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writes: i broke up with my ex because what people thought and i broke his heart, i still love him and he still has feelings for me but doesn't want to get back with me. does he still love me and will we get back together?i love him so much it hurts!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006): I was engaged, and I called off the wedding the day before it was supposed to happen. I know that if I had not listened to my family, that I would have given it a second chance. However, he got angry two days before our wedding at yelled at me and said that we should just forget it. Then a couple hours later he said that he was sorry, and that he was angry. He was also disrespectful to my parents. Because in his distorted view he thought that they wanted his money. I said to myself, If he really loved me he would not have disrespected my parents, because that is being disrespectful to me. I would never dream of being disrespectful to his parents. Also I have seen him be disrespectful to his own parents. If he can't even respect his own parents, and my parents, how could I expect that he would be respectful to me once we were married. He begged for me back afterwards... I still love him... but I didn't take him back.
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reader, DEBS83  +, writes (22 October 2006):
 what does it matter what other people think at the end of the day if we all thought like this we would prob all be single there are 2 people in a realtionship so that is all that maters do you think these people who say what there say would ditch there bloke if you said stuff? he prob feels hurt that you listend to people and ditched him what you have to do is talk to him tell him you are sorry and you love him and miss him also tell the people who are saying atuff to but out best of luck
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 If you burn your hand with an iron, next time you pick it up, you handle it much more gingerly. After a time using it without getting burned you are much more relaxed handling it. However you will never forget the painful burn. Give him time.
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Anon, that is some great advice!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): hey there,
I am in a very similar situation as you are right now, just that i was the guy.
My ex broke up with me a little over a month now because of her friends influencing her. Because they don't connect with me, they don't even know me at all, they keep telling her to think about our relationship again and that she is still young and that she should go around and experience other things.
However we both love each other very much, we were commited to each other and woulddo anythingfor each other.
I just want you to know that if you love someone, then just listen to your heart and do what your heart tells you to NOT your friends. If you love him, and know that he loves you too then why listen to your friends for when they don't know how you guys feel for each other.
Your boyfriend is hurt, he is scared that if you guys get back together that you will hurt him again. I would advice you to show him that you love him alot, and untill you prove to him that your friends won't be an influence in the love life between you guys then and only then will he build up the trust between you guys again.
Right now, he is just heart broken and is confused about how you feel for him, just give him time and let him know that you truely do love him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): Well, my ex was influenced by what her friends and family say. Her mom especially wanted a guy in her daughter's life who can give her a load of wealth and security. Her friends disapproved of me because I didn't connect with them. With a combination of these things caused me quite a lot of stress and understated frustration.
I mean if you think about it, if you broke up with me due to outside influences which caused me a lot of grief throughout the relationship, then you come back and say you want me back? Wow, what would I do? Most likely forfeit you and all the people that influence you so much.
It tells me that being together with someone with an unstable mentality - at least someone who doesn't have a solid mental foundation, is the least bit attractive.
You said you love him so much it hurts right? Well enough with the 'scolding' and time for the 'advice'. If you want him back, you have to show sincerity. Maybe your ex also has a weak emotional build. If all you do is talk your ass off and try to get him to accept you back, then for anyone with some form of sensibility, that doesn't say crap. If you want to get him back, you have to think - is he worth your time and effort, and whether you are able to defend him against outside influences. Don't say you can because you will try to. Naturally, if you don't already do it, then the point is meaningless.
Ooo, I had a sudden burst of irritation here... 8E
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reader, xLEAHx +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Hunny, who gives a damn what people think about your relationship, its none of thier buisness and its your life at the end of the day ..i don't know what your circumstances are for ending your relationship coz of what ppl thought ..but you should do what your heart tells you too and forget what people think..your boyfriend is hurting and possibly thinks that if he gets back with you ..you may hurt him again..his proberly scared of loosing you the second time around..you both sound broken hearted and love eachother very much,talk to him make him see you don't care what people think and all you want is him..hope this helps.
GOOD LUCK & TAKE CARE xLEAHx
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