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writes:Thers's this guy i know who works in at my local gym. He's 25 and I'm 16 but i really have feelings for him and he has for me. He has a girlfriend but the other day we kissed. Is this regarded as cheating? Or should i be worried that he is using me for more then just kissing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007): Firstly, yes it is cheating because he has a girlfriend. Secondly I think that if he really did like you he would have dumped his girlfriend for you. Instead his behaviour makes it seem like he has no respect for either of you- he cheated on his girlfriend and he seems to have left you very confused. Did he not talk to you about where you stand with each other? It's not fair for him to kiss you and then just leave you feeling insecure and unsure of yourself while he waltzes back to his girlfriend. Could you trust him not to cheat on you if you did get with him? I think he sounds like bad news. Not to mention the fact that hes a bit too old for you, I'm 17 and I think the emotional and mental age gap between 16 and 25 is HUGE!!! And he hardly sounds responsible if he has been toying with your feelings like this. If you do really like him then why don't you stand back and let him come after you. And don't do anything with him while he has a girlfriend, it's not fair on you or her. Hope this gives you a different perspective xxx
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hey babe yes kissing is classified as cheating.. I hope i helped x x x x Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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reader, penta  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Yes, kissing is cheating. Stay away from this guy. If he cheats WITH you he would cheat ON you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Yes it's cheating and yes he is using you. Knock this crap off immediately. He is trouble.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Yep, I think you should be careful here. He is cheating on his girlfriend. And you don't really know how serious he can be about you. I'm afraid he might not.
I have advice for you. Never, ever, date someone who has a relationship, whatever it is. Your chances of being with him are 25%, at most. Want a proof? Well, if he's with his girlfriend, he either leaves her or not. That gives you 50-50. And, if he comes your way, you might work together, or not; that gives you 50% of the 50% you had. So, 25%. I would rather settle for 50-50.
Math aside, you don't want the headaches and the problems that come with dating someone who's taken. And, when you kissed the man, you didn't respect his girlfriend. She doesn't deserve that from you.
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reader, 88jane +, writes (11 July 2007):
 if he is in a relationship then kissing you is cheating. You are in a tricky situation but you need to tell him that he has to decide what he wants. He cant have both of you because that is cheating. If you were his girlfriend and he kissed somebody else how would you feel? you need to tell him that he has to choose, and if he doesnt choose you then it shows that he is not worth your time. This situation could go either way-if he likes you he will choose you and this will prove he has feelings for you. if not then however hard it is you need to walk away! hope this helps hun--mail me if you want to chatjane xxx
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