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writes: I broke up with my bf of four years six months ago because he cheated. It wasn't the first time, so all my trust was broken and I had a bad time of it. I found it hard to move on but am in a place now where I quite enjoy being single. Not that I am looking for anyone at the moment it's quite nice just having to worry about me and not about whether he's cheating etc.The thing is, I still love him and have an amazing attraction towards him and we were always fantastic together in the bedroom. He phoned recently wanting to meet up, said he still loved me. He has made it quite clear though that he just wants a no strings casual relationship. Part of me wants to see him because I miss the intimacy we shared together, but the other part is really angry because he doesn't want to commit to me. I have given him an ultimatum, either commitment or nothing. He's basically backed off now, but it makes me so angry that he says he loves me yet is not prepared to commit.He made a comment, well if either of us changes our mind...So in other words is there a possibility he will change his and commit? Or is he waiting for me to arrange a hook up? Either way it's so frustrating. It's as though our conversations go round in circles and we never get anywhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2006): You had been together a long time, this must be a painful experience for you. As much as this hurts, he can not love or respect you. If you allow yourself to continue any kind of relationship, even a friendship with him, you will eventually stop respecting yourself too.
You need a clean break, a future without him in it. The longer you keep someone who disrespects you but is so intimately connected to you in your life the more deeply and painfully it will damage you. You deserve far, far, more and you won't be able to see that until you have had a long enough time apart from him to realise your true worth. And when that point comes, you'll wish you had parted him from your life the very first time he broke your trust.
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reader, amerthyst0202  +, writes (13 October 2006):
 He wants to able to ring you up take you to bed and then when he has had his way get up and go. basically love he wants to use you if you want that and can handle being just his casual then that's fine but from the sound of things you want more, than he is prepared to give, you say that you were fantastic in the bed room together but He cheated on you more than once so what makes you think that he will change move on and leave whats in the past in the past you will meet some one else to be intimate with again in the near future who could be even better in the bedroom. who knows!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 October 2006):
 Stick to your guns, he just wants sex from you. You'll find out just how much he cares for you if sex is not involved. If he has cheated on you in the past he probably will again. I say move on.
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