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The new guy I'm seeing is amazing! The problem is my friends - they say he's too ugly for me and that I'll end up hurting him!

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Question - (11 July 2007) 8 Answers - (Newest, 12 July 2007)
A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

i have being seeing a guy who i think is amazing. We seem to get on so well, and have such a connection. All the past guys i have dated have all been boring and i he just makes me laugh so much. I love spending time with him, but problem is none of my friends like him. They all think he is not good looking enough, and i can do better, and that i will regret it if i say with him for a long time, and they think i will hurt him cos i will realise he is just a friend i have fun with. but how do i prove to them i really do like him, in fact i may love him cos i have known him for years

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007):

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thank you so much for all your answers it is really kind. i do think i am falling in love with him, so i am going to go for it!!

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (11 July 2007):

kenny agony auntDon't listen to your friends, they sound very immature to me. What matters here is how you feel about this guy, not what your mates think.

He sounds like a nice guy, he is funny, makes you laugh and you feel comfortable around him, thats all that matters.

Of course there is always the possibility that you friends couls be jealous of you.

Stick with him.

All the best x

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A female reader, Jen advice United Kingdom +, writes (11 July 2007):

Jen advice agony auntHi hun

Don't listen to your friends..quite cruel of them to say things like that..they may just be jealous of the good relationship you have together...at the end of the day i'ts not your friends who are going out with him, i'ts you! I'ts like someone's already said, LOOKS are not important and i've been out with a lot of good looking idiots in my time..it's whats inside that really counts

Jen/advice xx

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A female reader, h20gal United States +, writes (11 July 2007):

h20gal agony auntYour friends sound very immature. You also would be so if you listened to them. One day, you may regret giving up someone that you have such a connection with for a silly reason such as the way your friends feel he looks. Years later, you may meet this man again, after he has lost weight, etc., while you may have put some on (or whatever, just an example), and still find him amazing, and he is happily married to someone else. How would you feel. Looks are fleeting, but not personalities that mesh and the complexities of chemistry.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (11 July 2007):

eyeswideopen agony auntA guy who makes you laugh, a guy you love spending time with, a guy you may be falling in love with...tell your friends to put it sock in it. You don't have to prove anything to your friends and if they are truly friends then they would be happy that you are happy. Don't sweat the small stuff. Now go have some fun with your amazing new guy.

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A male reader, Jamer70 United Kingdom +, writes (11 July 2007):

Jamer70 agony auntHey you like him dont you? Youve saying yourself that you really like this guy and that he makes you feel great.

Hes your BF not your friends is he. As long as he makes you happy, he should make them happy. Because your happy.

Looks mean little in a relationship, they can make you happy in the short term, but in the long term personality will trump ALWAYS!.

tell your friends to back off and stop judging your bf and just be happy for you, if they dont, do not listen to them.

Enjoy your relationship and be happy.

Never go for looks

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (11 July 2007):

Danielepew agony auntYou know, love is a very personal thing. If you feel happy with this guy, you are the one who counts. It is a gross mistake to go for a person on the basis of what other people say we should do. You need to have an opinion of your own, as this is your life and no one else's.

You don't have to prove them that you love this guy. All you need is to be sure of that yourself.

Good looks are important, but not the most important thing in life. A caring boyfriend with an ugly face would be much better for you than a handsome guy who mistreats you. Don't go for looks.

Take care,

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A male reader, Playa turned lovestruck United Kingdom +, writes (11 July 2007):

You gotta ignore your friends in my opinion, it doesn't matter what they think, if you get on well with him and like him its worth a shot. If it doesn't work out then that's when your friends should be there to get you through the tough times, not to discourage you about the bad

best ov luck deano x x

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