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writes:my ex kicked me out of our home in may. he then used me once a week for 4 months until I told him I wanted more commitment - his response was that he was happy how things were going between us and didn't want anyone but me but if I want to rush things (I had been with him for three years!!!) then I need to find someone else. that night I asked to stay with him and he dragged me out of his house- that was the final stroll for me. this is now the third time he's finished it, after a few months he starts coming into the convenience store where I work flirting with me- this time I told him to keep away so I can move on with my life- he agreed. two months ago I found out he had a new girlfriend which broke my heart but I've had dignity and haven't intervened. after 3 months since the night it properly finished he is now coming back into my store- there are plenty of other shops around there, I haven't seem him personally yet but my work friends have told me of his presence(he knows it will get back to me). whys he doing this, why can't he let me move on. he's 52 years of age so it's not like he's a young boy
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): I cannot believe a girl your age hasn't met a young lad in all these months. This much older man is just using you, sorry but he is. He sounds horrible too, not even a charmer.Plus he has actually let you go, he threw you out of his house, that would be enough for anyone to move on permanantly.
Do yourself a favour, forget him,ignore him,whatever, you've wasted enough time,have some pride.There are loads of decent lads out there. Good luck. x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 January 2012):
 he used you once a week for 4 months because YOU allowed it. Personally every story has two sides...
you say he kicked you out of your home... does HE own it and allowed you to live there?
I realize it's a drastic move but can you be transferred to a different store?
sounds to me like he's a child and you need to just IGNORE HIM.
EVEN if you can't be transferred... you are never alone in the store...so if he comes in IGNORE HIM
IF he tries to speak to you tell him "do not speak to me" and walk away
if he continues you tell him "if you continue to bother me I will call the police and file assault charges" and then you get an RO and he can't come in your store again...
but to be honest.. the least dramatic way to deal with this is ask to be transferred and if that can't happen when you see him come in.... get the other person to take over so you don't have to deal with him
NO DRAMA
NO CONTACT
NO EXCITEMENT for him
and he will eventually STOP
do NOT feed this.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): Why wouldn't he? He knows this is how you'll react and that's what he wants. You've proven time and time again that you're too weak to stay away for good, so he wants to make sure he's still in your thoughts in case this new girl wises up and leaves him then he can come crawling back for a booty call.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 January 2012):
 He's 52 and you are 18-21? Ignore the old fart and get busy with your young life and find someone who will truly appreciate you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): I think he is looking to `use` you again. He has done it before, so i expect he thinks he can do it again. Find a nice guy your own age. This old guy cant stop you from moving on if you really want to. He is just relying on you being weak and insecure so he can use you when ever he wants to. Not nice of him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 January 2012):
 Young girls like you (age 21 or less) are a dream-come-true for an older (53) guy like him..... Why?
Because, as you've noted, he can use and abuse you if and when he wishes.... and YOU won't do anything about it....
Solution? Stay away from him and get on with your life...
Good luck.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): He is doing this because he thinks he can get away with it. He thinks that no matter how he treats you that you will keep coming back to him and will be waiting for him when he is ready to play games with you again. If he does come in when you are at work treat him like any other customer, polite as needed and just be professional, nothing more. Be strong and he should get the message. Talk to your boss about him so if he starts getting too much, your boss will know and maybe can help. Good Luck
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