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writes:My boyfriend and I had a quarrel. I don't know if i love him still, because i sometimes realize that i've been harsh on him, and i always regret what i've done everytime we're not together.Sometimes I think it's because of the pain he gave me in year 2005, he cheated on me, 6 times. Since he did that, my attitude towards him changed. But I still want to be with him. But everytime we're together, I'm in always harsh on him when he makes little mistakes, and I always miss him everytime he's away. Why am i feeling this way? Do I still love him? I am happy to be with him and wish i can forget the past just for him. But I really can't control my anger when he's around. What should I do??? Why am i feeling this way??? Do I still love him???
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reader, DanniBaby  +, writes (23 May 2009):
Did he cheat on you during the first month or so going out? Because if he did i'm sure hes come to the terms with making you the girl for him, however if you keep being annoyed with him after every mistake he makes and you do intend to stay with him in the future he won't thank you for it down the line, just as you don't thank him for cheating on you.
If you want to be with him, then take a step backwards and look at the situation for what it is, if you want your relationship to actually work, you've got to put the past behind you and move on. If you simply can't do this then it's probably for the best if you break up and both go your seperate ways.
However, if you both love each other then you both have to make it work. Talk to him about your issues before lashing out with your frustration, afterall the keything to a relationship is trust and honesty if you feel at any point now he is cheating on you break it off. It will be the best in the long run.
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reader, kenny +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Alot, or most people would have walked away after the first time, but he has done it another five more times since then. How much more of a wake up call do you need, he is walking all over you. Now he knows he can cheat on you wherever and whenever he likes and you will always take him back.
You are worth so much more than this, and i really hope you don't stay with him because you fear being on your own, because this is no reason to stay with him.
there are nice guys out there for you, you need to find someone that will give you the love and affection that you so rightly deserve.
Good luck x
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (11 July 2007):
I think your angry because of his cheating. And so would i be. 6 times is bad, was this with 6 diffrent people or just six times with the same person. Only you know if you love him, but is it really worth it ?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Sounds to me that you haven't forgiven him for cheating on you. You get angry about something little but what you really are doing is punishing him for cheating on you. You will have to forgive and forget his unfaithfulness or it will destroy the relationship. You could try counseling. Has he been true blue since his cheating, are you able to trust him again? If you can't forget the past then you will have to split up both of you can't be happy with the way things are right now.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 hun, 6 times? how much more of a wake up call do you need? He has no respect for you or your feelings.
You're worth more than that!! Don't be scared of being alone, we all have to go down that path sooner or later and it can really do us good to re-discover ourselves, I promise.
You're harsh on him because you're hurting and because you've been treated so badly. I think it's time to leave, for your sake.
Take care xxx
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 July 2007):
 You may just have anger problems, only you know if you still love him, but if you continue treating him like this without getting help, ( now you know you do ) then i would suggest you arnt feeling the same as you did at the start of the relationship.. I hope i helped, Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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