What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 22 August 2007: "I unfortunately don't think anyone here is able to give me an utterly objective response."
No you are not looking for objectivity you are looking for validation and you aren't finding it. You are also looking for trouble, knock off this nons... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me to shut up, that only his opinion counts
Q. My boyfriend usually treats me very good, but I feel I am a possession instead of a partner, what can I do? Most times he treats me great but there are times when we are out or something and he gets done with his food or drink and expects me to hu...
A. 31 July 2007: You go girl! I'm betting you won't be alone very long!... (read in full...)
My wife talks to him on her cell phone every night till 3am!!!
Q. My wife and I have been married for nine years and I've just found out she's been cheating, the thing is he calls her every night on her cell phone and they talk till 3am every night, I confronted her and she says she won't stop talking to him, ...
A. 31 July 2007: Wowie, I'd tell it's okay to talk to him every night until 3 a.m. as long as she does it in her own appartment. She obviously doesn't give a rip about your feelings. You deserve a good night's sleep lying next to a woman who loves you dearly get rid ... (read in full...)
I'm a 64 year old male, and I have had a difficult time in getting the girl I dated in college out of my mind for the last 40+ years.
Q. I'm a 64 year old male, and I have had a difficult time in getting the girl I dated in college out of my mind for the last 40+ years. I'm completely happy and satisfied with my wife and love her dearly, however, as hard as I have tried I can't seem ...
A. 31 July 2007: Well now Earl, I think you owe it to your lovely wife to destroy the items and put this whole fantasy out of your mind. 40 years is an awful long time to hold the torch, you don't want to get burned. Get rid of the items and go hug the woman who has ... (read in full...)
He does not seem to want to spend any time with us.
Q. My boyfriend spends loads of time wih his mate, I'm talking five to eight hours a day. Is it normal we've been on and off as a couple for five years and he asked me back a month ago, He works comes home and goes to his mates house, I'm left at home...
A. 30 July 2007: If he refuses to stay at home for the majority of the time then what have you got to lose by leaving him? The kids won't care since they never see him anyway and you can then move on and find someone who comes home to the family every day. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Why did he get married if he wanted to chat to other women?
Q. I discovered pornographic stories, written by my husband for other men and women, on his pc. He had asked for photographs of their wives (or them if they were female). This was the third time I had cause to wonder what he was doing on the pc. The ...
A. 30 July 2007: Looking at porn is one thing but being actively involved with REAL people with pornographic overtones is crossing the line in my opinion. I'd tell him in no uncertain terms that this behavior is unacceptable to you and had you known about it before ... (read in full...)
She lays on her belly and tells me to hurry up.
Q. I have been married for 26 years. Four years ago my wife had a hystorectomy and since then has lost all her sex drive and no longer has any desire to have sex. She no longer has an orgasim, so doesn't see the need to have sex. When we did the ...
A. 30 July 2007: You should be in the dog house for what you did, borderline rape actually. Your wife has to make an appointment with her doctor, there is medication now that can help her recover her sexual desires. Remember the shoe could be on the other foot, what ... (read in full...)
Do I leave my new gf to go back to the ex gf? Any advice?
Q. I was engaged to a girl who i was with for 3 years who i loved very much about 6 months ago she decided to finish it and i was gutted. Since the time apart i tried to persuade her to give us another go but she said she was'nt ready and wanted to be ...
A. 30 July 2007: Unfortunately people get hurt sometimes but she wouldn't want you to stay with her just out of sheer gratitude. If you love someone else then you aren't doing anybody a favor by ignoring it. If you think you and your ex can make a go of it then let ... (read in full...)
I'm so lonely and I don't think he loves me anymore
Q. I wanted to say hello to all on this site..I am a new one here,just found this site...I think I am going enjoy this place... Well anyway, my problem is also like one I read on here and that made me want to join... I have been married for 26...
A. 30 July 2007: I think you two need to get to some counseling pronto. Sometimes a couple needs help reconnecting after the last little bird leaves the nest. Your marriage may only need a little boost. If your husband won't go with you try going yourself and see if ... (read in full...)
Could my ex have been right? Is she really going to dump me?
Q. My ex-girlfriend (whom I can't stand) and I got into a fight the other day (this isn't the first time this has happened) so I blocked her on AIM. A few days later she told my girlfriend about the fight and she said she was going to dump me. I ...
A. 30 July 2007: How on earth would anybody be able to answer your question?! I guess you will find out soon enough, let us know whether you get dumped or not.... (read in full...)
Ex angry that I brought a male friend to a party
Q. Was it wrong of me to bring a new male friend to my friends birthday party when my ex was there? I didnt know that he was going to be there, none of our mutual friends said anything to me about him coming. I felt kinda bad for my ex, but me and this ...
A. 30 July 2007: Of course you did nothing wrong. Your Ex apparently doesn't understand what being broken up means. It means you are free to come and go wherever and whenever and with whomever you wish. Sheesh you shouldn't having even talked to him for an hour let ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, and have accidently kissed an older married man in the same room as his wife! Should I feel guilty?
Q. I'm 15, and have accidently kissed an older married man in the same room as his wife. I'm really not the type who does this sort of thing, and I did happen to be extremely drunk. So I'm faced with the problem of whether I should hate myself and feel ...
A. 30 July 2007: Lay off the sauce until you are older and can handle it, stop telling people about this slip up, and move on with your life. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I like him, when he already has a girlfriend?
Q. i'v known this guy for a few years now but we didnt really talk. i got this job about 6 months ago and he ends up working there too. ever sence iv been working there we've been talking alot about everything. He seems like the perfect guy, we get ...
A. 30 July 2007: As LauraE said if you have cheated with him then he's very aware that you like him. And don't be fooled, he knows exactly what he wants and obviously he's getting it. He may be cheating with other girls as well. You are simply being used. Move on ... (read in full...)
I think I may be falling for my boss and I think he married the wrong woman..what should I do?
Q. Hi, well basically I think I may be falling for my boss. He is married although I think he married the wrong women without knowing her well enough, (and because of religion) although I think he does love her, he has made comments which make me think ...
A. 30 July 2007: It doesn't matter one iota whether he may like you or not, he's married. And since you say you have no intention of going for him or having a relationship then why would you care anyway? Keep your feelings in check or look for another job. Lots and ... (read in full...)
How can I break up with my boyfriend for good?
Q. I am a 19 year old sophomore in college. I have been with my boyfriend of 2 years since we finished high school, he is a year older than me. I love him so much, and that's why i cant let him go even though i know he's not who i want. He has a dead ...
A. 30 July 2007: He keeps coming back because you keep taking him back. Tell him that you want to move on and that he should do the same. This time don't answer his calls and don't let him in your house when he comes over. He'll get the idea.... (read in full...)
I feel so wrong for thinking about him this way!
Q. What a relief to see the responses of so many others in the same boat! I have been feeling horribly guilty that I, a devout ordained Christian, can't seem to stop thinking about a married man. The connection we have came at our first meeting--it was ...
A. 30 July 2007: Maybe it's a test. Pass it.... (read in full...)
I am in love with my best friend's older sister. What should I do?
Q. I am in love with my best friends older sister who is 21 and I am 18, she has expressed that she is into me but still feels weird about dating her brothers friend. I have never met a person who makes me feel as good as she does so I dont wanna give ...
A. 30 July 2007: What's the problem? I don't think it would be weird for her to date you. I say go for it.... (read in full...)
Concerned about three-some!
Q. Ive been dating my g/f for about 6 months now, and shes pressuring me to have a threesome with one of her friends. The third person is a female, and it should be my fantasy to have it, but i extremly dislike the idea. i love her very much and i ...
A. 30 July 2007: Don't do it. Your relationship will fall apart. It takes a particular kind of relationship to handle threesomes and most relationships are not that kind. Personally I think threesomes indicate a total lack of commitment. If your girlfriend keeps ... (read in full...)
What do I tell my son about his father?
Q. im a young mum, very young mum. i had my baby 3yrs ago, but when i first told the father i was pregnant he just left me on my own, saying its my problem - not his! i think that was really rude of him to leave his unborn-child like that! but the p...
A. 30 July 2007: Be honest and tell him that his father wasn't ready to be a Dad. Tell him that sometimes people can become fathers but can't become Dads. Make sure him understands that you love him and wanted to be his mother AND his Mum. He will be just fine. Do ... (read in full...)
After a week of no contact she texted me! Now I feel I have a little control, but how do I handle it?
Q. Hi, only me again. Just wanted to repost my recent update as a question, because there has been some development with my situation: (Also, quickly for those of you who don't know me: I was in a long distance relationship of 240 miles for 2 ...
A. 29 July 2007: Oh Andy, my poor friend.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me to shut up, that only his opinion counts
Q. My boyfriend usually treats me very good, but I feel I am a possession instead of a partner, what can I do? Most times he treats me great but there are times when we are out or something and he gets done with his food or drink and expects me to hu...
A. 26 July 2007: He would only have to tell me to shut once. His way or the highway...start up the car.... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and I'm horny!
Q. I need help! Please help me. I feel like I am going to die if I dont have sex. I can't though. I need to know another way to deal with it. Oh yeah, the reason I cant have sex is because I am 13. But no one understands how I feel....
A. 26 July 2007: trust me, you aren't going to die. Hey to get your mind of it why don't you go to the nearest farm and see if you can find a vibrator shape like a duck.... (read in full...)
What are the chances that i will bleed the first time we have sex?
Q. Hey, me and my boyfriend have decided to have sex. I wanted to know how much of a chance there is that I will bleed? I've never had sex or done anything sexual with anyone else before. I've heard that the hymen can be broken by exercise... well ...
A. 26 July 2007: You probably will bleed a little bit so don't do it on your mother's white sofa. Also make sure you have lots of birth control, birth control pills (on them for at least a month)AND A CONDOM, or Spermicide foam AND A CONDOM, whatever you choose AND ... (read in full...)
Should i teach my friend?
Q. I have a friend that i like. He is 12 and i am 16. is it ok to teach him how to have sex and give blowjobs and have sex and how to make out and how to drink pee and other stuff? Also, I have not gone through puberty yet. Should i be worried?...
A. 26 July 2007: No to both questions.... (read in full...)
My daughter was seduced by her female college professor
Q. My 18 year old daughter has been seduced by a 33 year od female member of staff at her college. My daughter denied that anything had gone on between them until she was 18. I do not believe this is true. The college sacked the member of staff but the ...
A. 26 July 2007: Yep the aunts are right, she's an adult (chronologically anyway). As a mother of adult children I can feel your pain. Tell her you love her and to call and write often. Don't let her see the tears. When she comes back with a broken heart she will ... (read in full...)
She's meeting me for lunch - does she actually like me or just think I'm a nice guy?
Q. Does she like me? Some people may have seen previous posts about me and a relationship break-up that has been really tough. I'm hoping for a bright new future and being a little out of practice on the dating side wondered if I could have a few ti...
A. 26 July 2007: Yea!I love happy endings! We don't get enough on this site! Keep us posted.... (read in full...)
I'm 17, bisexual but I like older women.
Q. Hi, my problem is I am bisexual, but prefer older women, (I am 17). I really like my friends mum(50) the other day I went round to my friends house when I knew she wasn't in, but her mum was. I invited myself in, and we had a chat and a coffee. I we...
A. 26 July 2007: Is she a lesbian or bi? Is she married? Would you care if you lost your friend by hitting on her mom?... (read in full...)
I changed the way I speak for him, but he said my effort didnt count
Q. Pls help!.........? i used to be a charming girl. by charming i mean i used to use words like darling, baby, cutie etc very casually in my conversation with my male friends and female frends. one day i starting seeing this man and soon he asked me...
A. 26 July 2007: I hope when he asks you the "what the hell you've done for me today?" question, you ask it right back.... (read in full...)
Should I send my ex a birthday card?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend 15 months ago. He was the love of my life. We slept together twice after we broke up. He then met someone else in Jan and she moved into his house for four months. They split up after she began going through his ...
A. 26 July 2007: Don't send the card, in fact I wouldn't call or text him anymore. He doesn't really treat you all that well does he? Time to start looking for someone who will.... (read in full...)
I am getting such mixed signals! Does he like me or not?
Q. Hi all I am a in a true predicament, I am a lawyer and about a year ago i met this guy who was a client of mine, after his legal matters were sorted, we became really close telling each other our secrets etc. WE SPOKE EVERYDAY THEN ALL OF A SU...
A. 26 July 2007: As a "lawyer" I would think you could spot a dead-end case when you see it. This relationship isn't going to happen. He is playing with you. Best move on and find someone doesn't enjoy the game playing so much.... (read in full...)
I am 14 and just broke up with my 22 year old boyfriend
Q. hey, i've just broke up with my guy. he is 22 and i'm 14. after we've broke up, we totally lost contact till today. i know that he's still mad at me for the reason i gave him for the break up thingy. i told him that i'm not his miss right but he d...
A. 26 July 2007: You totally did the right thing nobody needs to be tied down to one guy at 14! Besides he probably has a screw loose to even be interested in a 14 year old at 22 years of age. I'm glad you got rid of the pervert.... (read in full...)
After a week of no contact she texted me! Now I feel I have a little control, but how do I handle it?
Q. Hi, only me again. Just wanted to repost my recent update as a question, because there has been some development with my situation: (Also, quickly for those of you who don't know me: I was in a long distance relationship of 240 miles for 2 ...
A. 26 July 2007: If you decide to contact her on Monday I certainly hope that you don't suggest to her that she reconsiders the breakup. What would be cool is that you do something really, really fun and interesting this weekend and when you talk to her you tell her ... (read in full...)
Sex with my boyfriend is a bit awkward; where could we go for some proper privacy?
Q. Well, I'm in love with my boyfriend and vice versa.. We've had sex... But it had been rather awkward. I do believe we would both like to continue, but, we both feel nervous about feelings, atmosphere, and I was just wondering.. If you want to be ...
A. 26 July 2007: This is great news and a very wise decision on your part. ... (read in full...)
Is not contacting her the best thing? Its making me miserable and ruining any chance we had left!
Q. Tomorrow marks 1 month since my long distance, 2 year relationship was officially called off by my partner, who couldn't handle the distance anymore. I've been very up and down throughout the past month, feeling fairly possitive highs, to lying on ...
A. 26 July 2007: If you decide to contact her on Monday I certainly hope that you don't suggest to her that she reconsiders the breakup. What would be cool is that you do something really, really fun and interesting this weekend and when you talk to her you tell her ... (read in full...)
How do you get rid of pre-menstrual bloating? ANy tips?
Q. A few weeks before my period I bloat, and it really gets me down. Anyone got any tips how to get rid of it?...
A. 25 July 2007: ahhhhhhhhhhhh menopause it's like being 8 again!... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 25 July 2007: You've already made up your mind so I guess you are still here waiting for someone to say something to validate your decision. It won't be me I think you are looking for trouble.... (read in full...)
Is it easier the second time round.
Q. I had a baby 3 1/2 months ago. I had a very tough labor. I was induced, and it didn't work, but the hospital staff refused to break my water until the 2nd day I was there. I had really bad nurses who seemed very inexperienced. I was in labor 40 hrs....
A. 25 July 2007: I've had 3 natural childbirths. When I was having babies they didn't like to use epidurals or painkillers of any kind, you were supposed to "breathe" your way through it. What a crock! But anyway my 1st was a horribly long an painful delivery 48 ... (read in full...)
I hate my GF's past, Im feeling I should do similarly bad things so I'm not so superior to her, will this work!?
Q. My current girlfriend and I are both college graduates and young professionals in our mid-twenties. We have been together for just over six months. Our romance was nearly perfect for the first two and a half months and I was convinced that "she was ...
A. 25 July 2007: Well you certainly could use a little loosening up but don't go about it the wrong way. Just try to relax and enjoy your relationship without creating problems that really shouldn't exist. If she decides to smoke with her buddies you don't have to ... (read in full...)
Is there any way a physical and abusive husband can ever change ?
Q. Hi all! i would like to know if there is any possibility that a verbally wrong/abusive and psysically abusive/bully husband can become 'normal' with time? (he does not drink, no drugs). if so, how long can this 'transformation' take? how can on...
A. 25 July 2007: He may be able to alter his behavior with lots and lots of therapy (and the fact that he sees a problem and WANTS to fix it) but you say there is none available. Hard to believe in this day and age but if that's the case then I wouldn't think ... (read in full...)
I hate my GF's past, Im feeling I should do similarly bad things so I'm not so superior to her, will this work!?
Q. My current girlfriend and I are both college graduates and young professionals in our mid-twenties. We have been together for just over six months. Our romance was nearly perfect for the first two and a half months and I was convinced that "she was ...
A. 25 July 2007: Wow your reasoning is as clear as mud, Buddy. Why would your going on a sex and drug rampage help anything? If you love the woman in the present why would you give a rip about her past? If you can't get beyond this then this relationship need to be ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me sexually... could it be my weight?
Q. my husband is 35 years old im 50. how can i get him to want me sexually? im 5"3 and weigh 190 lbs. could it be my weight?...
A. 25 July 2007: Have a nice long chat with him and find out what's going on. Guessing at the reasons why is fruitless. Once you know the problem you can then find the appropriate solution. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My married lover's guilt is getting to her; should I try to see her or give her space?
Q. Hi guys, been seeing a married work colleague, whos marriage is seriously not fulfilling for her. Know we both shouldent but fancy each other like crazy. She is suffering with guilty concience and i am too believe it or not and its made us both ill...
A. 25 July 2007: Let her husband take care of her and her "vulnerability". You don't have to worry about a thing except why you allowed yourself to be such a cad and vow never to be one again.... (read in full...)
I am having such a hard time after our breakup!!
Q. ok, longest story ever, but i feel myslef just falling into depression need some help..... My boyf and i broke up 2 days ago, for religous differences. He suddenly felt that we have been kidding ourselves, nobody would accept us and, if acceptan...
A. 25 July 2007: Honey it's only been two days! Sometimes people need to separate from each other in order to really sort themselves out. Your relationship had some of the most major problems a relationship can have. Anger management problems, jealousy and ... (read in full...)
Is not contacting her the best thing? Its making me miserable and ruining any chance we had left!
Q. Tomorrow marks 1 month since my long distance, 2 year relationship was officially called off by my partner, who couldn't handle the distance anymore. I've been very up and down throughout the past month, feeling fairly possitive highs, to lying on ...
A. 24 July 2007: Andy, you are simply having a bad day today. One day at a time, Buddy. You need to stay busy today, find the most mind-numbing thing to do like reading all the "I've got a crush on my teacher" posts or "why do men like porn" posts or "I think I'm ... (read in full...)
She's meeting me for lunch - does she actually like me or just think I'm a nice guy?
Q. Does she like me? Some people may have seen previous posts about me and a relationship break-up that has been really tough. I'm hoping for a bright new future and being a little out of practice on the dating side wondered if I could have a few ti...
A. 24 July 2007: Definitely sounds interested, let us know how the lunch goes.... (read in full...)
Sex with my boyfriend is a bit awkward; where could we go for some proper privacy?
Q. Well, I'm in love with my boyfriend and vice versa.. We've had sex... But it had been rather awkward. I do believe we would both like to continue, but, we both feel nervous about feelings, atmosphere, and I was just wondering.. If you want to be ...
A. 24 July 2007: The reason it's so hard for someone your age to find a private place to have sex is because our society doesn't condone it. Your parents don't, the law doesn't, the church doesn't, the school system doesn't, so anywhere you go there is the risk of ... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 20 July 2007: I just think you are taking a risk when no risk HAS to be taken. Out of sight- out of mind.... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 19 July 2007: Of course this is not a good idea, it is a very, very bad one as a matter of fact. Whether he is happily or unhappily married is none of your concern. Married is married. Hands off and move on. You can find another person to be "friends" with.... (read in full...)
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