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writes:A close freind of mine is going out with my ex and we are in the same friendship group. Recently me and some girls friends went out, including her and she talked about him the whole time! Their relationship is going so well atm and because she was the reason we broke up, i really cant stand being around her! I want to be happy for both of them but i cant stand being around her,i have always been envious of her and now i am even more!She doesnt seem to care about my feelings at all and it has been very obvious to other people that i have been upset and down recently.Me and him are hardly even friends anymore because of all the stuff that has happeneed between us and because i cant stand to be around her, our friendship has become strained and we hardly talk anymore.I have lost two extrmely close friends and am finding it incredibly hard to deal with. I want to be freinds with them both but i cant handle them being together,whatever i do will cause me pain.Please could someone give me some advice on what to do and how to act around them
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reader, Ask_HanBan +, writes (10 July 2007):
 she is not true freind if she brags,
seperate yourself from her and ur ex,
maybe take a vacation, meet new people
gd luk
hannah :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): you and he were not meant to be and i sense that you realise that. if you are a true friend you will allow her to be happy. she probably doesn't realise that you feel so down. sometimes people are self absorbed, it happens, esp in a new relationship. the best thing to do, is tell her you don't like hearing about her relationship and that its inconsiderate of her to flaunt it. then hopefully if she is also a good friend she will remember this and you can both move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): I have recently been in a similiar situation, except it was my bf and a co-worker (not a friend but I know her). My advice would be to completely avoid them and any situation that may involve them. Dont' be envious of someone who could do something like that to a friend and them taunt them with it. That is nothing to be envious of. She was probably just saying that for your benefit. You can really know how their relationship is going based on what she is saying, of course she'll make it sound wonderful in front of you. I would say good riddens to both, move on and avoid contact with them both.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 She is hardly a friend if she flaunts her relationship in your face! Distance yourself as much as you can from her and your ex for that matter. Seeing them together will only postpone your healing. I know since you have mutual friends it can be difficult but your other friends will understand. Just try to avoid being where they might be, especially if they will be there together. You'll be fine Honey, we've all been through it and survived. Keep your chin up.
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reader, love-him +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Hey babe, im amazed youve been able to even think about being friends with them again, she is supposed to be your friend yet is dating your ex, and your ex, is dating your friend.. that isnt a good thing, maybe talk to this girl, explain your feelings, explain you dont like the way she's boasting about your ex, you dont still like him, but it still hurts you.. Mail me if you want to talk x x x
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