a large commerical firm after completing my degree. i have always struggled at home, i fought for ...
A. 6 January 2012: I still think you need to get yourself your OWN home. There is a time when you need to leave the nest Honey, and this is it.... (read in full...)
1st time about anal sex and I'm worried about it being messy!
Q. hello all, i am going to be embarking into the world of anal sex starting in a few days and i'm really excited, but also worried! to be blunt i am worried about poo and that i will poo myself! i am also worried about the hygiene of it and any do...
A. 4 January 2012: Sounds to me like a lot of work, worry, and pain when the good Lord provided an excellent penis receptor conveniently located.... (read in full...)
How involved should I be with my niece's choices?
Q. My Niece is 14 and she has changed dramatically in her teenage years from the very considerate and empathetic girl she once was, to a looks obsessed, withdrawn and troubled teen. Her parents are now divorced and I suspect her Mum to be in part ...
A. 4 January 2012: You are walking on a very slippery slope here. I think you just need a nice sit down talk with her father, your brother, and explain all your concerns. Just let him know that you are concerned about what you've heard. But what you really want to be ... (read in full...)
My Mum's a tacky dating tramp all over Facebook. Help!
Q. My mum's using the fb date site and she adding all these guys for friends and flirting with them. I want her to stop because it shows up on fb to everybody thats her friends and some of them are my friends and relatives. She's acting like a slut and ...
A. 4 January 2012: What Tish said.... (read in full...)
I'm not treated as an adult and my family favour my brother, how do I deal with this?
Q. i have recently had my 21st birthday. before i go on i want to say that i am not a spoilt child, i have worked since i was 16 now work in the city for a large commerical firm after completing my degree. i have always struggled at home, i fought for ...
A. 4 January 2012: She may have a field day about you moving out but you won't be there to hear it if you do just that, move out. It's time to distance yourself, you are a big girl now.... (read in full...)
My ex will only talk to me about our kids, after I started dating a friend of hers. I miss her company!
Q. my ex and i split up a while ago......we did sleep together for sometime afterwards. whilst we were sleeping together i was messaging a friend of hers and now we have become a couple. my ex and i have kids together and we always got along well. ...
A. 4 January 2012: Admit it, you just want to string her along. She has wised up, time for you to do the same Buddy.... (read in full...)
Bizzare excuses: am I just being paranoid or is he right that I have trust issues?
Q. How does a guy who has been sketchy react when you suddenly start being sketchy back? I have never played hard to get and may make it too easy when I like a guy. If we are dating and he wants to see me - I say yes at the drop of a dime. I don't li...
A. 4 January 2012: Definitely married or in an ongoing relationship, don't sucker for it.... (read in full...)
I'm not treated as an adult and my family favour my brother, how do I deal with this?
Q. i have recently had my 21st birthday. before i go on i want to say that i am not a spoilt child, i have worked since i was 16 now work in the city for a large commerical firm after completing my degree. i have always struggled at home, i fought for ...
A. 3 January 2012: Pack the presents away, you'll use them sooner or later. As soon as you can afford it, get your own place. This is when you should be leaving the nest. You will be surprised how your moving out will improve your relationship with your family.... (read in full...)
I am finding it hard to not worry about what my parents think of my partner, I think he could be the one. How do I just live my life for me and not worry?
Q. Hi, I'm extremely upset at the moment and would be ever so grateful for your advice. I'm in my mid-thirties and met a very loving, warm man who is 2 years older than me, about 2 months ago. Having been single for a while and not having had much luc...
A. 3 January 2012: Enjoy your relationship, the rest will sort itself out in due course.... (read in full...)
My stomach makes noises in class, how do I stop feeling awkward?
Q. When I'm in a quiet classroom I tend to think and worry about my stomach making funny noises around other people. It makes loud noises that people think are funny because it sounds like I'm passing gas or have to use the bathroom. I'm the cause of ...
A. 3 January 2012: Buddy you have posted this on DC numerous times. I think it's time you get some real professional therapy, I truly think there is more here than a grumbling stomach.... (read in full...)
My much older ex won't let me move on.
Q. my ex kicked me out of our home in may. he then used me once a week for 4 months until I told him I wanted more commitment - his response was that he was happy how things were going between us and didn't want anyone but me but if I want to rush ...
A. 3 January 2012: He's 52 and you are 18-21? Ignore the old fart and get busy with your young life and find someone who will truly appreciate you.... (read in full...)
Why do married co-workers take advantage of me because I am single?
Q. Why do my co-workers who are married and/or have children take advantage of the fact that I'm single and childless especially when it comes to changing shifts or working overtime? I seem to always end up with the worst shifts, last minute changes ...
A. 3 January 2012: Talk to your immediate supervisor, make sure they are aware. Then the next time someone wants you to cover for them you make it clear that they will have to pay you back or you won't do it. Tit for tat. People are only taken advantage of because ... (read in full...)
Does he want more than a FWB relationship with me?
Q. Hi everyone me and this guy have been seeing one another since march last year well I think were more fwbs than a proper couple even though I do want to be with him properly the last week he came round mine drunk n I heard him whisper he loved me ...
A. 3 January 2012: Knock off the sex and see if he still comes around.... (read in full...)
How can I tell my parents that I really want to marry him?
Q. It has now been three years that I've been dating my boyfriend (the same one that my previous question was about; I'm very glad I didn't break up with him), and now I'm pretty sure I've found my future husband! :D Excitement! One problem. I have ...
A. 22 December 2011: What was the previous question you posted?... (read in full...)
Social outings, my boyfriend, and his ex
Q. Hi Hope u can help as I just need advice as I am in a very new situation! My fella and I have been together nearly 6 months. He loves me as I do him. However, he has 2 wonderful children (who I haven't met yet) and I understand that he has reg...
A. 22 December 2011: I'd ask to go along on the next outing. I would definitely want to throw my hat in the ring.... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex makes me uncomfortable... should I invite her to the wedding anyway?
Q. So I can't decide whether I want one of my fiance's best friends to come to our wedding. We are having a very small wedding - basically just family and very few friends due to cost and the fact that it is going to be a very informal wedding...
A. 16 December 2011: Yeah, I've changed my mind on it also, don't invite her.... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex makes me uncomfortable... should I invite her to the wedding anyway?
Q. So I can't decide whether I want one of my fiance's best friends to come to our wedding. We are having a very small wedding - basically just family and very few friends due to cost and the fact that it is going to be a very informal wedding...
A. 12 December 2011: I'd invite her, it will be the closure she needs, kind of like a viewing at the funeral parlor. Besides you'll be the star that day no matter what.... (read in full...)
My bisexual/lesbian friend dislikes gay men!
Q. Dear cupid, My best friend is a female bisexual and she's great, but I have one problem and its the fact that she hates gay men. I'm so fed up with her double standards its drives me up the walls. Sometimes she calls them names like F****t and ...
A. 12 December 2011: Buddy, you can't pick your family but you sure as hell can pick your friends. Unpick this one.... (read in full...)
I think I love my FWB but he doesn't care
Q. ok, so this friend and i have been doin this friends with benifits thing since the break up the first time! but hes tarted to get close with an ex of his but he said it most likly wont work. well shortly after that we got back together and it only ...
A. 8 December 2011: The whole point of a FWB IS using each other for sex and only sex, period. You, apparently and unfortunately, didn't understand the not-so-fine small print on the contract. I think you'd best just pull yourself up by your bootstraps and move on.... (read in full...)
My crush is dating a female version of me!
Q. I have known my best friend/crush for years. About 4 months ago he broke up with his girlfriend of two years. I was going to let him get over her and then ask him out. I never got the chance. The next time I saw him he told me he had a new ...
A. 7 December 2011: Maybe he's not so Bi after all. Let his relationship run its course. If he's your friend you should not be surprised that he would find similar traits in a girlfriend that he finds likeable in you. I don't know as I would comment on the similarities ... (read in full...)
I wouldnt normally get involved in a friend's relationship, but I cant stand by and watch her get hurt! What should I do?
Q. This is not about me, but about a relationship of someone who's close to me. Two friends of mine got together about a year ago. I'm always for letting people be, but this relationship is only working out for one of them, namely the guy. I care ...
A. 7 December 2011: Stay out of it, trust me, if you get involved it will be a lose-lose situation for you. Be there as her friend and a shoulder to cry on but stay out of it.... (read in full...)
How can I prevent myself from being put into the friend zone?
Q. Why am I always considered a "friend" and just that? What can I do to make girls actually like me more than a friend?...
A. 7 December 2011: "Make"? You can't MAKE a girl do anything. Do you ask them out on dates? Have you have multiple dates with one girl? Have to tried for that third date kiss with a girl?... (read in full...)
Fling I had at work is now totally ignoring me. I'm married but feel uncomfortable with things this way!
Q. I had a fling with a guy at my job for 2 years. He wasn't what I expected so we ended the relationship. It took awhile for him to go away because he was still calling and texting for six more months after. I have moved on and now pregnant and ...
A. 7 December 2011: It sounds like your little "fling" meant more to him than it did to you. Leave it alone, let him find his own way to deal with it.Hopefully he'll come around, but you have more important things on your mind at this moment anyway.... (read in full...)
How much do you mind a partner's human side (bodily functions?)
Q. This might sound like a ridiculous question, but in all seriousness, when you're with a new boyfriend/girlfriend (one you've been with for some time but have never lived with, that is), how much do you mind being aware of their... umm... more human ...
A. 7 December 2011: You aren't being silly just unrealistic. He knows you need to poop and pee. Run the shower or sink faucet if you feel embarrassed about any noises you might make. ... (read in full...)
My partner couldn't be bothered that I miscarried our baby, and he's been busy texting his ex while I'm going through hell!
Q. Hi I've been with my partner for 3 half years. I was due to move on with him next month. In October I found out I was pregnant and was so happy. I'm 41 and my son has left home. My bf wasn't too keen at first but eventually began to get excited....
A. 7 December 2011: You ask how he can be so cold? I have to ask why the heck are you still with this unfeeling monster?... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he hasn't let go of his wife!
Q. I have been with a man over a year now..he hasnt stopped with communicating with his ex wife..he hasnt stopped hacking into her email He has told me several times that he wishes she would move on but when she has a caller he turns into this ...
A. 5 December 2011: What exactly are you hoping to hear from the Aunts and Uncles? If you are trying for reaffirmation I'm thinking you are truly wasting more time than ever. This guy is never going to get off the fence. He likes straddling both sides just fine and ... (read in full...)
Wait 6 yrs or call it quits now?
Q. What would you do if you were me? 48 yr old in a 1 yr relationship. He wants to date for 6 yrs then marry, due to him recently buying and renovating his house. I'd like to get married now. I can't see the back and forth for that long. I take ...
A. 5 December 2011: In six years how old will your children be? Is he holding out because he doesn't want to deal with the kids?... (read in full...)
Told his wife he's cheating.....was I wrong for telling?
Q. I Recently slept with a married man after talking to him daily for two months and him promising that he would leave his wife within the next 5 months and there is no love between them or sex..just friendship....I believed him and after a dinner date ...
A. 5 December 2011: "Hell hath no fury...yada yada yada... (read in full...)
Told his wife he's cheating.....was I wrong for telling?
Q. I Recently slept with a married man after talking to him daily for two months and him promising that he would leave his wife within the next 5 months and there is no love between them or sex..just friendship....I believed him and after a dinner date ...
A. 5 December 2011: "Hell hath no fury...blah blah blah... (read in full...)
I have developed feelings for a mentor who is married!
Q. ive developed feelings for a mentor, whose married, and i need advice on how to get rid of my feelings for him? i think about him all the time and wish i was were he was. is there a way to stop or block the strong connection. ...
A. 5 December 2011: Think about his loving wife.... (read in full...)
Help me to chose a tattoo for my best friend that has just died.
Q. Okay...well my best friend just died and I've been handling it quite strangely...but anyways I've decided that I wanted to get a tattoo for him...nothing like rip or stuff like that...I searched and searched for quotes and I couldnt find one that I ...
A. 5 December 2011: Some companies do not allow tats. So I have only three words of advice for you. Location, location, location.... (read in full...)
How can I get a sense of closure. My teacher is moving away.
Q. I am a little confused. What is supposed to be my reaction to a teacher saying that there "wont be anyone like you where I'll be going" and "I wish you could come with me to _____" or "I wish I didnt have to leave you" ???? I mean, this teach...
A. 5 December 2011: Time will provide the closure for you.... (read in full...)
My parents negative comments make me feel worthless. What can I do?
Q. I will try to be brief. I am a high school student who is hated by her parents. now I KNOW people say that all the time and people reply "that's impossible, you're just being a teenager" but I am telling you I'm not a normal teenager, nor is this a ...
A. 5 December 2011: Hang in there, you'll be graduated before you know it and with your gradepoint should have no trouble getting a scholarship and being accepted by most universities. Choose one far from home. Make that your focus and it will help you during the next ... (read in full...)
Having an affair and thinking of leaving my husband. Thoughts?
Q. i have been married over twenty years and have cheated on my husband with another man that i have also known for over twenty years. during the course of my marriage i have been in and out of relationship with other man four different times. each ...
A. 5 December 2011: is not os... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he hasn't let go of his wife!
Q. I have been with a man over a year now..he hasnt stopped with communicating with his ex wife..he hasnt stopped hacking into her email He has told me several times that he wishes she would move on but when she has a caller he turns into this ...
A. 5 December 2011: I just wish people could recognize that life is very brief and wasting even a moment of it is a terrible tragedy. You, dear OP, have wasted over a year already and by the sound of it will be wasting even more. Sad.... (read in full...)
Should I sell her engagement ring?
Q. Me ard my partner were Engaged to get married next year last week she told me she does not love me and has not loved me for a long time. She doesn't want to make things work as she has feelings for someone else. Question is do I sell her engagment ...
A. 5 December 2011: I agree, sell it and buy yourself something special.... (read in full...)
Having an affair and thinking of leaving my husband. Thoughts?
Q. i have been married over twenty years and have cheated on my husband with another man that i have also known for over twenty years. during the course of my marriage i have been in and out of relationship with other man four different times. each ...
A. 5 December 2011: Is your husband aware of your philandering or os he totally in the dark?... (read in full...)
Help me reach a decision regarding my mortage/stress situation
Q. Okay, this is not strictly a relationship question but it relates to the situation that I have been left in after a break up. If your health had been not good for some time (due to the stress of the relationship and also because of having to do ...
A. 2 December 2011: I'd start with option A.... (read in full...)
What should I do with my girlfriend who is into muscles
Q. This would sound a bit silly, but i've become to realize my gal is a MUSCLE fan. She even mentions it in a very inconsiderate way, like if we'd be talking, and i mentioned a guy's name, she's say "yeh the guy with the muscles" literately. No ...
A. 2 December 2011: Even though you say it doesn't effect your self-esteem she is still being rather inconsiderate when she says stuff like that. I think inconsiderate people are a turn off so I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with one. It would be like my saying ... (read in full...)
Father with two kids and a persistent housewife
Q. We have a married couple with 2 kids where the husband wishes to divorce his wife but she wants to continue with the marriage. Here are some questions I'd like to get your answers to : 1)How can a single father protect himself and the kids when he...
A. 2 December 2011: Blackmail advice? This is Dear Cupid not Dear Criminal. I suggest he sees a lawyer ASAP... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a "leg-fetish"?
Q. I understand the whole foot-fetish thing, but is there a specific fetish toward 'legs'? A female friend and I were discussing what we were in to and I told her I'm a sucker for a killer set of legs, which she said is a foot-fetish. However, I'm not ...
A. 2 December 2011: I know I appreciate the the leg men of this world. The legs are the last things to go when we age.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to have two wives?
Q. I have 7-year old wife to whom I have loved somuch and trust but later I realized she had had hidden lot of past history, for which I have gone through the hell and got fed up with thinking about but not able to leave her and go away and I had many ...
A. 2 December 2011: Hey you guys, isn't anyone concerned about the fact that he has a "7 year old wife"?... (read in full...)
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