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writes: Hi everyone, well I have been here before and some very kind people have given me some very good advices. my story is very sad, it is like what it only happens in the films and I can't get over it, I think I am going mad.I married about six months ago, we had our problem even before but I thought she will change for better, but she didn't, she wanted everything her way and that was the only way. I was never appreciated in this relationship and everything I was doing it was my pure duty in her eyes and never was enough. This marriage was going no where and I could see it but didn't want to beleive it. It was all about her and only her. I started standing up my grounds, she insulted all my family and friends, and everything about me, everyday, and I honesty didn't know what was going on, but in fact all was part of deveil plan that she had in mind and well calculated, one night she tried so hard to make me so angry by shouting and swering at my family, she even physically pushed me, and I honestly did nothing but to listen and stayed calm, she then called the police, and acused me of hitting her!!, I never harm anyone on my life. Next I knew she went to the court and based so much lies got conjuction against me!!! do you beleive it? I got trown out from my own home based on the lies of this person, it has made me mad to see the justice system can do this to anyone. I am fighting back, but now I prefer to be away from her, I have done nothing wrong, but the whole experience has devestated me, and she was planning all of that as from one month ago, she had a second plan in her life, either to be with someone else or she used me enough, and now it was a time to move on.The problem which might sound crazy, is I really loved her, I cared for her, and I did everything in my power to comfort her, how can someone do this to me after all the love and care I put in to this relationship?? It has put a big question mark in my mind, and I just feel so foul that I married her in the first place.I have such a mix feelings, inside me, hate, love, anger, stunned, devestated, and cheated...I consider myself as someone who is honest, caring, and respect people for who they are, in some way I am saying should I really fight back and teach her a leason legally of course to not to do this to anyone else (but this will cost a lot money) on the other hand I am saying is it worth it? and why should i? but I also I am saying these are all dream and it can't be happening to me? I am also saying how about your principle, you should not let her walk over you, base on lies.I just need to get some help, to get over this, I just need motivation to put this behind me.please give me your inputs, I will appreciate it.Thanks very much for your time
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2006): First off, I am sorry this happened to you in spite of all your best efforts and intentions, you are not alone, 50% of marriages fail..I don't recommend teaching her a lesson legally, this never works and only will hurt you in the end by prolonging the drama...it is like picking at a wound, it won't heal until you leave it or her alone. Please seek some counseling so that you can move on past the hurt, and realize that you had a part in this if only that you chose poorly, learn why you did that so you do not repeat the mistake or bring unfortunate baggage to your next love relationship...that will be the best revenge, finding love again the next time around,
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (21 October 2006):
 Since there are no children involved you can divorce the witch and walk away never to see her again. Time is your best friend here, your bad feelings will fade and you'll be able to get on with your life. Let this be a reminder in your future however, poeple rarely change and sometimes after you get married their bad traits just get worse. Good luck I'm sure you'll be just fine.
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