Do you think a longterm monogamous relationship is a realistic hope to have in modern society?
Q. Hey, Do you think a longterm monogamous relationship is a realistic hope to have in modern society? I'm asking because my bf of 1.5yrs has been making hints about marriage, and it made me wonder if anyone out there actually manages a happy marriage ...
A. 23 October 2011: With all the gadgets and stuff, I'm thinking that it's actually harder in this day and age to cheat at least as far as concealing the cheating goes.... (read in full...)
It irritates me that my sister in law won't go to my church but instead goes to her own
Q. Hi guys. I am staying with my sister-in-law. when she first came to live with us, she would go with me to my church. then all of a sudden she decided to go to her own church on a different day. why do i feel undermined and irritated by it?is it ...
A. 23 October 2011: Is there more to this than just the fact the she prefers going to a different church? Is that the only reason you are irritated?... (read in full...)
How long do you chase a guy before giving up?
Q. How long do you chase a guy before giving up ? I been with dating this guy for 2 yrs and it seems like he doesn't love me the way I love him. Everytime we fight he's always ready to leave he gets angry at everything and disrespects me I don't know ...
A. 23 October 2011: You need a new boyfriend, time to trade up.... (read in full...)
How does a female know what's a good odor or bad?
Q. My sisters say their vagina's has a certain odor. One says hers smell like chlorine. The other says it smells like a rubber condom. Is that normal? They both haven't been sexually active for over a year. And their last pap smear was fine. Now they ...
A. 23 October 2011: "Chlorine and the other like a rubber condom" my best guess is that you are what you eat.... (read in full...)
Pregnant and on bed rest which is why I'm living with my parents, but should I move out?
Q. i never thought i'd be in a position asking people for help but i have no real friends that at this moment i would care to really hear what they have to say . you see I'm married and just recently i found out that i'm now expecting my 1st baby in ...
A. 20 October 2011: You need to go to the friend's house and get out of the nuthouse.... (read in full...)
Are we FWB or something more? So confused!
Q. Hi everyone here is my problem its a bit complicated. I met this man in march this year, we started having sex. I went out one night, he got jealous he thought I'd met someone else which I hadn't I told him I only wanted to be with him cos I thought ...
A. 20 October 2011: He told you he was only seeing you for sex. So my guess is that he's only seeing you for sex. Now you find some evidence that he may be screwing someone else. Maybe getting yourself checked for any STD's he's passing around would be a wise idea. And ... (read in full...)
He's so cold to me now we've slept together
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for about ten months.we had sex after three months of our relationship,but that changed everything between us.he is so cold to me,he doesn't care to answer my calls and if he does,his response is so cold.he also ...
A. 19 October 2011: If you are afraid to ask him ANYTHING, it's over. Do not waste anymore time on this guy and if you can don't waste anymore tears either.... (read in full...)
I don't want the children to drive a wedge
Q. hi there agony aunts and uncles back again, cause you do give me good advice all the time and put my mind at rest, if it sounds a little mixed up its cause i am mixed up. i am due to move nearer my man been ldr for over two years, so you can imag...
A. 19 October 2011: As young as they are you will be dealing with this for many years to come. The only way parents can survive is to be an united front. Kids are like Raptors, if they spy a weakness they'll go for it. You and your boyfriend need to really hash this ... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved anymore
Q. Are these signs he doesn't love me... maybe hates me, actually... or is abusive perhaps? He lets his friends make sexually explicit jokes about me in front of other people, not defending me. When I say it hurts my feelings he says that's beca...
A. 19 October 2011: You need to do what SVC suggested. A separation for you to get your head together, for your child because of the rotten role model his father is being, and for your husband to realize he will losing something very important in his life.... (read in full...)
I'd like to let him know how I feel
Q. I went on a "date" with a man tonight. We went out for dinner, and played pool, spent a good 4 hours together, talking and laughing the whole time. He has made me dinner twice in the past month, and we have casually gone to the driving range once ...
A. 19 October 2011: I advise you to just relax and go with the flow. Time will tell. Enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)
Does it mean he cares if he refuses to make her the other woman?
Q. Is this a fair statement? If a married man has a female friend he is attracted to and she is attracted to him, does it mean he cares about her if he refuses to make her the other woman? Any opinions?...
A. 19 October 2011: No matter how he feels about his friend, he cares much much more about his wife and marriage.... (read in full...)
I don't want the children to drive a wedge
Q. hi there agony aunts and uncles back again, cause you do give me good advice all the time and put my mind at rest, if it sounds a little mixed up its cause i am mixed up. i am due to move nearer my man been ldr for over two years, so you can imag...
A. 19 October 2011: How old are these girls? ... (read in full...)
How do I get over an affair I didn't want to end?
Q. How do I move on with my life and forget him? We are both married. We work for the same company but different buildings. We had been having an affair for 10 years. I am currently unemployed and have been for a year due to an on the job injury. ...
A. 19 October 2011: If you really want your marriage to work then you have no choice but to let him go and move on with your life. I totally agree with LoveGirl, remember you are NOT the victim here so suck it up and put one foot in front of the other.... (read in full...)
Personality vs looks?
Q. Hi, So I was wondering... Is personality or physical attraction more important? Any thoughts would be appreciated!...
A. 17 October 2011: Hey reginna, judging by your 3rd paragragh you've been spying on my old man again. Shame on you.... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved anymore
Q. Are these signs he doesn't love me... maybe hates me, actually... or is abusive perhaps? He lets his friends make sexually explicit jokes about me in front of other people, not defending me. When I say it hurts my feelings he says that's beca...
A. 17 October 2011: Wow did you inadvertently have "doormat" tattooed to your forehead? He is treating you like this because you are allowing him too. After telling him that your feelings are hurt and he basically ignores it, what do you do? Just let it go? You need to ... (read in full...)
How many men think sex isn't good unless a BJ in involved?
Q. How many of men consider that sex is not good without blowjob? Is intercourse alone not enough to satisfy a man? How many women would perform oral sex on a stable partner vs a casual sexual encounter?...
A. 17 October 2011: I heard the world's population will be 7 billion by January so that's thrown my numbers off so I'll have to get back to you.... (read in full...)
He's a senior... I'm a freshman...
Q. I have a thing with a senior, and I am a freshman (we're both in college). I really, really like him. People say that you meet the person you're supposed to be with in college (now I know this doesn't apply to everyone). People say that you "ju...
A. 17 October 2011: Just ask him if he's like to go get a cup of coffee. See where it goes from there. You do realize you are kind of over-thinking all this, don't you? I mean you haven't really even talked to the guy, maybe you will change your mind about him once you ... (read in full...)
We want a baby, but we have no support on my side of the family.
Q. Some background information: I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 21. We've been together for almost 4 years and we love each other very much. I'm the only child and my parents, grandparents, and my aunt are TOO overprotective and still look at me as a child. ...
A. 17 October 2011: I suggest you save up for your wedding BEFORE you save up for a baby. Why put the cart before the horse?... (read in full...)
She had sex before we met, now I can't trust her.
Q. Hi everyone. I need some advise on what I should do. I have been with this girl for the last 5 years. The problem is that I cant resepct her or do anything nice for her. She has a past, she lost her virginity when she was 15 years old and stayed in ...
A. 13 October 2011: I wish it was the young lady writing in for advice instead of you. I have all sorts of things I would like to tell her. She would get great advice from all the aunts on how to get away from an abuser. She would find comfort knowing she isn't the ... (read in full...)
B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!
Q. I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his ...
A. 13 October 2011: "You would be the party favour, not the party favourite."
That's a good one, Ciar! I wish I'd said that.... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend Loves and hates me... I'm getting mixed signals
Q. My girlfriend and I had been broken up for a month now. She contacts me all the time and I usually ignore her. She texted me saying i love you and I miss you. So I decided to see her. i drove 6 hours to see her and she said she was excited to see ...
A. 12 October 2011: Buddy you need a hobby or Xanax or both:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/mixed-signals-from-my-ex-what-do-i.html
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We live with an older friend of my husband's and while she has been very helpful to us, she refers to him as her husband!
Q. i really need help please. my husband and i have been married for almost a year now. we have been living with a friend of his who is older and is like a mom to him since we can't afford a place of our own yet and she helps us out with finances. ...
A. 12 October 2011: While you are living under her roof and taking money from her I think you should just put up with it.... (read in full...)
No condom for anal sex? Is it safe?
Q. My boyfriend is my second boyfriend.. I am still virgin... and he is too. At this time, He wish something for his birthday. He wants anal sex :| at first I really do not agree about it but I love him I want to make him happy. I am a little bit ...
A. 12 October 2011: High five Cindy!... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and planning on getting pregnant. How do I tell my dad?
Q. I'll be honest. I'm 14 and planning on getting pregnant. I've been with my boyfriend (19) for a while. He is going to propose and is okay with me getting pregnant. He wants a child as do I. I understand I am only a child. Yet I'm not. I...
A. 12 October 2011: If you don't listen to these wonderful Aunts...wear a helmet when you tell your Dad and for crying out loud do not move to North Carolina. That's all I have.... (read in full...)
No condom for anal sex? Is it safe?
Q. My boyfriend is my second boyfriend.. I am still virgin... and he is too. At this time, He wish something for his birthday. He wants anal sex :| at first I really do not agree about it but I love him I want to make him happy. I am a little bit ...
A. 12 October 2011: If you haven't had vaginal sex yet I highly recommend you hold off on the anal stuff. Tell your boyfriend you want to wait. The upside is that you'll be able to get a glimpse into his true character by his response to your announcement.... (read in full...)
What can I do besides kegels to stop this?
Q. omg. . .agony friends i need help. .its embarrasing though but you helped me before here.lately when i had sex my vagina farts when he pulls it out. It has never happened before.what can i do besides kegels?...
A. 12 October 2011: Like just about everything else in this world, there's a humorous side to sex also. ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from my ex, what do I do?
Q. This week I went down to visit her me ex. I waited for the last minute to tell her because I wasnt sure how to. She said "I miss you". I said good because I will see you tomorrow. SOOO this is what happened because now I am back at college and a...
A. 12 October 2011: Just reading your post was emotionally draining and exhausting, I can't imagine actually experiencing all that drama. All I can suggest is that if you continue on with this chick you pack lots and lots of Kleenex, maybe check out the stock options ... (read in full...)
B/f takes me for granted. Do I just have to accept it?
Q. I constantly feel like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me and takes me for granted. I know he loves me but he has such a poor way of showing it or rarel ever showsgonna it and then I start to question his love. Is there anyway to change that? Or is ...
A. 12 October 2011: Talk to him, tell him how you are feeling. ... (read in full...)
Is my body giving me signs of my relationship problems that I should take into account?
Q. Hey Agony Aunts.. I don't know if i would categorize this as a relationship question but let me ask anyway. I have been stressed out of late and i have noticed a few subtle changes in me that i am worried about. My boyfriend of five years has a...
A. 12 October 2011: Always when you are experiencing anything different with your body it's wise to make an apointment to see a doctor. Once any physical problems can be eliminated you can begin to address the emotional problem causing any changes in your body. Stress ... (read in full...)
Neither my cousin or I are getting our sexual needs met by our partners and are thinking of meeting up once in a while to 'satisfy' each other, any opinions?
Q. Ok, I am a 28 year old married male that has a 29 year old married female cousin. I have been married for 5 years and she has been married for 1. We are first cousins and have always been very close growing up. She only has sisters and I only ...
A. 12 October 2011: Ha ha funny post, I'm gonna love this one!... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 12 October 2011: Well she's right, words ARE just words. Now you have to prove yourself by your actions and like everyone has been telling you, it's going to take a long time and even then there's a good chance she'll have moved on. It's up to you but since you are ... (read in full...)
Does she really want to stay "just friends"?
Q. I have an very strong relationship with someone who insists she wants to remain "just friends" for fear of ruining our relationship.She often says and does things that make me think she wants more,including masturbating in front of me when we are ...
A. 11 October 2011: She's in a long term relstionship, she's told you that she just wants to be friends, and she plays with herself in front of you when you are talking to each other on the net. How does she act when you two are face to face?... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this rut?
Q. I know this is a relationships help site, but I really need help! I am in my late 30's and feel that I haven't gotten anywhere in life. I am still single, have a job that isn't exactly my dream job, and I feel extremely lonely! About 2 years ...
A. 11 October 2011: Betty's right, Sign up for a class dealing with something you like or are interested in. Do some volunteer work in your community. Get a gym membership. Just get busy, you may have to force yourself at first but the motivation will come and your ... (read in full...)
How do I tell this guy I want more than sex?
Q. How can a tell this guy i be having sex with that cant do it anymore because i want something more with him or with someone else i had enogh being use for cause im good looking it dosent give people the right 2 use me im sick of it they all how hot ...
A. 11 October 2011: You are allowing yourself to be used, if you don't like it then knock it off. The blame falls squarely on your own shoulders my dear.... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: Buddy you are beating a dead horse here. If she isn't interested in working things out, what can you do? Pay your child support and be there for your kids, be a good father and you won't be totally alone as you grow older. Grandkids are very ... (read in full...)
What is going on with him? I wish he would change and fall in love with me....
Q. dear cupid, I have been so confused about a guy who I have met seven years. I cannot call it a relationship but we have been together on and off for the past seven years and for short periods of time maximum a month. The reason why I keep letti...
A. 11 October 2011: Your answer is in the last part of your second paragraph..."tell him that "game over" not interested n playing games, and that I am mature, and dont wanna waste my time......." Then stop taking his calls, block his number, and get busy with your ... (read in full...)
Can a school nurse give a pregnancy test?
Q. Hi im 15 and i think i might be pregnant the last time i had sex was early september and i had a period since then but it was kind of weird. A little over a week after my period i started spotting and my bras are leaving marks on me i know its ...
A. 10 October 2011: I saw pregnancy tests at the checkout at the dollar store. Collect some bottles and cans and go get one.... (read in full...)
Married. Almost a father. But I love him! Help!
Q. I have a problem and I can't tell anyone I know. I'm 36, I've been single for most of my life and have always held a torch for a man I met at University. We recently ran into eachother on the work circuit and all these feelings I've had bottle u...
A. 10 October 2011: Those couple times you had sex with him...was he married?... (read in full...)
How do I fix my family?
Q. To be very blunt, my whole family is extremely pissed off at each other. Saturday, my family had a memorial dinner of sorts for my mother's brother who passed away a few weeks ago. My two cousins have been having some issue in the recent years...
A. 10 October 2011: If there is one thing I have learned after 59 years on this planet it's that there is "no fixing family". You can fix yourself, you can make sure you react to the situation in a cordial amiable fashion but there's nothing to be done about the other ... (read in full...)
What is going on with him? I wish he would change and fall in love with me....
Q. dear cupid, I have been so confused about a guy who I have met seven years. I cannot call it a relationship but we have been together on and off for the past seven years and for short periods of time maximum a month. The reason why I keep letti...
A. 10 October 2011: Well he's not going to change and fall in love with you, it hasn't happened in 7 years and it's not going to happen in the next 7. Unless you are immortal, you are wasting precious time on the guy.... (read in full...)
I think I screwed up by getting drunk on our date! He has updated his online dating profile but is 'too busy' to contact me, is that is it for us now?
Q. I met a guy on match.com about two months ago. We talked for about three weeks and then finally met. We really hit it off and for the next month saw each other three to five times a week with texting in between. I think there were only one or two ...
A. 10 October 2011: Time to move on honey. This guy has.... (read in full...)
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