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writes:Me ard my partner were Engaged to get married next year last week she told me she does not love me and has not loved me for a long time. She doesn't want to make things work as she has feelings for someone else. Question is do I sell her engagment ring now or is it too soon?Thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2011):
I have a friend in a similar situation. He has insurance on the ring and keeps hoping it will be stolen. He keeps it in his glove compartment for that reason. My advice to him was:
Have the stones taken out of it and save them. Sell the setting. Have the stones (or at least the center stone) reset in a new ring for the next girl. You will save money and she will still have her own ring.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (5 December 2011):
 If it's made of gold, my investment advisor advocates holding for a while. Check out the prices in March and take a call.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (5 December 2011):
 I concur. Sell it and invest the money or get yourself something nice. Don't save it for a future fiance.
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reader, bluecow +, writes (5 December 2011):
 I would hang onto it for a couple of months... then sell it and blow the lot on a holiday
Its what I did
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 December 2011):
 I agree, sell it and buy yourself something special.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 December 2011):
 You can try to sell it, but hold on to it for a bit longer until you are sure of what you should do. Rash actions are the ones we end up regretting the most, so take more than a week to think about this. I kept my engagement ring for 5 years before I decided I should try to sell it.
Then after I decided I should try to sell it I realized I wouldn't even get half of what it is worth, but my ring isn't up there with the most expensive ones, it was bought at around 2000 NKR, which makes around 340 dollars. If the one you hold on to is worth more then you could try to sell it.. but wait a little bit longer. Put it away for now so you don't have to look at it.
I haven't sold mine yet, not sure what to do with it, but my most recent ex boyfriend told me I should just keep it and wear it as a ring, because that's all it is after all. Just a pretty piece of jewelry.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 December 2011):
 I would. Selling can be part of the healing process for you to get over her, don't hang on to it and certainly don't keep it for the next girl .
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 December 2011):
 Why not advertise it for sale now and see what happens. I dont see much sense in hanging on to it, any new girl you might get engaged to in the future would prefer to have a ring purchased just for her, not for an old girlfriend.
I dont see that there should be a waiting period to be honest, especially if you are going to use the proceeds on something you really, really want!
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