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writes: Um…how can I start this? This problem started long time ago. There is this guy who follows me a lot, he’s middle aged man. I know him, because he’s my neighbour. He has a wife and two lovely kids.He seems to follow me a lot-everywhere. I didn’t notice it at first; I thought it was just a coincidence. But coincidences don’t happen all the time, does it? I am worried, and I don’t know who to talk to about it. I am 14 years old. He sometimes insists to walk me home, and once he held my hand, but I refused.What should I do?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 You absolutely need to tell your folks. They will be able to do what needs to be done, plus they need to be aware if you have other 14 year olds in the neighborhood. Also I would try to be with other people whenever you leave to go somewhere. Try not to be alone until he stops this stalking. This is not normal behavior and the guy needs to be stopped. You are doing your neighborhood a big service by bringing this to light! God luck.
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (18 October 2006):
 Hello Hun
I think you need to confide in one of your parents just to be on the safe side.... You haven't got any thing to loose by doing so but you have got soemthing to gain.
AS soon as you confide in somebody who can help you you feel like a weight of worry has been lifted off your shoulders.. you will also feel more secure and that's the most important thing here. I garutee you that if you speak to your parents about your worries they will be alert and will be looking out for your safety above any thing else... Now that's something o smile about isn't it.
Weather this man is a danger to you or not.. you're parents will help you find that out. If he's not a danger I'm sure they will put your mind to rest and assure in the situation.. This is what parents are for... If from what you tell them they feel that he is a danger then chances are they are right... They won't want to jump the gun unless it is completely necessery.... Either way hun ytou CANNOT go wrong.... Telling your parents about your worries is a win win situation....
The longer you keep this to yourself the more your anxieties will grow.... It's time to open up and tell someone.. You'll be doing the right thing because if this man is a danger then he is better stopped as soon as possible.
Let me know what you do and how it goes... Thoughts are with you hun... (",)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2006): i don't mean to try and make you paranoid, but this could be a lot more serious than just him following you. who knows this mans intentions with you. he may even go as far as to physically harm you. i mean, what happens if he manages to get himself alone with you? that could be a very bad situation. clearly he's got some issues and a strange attraction to you - which is NOT to be taken lightly. because someone going out of their way to follow you is called stalking. and that's what he's doing. DEFINITELY tell your parents. because i know they'll be very upset about this and would want to know. and like one of the others mentioned, keeping a journal may be a good idea. this way, if you ever have to go to the police, you'll have it on record everything he's ever done to you. plus, you're parents knowing will help them keep an eye on it and help them keep track of everything going on, as well. be safe and do NOT let this man anywhere near you while you are alone. please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2006): In addition to telling your parents or other responsible adults, start keeping a journal. Write down daily what takes place in your life (and make sure you include anything this neighbor does that upsets you). In fact, you might start taking notes as he approaches you (jot down the time, place, what he has to say, or what he does), and keep doing it until he leaves you alone. But be sure to speak to you folks/police/school authorities.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (18 October 2006):
 You can also try a school couselor, as they may be training to handle these type of concerns.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2006): Confront him with a male friend about it, and/or tell your parents.
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