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writes:I will try to be brief. I am a high school student who is hated by her parents. now I KNOW people say that all the time and people reply "that's impossible, you're just being a teenager" but I am telling you I'm not a normal teenager, nor is this a normal situation. I've been playing with semi-professional musicians from the time I was ten, have a 4.2 GPA in the top rated and most challenging high school within a two hour drive of my home, play varsity sports for my school, and am seen by all my friends and teachers as just "one of those people" who loves everyone, who puts 120% into everything. I am the quietest teenager ever, I am very conservative and religious, have never been in any kind of trouble. Looks like I have a lot going for me right? Wrong. At least according to my parents, who remind me frequently, often more than once a day, that my music, schoolwork, etc. are completely unimportant and worthless, that I am obnoxious/irreponsible/stupid/immature etc etc and deserve nothing, bla bla bla. I will be the first to admit that I respond quite coldly and bitterly to those comments because I just have to believe I'm worth something--right? I mean doesn't ever life have worth?! but I am often ashamed of the way I respond. Maybe they're right and I should just take it silently. But I admit I am a proud person and I just can't tolerate comments like that and every time I've tried to talk reasonably about it they talk/make obnoxious noises over me and shout about how they don't give a **** what I have to say and things of that nature, how what I want/think/feel is completely irrelevant to them and they not only DON'T respect me but don't believe there is any reason they should. Yet through all this there are these random times when they will do nice things for me or act nice. I just to think they were just crazy, so hot and cold; now it feels more like they're just trying to provide themselves with a whole arsonry of things they can take away in order to keep me silent whenever they feel like tearing me apart. I just don't understand why this would happen to me. I've spent my whole life trying to be the most perfect kid and person in general that I can possibly be and yet this has gone on my whole life. My parents are very smart, well-educated, have good jobs, compassionate, are and are nice to other people, etc. so this just makes no sense to me and is making me feel so worthless. Reply to this Question
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (5 December 2011):
 I know how you feel.
Honestly, the best thing to do is ignore most of it, dont let it get to you, just think to yourself "They're wrong, they are just mean people" and dont let it get you down.
If it's something big, that you feel warrants a response, then respond! But try to do it in the most calm and rational way possible. But do tell them how you are feeling about it, if you say anything.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 December 2011):
 Hang in there, you'll be graduated before you know it and with your gradepoint should have no trouble getting a scholarship and being accepted by most universities. Choose one far from home. Make that your focus and it will help you during the next couple years.
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