He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 12 November 2012: I think you should start the divorce proceedings, that way your husband will know you mean what you say about never getting back together. As long as he thinks he still has a foot in the door he'll be a problem. I'm glad you have begun to feel the ... (read in full...)
I need help preparing a marriage proposal
Q. Ok I always help folks here now I need YOUR help... My boyfriend and I are a very non-traditional couple. He is 13 years younger than I am (he's 38 and I'm 51) We were Long Distance We started out as NSA/FWB (I was in an open marriag...
A. 27 January 2012: The couch in the den isn't that comfortable anyway. Best wishes Kiddo.... (read in full...)
I need help preparing a marriage proposal
Q. Ok I always help folks here now I need YOUR help... My boyfriend and I are a very non-traditional couple. He is 13 years younger than I am (he's 38 and I'm 51) We were Long Distance We started out as NSA/FWB (I was in an open marriag...
A. 26 January 2012: Stay with me? Well I guess I can make up the couch in the den........ (read in full...)
Is it okay to have two wives?
Q. I have 7-year old wife to whom I have loved somuch and trust but later I realized she had had hidden lot of past history, for which I have gone through the hell and got fed up with thinking about but not able to leave her and go away and I had many ...
A. 2 December 2011: Hey you guys, isn't anyone concerned about the fact that he has a "7 year old wife"?... (read in full...)
He's gone from callimg me "hot and sexy" to "beautiful and gorgeous," does it mean anything?
Q. Hi Guys, I realise this isn't a serious thing and it isn't a problem, I am just wondering and don't have anyone I can ask. Thanks for your responses in advance. I have been seeing a guy for a while now, he was my friend before hand and he has...
A. 1 December 2011: Maybe he just discovered where he left his Thesaurus.... (read in full...)
How do I let my SO know I don't want a relationship?
Q. How do I let my significant other know that I don't want a relationship? He has told me that he is a manipulative bastard, emotionally dead and not good enough for me. I can't see anything completely wrong with him now, he has told me that he loves ...
A. 1 December 2011: Yeah me too, I don't know what you are asking. Apparently he IS in your life, he's told you he loves you and you said ditto so what's the problem?... (read in full...)
I gave him a taste of his own medicine and we've ended it but it still bothers me!
Q. Hello, i need a little advice. Urrm where to start, so quite a few months back a new boy moved to my school, i had known him from being a baby, his family knew mine they are friends. So a few days before he moved i spoke to his mum on facebook and ...
A. 1 December 2011: Many a true word is spoken in jest.... (read in full...)
Why did he do a disappearing trick on me. How would you have handled this situation?
Q. Hi everyone, I met a guy a month back in a business meeting and we exchanged numbers then added eaach other on blackberry. we hit it off instantly given the strong chemistry between us! He lives an hour drive away from me, so we were in touch on a...
A. 30 November 2011: Definitely married.... (read in full...)
I am interested in a 17 year old girl and her mother is encouraging us to have sex! Why??
Q. I am interested in a 17 year old girl who seems to like me but is a little reserved.She is an only child. Her mother is encouraging the relationship actively. She even told me that sex was okay if I loved her. What is mother up to? I find it a ...
A. 30 November 2011: Are you wealthy?... (read in full...)
I don't know if he secretly filmed us!
Q. I was young and stupid. I don't know if the guy has ever secretly captured our moments together on tape. I'm constantly worrying over this... How do I feel better about this?...
A. 29 November 2011: If you can't trust him, he's not the guy for you, that is unless you are projecting a phobia of your own on the situation. Best get this sorted one way or another.... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 29 November 2011: I hate it when that happens...... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 29 November 2011: "I want to do right by everyone but I dont know how to thats why I keep posting"...that's just it. You can't always do right by EVERYBODY, but you CAN do right by your children and yourself. ... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 29 November 2011: "I want to do right by everyone but I dont know how to thats why I keep posting"...that's just it. You can't always do right by EVERYBODY, but you CAN do right by your children and yourself. ... (read in full...)
What's more important; being loved unconditionally by a good man, or being single but popular earning a good salary?
Q. I would consider myself to be a social outcast. I have a very few select number of friends, people reject me and I'm just not all that popular. I'm not part of the clique at work, and recently missed out on a promotion because of this. The girl that ...
A. 29 November 2011: For me it would be the second option hands down.... (read in full...)
Is he going to come around and realize he can find a way better looking woman?
Q. This may be a little long,but hopefully people will still take the time to read it. A couple of months ago I had decided to start online dating. I was tired of being single,and being a single parent didn't allow me to go out and meet people in the ...
A. 28 November 2011: You say he has kids, see what his ex-wife looks like. Maybe he really is looking for the girl next door.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to enjoy being single?
Q. What is wrong with me? is this normal? will I feel better soon? I loved my ex bf so much, he said he loved me and I believed him cos he was a nice sweet guy. But he dumped me saying he didn't want a relationship anymore. I found out after ou...
A. 14 November 2011: Does anybody else think moon river's avatar looks like Steve Buscemi?... (read in full...)
He initiates "eye romances" with other women
Q. My Boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 years, and I have been putting up with his ROVING EYES the entire time. ANY time that we go anywhere, he ALWAYS finds another female that he is attracted to... and makes no secret of it. He first ...
A. 14 November 2011: Good for you! Now you can find a guy who only has eyes for you. He's out there.... (read in full...)
My wife wont have anal sex, should I go to a prostitute or will I regret it?
Q. Hello friends, i know i have been several times here on DCupid issues about that issue, but still i want it to get this help from you! Please! Here it comes: i wish i could get intercourse in the anus in my wife but she doesn't want it anymore, we ...
A. 11 November 2011: You answered your own question...fantasize away. If you have a good imagination, fantasies can be very pleasurable.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about my sex life in my teens?
Q. so as a teen(maybe when i was 15 or 16 i had a boyfriend who i had gone out with for about 2-3 years. we had sex....and we were truly in love.... but then he moved. :( now i have a fiance. we've been dating for about 2 years. and i love him so ...
A. 10 November 2011: Ask him why he wants to know.... (read in full...)
Rocky relationship with Married ex. HELP.
Q. So i have an ex boyfriend, i guess you could call him that i love him alot! Anyway we started of as good friends and things went from there. However, he decided to go back to his wife who he was separated from, they have three kids together etc. ...
A. 10 November 2011: You are wasting your life on this loser. You already know you aren't going to end up with this "prize". Cut bait and find a new stream...one with single fish in it.... (read in full...)
Does he like me and want to take things slow? Or am I putting him off?
Q. I'm fifteen, i started seeing a boy about 2 weeks ago and at first, i split up his friendship with two of his friends because i'd played them. I said sorry and we all made friends but me and this boy have grown strong feelings for each other. He is ...
A. 10 November 2011: Help with what? It sounds like everything is just ducky to me. Relax and enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)
I don't want sex with my boyfriend and I don't mind if he finds it elsewhere. Normal?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been in each others lives for 1 year and maybe three months? I say this because I'm not sure exactly when we became a couple. I'm 20 and I have a relaxed philosophy to relationships and my boyfriend is 22. I moved away f...
A. 10 November 2011: This:
"I'd come home from work and I'd be horny because we hadn't had sex for ages and he'd always be too tired, I used to curl up and cry."
and then this:
"I still love my boyfriend but I don't want to sleep with him,"
I don't get it.... (read in full...)
I need help preparing a marriage proposal
Q. Ok I always help folks here now I need YOUR help... My boyfriend and I are a very non-traditional couple. He is 13 years younger than I am (he's 38 and I'm 51) We were Long Distance We started out as NSA/FWB (I was in an open marriag...
A. 8 November 2011: Buy him a 2012 calendar and tell him you want him to pick one very special day for you two to become one, or some such schmaltzy phraseology.... (read in full...)
He chose to watch sexy nurses instead of time with me!
Q. My boyfriend chose watching sexy nurses on TV instead of reading the horoscope with me...what should I do?...
A. 8 November 2011: Heck fire, even I'D rather watch sexy nurses than read that goofy mumbo jumbo. Not everyone gets into horoscopes you know. This hardly a big deal dearie, remember wisdom is knowing when, where and WHAT battles you are going to fight.... (read in full...)
I need help preparing a marriage proposal
Q. Ok I always help folks here now I need YOUR help... My boyfriend and I are a very non-traditional couple. He is 13 years younger than I am (he's 38 and I'm 51) We were Long Distance We started out as NSA/FWB (I was in an open marriag...
A. 8 November 2011: Hey once he gets over 40 you guys will start to blend big time. How's his hair line? ... (read in full...)
I need help preparing a marriage proposal
Q. Ok I always help folks here now I need YOUR help... My boyfriend and I are a very non-traditional couple. He is 13 years younger than I am (he's 38 and I'm 51) We were Long Distance We started out as NSA/FWB (I was in an open marriag...
A. 8 November 2011: Tell him it's either marriage or adoption and he gets to choose. You both have a sense of humor right?... (read in full...)
How can I cover a bruise on my face?
Q. I have a bruise on my face and i am worried as i have to go out on Wednesday and i don't want people to notice it. i have very short hair so it might be hard to hide it that way. i could put make up on it but i'm not sure if it would still be ...
A. 7 November 2011: Just curious, how did you get the bruise?... (read in full...)
Ex says I should have sex with him because I owe him my virginity since he waited for me
Q. Me and my now ex-boyfriend just broke up because of me not being in love with him anymore. Although we're broken up, he's telling me to have sex with him so we can both loose our virginities and then he'll move on. He says if we do have sex, he'll ...
A. 7 November 2011: I'm willing to bet this guy also uses the "blue balls" line on females. Don't sucker for it.... (read in full...)
I am very close to my mom but why don't I tell her much about my university life?
Q. It’s weird, my mum and I have always been very close, more than most mother an daughters. I tell her everything! She is like my best friend I love telling her what is going on and things that have happened, even little things that are pointless. ...
A. 7 November 2011: Because the apron strings have been cut. ... (read in full...)
What will make things better? I am struggling with my pregnancy and non-existent social life!
Q. Hi all. A few weeks ago I found out I am pregnant. My partner and I are delighted as we have been trying for about a year, the baby was conceived with fertility treatment and we have just bought a house together. The thing is that I am struggli...
A. 7 November 2011: In another month or so you will start feeling better. I actually never felt better than I did around 5-7 months pregnant. Busy yourself getting the baby stuff together, paint the nursery when your strength comes back, your nesting instinct will kick ... (read in full...)
Do I get a boob job and give up sensitivity?
Q. I can't decide whether or not to have a boob job! I have really small boobs and so does everyone else in my family and there's no hope of them growing anymore (I'm a 32A/AA). For ages now I've been thinking about getting a boob job but I still don't ...
A. 2 November 2011: I started out with small boobs and after 3 kids it was say hello to Dolly Parton. I can only thank the Lord I didn't get an enhancement or I'd be tucking them into my pantyhose by now.... (read in full...)
What do I take my father in law's comments to mean?
Q. I recently told my father-in-law (in a state of despair and hurt and expecting some empathy) about his son's (my husband) cheating on me with different women. Father-in-law's response was that I was not the only woman to have been hurt. Does his ...
A. 2 November 2011: Did your father-in-law know about the cheating before you went to him for sympathy or were you exposing your husband's bad behavior? What was your motivation for discussing this with him? Was there any reason for you to expect you would even get ... (read in full...)
Am I a girlfriend of a FWB?
Q. Hi everyone here's my problem I met a man at the beginning of the year I like him a lot we started having sex and I found myself getting strong feelings for him but he stopped bothering with me for weeks and weeks so I thought he wasn't interested ...
A. 2 November 2011: Let it play out and by all means do what Cindy said, DO NOT have sex until the proof is in the pudding. ... (read in full...)
I love him but hate his friends! What should I do?
Q. I love my boyfriend and I know he is the one for me but I don't like his group of friends and it could potentially ruin us if I don't know how to communicate my feelings with him. I am in a blossoming loving LDR with a man I love and met through ...
A. 24 October 2011: "Ok, If I tell him one more time and I know its gonna take a while to eventually walk away from old friends, will I be controlling to tell him to untag the pictures on facebook of himself? Can I tell him to avoid taking pictures in public with them? ... (read in full...)
After what has happened do I have the right to be mad?!?
Q. one night, my bf and i went out with another couple which the girl is my bff. and after bar we all expiremented a lil bit, we all never done this before. the first night was way akward, it was spose to be just me and my bff while the guys watched, ...
A. 24 October 2011: Your boyfriend has the hots for your girlfriend. I'd most likely get a new of each if I were in your shoes.... (read in full...)
I am buying new home and the mortgage lender advised that my name does NOT go on the mortgage!!! Why?!?
Q. Mortgage lender told my hubby to NOT put my name on the title of the home, just put it in his will. That does not sound right, is this normal advice? So once again, we are having relationship problems when I thought we had worked it all out. Wh...
A. 24 October 2011: Were you there when he told your husband this?... (read in full...)
Why is my husband calling me names and being so mean.? He's the one who has been secretly visiting and talking to my "friend"
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 years, he's 41 and I'm 32. I had this friend, or so I thought she was. We were great friends, but we did hang out a few times. My husband and I started having some marital difficulties, and during that tim...
A. 24 October 2011: Your husband is using a football/military tactic...the best defense is a good offense. Don't sucker for it; HIS hand was in the cookie jar. Distance the friend and tell your husband he needs to straighten up and fly right or there will be unpleasant ... (read in full...)
A thank you message!
Q. Hey, well this is basically a thankyou message for alot of aunts and uncles who over this past year have answered some of my qeustions. I have had the worst year imaginable and without this website and some of the answers which have been giving to ...
A. 24 October 2011: You are very welcome! We love a happy ending here at DC!... (read in full...)
Meeting my online date in 2 weeks and I am nervous! Any advice?
Q. Just to set things up: I'm 18, just graduated high school in the spring and am now in college. I'm a gay guy and a virgin. Okay, here's the thing, there are no remotely gay people at my school. None. I've been to all the LGBT club meetings and I a...
A. 24 October 2011: Yikes, you haven't even met him but you already spoke about his showing you "the ropes of safe sex"? Yikes, he's 56? Yeah I'd be nervous if I were you, very very nervous. Make sure you meet in a totally public place and DO NOT HAVE SEX with him ... (read in full...)
Where is my love?
Q. Hi, i am looking for advice. I am 24 years old and I am a virgin . I am a very social person I have no problems talking to women I actually like it. I'm not bad looking and I have a good job. If I were a girl I would say I'm a good catch. But for ...
A. 24 October 2011: Waiting IS your only option. Your future girlfriend may be at this moment sipping on a cup of coffee reading a magazine. Or jogging through the park. Or chatting to a girlfriend about the upcoming Halloween party. Or wondering where YOU are. Relax, ... (read in full...)
I love him but hate his friends! What should I do?
Q. I love my boyfriend and I know he is the one for me but I don't like his group of friends and it could potentially ruin us if I don't know how to communicate my feelings with him. I am in a blossoming loving LDR with a man I love and met through ...
A. 24 October 2011: If you don't want to control him then don't, let him make up his own mind about these guys. If you trust him then let him sort this out on his own. If you don't want to associate with them then don't but I think you will be making a huge mistake if ... (read in full...)
I'm overworked and overwhelmed by school work....and I don't know what to do!
Q. So recently I have been very stressed out about all aspects of my life. I wake up at 5:45 am to catch the bus, which comes at 6:30. My school has block schelduling, so i only have four periods of homework to worry about, but my english ad history ...
A. 24 October 2011: The first thing would be to cut out one of your extra curricular activities. If that doesn't improve things for you then you may need to cut out another one. You have three right now and that is too many if your school work is suffering.... (read in full...)
Why should I stay with a guy whose mom truly doesn't like me?
Q. Why should I stay with a guy whose mom doesn't like me? I'm getting so fed up with everything, if I been with her son for 2 yrs why does she still sit there and acts like a bitch with me ? I never cheated on him or anything. Okay yes we have our ...
A. 24 October 2011: How old is your boyfriend?... (read in full...)
Do you think a longterm monogamous relationship is a realistic hope to have in modern society?
Q. Hey, Do you think a longterm monogamous relationship is a realistic hope to have in modern society? I'm asking because my bf of 1.5yrs has been making hints about marriage, and it made me wonder if anyone out there actually manages a happy marriage ...
A. 23 October 2011: With all the gadgets and stuff, I'm thinking that it's actually harder in this day and age to cheat at least as far as concealing the cheating goes.... (read in full...)
He initiates "eye romances" with other women
Q. My Boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 years, and I have been putting up with his ROVING EYES the entire time. ANY time that we go anywhere, he ALWAYS finds another female that he is attracted to... and makes no secret of it. He first ...
A. 27 October 2009: Next time he pulls this stunt, tell him either he knocks this nonsense off or you're walking, and mean it. It doesn't sound like you'd be losing much anyway.... (read in full...)
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