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writes:I am in love with my ex-boyfriend and I know he loves me back, but I am engaged to another man. My ex and I met a couple years ago and dated for nearly a year and a half. He moved to another city after he finished college and I started working. At the time it didn't seem fair to be in this relationship. He is from another country and his family would not accept me, so he never told them. I didn't see the point of moving to the city with him if the relationship was not going anywhere.About six months ago I met my current fiancee who offered me the world. After three months we were enagaged and after six bought a house together. I promised to marry him and that I would never hurt and I am a woman of my word. Now everything he does bothers me. I think I fell in love with what he offered me and not really with him. I have come to the realization that I am still in love with my ex. I just moved into the house that my fiancee and I bought together and I can't give it up, I can't afford it on my own anyways. Do I break my fiancee's heart and ask him to move out, desperately try to find a way to pay for it, and tell my ex that we can once again be together, or keep my promises, marry my fiancee, and spend the rest of my life secretly pining for another man?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): wow break up with the guy to go with your ex and you want him to move out? I can't believe my eyes, Why should this guy have to leave? I personally think you should move, your the one who will eventually end this and asking him to move is like saying thanks for the house now get out loser. Besides you want to go with your ex? why is he your ex in the first place maybe you should take a good long look at yourself because I don't think anyone will truly make someone like you happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): i think you should just keep seeing both of them
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): Hi, I know what you are going through. 3 years ago I met a lady and fell head-over-heels in love with her. 3 years later and we're living together, on the verge of getting a new house and I can't bear the sound of her voice sometimes. What makes it worse is that she has nobody else in her life to turn to. I love her a lot but I am not happy and want something more, something different, something ELSE!!! I know exactly what you're going through and I hope you find true happiness because we all deserve it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Always breakup peacefully.If you fiance is your friend, share with him , that in which status you are.If he really cares for you ,, he wouldnt let his time and your time to be wasted.you are a women of word,, but mind and our world is not at one stage and is never the same. you can do all of these if you trust ur xbf, and if u dont trust him you dont need to take a decission in a while.Always Pray to God,, Life is worth when it is lived for some one else and for goodness and honesty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): You better get out of that relationship. You love a different guy- this one will drive u crazy.it's 50 years.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 You need to tell your fiancee that you can't marry him after all and that you are moving on with your life. Sell the house and get whatever money back that you put into it. Some promises should be broken, marrying someone because you promised is just plain stupid.
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reader, ombiance  +, writes (12 July 2007):
wow you got yourself a pickle there.its hard to say because you and your ex had only split up due to circumstances. you feel what you feel and for who for that matter. i dont think you can bottle up your feeling for your ex.is there anything there for you current fiance? do you have ay feelings for him? as for just staying with him because you said you would, i think thats just silly. why ruin your life to make anothers happy? can you see yourself being with your fiance for the next 50 years? my advise is to have a sit down with him, tell him what exactly is bothering you. every little detail that annoys you about him. but dont forget to mix that bad with the good. from there 2 things can happen. 1/. he will hate you and want to break up with you. now this will leave you with the freedom to get back with your ex.2/. he will change and you may actually find that you love him.as for scenario #1 if that happens than there are lawyers that can handle that kind of stuff. chances are the house will be sold unless one party buys out the other. hope ive helped ;)
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reader, nologo  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 In this case you need to sort your feelings.
What exactly do you feel to ex and fiancee?
You should find your own answer to this question pretty soon.
It will help to know whether you should break the engagement.
As to "spend the rest of my life" - Is it really your future?
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