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writes: My wife thinks i have had an affair, but i havnt. I work from 8.oo to 6.00 and spend weekends together with her and my daughters, nightimes we are also all together, so how can she think this. She says she doesnt trust me anymore ever since i told a lie about not being at my mothers one day and she found out. She doesnt get on with my mum and i very rarely see her, neither do my two daughters of 9 and 11 yrs. I really love my wife and i would be lost without her i just want her to believe me. What can i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2006): my mum hates my gran..my dad gets all angry about it..typical wife or mother situation...bu they say 'if u keep ur wife happy..ur life is happy'..live by it! but..then again..you only get one true mum..instead of sneakin around...be the man that u are n speak to ur mrs..but not on the day u spoil her cz dat will make things 10 times worse..trust me..i always tell my dad dis stuff loll:)..freind x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2006): i agree with the last persons ansa...shower her with affection...show her u love her...get sum1 to luk afta the kids...book a day off from work..and suprise her by taking her outtt...prove your love to her.. :D be the guy in the movies..all women like dat! freind x
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 October 2006):
 She sounds like she has some self-esteem issues. You have every right to visit your mother, if she doesn't like your mom then she can stay home. You shouldn't be forced to lie about it anyway. As far as the affair idea she just venting her own insecurities. Just make sure you show how much you love her, lots of hugs and kisses, clean up the kitchen every so often, tell her how nice she looks, etc... maybe in time her self-esteem will improve and she won't have these trust issues.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (12 October 2006):
 Well it sounds like this might be an excuse on her part for something else, like the straw that broke the camels back. To assume you had an affair, leads me to think she might have some insecurites. It's only one of many posible reasons for your lie.
Sit down and talk to her. Find out what causes her to go to this extreme. Tell her why you lies and tell her it was a mistake on your part. Find out what causes the problem with your mom and her. Deal with the answer and set some boundaries. If you can't work it out between the two of you, get some advise from a therapist/councellor.
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