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36-40,
*urtiss
writes:I`ve been goin out wit my girl for the last 6 months and she is 19, but before me she slept aith atleast 20 men, and now some of them contact her but everytime i meet someone she been with i get sick, as i imagine them together but she wont understand how i feel and she used to be a player and i want her to understand that i cant trust her just like that when she is with them boys. If a girl calls me she go ballistic, but she wont consider my feelings, how do i deal with it as i aint got no idea?
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reader, caramel24  +, writes (10 July 2007):
you two need to sit down and really talk this situation out. nothing is worst than letting s problem fester when you can resolve it in the now. If she really likes u and care for you, she will hear you out. if not then maybe you need to be with soemone who doesn't have such a past. but remember it is her past your are her presen... you can't hold soemthing against her if it happen b4 you. Once again communicate how you truly feel and see what happens.
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reader, Beckto +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Here's the deal: if she really is "reformed" and you can trust that she's not cheating on you, then you need to get out of the habit of imagining them together. It always feels funny to meet someone's ex, especially if you really like the person you're with.The fact that she's slept with many people before you is an issue that she really should deal with. But you also have to deal with the reality of it. If you can't get beyond the #s of men she's been with, then you should move on and find a virgin or someone who has had sex with 1 or 2 men.If you can get past the numbers but have trouble with the fact that she still sees/talks to these former lovers, then talk about that with her. Don't mix issues. When/if you talk to her about seeing her exs, just say how you feel. Keep it simple. But, remember she can't change her past, so you both have to accept and deal with it. If she can't sympathize with your feelings, then she may not be mature enough to be with you. But, if she can, then that's a good point to find some common ground. Good luck, I hope this helps a little.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (10 July 2007):
 There has got to be give and take and it can't be one rule for her and another for you.
She is not worth the hassle.
Take care.xx.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 July 2007):
 She sounds like a brat to me, are you sure you want to be with such a selfish person?
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reader, love-him +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Tell her that, she needs to realise, the way she is treating you, going ballistic if a girl contacts you but thinks it is acceptable for her to be around her ex's. Trust is a big part of the relationship, You need to be able to trust her. Mail me if you want to talk x x x
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