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writes:Why am I always considered a "friend" and just that? What can I do to make girls actually like me more than a friend? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2011): If you want to have a romantic or sexual relationship with girls then you can't be friends with them first. You have to make your romantic intentions known very early in the relationship. Once they are your "friend" they have put you into a category different from a lover and you will have a very hard time getting out of it.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (7 December 2011):
 Attraction isnt a choice. If you do not attract women right away, they will more than likely never develop an attraction for you thus leaving you in friend zone. Start here: if youre a nice guy, stop it. Shame on you. Women see that as soft and woosy behavior. They like guys who tease and neg them. On approach, ask them for a recommendation on something be it style clothes, new music, a damn rug for your bedroom (but make sure to give her colors so she can match).. avoid news talk, weather, sports... women like creative conversation. If youre shy, like me, wear a prop when you go out... a funny hat, a unique coat, or heck dress it up and stick out classy with suits like i used to do. Women will then open you and you can break ice easier. Also, women love body language and eye contact. Yes, thats right. Nonverbal communication to a woman says confidence. The way you sit at a bar, stand in line, walk thru crowds... they notice this crap big time pal. My bigger build stands out to them so right away I have a standard for this, so its even more important for me to have this in my arsenal. Another common mistake, do not buy flowers or any items to try to attract women. Ive done that many times!! It wont work. Again, soft behavior. This type of garbage is only allowed when you have attracted her and youre in a relationship, then it will amplify attraction. This goes with not complimenting. Attractive women know theyre hot they dont need another guy kissing their butts. In fact, playfully tease a women about her looks when you meet her. Give her crap about her hair... like if shes dressed up all nice, point out one thing that she failed at getting right even if she looks immaculate. They hate this but however because youre not complimenting they see this as different behavior so they become interested. Like if youre talking to her, neg her, say "haha you have makeup on your teeth" even if there isnt.. or when she laughs... "your laugh reminds me of some cartoon character" wink smile and shrug so she sees your playing and arent being a total jerk. Again, nonverbal communication states wonders. Work on that and some of other things Ive mentioned and youre on your way out of that stupid zone. good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (7 December 2011):
 "Make"? You can't MAKE a girl do anything. Do you ask them out on dates? Have you have multiple dates with one girl? Have to tried for that third date kiss with a girl?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2011): I think you need to be friendly but instead of building up a great friendship first get to know each other jut enough before letting them know what you want. Then you can be better friends while you're dating. Hope I helped :-)
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