He has changed, now school is about to start again.
Q. ok... welll... me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 6 months now and idk he's been seeming different since he know's school's about to start up again... and everyone knows jocks change when they're around their friends, and of corse it ...
A. 8 August 2007: If you don't like the way he's treating you and you've talk to to him but haven't seen any improvement on his part, then it's time to move on.... (read in full...)
I just can't seem to make my husband happy...
Q. I just can't seem to make my husband happy. We moved a million miles from our hometown a year ago because he wanted to. I quit my high paying job to stay at home with the kids and left my family behind. My family doesn't feel welcome to visit ...
A. 7 August 2007: I meant I hope that's NOT going on here. I'm a lousy typist.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mum I'm not a virgin anymore?
Q. how do i tell my mum im not a virgen anymore? she thinks i am. and keep going on about how bad it is. but i want to tell her. i tel her everything. and i dont want her hating my bf. i want her to trust me still even though i did something i ...
A. 7 August 2007: Then I would tell her that you've become sexually active and need her help and advice about birth control. She may be upset with your decision but at least she will know you are being responsible about it. She shouldn't get mad at your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
He has changed, now school is about to start again.
Q. ok... welll... me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 6 months now and idk he's been seeming different since he know's school's about to start up again... and everyone knows jocks change when they're around their friends, and of corse it ...
A. 7 August 2007: Ask him if his feelings have changed, you need to talk to him about it. Don't you guys talk to each other?... (read in full...)
Why are so many children having sex?
Q. Hi. This is a general question, rather than help really, and for all the young people to think about perhaps. Ok, here it is..... Why are so many very young people having sex under 16 years old? For a start the legal age for it is no...
A. 6 August 2007: I agree with the Salad, parents today have dropped the ball, they rely on other people and things to raise their children. It's not the school's job to raise your child only educate and you STILL have to help the school to get that done well. The ... (read in full...)
I really want to go but i dont know what to do!
Q. Hi im 16. I have a FWB who's 18. Well...i guess he's my friend with benefits. Anyhow, he invited me to a drinking party, ive never drank before so i want to go and try some. The thing is is that we would have to sleep over because its kinda far ...
A. 6 August 2007: Yikes, sounds like trouble to me. You haven't any experience with drinking or sexual intercourse and you will be surrounded by a house full of drunks! I'd rethink this plan, you may be setting yourself up for a world of hurt and regrets, honey.... (read in full...)
Advisory: Getting suspicious messages in my dearcupid mailbox!
Q. Hi all, I just lately i have been retrieving some messages in my mail box which have been quite lenthy to say the least. In a nut shell the person is talking about vast sums of money being transfered to different accounts, and having to part w...
A. 6 August 2007: Yeah I thought so too, Doc.... (read in full...)
mother of my child slept with another man. Help!
Q. I found out that the mother of my child, that i am paying her fees, buying clother, food, everything slept with another man? She was working at a resturent, she was poor, a made her somebody, and am just a nobody to her today. Well, i don't k...
A. 6 August 2007: Your relationship is with your child not his mother, that's over so she can pretty much do as she pleases. The fees are for the child and you are required to pay them so she isn't beholden to you in any way. Go ahead and get a new girlfriend, time ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know how I could track down a person who I met in a local supermarket?
Q. Does anyone know how I could track down a person who I met in a local supermarket? I didnt take their phone number and im now really gutted? Any ideas would be great!...
A. 6 August 2007: Go to the store frequently maybe you'll run into them again. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Can i get him to like me?
Q. how can i get him to like me he is 19 and he works at my work when iam around him he makes me smile and i think he know it, how do i know if he likes me...
A. 6 August 2007: You can't MAKE someone like you. And since he is so much older he probably doesn't want to get involved with you at this point anyway. Just relax and enjoy the smiles.... (read in full...)
Not a relationship problem, but... my dog has chewed up my home!
Q. Hi Not a relationship problem but an animal problem! Had a cross breed dog for 4 months since she was 9 weeks, she has destroyed my home and garden. Shoes, cushions inards ripped out, you name it, its been eaten. The last straw came yesterda...
A. 6 August 2007: I've had puppies that were chewers and they were like that pretty much the whole first year. But I've had a couple that were never much on chewing so I guess it varys dog to dog. I would bet she will stop with all the chewing after she turns one ... (read in full...)
He has changed, now school is about to start again.
Q. ok... welll... me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 6 months now and idk he's been seeming different since he know's school's about to start up again... and everyone knows jocks change when they're around their friends, and of corse it ...
A. 6 August 2007: Well if you been dating for 6 months, most of it was during the last school year. I guess you will have to talk to him about it, ask him if his feelings toward you have changed. We can't possible know what is going on in his head.... (read in full...)
I think he wants to break up with me.
Q. I have a boyfriend and since our three months vacation he called me just 3 times, he claims he is going through some family problems, but i think he wants to break up with me but doesnt know how to go about it,less he hurts me. am i assuming? what ...
A. 6 August 2007: Ask him. You shouldn't have to assume anything.... (read in full...)
How do I break up with her, without hurting her?
Q. I have been with my gf for about 6 months and I want to break up with her for no reason but i dont want to hurt her feelings. How do I break up with her without hurting her feelings, so much?...
A. 6 August 2007: What do you mean by not having a reason? You must have some reason you want to break up! If you can't give a reason of some kind it will be harder on her. If you don't want to tell her the real reason, then just tell her you need some space and ... (read in full...)
Can anybody help me get over this?
Q. Hi everybody. *If you don't know my situation yet, consult my profile; I've written everything in the "about me" section* Today, I'm just wondering if there is anyway/anything that can help me start accepting that things are over? Because I really...
A. 6 August 2007: Oh my poor Buddy Andy. You know I'd send you a time machine if I could. But I'm afraid it's one day and one hurdle at a time. Just keep looking ahead and not backwards. We feel your pain and it isn't an empty promise...it will get better.... (read in full...)
He blocked my car, threw my purse and phone on the floor and slammed doors... is my fiancee abusive?
Q. Is my fiance abusive? Last night I was cooking fries in a oil pot thing and my friend called to give me directions to her house. So, I had taken half of the fries out, and left the others in but unplugged it. Well my fiance came in livid because the ...
A. 6 August 2007: Listen to the Aunts...RUN while you still can.... (read in full...)
He doesn't care about me! What should I do?
Q. I have a thing for this a guy that we hang-out with. We hang-out with a group of guys who just graduated from our highschool. i like him very much. and we have hooked up wiht him on and off. but he has a girlfriend who hes been with for a year and ...
A. 6 August 2007: I think you and your friends need to hang out with guys your own age, these guys are looking for just one thing, and you girls will just get used, hurt, and tossed aside.... (read in full...)
Should I be settle for being his 'friend with benefits' or wait until he's ready to have a real relationship?
Q. I've met a guy through a friend of mine an known each other for quite a while now, i had friends over an he was one of them an i got quite drunk an told him a few times i like him....now the other day he told me a few things, one thing i didnt get ...
A. 6 August 2007: You don't qualify for a FWB arrangement at the get go. You are already wanting a real relationship with him. It will only be you allowing him to use your body while you keeping hoping for more. Don't do it. Personally I think the whole FWB set ups ... (read in full...)
She's telling everyone I have genital warts! (it was meant to be secret)
Q. Have you ever told your friend a secret like a BIG secret because you THOUGHT you could trust her even if you guys got in a big fight? Well, I told her i found out i had HPV and now she is telling everyone "did you know she had HPV which is genital ...
A. 6 August 2007: The only way to deal with a bad reputation is to never give anyone any ammunition. Always behave yourself with class, honor, and integrity. Never stoop to your so called friend's level. She should be ignored at all times. Sounds like your reputation ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mum I'm not a virgin anymore?
Q. how do i tell my mum im not a virgen anymore? she thinks i am. and keep going on about how bad it is. but i want to tell her. i tel her everything. and i dont want her hating my bf. i want her to trust me still even though i did something i ...
A. 6 August 2007: Your virginity belonged to you, not your mom. You do not have to tell her unless you want to, it's your business. As long as you behave yourself and act responsibly she will still trust you. That promise was going to be broken sooner or later ... (read in full...)
I just can't seem to make my husband happy...
Q. I just can't seem to make my husband happy. We moved a million miles from our hometown a year ago because he wanted to. I quit my high paying job to stay at home with the kids and left my family behind. My family doesn't feel welcome to visit ...
A. 6 August 2007: The first thing a control freak does is to eliminate his partner's outside contacts. He moved you from your family, your co-workers, and your friends. Next is to limit the money so you have to seek him out for everything. He wants all your attention ... (read in full...)
I'm so in love with a married man I work with... !
Q. Like many others, I am in total love with a man in which i work with. He has a child who is disabled and a wife. When i'm with him, it's like a dream! I feel guilty to ask him for more time with him because of his child, who needs alot of care ...
A. 6 August 2007: You are a home-wrecker whether he's still with his wife or not. He will never leave his wife and he doesn't want to either. He wants to have you at his beck and call whenever he needs some "sunshine" or whatever crap he's slinging. Tell him to take ... (read in full...)
How can I move on from the guy I fell in love with in Africa?
Q. Hi there, Please help. I have recently split up with my boyfriend and went travelling to Africa for 3 weeks, on my second day i met a great man and we fell in love, unfortunatly he has a partner and two children which he would leave for me. We spent...
A. 6 August 2007: I think time and distance will end this relationship pretty quick. He probably cheats on his partner all the time, you were just another fling. Other than pure lust, you can't truly love another person in three weeks time. Next time you are ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: We had over quarter of a million people visit the site over the past month!
Q. Just checking the site stats. We had another milestone... for the first time, in the past 30 days, we had over quarter of a million people visit the site... not 250,000 "hits" or "visits" but actual unique visitors! As counted by Google Anal...
A. 6 August 2007: I know I sure hang out a lot here! Great site!... (read in full...)
36, still a virgin and have no desire for sex! Am I strange?
Q. I am 36 years old and still a virgin! I have never had any desire to have sex with anybody! I have never seen a real life woman naked (and have no desire to do so, and I am definitely not Gay!!!) Please can you tell me why people have a deisre for ...
A. 2 August 2007: You do sound a tad bid over the top on the sex topic, but hey, you have a right to your opinion. You might have a hard time filling a support group with people who share your opions on the matter, however.... (read in full...)
How can I get a girl? I need a girlfriend!
Q. Hi, my name is Daniel, I am 16 and live with my parents in Aberdeen, Scotland. I have no success with girls and it's just not happening for me. I have never had a girl friend, always rejection. I need a girl to love because I feel its my duty get ...
A. 2 August 2007: Relax Daniel, your only DUTY is look after your self. If you want to meet girls you will need to go places where they are. When school starts up get active with the student activities, join a couple clubs. Do you have a church youth group, if so ... (read in full...)
I'm having major problems with my ex at the moment, so much so that it has led to a breakdown in trust.
Q. I'm having major problems with my ex at the moment, so much so that it has led to a breakdown in trust. We have a child and he has already proven to me that he will use him against me and now I am really worried that he may not bring him back after ...
A. 2 August 2007: Well it certainly can't hurt to have something on paper, that is if he's willing to do it. I can understand how unsettling this is. You must go into a panic every time your son goes with his Dad. See if the lawyer can get the written assurance out ... (read in full...)
After a year and a half he still wont introduce me to his daughter and wants our relationship to be secret
Q. I am separated and I met a man who is also separated. We have been seeing each other for a year and a half. When I first met him he explained that his ex can cause problems and so he wanted to keep things quiet about us. He further indicated he ...
A. 2 August 2007: You've put up with this fishy behavior for a year and a half? You only see each other two times every two WEEKS? And you wonder if you are wasting your time? In a nutshell, sure looks like a huge waste of time to me.... (read in full...)
I still love my ex!
Q. I am in love my exboyfriend that i dated 9 years ago. I am currently involved with my fiance' who i have a 4 year old boy with. My ex is married and just had a baby. We kept in contact with one another through the past 9 years. We occasion...
A. 2 August 2007: Put the chemistry on the back Bunsen burner and turn the flame off. He's married, you have to leave him alone and you know it. Focus on your on current relationship and your son. ... (read in full...)
They have not been together long and he wants to buy a house.
Q. My best friend and her boyfriend have been together for just over a year. Its her first serious relationship - well her first real boyfriend if you like. They got together literally just weeks after his last long term relationship ended, and more...
A. 1 August 2007: I would just advise her to make sure a lawyer is involved with their buying a house together. If they are not legally married to each other she could get screwed if they break up and have to sell the house. As far as the character of her boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Do guys like to date plain-looking female virgins or am I doomed?
Q. Do guys like to date plain female virgins ? I though i would find a man in high school nothing happened , then college but still nothing . I am about to graduate from college and then go to a career college . i fear i will find no guys there who are ...
A. 1 August 2007: Do go out and have fun with your friends? Are you active socially? Do you go places and meet new people? Most guys aren't going to walk up to a total stranger and ask them out whether they are plain or look like Angelina Jolie. You need to get out ... (read in full...)
Recently split from my husband and now he has plastered semi-nude photos of me on the walls of the house. What can I do?
Q. I split from my husband about six months ago and moved out of our house, hoping I could figure out why I have fallen out of love with him. I still go home to help him with the monthly finances, and just to see how he's doing, but about a month ...
A. 1 August 2007: Well I certainly hope he doesn't entertain very often! If he won't take them down I guess you are stuck. Like the previous poster said, don't go over there to check up on him anymore he might be getting off on your reactions to the pictures. Meet on ... (read in full...)
He doesn't even eat them!
Q. what should i do if all my boyfriend ever talks about is fruit and vegetables?...
A. 1 August 2007: Maybe he's just into farming, does he ever mention tractors or fertilizer?... (read in full...)
How can I bag myself a military hunk?
Q. How can I flirt with single military guys? I'm currently visiting a military base and I have found some pretty interesting cute guys, but because of my job I can't get too much contact with them. What type of things can I do in order to get attentio...
A. 1 August 2007: Ha ha Eddie you are a hoot! To the poster, usually there are recreational facilities on base: gyms, pools, tennis courts not to mention clubs etc... hang out there after work you'll meet guys.... (read in full...)
He has a partner and kids..I have a baby with him. Should I stay or leave this man?
Q. i am dating a guy that has a commonlaw wife,and has two little girls with her.but i also have a baby by him we've been together for 3 1/2 yrs. and i'm pregnant.he fully helps supports us fiancually and comes and spends time with us everyday.oh by ...
A. 1 August 2007: He's got the perfect set up. Don't believe him for a second about not having sex with his other partner. He can float back and forth between two women and two sets of kids. When he tires of one he can go visit the other. No reason to change anything ... (read in full...)
I am confortable being frumpy, but want to be attractive
Q. I feel a bit Bridget Jones writing this but I am truly feeling like life is passing by. I'm 35 and have one failed marriage of 13 years behind me - no children. I am comfortable in my own company but I feel like I am stuck between wanting to find ...
A. 31 July 2007: If you truly want to change then you will do it. It sounds to me that you give just a passing thought every once in a while. Maybe joining a gym will force you into it because there's money involved. 35 is terribly young to be giving up on yourself ... (read in full...)
I live with my fairy tale boyfriend, but he has a wife!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together and living together for a year and a half now. He is truely the most amazing person I've ever met! Our relationship is almost perfect. We spend every day together and every second is REALLY like a fairy tale. I ...
A. 31 July 2007: If you think this is a fairytale then you must be one of the Brothers Grimm. Your relationship is a long cry from perfect if he's living with you but has a wife and kids and hasn't even started divorce proceedings. Tell him to move out until he gets ... (read in full...)
He said he wouldnt be a dad to our baby and so I had an abortion
Q. I really dont know where to start...I need some advice. About 2 years ago I started seeing a guy who I thought was really nice. When we were together 8 months, I read his mobile phone messages. He was saying to his ex girlfriend that he loved her ...
A. 31 July 2007: Okay honey, a problem of this magnitude calls for a professional. You need to find a therapist who deals with depressed people. Talk to your doctor and see who he/she recommends. Make an appointment ASAP. You will start feeling better immediately ... (read in full...)
Do you have to take the pill at the same time every day?
Q. I just started going on the pill and was wondering how important is it to take it the same time each day? Im pretty sure my doctor said that you dont have to take it at the same time everyday, its just easier cuz it helps u to remmeber it. But then ...
A. 31 July 2007: Taking the same time each day is just to get you in the habit of taking it everyday. If you take it when you get up then it doesn't matter what time it is you just know to take it first thing after you wake up. Some people take it just before bed ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me to shut up, that only his opinion counts
Q. My boyfriend usually treats me very good, but I feel I am a possession instead of a partner, what can I do? Most times he treats me great but there are times when we are out or something and he gets done with his food or drink and expects me to hu...
A. 31 July 2007: You go girl! I'm betting you won't be alone very long!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend mentioned the fantasy of a threesome and I cant get over it!
Q. My boyfriend said, that like any guy, a part of him wants to have a threesome, But he doesnt really want to do anything to the other girl, just me. Well Of course I made a really wierd face because I didnt know that he had thought of having a ...
A. 31 July 2007: I would definitely say you aren't overreacting. I'd be crushed if this happened to me. I'll bet he IS feeling uncomfortable after seeing your reaction. Trying to turn the tables on you was pretty lame too. I think lots of guys have this fantasy and ... (read in full...)
I don't know how this is all gonna end?
Q. I've been having an interesting relationship with a man who's married...well it's a whole lot a mess with this dude but it never really effected me and still his before life is no issue except for all the kids he already has... I believe I was told ...
A. 31 July 2007: Okay so what?... (read in full...)
What's a comfortable position to have sex in?
Q. What's a comfortable position to have sex in?...
A. 31 July 2007: Everybody's different, try different ones to find the one that's comfortable for both of you. Experimenting is half the fun.... (read in full...)
My wife talks to him on her cell phone every night till 3am!!!
Q. My wife and I have been married for nine years and I've just found out she's been cheating, the thing is he calls her every night on her cell phone and they talk till 3am every night, I confronted her and she says she won't stop talking to him, ...
A. 31 July 2007: Wowie, I'd tell it's okay to talk to him every night until 3 a.m. as long as she does it in her own appartment. She obviously doesn't give a rip about your feelings. You deserve a good night's sleep lying next to a woman who loves you dearly get rid ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me to shut up, that only his opinion counts
Q. My boyfriend usually treats me very good, but I feel I am a possession instead of a partner, what can I do? Most times he treats me great but there are times when we are out or something and he gets done with his food or drink and expects me to hu...
A. 26 July 2007: He would only have to tell me to shut once. His way or the highway...start up the car.... (read in full...)
Why are so many children having sex?
Q. Hi. This is a general question, rather than help really, and for all the young people to think about perhaps. Ok, here it is..... Why are so many very young people having sex under 16 years old? For a start the legal age for it is no...
A. 24 July 2007: I blame Bill Gates. Oh and yes global warming.... (read in full...)
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