I'm 14 and I think my bf wants to propose to me in 2 years! This is scary...what should I do?
Q. i'm 14 and i've been talkin to my ex recently he says he still loves me but he has a girlfriend. a couple of days ago he said 'if we were still going out and we were together in 2yrs time and i proposed what would you say?' does this mean he was ...
A. 21 December 2006: I think you can go ahead and do all those fun things that young teenagers do (and I don't mean having sex)without any concerns or worries. If, and it's a huge IF, he asks to you marry him two years from now then you can have your answer all ready ... (read in full...)
He only went 'half' in - does that mean I'm still a virgin?
Q. Yesterday me and my boyfriend of one year and 4 months have kinda had semi sex. But I'm not sure if I'm still a virgin. He didnt go all the way in, just a bit, so he didnt break my virginity. I bled a little, but I'm pretty sure he didn't break it. ...
A. 21 December 2006: You had sex, albeit kinda sorry sex, but sex nonetheless. You have lost your virginity and could very well be pregnant even if he didn't ejaculate inside. Sperm are tricky little buggers. Next time use protection.... (read in full...)
Im 34 and have never had a boyfriend, what the hell am I doing wrong!!!?
Q. I'm 34 and have never had a boyfriend. I have a very good full-time job, a lucrative business on the side, spend a lot on my clothes, hair and appearance, have interesting hobbies, read newspapers and books, go to the gym and generally take care of ...
A. 21 December 2006: I don't think you should be hitting the panic button. You've gotten some good advise and ideas here I just wanted to tell you that you shouldn't be worried, the right guy is on his way to finding you as you read this. Be patient!... (read in full...)
I am thinking about doing kinky photoshoots with my sister. What do you think?
Q. I know this'll sound really weird but here goes....my older sister works as an escort/adult model and,as i'm an amateur photographer,i've done some promo shots for her recently.no nudity or anything,just poses and some bondage stuff.i've got a real ...
A. 21 December 2006: Definitely a set up, good call Willy!... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 21 December 2006: And as a 13 year old mother of six with little boobs but shaved netherlands and a 69 year old boyfriend that happens to be my science teacher who's married unhappily...May I wish you all a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!... (read in full...)
My wife had an affair. She still sees the guy regularly, but claims she doesn't love him. I'm so confused.
Q. My wife and I have just split up after 8 years of marriage and 18 years of the relationship with 2 children. I recently found out that she has been having an affair. Although when I found out she told me it had only been going on for 2 weeks. She ...
A. 21 December 2006: I'll just bet she's happy with you taking care of the kids and the house while she hangs out with her lover. Sounds like the best of both worlds, probably has mom doing her laundry for her. It doesn't sound so confusing to me. I'd tell her to knock ... (read in full...)
I am due to see my husband after 3 months, we split and are selling the house, I feel so unhappy!!
Q. Hi, its almost 5 months since my husband and I split up (married 7 years), I havent seen him for 3 months and am dreading the time when i have to. I am in the process of selling our home which is really upsetting me as we have only lived in it 3 ...
A. 21 December 2006: It's a pretty rough time for you right now, but it will get easier. I think you just need to focus on you and try to stay busy with whatever you enjoy doing. You will find love again whether you believe it or not right now. Down the road when you ... (read in full...)
Can a Teenage guy get an erection just from hugging a girl ?
Q. hi. could teenage boys get an erection even from a girl hugging them? ...
A. 21 December 2006: Heck fire, a teenage guy can get an erection thinking about the Cheerios he ate for breakfast.... (read in full...)
My ex and her new guy won't stop harassing me! Would it be harsh to bring them to court?
Q. Sorry for the repost but i really need advice on this ... So heres the deal, ive posted on cupid before regarding the breakup from my ex after nearly 5 yrs and also when she met a new guy (a mate) within 2 weeks of the breakup. 2 months have now ...
A. 19 December 2006: By all means get a restraining order against them both. If they continue the harassment then call the police and press charges. They will stop this nonsense when they find out how serious you are. They both sound like nutcases. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I know my bf is cheating on me with his coworker - how should I handle this?
Q. My boyfriend is cheating me with a colleague at work what shall i do towards this issue Shall tell him that i've noticed or not...
A. 19 December 2006: As long as you are sure about your facts, hell yes you tell him you know all about it. Then dump him like the sack of shit that he is.... (read in full...)
My partner says if I keep the baby-I'm raising it on my own! I don't know what to do?
Q. ive been with my partner three and a half years and fell pregnant recently and my partner does not want the baby an dsays if i keep it ill be bringing it up on my own i love this man and dont wont to lose him butknowing i have to get rid of the baby ...
A. 18 December 2006: You may have to raise the baby alone but he has to pay you child support. Make sure you know how to get those wheels in motion. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Media images of scantily clad females, what do YOU think?
Q. The Lynx advert; 'Spray more, get more...' with loads of scantily clad females leaping over rocks and parts of their bodies leaping around too, in which to race towards some rather gormless looking guy with a leery grin on his face. What do you thin...
A. 18 December 2006: Sex sells...ask anybody in advertising. As long as it does you'll be seeing these kinds of ads.... (read in full...)
I feel like I need to nag him for anything sexual - now I'm starting to think of my other guy friend more. I'm really confused.
Q. hi, i have been goin gout with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and he is really lovely. the only thing is that he doesnt seem to be as interested in me sexually as i would like, we are rarely intimate and hed never initiates anything. i feel lik...
A. 15 December 2006: I personally really dislike the "in love vs. love" thing that everyone is saying. You either love him or you don't. But it's not like you are married so just tell him you need more than what he's giving you and move on. That's the whole purpose of ... (read in full...)
He postponed our wedding - am I food for sticking with him?
Q. Am I a fool still wanting to be with my fiance after he wanted to postpone our wedding? Just a few months before our wedding date, he wanted to postpone our wedding because he felt we were not as close as before. I sort of agree but think it is ...
A. 15 December 2006: I don't think you are being foolish but it is a good thing that he posponed the wedding if he is having doubts. You guys will need to have some nice long chats to see if marriage is right for you. Even if many don't, a marriage should be entered ... (read in full...)
I love him but he doesn't pay any attention to me..no compliments, no hugs, no kisses- nothing! What should I do?
Q. I love my husband and he says he loves me too. But there is no passion in our relationship. He is content coming home, eating, sleeping and playing with our kid. I want more than that. I want a compliment, a hug, a kiss. is it too much to expect ? I ...
A. 15 December 2006: Quite honestly I think you should make an appointment with your doctor and get a good overhaul. Once any physical problems can be ruled out then you need to make an appointment with a therapist and talk to them about your situation. They may suggest ... (read in full...)
I love this guy and he lives far away. How do I stop crying over him all the time?
Q. i'm new to all this. ok here i go, i met the perfect guy and i really like him but he lives like 90 miles away. I Love Him and he has said he loves me. He calls me every night and we also talk in the day a little bit. My problem is i can't stop ...
A. 15 December 2006: Sheesh, love shouldn't make a person so miserable! I think you have other more important issues to deal with here. Is your self-esteem where it should be? Lots of wonderful sites on the internet on how to raise one's self-esteem, I'd start my ... (read in full...)
I love him but he doesn't pay any attention to me..no compliments, no hugs, no kisses- nothing! What should I do?
Q. I love my husband and he says he loves me too. But there is no passion in our relationship. He is content coming home, eating, sleeping and playing with our kid. I want more than that. I want a compliment, a hug, a kiss. is it too much to expect ? I ...
A. 14 December 2006: Whoa Nellie! You had me thinking one thing until the second to the last sentence. If you are taking your unhappiness out on your three year old then we have a major problem here. Not just a husband who doesn't shower you with all the attention you ... (read in full...)
His exwife says hurtful things about me to their kids and it makes me want to walk out!
Q. How do I deal with my boyfriend's exwife? She is so crazy - I do what ever I can for their four kids and still she uses the kids and tells them mean stuff about me. I want to walk out b/c I hate hurting them kids. ...
A. 14 December 2006: I agree with Tellulah, if you were the reason that their marriage broke up then you should be prepared to endure her animosity as along as you are in a relationship with this man. She's got plenty of mean stuff she can say about you. The kids will ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is poor, he's selfish and I keep finding porn... What now?
Q. I keep findin porn hidden in my bf's stuff, he says he's stopped using it, but I don't believe him seeing as I get rid of it and them more suddenly appears. Our sex life is poor and rare. I have to initiate and he's extremely selfish he pleases ...
A. 14 December 2006: If he enjoys watching men with men porn then I'd definitely figure on his being gay and walk. Doesn't sound like you'd be leaving much behind anyway. Good luck.... (read in full...)
In love with my ex and I love the man I'm involved with, also. What should I do?
Q. I am in love with my ex but am involved with a man I love also. What do i do?...
A. 14 December 2006: You can't "love" both men. If you truly love someone you have no interest in anybody but them. You might like or lust after both but it's not love. Playing the field is not a crime as long as you are honest and upfront about your true feelings so ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to get my bf to stop getting in trouble w/ the police, but he says I'm not letting him have fun! Help!
Q. Hi, Im 13 and my bf is 16. I really love my bf but he is always in trouble with the police for fighting. Or somethings happened whens hes gone out, i really want to tell him to calm down but he always ends up saying im not letting him have fun...
A. 13 December 2006: If fighting is his idea of fun, I'd get as far away from him as I could get. Sounds like a total loser.... (read in full...)
What does commitment really mean?
Q. What does commitment really mean? ...
A. 13 December 2006: Main Entry: com·mit·ment
Pronunciation: k&-'mit-m&nt
Function: noun
1 a : an act of committing to a charge or trust: as (1) : a consignment to a penal or mental institution (2) : an act of referring a matter to a legislative committee b ... (read in full...)
I ended a brief affair w/ my coworker, but I would like to hear others' opinions about it - any thoughts?
Q. I can't believe I'm writing this, my head must be mashed! Well, where do I start? I've been married for 4 years and have a beautiful daughter coming up to three years old. I care for my wife deeply but cannot honestly say I'm in love with her any ...
A. 12 December 2006: You did the right thing. Try and see if you can find what it was that attracted you to your wife to begin with. If this marriage is beyond repair and all avenues (counseling for one)have been explored then you may have to separate and divorce. ... (read in full...)
I felt hurt and betrayed..I ended it! Did I over react?
Q. I really need some advice on a partner that I suspect of cheating. A few weeks ago(call it womans intuition)that I felt that something was not right in the relationship. To cut a long story short I confronted him about my feelings and he told me ...
A. 12 December 2006: You go girl!!! Good luck!!!... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits?
Q. What do you say when a guy says that he only wants to be friends? Yet wants to have sex? I feel like a whore!...
A. 12 December 2006: Yikes! If you feel like a whore then why are spreading your legs? Friends with benefits is a crock. ... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my internet guy and I am jealous of his friendship with other girls. What do I do?
Q. I'm friends with this guy over the net and kinda has fallen for him by accident and I'm jealous of his friendship with this other girl he talks to, I really don't want to be jealous and just ignore the feelings I have for him. Plus I'm quite ...
A. 12 December 2006: Wow you need to work on that self-esteem there missy! There are a ton of websites that deal with building one's self-esteem. Goggle it and do some research. You will have huge relationship problems in the future if you don't start valuing yourself. ... (read in full...)
My coworker is spreading lies about me around the office and making my life hell!
Q. there is this horrible person at work and she is making my life hell. When i first started to work with this company almost 2yrs ago she clung to me and made out as if she was my best mate, it all started to get a bit scary when she started to copy ...
A. 12 December 2006: Keep a journal and document anything you can. Save the emails. Over time you may accrue enough evidence. Also people like this often screw up so she may be found out before you have to come forward. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm her 46 year old teacher, but I think I'm falling for my 16 year old student!
Q. The thing is: there is this girl - a student of mine. I notice things about her that I shouldnt: well I have always noticed things I shouldnt about various girls I am just.. well very aware of the female species lets put it that way. However with ...
A. 12 December 2006: You are not a 46 year old teacher, you are the 16 year who has the obsession with her teacher and who keeps posting this same scenario here over and over again. You refuse to believe it's just a school girl crush even after being told that each time ... (read in full...)
My husband of 19 years has a dirty secret and I just can't bear to be near him anymore!
Q. My husband of 19 years told me on my birthday that he was at the police station and was charged with abusing someone 17 years ago( which he denies) since that night he told me we have not slept together. I cant get it out of my head. I have put on ...
A. 12 December 2006: Linn Your response came at the same time I replied. Good luck with the counseling, I think you guys will be able to weather this storm.... (read in full...)
Shots, pills, patches...what's the best birth control?
Q. birth control Hi, I was wondering if some of the women out there could help me out? I have thought it out carefully and decided I want to go on birth control. However, how do I get it? What's the most convenient, in your opinion? I hear there are...
A. 12 December 2006: Here in the States you can get free birth control from your local Family Planning Center. You do not need parental permission. They can advise you on the different kinds provided. You are almost an adult anyways so you can also go to any doctor and ... (read in full...)
She says she loves me, but she refuses to stop seeing other guys! Should I let her go?
Q. Please I need everyone's help on this situation. My problem now is that, I have a girl friend which I truely love, and she told me she really love me and the same time have another guy which she loved as well just like the way she love me, that she ...
A. 12 December 2006: She obviously isn't interested in settling down with one guy. Only you can decide if you are willing to share her attentions, if not then move on. Pretty clear cut to me.... (read in full...)
I feel so lonely at this time of year!
Q. I wanna 4get about my ex, i no i gotta move on but i cant stop thinkin of him. It doesn't help when most of my mates sell me out 4 their boyfriends. I feel so lonely especially at this time of yr! any suggestions?...
A. 12 December 2006: Do some volunteer work at a nursing home, hospital, soup kitchen, orphanage. There are always people worse off than you are and just as lonely during the holiday season. It may help you get out of yourself for awhile and actually make you feel good ... (read in full...)
My husband of 19 years has a dirty secret and I just can't bear to be near him anymore!
Q. My husband of 19 years told me on my birthday that he was at the police station and was charged with abusing someone 17 years ago( which he denies) since that night he told me we have not slept together. I cant get it out of my head. I have put on ...
A. 12 December 2006: He just got charged this September for 17 year old abuse case? Wow, need much more detail this doesn't make sense.... (read in full...)
He texted another girl that he wanted to be bad! Should I dump him?
Q. My boyfriend always locks his cell phone in his truck and one day he brought it in so i looked in it and he had sent sum emails to another girl saying he wanted to be bad and what did she think of that? and now i dont know what to think of that. ...
A. 12 December 2006: He's obviously playing around behind your back. You need to have a long chat and make some ground rules, if he doesn't go along with you then dump him. Simply really.... (read in full...)
This new girl is everything my girlfriend is not - what should I do?
Q. I am in a relationship with a girl I truly care about, and we have been together for 2 years, but now this new and interesting girl has come into my life she is totally different than my girlfriend and it intrigues me. I feel bad for feeling ...
A. 12 December 2006: This is exactly the reason for dating different people before marriage. You learn what personality traits you are attracted to, etc.... Hardly anybody finds the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with on the first try. If this new ... (read in full...)
He's 30-I'm 17. Is the age difference a big factor here? And he does this weird thing with his eyes..what is it?
Q. Well, i am 17 years old. I met a guy at college and we get along really well. I like him alot but he is 30. I sometimes think the way he acts around me that he might like me but im not sure. He smiles alot when he is around me and if he sees me in ...
A. 11 December 2006: He might wear contacts and they irritate him sometimes or he could get facial ticks when he's nervous. Lots of things could be causing this not just drug use. As far as the age difference, 13 years is a pretty big difference but I know lots of aunts ... (read in full...)
When my fiance and I tried our relationship again, she acted distant and cold, so we've split again. Can love really turn to hate?
Q. I recently split with my fiancee as she was unfaithful. After making the decision to take her back, she changed her ways completely for the worse. She acts totally unbelievable and uncaring. She would tell me she was in love with me more than ever, ...
A. 11 December 2006: She certainly sounds like she is either a nutcase or is really mixed up. I think you are right to distance yourself, I don't think you really hate her, you're angry and hurt. Once she is out of the picture you can slowly move on with your life, lose ... (read in full...)
How do we tell his ex that he and I are now dating?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months. They just signed the final papers for his 4 year divorce. He wants to now approach his ex and tell her about us. We've talked about the best way he can approach her to not cause a huge upset and ...
A. 11 December 2006: When he talks to his ex about taking his son to his parents he can casually mention that you are going with him. If she wants more info at that point he can go into more depth.... (read in full...)
She has a problem with me still being legally married - I have to wait until I file divorce
Q. Ok, here it goes... I've been dating this girl since early July. The two of us have a really great time together but she can't seem to connect physically with me. She mentioned something about having a problem with the fact that I'm still legally ...
A. 7 December 2006: I think I have a problem too, It's December now get that divorce moving along.... (read in full...)
Iis it true that teenage boys think of sex every 8 seconds? How is that even possible?
Q. is it true that teenage boys think of sex every 8 seconds? how is that possible? i mean, what part of sex do they think about? also how can they be thinking of sex while they are talking to their friends for example, or playing a sport. how can...
A. 7 December 2006: I rather doubt it is every 8 seconds but rest assured they think of it often. Forewarned is forearmed.... (read in full...)
How do I enlarge my penis size?
Q. i am looking for a way to make my dick bigger i am 22 and it is about 5-6 inches and i am looking but dont know what to do about it can u help me ?...
A. 7 December 2006: I can't believe a 22 year old man is asking this question. Just be happy you have one and that it works, it doesn't make a bit of difference to a woman what size it is.... (read in full...)
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